In this candid and thought-provoking episode of Please Me, Eve sits down with Kels and Tess—creators of the Porn Nerds podcast miniseries and founders of Squirm—for a deeply honest conversation about porn, pleasure, and the role of communication in sexual education. Together, they dismantle the myth that porn is an accurate or sufficient source for sex ed and offer practical ways adults can build sexual confidence, curiosity, and connection outside the tube sites. From navigating shame and stigma to setting boundaries in relationships (and throuples!), this episode explores how porn can be used as a tool for inspiration—but not a manual for real-life intimacy. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Why porn is not a substitute for sexual education—and what is How to communicate turn-ons and boundaries without awkwardness The role of fantasy in enhancing solo and partnered sex Why watching porn together can actually deepen connection Ways to use desire as a conversation starter, not a point of conflict How Kels & Tess built Squirm to destigmatize conversations around sex Mentioned in This Episode: Kolby's Episode Vote for Eve Hall as Best Educator and Best Educator Website at the ASN Awards: If you’re enjoying the show and feel it’s been helpful, I’d be honored if you could take a moment to vote for me as Best Educator and Best Educator Website in this year’s ASN Awards. Your support means so much to me! Vote here: ⁠2025 TOP 8 FINALIST | 2025 ASN Awards⁠ Connect with Eve: Website: ⁠PleaseMe.Online⁠ Support the Podcast: Become a ⁠Patreon⁠ member for ad-free episodes, exclusive content, and early access Where to Find Kels & Tess:Website: https://getsquirmy.comInstagram: @squirm Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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