Welcome to the Please Me! Podcast Kink Series, where host Eve leads bold, trauma-informed conversations about sexuality, kink, empowerment, and embodied pleasure. As the number-one ranked sexuality podcast in the USA and worldwide, Please Me! brings listeners into real, raw, and educational discussions designed to close the orgasm gap and dismantle shame. In this episode, Eve sits down with Maeve McBride — a BDSM educator, intuitive top, sexological herbalist, and Executive Director of KinkFest 2025/2026 — to explore the foundations of Intuitive Topping, BDSM roles, and how to develop real-time awareness in kink. Drawing from insights at DomCon and Maeve’s influential “Intuitive Topping” class, this episode dives into: The difference between Dom, Sub, Top, Bottom, Switch, and Vers How power exchange works through negotiation, communication, and consent Why intuitive topping is not psychic ability, but pattern recognition and data collection How to read breath, movement, vocalizations, body language, and individualized responses How neurodivergence influences sensation expression and communication Understanding hurt vs. harm and why negotiated pain can be safe What defines a scene — negotiation, safewords, boundaries, aftercare, and follow-up Why kink isn’t always sexual, and how sensation play can offer catharsis, emotional release, and embodiment How Eve and Maeve negotiated a real pre-scene demonstration together Why aftercare is essential for both tops and bottoms This conversation brings clarity, depth, and compassion to kink education — offering both beginners and seasoned players a richer understanding of how intuition, safety, and connection shape BDSM. Patreon Bonus Listen to the full-length, uncensored episode on Patreon — including extended kink education, behind-the-scenes insight, and intimate conversations that don’t fit into the free version. Access the entire Kink Series for just $10/month Additional Resources Mentioned: • Shameless Care — Use code PLEASME for $15 off at-home sexual health testing • SDC.com — Use code 37340 for a free trial membership • Donation links for survivors of the recent typhoon and earthquake in the Philippines https://www.worldvision.org/ • Eve’s Substack and Patreon communities for Q&A submissions and exclusive content https://pleasemewitheve.substack.com/ http://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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