Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting
2633: Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict by Kyle Benson of Gottman on Improving Intimacy
22 Jun 2025
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2633: Kyle Benson unpacks how shifting from criticism to expressing vulnerable wishes can dramatically improve conflict resolution in relationships. By identifying the underlying needs beneath frustration, couples foster deeper emotional connection and transform arguments into moments of intimacy and understanding. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/transforming-criticism-into-wishes-a-recipe-for-successful-conflict/ Quotes to ponder: "You are such a baby. You interrupt me and then walk out of the room, which makes me feel like the bad guy. No wonder I don't want to have a baby!" "I want to be able to speak with you about how I feel about having a baby right now without you leaving the room or getting upset with me before I'm done talking." "I want us to discuss issues calmly without either of us raising our voices. That's what I need to stay in the room and truly listen to you." Episode references: Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) by Stan Tatkin: https://thepactinstitute.com/what-is-pact/ Daring Greatly by Brené Brown: https://www.amazon.com/Daring-Greatly-Courage-Vulnerable-Transforms/dp/1592408419 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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