Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
04 Jan 2024
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Xander got a vasectomy! By popular demand, we’re walking you through the entire process - how a...
Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
28 Dec 2023
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2023 has been one wild ride! This podcast - all 136 episodes so far - has been a major part of our y...
Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
21 Dec 2023
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The first time we did Am I The Asshole it was a major success, so we knew we had to bring it back fo...
Episode 134: Everything You’re Getting Wrong About Intercourse (And How To Get It Right)
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We all feel like we’re supposed to just be naturally good at intercourse, but there are so many dy...
Episode 133: Dead Bedrooms Part 2: We Coach Another Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
07 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“We’re just not having sex anymore...” If you’ve found yourself uttering (or even just ...
Episode 132: Why We Started Making Out Every Night
30 Nov 2023
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This episode is all about the most viral piece of content we’ve ever made - why we make out every ...
Episode 131: How Honest Is Too Honest?
22 Nov 2023
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“What? I was just being honest!” This is one of the most common phrases that gets uttered d...
Episode 130: The Bristle Reaction, Icky Initiation, And Bad Assumptions: 5 Surprising Lessons From Your Feedback About Our Book
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
In February, we released our book, Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life...
Episode 129: Do You Have Silent Sex? Here’s Why That’s A Problem
09 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today we’re talking about something we’ve never heard talked about openly… silent sex. Di...
Episode 128: Sneaky Ways To Get Your Partner More Involved In Your Relationship
02 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you wish your partner was more invested in your relationship? Do you find yourself wishing they w...
Episode 127: Ask Us Anything: Spilling Our Business Secrets
26 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
This week we’re bringing back one of your favorite series - Ask Us Anything. This time we’re doi...
Episode 126: Queefing, And Farting, And Squirting, Oh My! Bodily Functions In The Bedroom
19 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is it normal to notice a bad odor after intercourse? What about queefing? How the heck does everyone...
Episode 125: Am I The Asshole?
12 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today’s episode is inspired by the popular Reddit thread, Am I The Asshole? We’re giving you our...
Episode 124: Is Your Sex Life Too Boring?
05 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Did you know that 86% of people worry that their sex life is too boring? It’s so easy to get ...
Episode 123: A Parent’s Guide To Making Time For Sex And Intimacy
28 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Whenever we ask parents what gets in the way of intimacy after kids, the most frequent answer we hea...
Episode 122: “Don’t Touch Me Like That”: Confronting Unwanted Touch In Your Relationship
21 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Does your partner ever touch you in ways, times, or places that you don't feel comfortable with? A s...
Episode 121: When She Wants It More: Navigating Mismatched Libidos When The Woman Has A Higher Drive
14 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are you a woman who wants sex more than your male partner? All we see on TV, movies, and social medi...
Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior
07 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today we’re putting Xander in the hot seat and making him answer all your burning questions about ...
Episode 119: Jealousy In Relationships: Why Do We Get Jealous, And What Do We Do About It?
31 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Jealousy is one of the most difficult emotions to face, and it feels even trickier when it comes up ...
Episode 118: The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong
24 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Foreplay? More like the BEST way! Today we’re talking about the part of sex that never gets the cr...
Episode 117: So You Think You Know Us? Answering Your Assumptions!
17 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What do you assume or secretly suspect about us? Or what have you simply been curious about? In...
Episode 116: What Do I Do When My Partner Is Always On Their Phone?
10 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you ever find yourself mid-sentence with your partner and realize that they’re not even remotel...
Episode 115: Grief And Sex: Loving Each Other Through A Loss
03 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
How do you maintain intimacy while grieving? We’ve had many requests to create this podcast episo...
Episode 114: Can We Come Back From This? Part 2: Even More Relationship Make Or Break Moments
27 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Has your partner ever done or said something painful, leaving you wondering, “Can we come back fro...
Episode 113: Bump And Grind: Sex During Pregnancy
20 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Want to unlock the secrets to great pregnancy sex? We know, your body feels alien to you, your hormo...
Episode 112: Creating A Shortcut To Intimacy With Compliments
13 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Compliments. They sound like such a small act but they can make such a huge difference in the intima...
Episode 111: What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Talk About Sex
06 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Why is it so hard to talk to your partner about sex? You talk about everything else, but the minute ...
Episode 110: Unzipped And Unfiltered: Your Funniest Sex Fails
29 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Want to hear some of the craziest things that have ever happened to our community in the middle of s...
Episode 109: This ONE Thing Is Secretly Affecting Your ENTIRE Relationship
22 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are you frustrated by how sex gets initiated in your relationship? Does the way your partner initiat...
Episode 108: “Help! I’ve Been Faking Orgasms So Long I Don’t Know How To Stop!”
15 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Real talk - are you faking orgasms? There are so many understandable reasons why you may have start...
Episode 107: Ask Each Other Anything: Celebrating Our Queer Community With A Q&A
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
This week, we’re dedicating an entire episode to our queer community! Inclusivity is one of our co...
Episode 106: Exposing Our Biggest Relationship Frustrations With Enneagram Expert Tracy O’Malley
01 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
In over 100 episodes of Pillow Talks, we’ve never had a guest. But we broke the mold to bring on T...
Episode 105: “Is This Normal?” 2.0 — More Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
25 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Get ready for the highly anticipated sequel to one of our most popular episodes yet! Back in Episode...
Episode 104: An Exclusive Sneak Peek: Chapter One Of Sex Talks
18 May 2023
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Friends, followers, and first-time listeners, gather 'round for a podcast episode like no other! Get...
Episode 103: What Do Women Really Think About…? (Masturbation, Butt Stuff, Penis Size, And More!)
11 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Our “What Do Men Really Think About” episodes were so popular that we knew we just had to do an ...
Episode 102: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Intercourse Edition)
04 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You wanna go another round? Because we DEFINITELY do! It’s time for part 2 of Smash Or Pass, our s...
Episode 101: Is Gaming Hurting Your Relationship? Part 1 Of The “I Love You But I Don’t Like You” Series
27 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever looked at your partner and thought to yourself, “I love you, but I don’t like you ...
Episode 100: Our 100th Episode Extravaganza: The Ultimate Round of “Know Ya Boo”
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Can you believe this is our 100th episode??? We knew we had to do something super special to commemo...
Episode 99: The Bristle Reaction: What It Is, How It Happens, And What You Can Do To Fix It
13 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you heard of The Bristle Reaction? We recently made a TikTok about this term that Vanessa creat...
Episode 98: Dead Bedrooms: We Coach One Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
06 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s time to talk about Dead Bedrooms. Does your sex life feel like a ghost of what it used to be?...
Episode 97: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Foreplay Edition)
30 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We’ve all seen the articles from cheesy women’s magazines (and TikTok)…“10 foolproof ways to...
Episode 96: Things That Go Bump (Or Bang) In the Night
23 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you and your partner go to bed at the same time? In the same bed? In the same ROOM? It’s e...
Episode 95: Mental Load Part 2: Conversations About Perfectionism, Gender Roles, And Finding Balance With Your Partner
16 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Mental Load sucks. But are you accidentally making it even harder? We originally talked about M...
Episode 94: The “Start Here” Episode - Allow Us To Reintroduce Ourselves
09 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Welcome to Pillow Talks! Is this your first time listening to our podcast? Maybe you bought our book...
Episode 93: Would You Rather?
02 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ready for the most epic game of Would You Rather? We’ve done Would You Rather on Instagram a ...
Episode 92: The Brutally Honest Truth About Our New York Times Best Selling Book
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s official… Sex Talks is a New York Times INSTANT Bestseller! But to be totally up front...
Episode 91: “Is This Normal?” 15 Questions You Never Dared To Ask Out Loud
16 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever had a question that you were too embarrassed to even Google? You know, the kinda stuff...
Episode 90: Why Missionary Is (Secretly) Our Favorite Position
09 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is it OK if you and your partner keep finding yourselves coming back to the missionary position duri...
Episode 89: How To Get The Intimacy You’ve Always Craved
02 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you want more intimacy in relationship? If your answer was, “Yes, but HOW?”, then you’re in...
Episode 88: How To Decide If You Should Have Kids Or Not. And Are We Still Child Free By Choice?
26 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
When we revealed in Episode 37 that we’re child free by choice, it became the most popular episode...
Episode 87: Sex Talks: Sharing All The Secrets Behind Writing Our First Book
19 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
If you’ve been following us for a bit, you probably know that we have a book, Sex Talks: The Five ...
Episode 86: Ask Us Anything Part 4: This Time It’s Personal
12 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s time for another one of your favorite episodes - Ask Us Anything! This time, let’s skip the...
Episode 85: Make 2023 The Year You Finally Feel Sexy
05 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What makes a person sexy? We all want to be sexy, but most of us don’t feel that way very often (o...
Episode 84: Top 10 Podcast Moments of 2022
29 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What a year 2022 has been!!! In 52 episodes, we’ve gotten more vulnerable than we’ve ever dared,...
Episode 83: How To Fight Fair In A Relationship: Breaking Down A Listener Argument
22 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Be honest - if you look back at your last fight with your partner, are you happy with how it went? W...
Episode 82: The 15 Lessons That Keep Us Saying “I Do” After 15 Years
15 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
On December 15th, 2007, a tired girl got dragged to a Christmas party and met a DJ with a heart of g...
Episode 81: Ho Ho Help! How To Survive Holiday Stress
08 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
It’s (supposed to be) the most wonderful time of the year! The time we get together with our loved...
Episode 80: Be A Man And Talk About Your Feelings
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Ever wondered why the man in your life is so emotionally reserved? Ever been frustrated by how unwil...
Episode 79: Sex Confessions: The Good, The Bad, And The WTF
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Need a good laugh today? Everyone knows how stressful the holiday season can be, so if you need to l...
Episode 78: Initiation: What You And Your Partner Are Doing Wrong - And How To Get It Right
17 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Initiation is SUPPOSED to feel sexy and enticing. When we see it on TV, it always looks so easy. One...
Episode 77: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Orgasms
10 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
There are few things in life we’re more passionate about than orgasms! We want you to understand t...
Episode 76: How Much Do You Really Want It? The Sex Drive Episode
03 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you want a higher sex drive? Bet you said, “yes!” without thinking twice. 74% of our Instagra...
Episode 75: Am I Being Unreasonable?
27 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You love your partner, for better or worse, but there’s just that THING that gets under your skin....
Episode 74: Are We…Growing Apart?
20 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You come home after a long day, you see your partner, but you don’t say anything more than “hi”...
Episode 73: Do You Ever “Owe” Sex To Your Partner?
13 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever had your partner initiate sex and thought to yourself, “I should probably just do it...
Episode 72: The Lowdown On Painful Sex
06 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever been having intercourse and thought to yourself, “Oh, this hurts, and not in a good ...
Episode 71: Ask Us Anything Part 3: Extra Spicy Edition
29 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You saw the question box. You dug deep and swung for the fences. Now buckle up, because it is our tu...
Episode 70: How To Keep Stress Low And Pleasure High When You’re Trying To Conceive
22 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Most couples believe that trying to get pregnant will be one of the sexiest, most intimate periods o...
Episode 69: What Do Men REALLY Think About… Part Two! (Lingerie, Boobs, Money, Queefing, and More!)
15 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Xander is back in the hot seat today answering the tough questions... What do guys REALLY think abou...
Episode 68: The Ultimate Butt Stuff Episode
09 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
No, you’re not having deja vu… Butt Stuff is back! We originally released a Butt Stuff epis...
Episode 67: Hot Takes: How We REALLY Feel About Your Most Requested Topics
01 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Definition of hot take: a quickly produced, strongly worded, and often deliberately provocative or ...
Episode 66: The True Story Of How We Built A Sex Therapy Business
25 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You’ve asked us over email, Instagram, YouTube, everything short of a carrier pigeon… How the he...
Episode 65: How To Overcome Sexual Shame With Our 7-Step Process
18 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Let’s talk about the thing that keeps you up at night. The thing that you don’t bring up over dr...
Episode 64: Are You Roommates or Romantic Partners?
11 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are you worried you’ve lost the spark in your relationship? We asked our Instagram audience, and t...
Episode 63: Does Your Partner Care Enough About YOUR Pleasure?
04 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you ever find yourself feeling kinda… disappointed after intercourse with your partner? Or...
Episode 62: The Truth About Money and Relationships
28 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are you sick of fighting about money in your relationship? Maybe you’ve even thought you and your ...
Episode 61: Putting The O Back In Mom: Reigniting Your Sex Life After Kids
21 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Are you struggling to have a great sex life now that you’re a mom? As women, we wear so many ...
Episode 60: Help! My Partner Hates Self-Improvement!
14 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You read all the books, listen to all the podcast episodes, and do all the meditations and affirmati...
Episode 59: Roleplaying 101: Ditch The Awkwardness And Find Your Confidence
07 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
In today’s episode we’re diving into something that 74% of our audience have never done - rolepl...
Episode 58: The Sex Act You Should Be Doing - But Probably Aren’t
30 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Today’s episode is about one of the most underrated sex acts that you’re probably not doing… m...
Episode 57: Is This Your Shit Or Mine?
23 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“Should I have to stop hanging out with my ex because my girlfriend said so?” “Is it my h...
Episode 56: What Do Men REALLY Think About… ? (Vulvas, Emotional Intimacy, And More!)
16 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Every day we get DMs from women asking Xander what men REALLY think about everything from pubic hair...
Episode 55: The 69 Episode
09 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Love it or hate it, 69 is one of the most infamous sex acts. We just had to give it it’s own epis...
Episode 54: Ask Us Anything Part 2: MORE Of Your Burning Questions, Answered
02 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
We were WRONG. Well, Vanessa was. She thought there was no way our last Ask Us Anything episode...
Episode 53: How To Spice It Up In the Bedroom: Exploring Kink For Beginners
26 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever read a romance novel or watched a sex scene and felt turned on by reading or seeing so...
Episode 52: How To Get Your Man To Take Control In The Bedroom
19 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You’re innocently folding the laundry, just minding your own business, when your partner comes up ...
Episode 51: The Art of Flirting (In a Long Term Relationship)
12 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“Why should I have to flirt with my partner? We’ve been together forever!” A lot of us in...
Episode 50: I Don’t Know How To Say This, But...
05 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You know that thing you really want to tell your partner but you just... don’t know how? Mayb...
Episode 49: The Truth About Squirting (And Why Men Are Obsessed With It)
28 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Squirting: is it real? Where does it come from? IS IT PEE?! In this episode, we are doing a dee...
Episode 48: How To Get Out Of (And Prevent) Dry Spells
21 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Can’t remember the last time you had sex? Or maybe you remember the exact day and it’s been...
Episode 47: What Penis Performance Problems REALLY Mean
14 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You’re having a steamy makeout session with your partner, things are getting hot and heavy and lea...
Episode 46: The Hygiene Episode: What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t Taking Care Of Themselves
07 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
If you’re like many people, hygiene seems pretty basic. Take a shower, brush your teeth, wear deod...
Episode 45: Busting – And Confirming! – The Wildest Sex Myths
31 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Is squirting really just pee? Can pineapple make your vulva taste and smell sweet? What the heck is ...
Episode 44: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up
24 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Do you find yourself wishing your partner would share more about their emotions, or at least just mo...
Episode 43: How To STOP Getting Distracted During Sex!
17 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
Have you ever been in the middle of some HOT sex and all of a sudden you start thinking about someth...
Episode 42: Are You Sexually Compatible?
10 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
“Are we sexually compatible?” This haunting question comes up in the majority of relationships a...
Episode 41: The Ask Us Anything Episode: All Your Burning Questions, Answered!
03 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
So how DID Xander propose? How often do we really have sex? You’re about to find out in this “as...
Episode 40: When Your Partner Wants Sex But You Don’t
24 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
What do you do when your partner initiates sex, but you’re not in the mood? This can be one o...
Episode 39: If You Had To Ask, Does It Even Count?
17 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
You wish your partner would do something thoughtful for you, and you definitely DON’T want to have...
Episode 38: You Want Connection, Your Partner Wants Sex. Who Comes First?
10 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas • Default Dataset
There are two types of people: those who need to feel connected before having sex, and those that ne...