Porn, Betrayal, Sex and the Experts — PBSE

What Does “Real Restitution” for Serious Betrayal in a Relationship Look Like?

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 230, the betrayed parter of a porn/sex addict submitted her situation and some questions to PBSE surrounding the CRITICAL issue of "re...

Do I Have to Accept that my Addict Partner, even in Successful Recovery, could Betray Me Again?!

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 229, Mark & Steve answer some very TOUGH questions asked by a partner seeking to heal from the betrayal trauma caused by her porn/sex a...

As a Partner, I’m Falling and Drowning—HOW DO I STOP! How do I TAKE BACK MY POWER?!

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 228, Mark & Steve get SUPER passionate talking to the partners of porn/sex addicts! Over the past several weeks, PBSE has received a nu...

I Need My Sex Addict Partner be “all-in” with Recovery, and to Stop Throwing Me Under the Bus with Family & Friends!

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 227, Mark & Steve respond to an amazing submission from a PBSE listener who is facing an incredibly hard, overwhelming and toxic situat...

How Can I Share my Authentic Feelings when my Addict Partner Reacts with Depression, Anxiety and/or Shame?

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 226, a PBSE listener asks a very common question about her interactions with her porn/sex addicted partner:Hello, I just recently started l...

Can Porn/Sex Addicts be Habitual Liars—even about Small Stuff—and How Can They Stop?

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 225 comes from a heart-felt submission by the partner of a porn/sex addict. She reports that he is in solid, serious recovery, but he just can...

Should We Consider a “Sex Fast”? And IF so, HOW do we NOT become “Disconnected” in the Process?

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 224, Mark & Steve discuss a topic that many couples face—the addict in recovery is trying to stay sober from his use of porn and othe...

Now that my Sex/Porn Addiction is Out in the Open, my Betrayed Partner is Lashing Out! How do we Navigate this?!

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 223, Mark & Steve address a submission by a PBSE listener who is in long-term recovery from his porn and sex addiction. At the same tim...

Both Partners Have a Porn Addiction History. One is Pursuing Real Recovery and the other Refuses to do so; Now What?

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 222 of the PBSE podcast, hosts Mark and Steve delve into a deeply personal and challenging topic after receiving a unique submission from a...

How Can "Love" and "Attraction" Evolve Through Disclosure and the Recovery/Healing Process?

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 221 comes in response to the heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener struggling after the disclosure of her porn and sex addicted partner. Ha...

How Can my Family & Friends Support Me & My Partner in Recovery? How Much Should We Share & with Whom?

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 220, Mark & Steve talk about a challenge in porn/sex addiction and betrayal trauma healing that is all about a "third party"—...

I Have Habitually, Continually Lied to My Partner! Is There Any Hope for Me and Us?

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 219, Mark & Steve get super passionate in addressing a heart-felt, yet tragic submission from a PBSE listener. Here's what he had ...

As an Addict, are you “Weaponizing your Weaknesses” as a Reason to NOT Commit to and Live “Real” Recovery?

05 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 218, we address two similar questions that we received from partners who are in betrayal trauma healing as a result of their addict spouse&...

After Deeply Betraying Her, How do I Help my Partner Feel Truly “Chosen” Again?

27 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We want to thank a courageous partner for submitting the situation and question for Episode 217. Here's what she shared—Hi Mark and Steve, I wa...

Is this Coupleship Issue a Dual Sex Addiction? Or Something More?

20 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 216 is in response to a very courageous, transparent submission by a parter who is seeking to heal from the betrayal of a sex/porn addicted sp...

What Came First—His Emotional Disconnectedness or His Addiction?

13 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 215, a PBSE listener asks some very-often-wondered-about questions regarding addiction and related mental, emotional and relational behavio...

My Partner’s Porn Addiction Ruined Our Sex Life! Can/Should We Seek a Total “Sexual Reset”?

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 214, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener who finds herself in an all-too-common situation. After several years of marriage, her spous...

Am I Just Too Insecure and Sensitive About What He Does in His “Private Time”?

30 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 213, Mark and Steve tackle a very heart-felt and all-too-common situation submitted by a PBSE listener who is suffering under the heavy bur...

“Healthy, Connecting Sexual Dynamic”? You Be the Judge.

23 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 212, Mark and Steve respond to a tragic situation submitted by a PBSE listener. As opposed to a structured podcast, Mark & Steve sponta...

Can He Ever “See” Me Physically & Sexually like He does His Porn Fantasies?

16 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 211 is in response to a very raw and heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. She is about to turn 40, is married to a guy who struggles with...

Is There a Correlation Between ADHD & Porn/Sex Addiction? Can You Cope with Both Collaboratively?

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 210, Mark & Steve address an issue that comes up often in porn/sex addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing—the challenges of A...

You Get to Decide What Level of Intimacy You Want in Your Relationship.

02 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 209 is in response to a very complex, awkward, embarrassing, infuriating and painful situation submitted by the partner of a porn/sex addict. ...

Can “Emotional Cheating” be Worse Than Sexual Betrayal?

26 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode (#208) is in response to a very vulnerable and heart-felt submission by a PBSE listener. Here's her situation—"You may have a...

How Do My Partner and I Successfully Navigate a “Therapeutic Separation”? How Do We Do This Well?

19 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 207, Mark & Steve address a situation and concern sent in by a PBSE listener who finds herself in a very painful, difficult and complex...

The More I Learn About His “Disgusting Past” the Less I Want to Have Sex with Him! How Can We Ever Recover From This?

13 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We know that the title to Episode 206 is hard-hitting! But, this is very close to a "quote" from a PBSE listener who is a partner in betraya...

What is the Betrayed Partner’s Responsibility in Rebuilding a Relationship?

05 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 205, Mark and Steve tackle a VERY sensitive, but crucial topic. This episode comes in response to a porn/sex addict in recovery who wrote t...

How to have a Healthy Couples Dialogue in Tackling Sexually Triggering Topics

28 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 204, Mark & Steve take on what is often a very difficult topic for couples—talking openly, authentically and non-defensively about al...

How Can an Addict and Partner Stay “Safe” During Holiday Trips and Vacations?

21 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 203, Mark and Steve tackle an issue that is often extremely challenging for both the individual who is in recovery from porn/sex addiction ...

I Have Been Betrayed by So Many Men! What Steps Can I Take Going Forward to NOT be Hurt Again?!

14 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 202 is in response to a deeply traumatic situation and heartfelt questions sent in by a PBSE listener. For over 40 years, this dear woman has ...

Why do Betrayed Partners Feel Unsafe? What does it take to Feel Safe Again and Why is this Critical to Healing?

07 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 201, Mark and Steve address a very genuine and vulnerable cry for help from a woman who was severely betrayed by her husband. Her message a...

Episode 200!!! What Does it Mean to “Dare” in Your Relationship?

31 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This is PBSE's 200th episode!  We (Mark & Steve) want to express our deepest appreciation to all of our PBSE listeners in more than 185 coun...

You Can Rewire Your Subconscious Mind—and Break Out of Porn/Sex Addiction!

24 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 199, Steve is on the road traveling so Mark is flying solo on the PBSE podcast.  Everyday we think, talk and act on "autopilot" ...

SPECIAL EPISODE! For My Recovery & My Partner’s Healing—How Can I Stop “Scanning in Public”?

17 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 198 is a very special episode!  You will notice that this episode is much longer than what is typical for PBSE. That's because we'r...

Sick and Tired of the Roller Coaster Ride of Porn/Sex Addiction? Here Are Some Simple Tools to Start Breaking Free.

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

After years or decades of feeling stuck in the endless "addiction cycle," it can be easy to become weighed down in hopelessness and the seem...

My Spouse “Fooled” Me and Everyone in Our Family for Years! Now I Can’t Stand to Even Look at Him! Is there any Hope for us?

03 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 196 is in response to a very raw and painful situation shared by the spouse of a porn/sex addict. Here's what she had to say—Hi and tha...

What is the Difference Between “Codependence” and Authentic Feelings & Boundaries?

26 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There is an old, antiquated psychology model that is unfortunately still referenced by too many people out there regarding how porn/sex addiction impa...

How Can a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, most effectively project His Authenticity and Higher Self?

19 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 194, Mark and Steve respond to what may be the most brief situation and question ever submitted to PBSE. It comes from a sex addict trying ...

What is “His” Role and “Her” Role in Rebuilding Trust?

12 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode #193, Mark & Steve talk passionately about a super-crucial part of addiction recovery and betrayal trauma healing—rebuilding trust! T...

Should I Marry My Porn-Addicted Fiancé or Move On?

05 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We KNOW this is a VERY intense episode title! We decided to tackle this topic because it was submitted by a PBSE listener who is engaged to a porn add...

What Happens when Porn Use/Sex Addiction is Blamed on the so-called “Inadequacies” of a Partner?

29 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 191, Mark and Steve take on what is an extremely difficult and painful topic for the partners of porn/sex addicts. This episode is in respo...

After My Lying and Gaslighting, My Partner Won’t Believe Me! How Do I Show True Empathy & Rebuild Trust?

22 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 190, Mark and Steve take on some excellent questions asked by a PBSE listener. He is in good, solid, active recovery from porn/sex addictio...

Boundaries, Trauma and “Long-Distance-Sex”–Where do We Go From Here?

15 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 189, Mark and Steve answer three critical questions sent in by a PBSE listener who is trying to balance her own healing from sexual trauma ...

Will Confronting my Addict’s "Acting-Out Partners" Help Me Heal?

08 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 188 addresses a PBSE Listener's painful situation and heart-felt, crucial questions:"Hi Mark and Steve, Firstly I want to thank you ...

What Place Does “Edging” Have or Not Have in Healthy Recovery and Healing a Relationship?

01 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 187, Mark & Steve take on a topic and question from a PBSE listener that hasn't been specifically addressed on the podcast before....

My Partner’s Definition of “What is Porn” is Different from Mine—We are at an Impasse—Now What?!

25 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 186, Mark & Steve address a very difficult and sensitive topic sent in to PBSE by the partner of an addict in recovery—"My husba...

My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s “Empathy Button” is Broken! What Can I Do?

18 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The title for Episode 185 may sound a bit strange—"My Porn/Sex Addict Partner’s 'Empathy Button' is Broken! What Can I Do?" Ac...

How can we Connect When My Partner Acts Out and Then Goes to Shame—Silent, Stoic and Self-Absorbed?!

11 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 184, Mark and Steve respond to a PBSE listener's situation and question. This is a VERY common situation that MANY partners describe w...

“Clearing Away the Wreckage of Your Past"—Recovery Lessons from Steve’s Metal Detecting Trip

04 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Almost 30 years ago, when PBSE co-founder Steve Moore was 13-years-old, his father was killed in a plane crash. This traumatic event played a big role...

I Want My Addict Partner to SUFFER; to Feel TERRIBLE like I do! Is that Normal? How Can I Stop this Feeling?!

27 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 182, Mark and Steve respond to a very authentic, vulnerable and VERY direct question from a PBSE listener—"Can you address this ques...

Evolve from Treating the “Symptoms of Addiction” to a Real & Lasting “Change of Heart & Mind."

20 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 180, Mark and Steve address an insightful inquiry from a porn/sex addict seeking a real and lasting change of heart and mind in his recover...

Should I Pay Off My New Spouse's "Porn Debt" So We Can Have a Solid Financial Start?

13 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We KNOW this episode title sounds crazy! But, many partners of porn/sex addicts face some hard decisions about where to "draw boundaries" as...

Is There a “Statute of Limitations” on Feelings, Betrayal Trauma and Disclosure?

06 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 178, Mark and Steve address an all-too-common situation and question faced and asked by porn/sex addicts in recovery and their partners see...

How do I Stop Comparing Myself to Porn and His Sexual Fantasies?

30 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 177, Mark and Steve address a very heart-felt question sent in by a PBSE listener—"My partner recently came clean to me about porn a...

If “Sex is Optional,” How can a Couple Possibly Stay Connected?!

23 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Mark and Steve address a super common question—if "sex is optional" in a relationship, then how can a couple possibly stay...

How Can We Avoid the Traps and Pitfalls of Addiction Recovery and Betrayal Trauma Healing?

16 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Episode 175 finds Steve and his wife on vacation on the island of Hilo in Hawaii. Hilo is the site of an actual "active" volcano. While ther...

What Keeps us Stuck in Addiction and What Does “Real” Recovery Look Like?

09 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The partners of sex/porn addicts can find it difficult or near impossible to discern whether or not their partner is still "stuck in addiction&qu...

What Happens When we “Weaponize” What Could be “Healthy Boundaries”?

02 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Healthy Boundaries are CRITICAL to our individual happiness and authenticity—AND—to our connection as a couple. But when we're not experience...

“Normal Human Attraction” vs. “Toxic/Betraying Lust”?

25 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In Episode 172, Mark and Steve tackle a topic that is extremely difficult, triggering and traumatizing for the partners of porn/sex addicts and even f...

What can I do about “Random ED Symptoms” in Sexual Intimacy with my Partner?!

18 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is a VERY common challenge among those struggling with porn/sex addiction AND also common for addicts in recovery. The discu...

Why are Sexual Boundaries Critical for a truly "Connected Coupleship"?

11 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Once an addict starts into recovery and his partner begins her journey of healing betrayal trauma, a couple should immediately look at the difficult b...

As a Partner in Betrayal Trauma, I Feel Resentment Toward my Addict Partner. How do I Manage this?!

04 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 169, Mark and Steve address a very raw and real scenario and question from the partner of a porn/sex addict. As a partner trying to heal fr...

How a lifetime of “Communication Trauma” can prevent “Healthy Connection” in the Here and Now.

28 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We have all suffered from "communication trauma" in our life experiences! This can too easily get in the way and/or sabotage healthy communi...

The “Fallacy of Fairness”—Why I Cannot Stand Up For Myself with my Partner

21 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode,  Mark & Steve address a PBSE listener's question about WHY she has trouble standing her ground, having a voice, speaking he...

What Does a Formal, Full “Disclosure” Look Like?

14 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve review what is an often mismanaged or overlooked “critical” part of porn/sex addiction recovery and betrayal traum...

Having Trouble with “Couples Check-ins”? Give this a Shot.

07 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

   What is a "Couples Check-in" and WHY is it so ESSENTIAL to your relationship success?   What are the BARRIERS to the Couples Check-in...

When it comes to boundaries and consequences in recovery and healing, what is “my side of the street vs. his"?

28 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve address what can often be a confusing topic for couples—when it comes to recovery, healing, boundaries and consequen...

Is all this “Recovery & Healing Crap” really Worth it? Hope for Couples.

21 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Recovery from Porn/Sex Addiction and healing from Betrayal Trauma are HUGE commitments, take a long time and are HARD work. It can be easy in the earl...

Stop Focusing on your "Addiction Symptoms” and Get to your Core Issues!

14 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Too often, those struggling with porn/sex addiction focus primarily on their outward addiction behaviors--the "symptoms" of addiction. Many ...

Is there any “Good” to be Learned from Sex Addiction Behaviors and Betrayal Trauma?

07 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark & Steve respond to a painful situation sent in by a PBSE listener. Her spouse was caught in an affair, which uncovered 6 yea...

My Partner has a Slip with Porn and I go Online to See What He was Looking at! How do I Stop this Painful Behavior?

31 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark & Steve address a very common "painful" behavior that the partners of porn addicts can often engage in. A PBSE lis...

If I Don’t Get Angry/Intense When My Partner Slips/Relapses, He Becomes Complacent! How Do I Find a Healthy Balance?

24 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A PBSE listener describes a situation that many partners of addicts face. Here's how she describes it. See if you can relate—My partner has bee...

What if I Marry an Addict in Recovery and Down the Road He Stops Choosing Recovery? Is there a “Safe Zone” to Prevent This?

17 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is in response to a situation shared with us by a PBSE listener. She is currently engaged to a guy in his mind twenties who has struggled...

How do I Forgive Myself after Betraying my Wife for 18 Years?!

10 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Here's a raw, heart-felt submission from a PBSE listener—Hello Mark and Steve, I am a recovering porn addict and the grateful husband of the li...

After Our Long Addiction and Betrayal History, We Now Live Like “Married Singles.” How Can We Get the “Chemistry & Spark” Back?

03 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve address a "couple's issue" that is unfortunately all-too-common:  In the wake of addiction and betraya...

Is 2023 already “Ruined” Due to His Destructive Sexual Behaviors over all the other years?!

27 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

As we look at moving into a new year, many addicts in recovery and spouses healing from betrayal trauma, wonder if their year and experience will ever...

How to be the proactive “Architect” of your Holidays and 2023—as opposed to the same old “Reactive Firefighter.”

20 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

If we're not mindful and proactive, addiction and betrayal trauma can turn our Holidays into constant "fires" that we run around puttin...

Does it Take a “Catastrophe” to Break Out of Addiction? And, Should I Disclose to My Partner?

13 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We recently received a VERY raw, vulnerable and transparent communication from one of our PBSE listeners who is struggling with porn addiction and has...

How to Raise Sexually Healthy Kids and Help Those Already Struggling

06 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Mark & Steve rarely address issues with kids and teens on PBSE podcast. However, two PBSE listeners submitted questions in this area. One is in ad...

Now that I know about my addict partner’s past sexual behaviors, I don’t want to have sex with him!

29 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This PBSE episode comes from a very bold, but authentic situation and question from one of our listeners—I am a betrayed spouse and just listened to...

What Can You Do When Your Partner Will Not Acknowledge They Have a Porn Problem?

22 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 150, Mark & Steve tackle a situation submitted by a PBSE listener—Her partner of 3 years came forward and admitted to her that he&apo...

As a Porn/Sex Addict in Recovery, HOW do I Let Go of Deep Feelings of Shame & Unworthiness?

15 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 149, Mark & Steve reach out to an addict in recovery who expressed some very deep feelings and meaning questions—Hi Mark and Steve, I...

Steve's Lessons Learned in Successful Recovery!

08 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This is a special podcast and the first of its kind here at PBSE. In this episode, PBSE Co-Founder Steve Moore, goes “solo” and talks raw and real...

My Addict Spouse Can’t Help His Bad Behaviors Because He is “Powerless”—Right?

01 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark & Steve respond to a spouse's heart-felt description of the EXTREMELY traumatizing situation with her addict partner. H...

Because of Trauma from my Addict Partner, I'm Seeing the World Through "His Hyper-sexualized Lens"!

25 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve address a very unfortunate, but all-too-common challenge for the partners of porn/sex addicts. Here's how a PBSE ...

What Role Can/Should a “Polygraph” Play in a Porn/Sex Addict’s “Disclosure” to a Partner?

18 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark & Steve respond to a PBSE listener's questions about "polygraphs" and their role in Disclosure to a partner—...

Are the Sexual Practices in Your Relationship “Safe”? How Can You Know?

11 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark & Steve address a very difficult and painful situation and questions submitted by a PBSE listener. Her spouse has engaged in...

I was just “blind-sided” by the shocking details of my husband’s sex addiction! Now what!

04 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a spouse who sent in a CRAZY HARD situation she is facing! Her courage, authenticity and wisdom are very imp...

My Husband Acts “Sexually Anorexic”—What Can I Do?!

27 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A PBSE listener sent in a very raw and vulnerable situation and question. Here's what she said— I've heard the term "sexual anorexia...

Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Three: Building Your Support System

20 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Problem—- RECOVERY/HEALING NEVER WORKS IN A VACUUM!- Isolation, in all of its forms, decreases safety, encourages avoidance, feeds addiction and...

Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part Two: The Couples Check-in

13 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The Problem—- Addicts: lack of skillset in connecting; inability to regulate emotional states; lacking insight/empathy into the reality of others; c...

Basic Recovery/Healing Tools, Part One: The Power of Journaling

06 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The problem—  Addicts—tuned out; numbed out; in-denial; lack emotional “wholeness” skills; the opposite of mindfulness is the state of compul...

Let's Talk "Fetishes"!

30 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve tackle a series of questions sent in by a PBSE listener. She and her partner are in good, solid recovery with a therap...

My Partner Claims He “No longer notices women.” Is that possible?

23 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode Mark and Steve take on an issue that is more common than you might think. A PBSE listener wrote in about her partner who claims that &...

Is It Simply "Sex Addiction," or Something More?—Examining the Nuances & Roots of Addiction Behaviors.

16 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve tackle a VERY important issue—examining the nuances and roots of addiction behaviors. This is in response to a PBSE ...

How do “Family of Origin” Issues Impact your Addiction, Recovery and Marriage Relationship?

09 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In response to a PBSE Listener's situation and question, Mark and Steve share some raw and real thoughts and feelings from their own "famili...

Now that my partner is in recovery, what should our “sexual norms” look like as a Couple?

02 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve respond to a scenario and question from a PBSE listener—"Since my husband and I have gotten into recovery I str...

It’s Been a Long Time Since I Looked at Porn–Am I Cured? Do I Still Need “Recovery Work”?

26 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A PBSE listener writes in about her spouse who has been porn-free for over ten years. Yet, there are still many areas of his personal life and their r...

Would my Spouse Still be an Addict if He had Married Someone Else?

19 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve speak from the heart to a PBSE listener whose addict spouse passed away and now she finds herself wrestling with some ...

What if my Addict Partner DEMANDS Sex so He can Stay Sober?

12 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve directly address a spouse's extremely difficult situation. Here's a small excerpt from the message she sent ...

How “Sex” can be used as an “Intimacy Substitute.”

05 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Mark and Steve speak directly to a PBSE listener's in-depth question about sex being used as a substitute for true intimacy—&q...