Why do you still feel like you're not enough—even when your life looks successful from the outside?You can have a successful career, loving relationships, and people who genuinely care about you—and still struggle to believe you're worthy of love, connection, or belonging.Marisa G. Franco, psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller Platonic, returns to Passion Struck to explore the deeper science behind self-worth in her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment.Her argument challenges one of the most common ideas about self-esteem: you don't become worthy by achieving more, becoming more impressive, or convincing yourself that you're extraordinary.Instead, worth begins with something much harder—and much more honest: learning to accept yourself as you are.In this conversation, Marisa explains:Why achievement, compliments, and positive affirmations often fail to fix low self-worthHow childhood memories can become the lens through which we predict rejection, abandonment, or failureWhy trying to appear “secure” can actually disconnect you from your authentic selfThe hidden cost of making your worth dependent on achievementWhy healing isn't becoming a better version of yourself—it's reconnecting with the parts of yourself you've learned to ignoreWhat “open memories” are and why unresolved experiences can continue shaping how you see yourself decades laterHow attachment styles can be understood as adaptive responses rather than fixed identitiesWhy we need to stop treating our emotions as problems to solve and start allowing them to move through usHow memory reconsolidation may help us create new meaning around painful experiencesWhy sometimes becoming healthier means allowing a relationship to end rather than abandoning yourself to save itOne of the most powerful ideas in our conversation is this: The goal isn't to convince yourself that you're extraordinary. It's to recognize that you're worthy even when you're ordinary.Marisa's work offers a different way to think about healing: not as a project of optimization, but as the process of coming home to yourself. Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/. Take the 90-second diagnostic to see if you're disappearing.Explore the Show: https://passionstruck.com/starter-packs/. New to Passion Struck? Start with the best episodes curated for you.Connect with JohnWebsite: https://johnrmiles.comBook John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/Substack: https://www.theignitedlife.net/Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Support the Movement: https://startmattering.com/. Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.Passion Struck — #1 Alternative Health Podcast. 85M+ downloads.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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