270: Trust Issues, Money Drama, & How to Keep the Spark Alive
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Who is Aly Bullock and why is she an expert on relationships?
Well, well, well, we are so excited to be joined today by Allie Bullock. Allie Bullock is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the head of relationships at the number one couples app paired that has helped 4 million couples globally stay in love. And she's the creator of relationships with Allie, her popular social presence with over 300,000 followers across platforms. Allie is also a proud wife to her husband, Sean and mom of three kids. So she's practicing what she preaches every day. You guys, I really wanted to bring Ali on because I feel like you share so much wisdom for people who are in the trenches of actual like everyday monogamy marriage relationships. And I feel like we're fed so much advice for dating. Totally.
And so much advice for like how to get the guy, how to get him to commit. But what do we do when we got the ring on our finger, you know, and it's a couple of years in and different problems arise.
Yes.
So many different problems. So I feel like this episode is just going to be so valuable for all of our listeners who are in committed relationships and want to keep them thriving. And also, I think, to have some wisdom as they embark on, you know, getting married and creating a great life in partnership with someone. Yeah, I think it'll be so helpful for people who maybe even aren't in a serious relationship now or who aren't in that phase of life yet, because once you're in that phase of life, you want to maintain it. You would hope to stay married forever. So we're so excited to have you. Thank you for being here. Thank you both so much for having me. I feel so honored.
What is 'non-toxic drama' and how can it keep the spark alive?
I love this podcast, and I'm so excited to be here with you. Of course. Okay, so I think the best way we can serve our audience is really go through the questions they had for you and try to get to as many of them as possible. So let's just start off with a banger. And I think one of the most popular questions we get, which is how do you keep the spark alive? The number one question that I'm asked always. And my favorite answer is non-toxic drama. Okay. Also, this was not what I was expecting at all. And I'm obsessed. You have to create drama that's not toxic, meaning you are fully in control of it. For example, maybe you... make a new name and text your partner from your sexy name on a different phone number on WhatsApp. Oh my gosh.
Or like you role play. Right. Role play or you go, you know, make out or have sex somewhere you normally would not ever do that. Like you're creating dramatic experiences that you have control over. So they're not toxic. They're not going to lead to anything that you don't want, but you're just intentionally keeping the spark alive by doing things that are sparky. I don't know. That's a weird, weird way to say it, but. Well, and I even interpret that as like you, maybe you buy yourself a new outfit, something you wouldn't typically wear. You like you step into a more dramatic side of yourself in order to create a new experience. Because I think so much of the frustration with keeping the spark alive is just like, I've known this person forever. We've had sex forever.
Like, how do we do it new? How do we make it feel new and exciting? Because I love this person, but you want to continue to feel young and alive. Totally. And I even just got sent, someone sent me this box. It's like a fantasy box, right?
Of toys or something? Of toys.
And there's like a feather duster. I've never used a feather duster before, but it was great. It was new. It was something that was different. And it was just that simple thing. Took 10 minutes, right? But once a month or once every few months, adding something new like that can make such a difference because you're not so bored anymore. Like you're not so monotonous anymore. And like, I guess, can you speak to keeping the spark alive beyond sex? Yes. Yeah. Do new things with your partner, right? You are so used to them that you start to make all these assumptions about them. And so you assume what they're going to like and what they don't like. And you go out on a date and you just like have in your head how it's going to go already.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Who is Aly Bullock and why is she an expert on relationships?
0:14–1:50
2
What is 'non-toxic drama' and how can it keep the spark alive?
1:50–5:10
3
How can couples maintain intimacy beyond physical connection?
5:10–8:11
4
What is the Paired app and how does it help couples stay connected?
8:11–10:58
5
Is it possible to be happy, healthy, and passionate in a long-term relationship?
10:58–14:18
6
When and how should you talk about marriage in dating?
14:18–16:33
7
How normal is it to question if your partner is 'the one' after years together?
16:33–18:36
8
How do you address sensitive issues like a partner's weight gain with compassion?
18:36–1:03:30
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