REAL AF with Andy Frisella
962. Q&AF: Creating A Bigger Sense Of Urgency, Discipling Employees & Managing Your Team From A Distance
10 Nov 2025
Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
What is up, guys?
It's Andy Frisella, and this is the show for the realest. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality, guys. Today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. You can submit your questions a number of different ways. Malcolm X is going to tell you. Oh, fuck.
Well, I have a dream that you can submit your questions a few different ways. Guys, first of all, email your questions in to askandydandyforsella.com. You guys can also click the link in the description below and submit your questions for a chance to be on the call-in or also drop your questions in the comments of the Q&A episodes.
All right. And if you didn't know, there is shows within the show. Tomorrow we're going to have Cruise the Internet. We call that CTI. That's where we... put topics on the screen over here, we see what's going on in the world, we pick it apart, we laugh at it, and then we talk about what we need to do to solve these problems, because ultimately it is our problems to solve.
Sometimes we're gonna have real talk, real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk, and then sometimes we will have
75 hard verses if you're unfamiliar with 75 hard is the initial phase of the live hard program which you can get for free at episode 208 on the audio feed it's only on the audio feed it's episode 208 of real af and it'll give you the whole live hard program if you're unfamiliar with live hard it is uh the world's most popular mental transformation program ever and there is a book written by me on it called the book on mental toughness
It has the entire Live Hard program, plus a whole bunch of other information that's not on the podcast. And you can get that book at andyfercella.com. Definitely not required, but if you're someone like me that likes to know the ins and outs, it's a great read. We do have a fee for the show. We do things a little different here.
We ask very simply that, you know, if you get something out of the show, if it gives you some good information, if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, if it gives you a new perspective, that you do us a solid and help us get the word out. Okay? So don't be a hoe. Share the show. All right. My brothers.
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Chapter 2: How can a zero options mentality create urgency in business?
What's up? Hey. What is that? Those are fake. No, these are real. Why are you going to wear it? You're only 30 years old. Yeah. Is that old?
Yeah. So now you got to have glasses? As soon as I turned 30, it happened. How the fuck am I in my mid-40s? I don't need glasses. You do need glasses. No, I don't. You've said you need the glasses. I've said that, but do you see me wearing them? I ain't no bitch. I can't fucking see shit.
You mean like I couldn't see that turn off a couple weeks ago? That's right.
That's what I'm saying, bro.
Fuck, dude. It's all right, man. I get it. I get it. You know, it's the nighttime, man. Yeah, I get you. It's the nighttime.
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Chapter 3: What strategies can be used for disciplining employees effectively?
Mm-hmm. It's all you guys shaking your head, huh? It's all you guys. It's over 30, bro. It happens. Really? Yeah, bro. It probably doesn't help. That's what it is. I started doing the tinted windshield because it looks cool, and I can't see shit. I can't see shit out of his mask. That's right. I'm going to end up wrapped around some fucking pole because I want to look cool. Fuck, man.
How'd they get into me?
Fuck, man.
He looked good doing it, though.
Yeah, that's right. We give that a 10.
fuck man all right so what we got today dude we got we got uh it's monday guys we're making people better today got some great questions lined up so uh shall we what you sipping on i'm sipping on that uh on the orange orange fury i got the scissor because i'm feeling furious yeah the scissor yeah i'm sipping on the scissor over here man i like the grape a lot i just can't drink it I get it, bro.
I want a crime spree. Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
Fucking with the way the interest rates are right now. Yeah. I can't afford that.
My credit can't go down.
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Chapter 4: How should you manage a team from a distance?
Let's get our boy Skyler on the phone. Here's Skyler. Hello? Hello? Skyler, what's up, dude? Yo, is this DJ? This is the one and only DJ.
Skyler, what's up, bro? It's Andy, too. DJ, let me be on the show today.
Andy, that's crazy. How you doing?
I'm good, brother. How are you?
Man, I'm just trying not to freeze my balls off out here in Utah.
Is it cold? Is it cold in Utah right now?
Yeah, up in the mountains.
Oh, okay. Gotcha. I forget Utah is like that. It's like split. Yeah, mountains and desert. It's a beautiful state.
It's crazy. Yeah. So what you got going on, brother? What are you doing?
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Chapter 5: What lessons can be learned from personal experiences in leadership?
And like nine years ago, I had this point in my life where I was like, I need to get my money right. And like any 19 year old at that time, I was trying to find direction and navigate life. But ultimately I chose college and I graduated in 2020 and I got buried under student loans.
I actually moved that same year to a new state, job hopped, and that's actually where I found during that job hopping is what I found Real AF on YouTube and 75 Hard where it just changed my life for the better. And finally got like a salary worthwhile and just kept working hard.
Started winning my role, like all my work was getting done ahead of time and I started executing on like other people's projects without being asked to and In return, I was given what I asked for and now I have like all this time and flexibility in my schedule.
But during that time, I was hammering away at that loan and that debt was easy to attack because it came with serious consequences if I fell back into that position like when I started financially. But now I'm about to be on the other side of that loan and without that external pressure, trying to create a new level of urgency to pursue business ownership.
And now that I'm entering that more stable phase and working towards becoming that, my question is, what do I need to keep in mind to create that greater level of urgency than the level that I had when I was fighting to escape that debt?
Bro, this is a really good question, and I'm glad you asked it because a lot of people struggle with what you're talking about, and they're not aware that this is the destruction of the success that they've created. So I went through this as well, brother.
know when you don't have any money and things aren't going well you have to perform there's no other option and um then when you start to get a little comfort like you're talking about that urgency sort of fades away because you do have options in theory all right um and that was a big struggle for me when i started making money uh i went three or four years and i'm like all right man i'm good i'm good i'm good and then i started feeling like
very comfortable and sort of relaxed. And, uh, then the money stopped coming in because of my comfort that I had, uh, you know, started to feel naturally because I was, I didn't have my back against the wall and I created this mindset in myself, which I now talk to you guys about called zero options mentality. All right.
And what zero options mentality is, is that you have to train yourself to think of yourself as if you have zero options, but to do it and, The way that I really cultivated that is I would think about where I would be five years from now if I remain in this comfortable position, where I will be 10 years from now. What would the story be if I lost everything?
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Chapter 6: How can personal excellence impact business culture?
That's why most people feel very frustrated in their life and they can't figure out why. And it's because human beings are naturally born to create, become, and build things in their nature. And so when you don't have that in any way, shape, or form, even if you have comfort, you're going to have a lack of fulfillment because you know that you're You have to cultivate a zero options mentality.
You've got to put your back against the wall as if everything you do matters because everything you do does matter. And you're only 28, is that right? Yeah. Yeah, bro. You got a long road ahead of you, dude. And you have to ask yourself, like, where you're at now, is that all you actually ever want? And if it is, there's nothing wrong with that. But just understand that
when you start to feel unfulfilled or you start to feel like something's missing, what is probably missing in your life is you're leaving shit on the table and you know it deep down and that starts to eat away, especially anybody who is an achiever or who is driven or who has ambition. And so I don't know what your current situation is, but I could tell you you're not making enough money. Okay.
You're not, you, are very young and you have a long road ahead of you. And if you don't consistently stay on the gas, eventually this comfort that you've created will fade away. And you have to understand that, bro. That is just the reality. That is Uncle Andy telling nephew Skyler, hey, brother, this is the way the path works. And I've been down that path many times, dude.
And it's no fun getting to a point where you know, the success that you've seen starts to fade away because you started to feel comfortable. And I think the fact if I'm being real with you, I think the fact that you're aware of it is what's actually going to keep you from becoming one of those statistics. Right. Most people are never aware of this.
Most people never come to the conclusion of I'm doing good But that scares me. I'm doing good, but I'm scared of what's going to happen down the road.
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Chapter 7: What is the importance of accountability within a team?
Most people, Skylar will say, I'm doing good. So I'm good. And that's whenever they start to take their foot off the gas. They stop paying attention to details. They stop doing the things that they were doing whenever they were digging themselves out and building their life. And then it crumbles. And, um,
you know, the fact that you're aware of that ahead of time, brother is, is a very profound awareness that most people lack. And you don't realize that because you're so very young, how rare that is. Okay. But I can tell you for sure that that, the fact that you even asked that question tells me that this isn't going to happen to you.
It's not, you're not going to be one of these people that loses, uh, you're not going to lose that awareness. Okay. You're going to keep it. And, um, Yeah, man. I mean, it's it's a mental fuck and you have to you have to transition your mental into a place of zero options. And that's what I do, man. Like, you know, I live a very good life.
I've I've done very well financially for myself, as you guys know. I have literally everything that I've ever wanted and the stuff I don't want I could get if I really wanted to. And so I had to come up with a different purpose and a different thing that made me urgent. And that came down to leveraging other things that mattered in my life.
So, so yeah, bro, I, I, that, that's how you got to cultivate it, dude. You, you have to realize that urgency is not a, it's, it's not something that you can afford to allow fade from your life because when you allow the urgency to fade, all the results end up fading too.
Bro, can I throw something in real quick? Because I think this is so important, especially to the younger crowd. You taught me this, Andy. And again, listen, I'm not a financial advisor. I'm not, none of that, right?
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Chapter 8: How can overcoming adversity lead to business growth?
But here's something, okay? This is important, bro. You taught me this. Like, sometimes you also have to, like, intentionally kind of make your situation a little bit uncomfortable. Yeah.
Stretch yourself a little bit.
Just a fucking little bit, man. Like, I'm not saying go get a fucking Lambo, Skyler. That's not what I'm saying.
All right?
Yeah. But you got to kind of put yourself in a situation where, like, okay, well... All right. This is new coming in. Now I got to work a little bit harder to get to make sure that I'm still good. Yeah. I think that's so important. That's a real thing.
And it feels it feels counterintuitive because you feel like you're being a little irresponsible. Yeah. Like for me, those those situations in my life where I've accumulated a lot of funds and What I end up doing all the time is just taking most of those funds and reinvesting that in the projects that I have in order to create a little bit more discomfort financially.
So there's all kinds of things you can do, brother, but at the end of the day, Uh, you've, you've, you've actually done some really, really awesome shit, you know, digging yourself out of financial loans. We all know that student loans are predatory and basically useless and bury people intentionally.
And the fact that you're 28 years old and you've almost dug out of that, it says a lot about you, bro.
Yeah. Thank you. Um, it, it's totally this mindset shift where I feel like I need to build it. It's like the only. it's just what I'm convinced of. And whenever I'm working towards something and people close to me telling me that, what are you, they're asking me, what am I doing? Or they just don't believe in it. It just kind of seems like that indicator that I'm doing something worthwhile.
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