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161: A Crucial Key for Building Trust in Your Relationship
05 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you build trust in your relationship? There’s a crucial element to creating trust, and it has nothing to do with your partner. It has everyth...
160: The Four Noble Truths of Love and Relationship - with Susan Piver
26 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you apply ancient Buddhist wisdom to your relationship in a way that helps you connect with your partner? How do you build the intimacy even if...
159: What Is a Realistic Expectation for Change in Your Relationship?
21 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What’s realistic to expect in terms of things improving between you and your partner? When you're trying to change something in yourself? Or when yo...
158: Loving Completely - Integrating Science, Heart, and Spirit - with Keith Witt
12 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like there’s a barrier between what you know about how to have a good relationship, and what you actually do? How do you take what ...
157: Celebrating and Taking Stock
06 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel like you'll never quite reach your ideal in your relationship? And does it bring you down? How do you take stock of how things are go...
156: Rethinking Narcissism and Its Impact on Your Relationship - with Craig Malkin
29 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Do you suspect that you someone you love might be a narcissist? Or have you been told that you might be a narcissist? What can you do to bring a narci...
155: How to Communicate about Something You've Been Avoiding
22 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
You know those things in your relationship that you don't talk about? Over time, they will drain the energy, passion, and vitality from your connectio...
154: What's Different and What's Universal - Gay Male Relationships - with Rick Miller
14 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re in a same-sex relationship, do the rules change? Or are there universal principles of relationship that foster intimacy and passion no mat...
153: Turn Blame into Something Positive - with Neil Sattin
09 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Are you someone who blames yourself when things go wrong? Or do you tend to blame other people? Even though we might think of blame as a negative thin...
152: Get Unstuck and onto the Same Team - Relationship Development with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson
01 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
As your relationship changes, are things getting better and better? Or have you gotten stuck along the way? If you get stuck - how do you get unstuck?...
151: How to Stop Coping and Start Growing
25 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
You know all those ways that you've learned to cope over the years? The little things that you do that distract you from feeling uncomfortable, or bor...
150: Attachment Styles and Relationship Repair - with Stan Tatkin
19 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the best way to overcome conflict in your relationship? How does it change based on your attachment style? And can you use what we know about...
149: Getting Back Together with an Ex - Should You? How to do it right.
11 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Should you get back together with your ex? How do you know if it's a good idea? And, once you've decided that it's a good idea, how do you get back to...
147: A Simple, Radical Way to Improve Your Ability to Connect
28 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What's stopping you from having the kind of connection with others that you want? Whether you're in a relationship and feeling stuck with your partner...
146: How and Why to Have a Good Divorce - with Constance Ahrons
19 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the recipe for a successful divorce? If you’ve tried everything, and it’s time to separate or get divorced - how do you do it well, so th...
144: Extreme Self Care for a Healthy Relationship - with Cheryl Richardson
06 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like everyone else’s needs come first? Have you wondered how you’re supposed to show up in your relationship, or for your famil...
143: Mismatched Sex Drive? What To Do.
29 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do if you want to have sex more than your partner? Or if your partner wants to have sex more than you do? Differences in sexual desire can...
142: Loving Bravely - How Self Discovery Can Transform Your Relationship - with Alexandra Solomon
19 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What power do you have to change your relationship for the better by working on yourself? If things aren’t going so well, how do you know if you’v...
141: Is Your Relationship Healthy? - with Neil Sattin
11 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if your relationship is healthy? Does having problems mean that your relationship isn't healthy? And how do you promote the health of ...
140: Mastering the Art of Inner Transformation - Internal Family Systems with Dick Schwartz
03 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you do the work of true inner transformation? If there are parts of you that are getting in the way - of intimacy, of thriving, of living in in...
139: Change Your Pattern - How to BE an Invitation
26 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you invite someone into your world, your truth, your desires? When you have a complaint, how do you invite someone to the table about it in a w...
138: How Orgasms are Hurting Your Relationship - with Marnia Robinson - from the Archives
18 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Are your orgasms getting in the way of your close connection with your partner? Conventional wisdom says that more orgasms = better - but the trut...
137: Calling in The One - No Matter Your Status - with Katherine Woodward Thomas
11 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you align with your vision for love and call it into your life? What’s holding you back from experiencing what you want? Whether you’re sin...
136: An Important Action Step for Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin
04 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What's one of the most important factors in determining the success of your relationship? I'll give you a hint: it's something to do with how you and ...
135: Improve Your Communication Skills for Deeper Understanding - with Deborah Tannen
28 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How does the way that you communicate affect your ability to connect, and be understood? Can you change your communication style to become a more effe...
134: Snooping, Secrets, and Rebuilding Trust - What to Do - with Neil Sattin
20 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Is it ever a good idea to snoop? Do you suspect that your partner is keeping secrets from you? Or are you being "snooped upon" and wondering what to d...
133: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life - Cognitive Distortions with Dr. David Burns
15 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then...look ...
131: How Love is Evolving You - Evolutionary Relationships with Patricia Albere
28 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When you start a relationship, something special becomes possible, something unique that the world has never known before. However - how do you figure...
130: On Valentine's Day and Uncertainty in Your Relationship - with Neil Sattin
20 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Does Valentine's Day create pressure, or problems, for you? How do you get past the expectation and celebrate love - in your own way - without falling...
129: Unlocking the Secrets of The Smart Couple - with Jayson Gaddis
14 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you build an indestructible relationship? It’s all about how you welcome the challenges, magnify the good times, and build a web of support. ...
128: Practical Masculinity: Beyond Stereotypes - with Shana James
03 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you embody masculinity in a way that creates more connection and passion in your relationship? How do you avoid the stereotypes, while still ge...
127: Peter Levine - Building Resiliency in Yourself, Your Relationship, and Your Children
31 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most important things that you can develop in your life, and in your relationship, is your resilience - the way that you bounce back from t...
125: Developing the "Yes Brain" in Yourself and Your Kids - with Dan Siegel
13 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re in a “Yes” brain state, everything seems possible - you’re courageous, resilient, and creative. When you’re in a “No” brain ...
124: Jealousy - How to Deal and Heal
09 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Does jealousy affect you in your relationship? Or has it impacted you in the past? One thing is for sure, jealousy has a destructive impact on any rel...
123: Pleasure is the Measure: The Science of Sex and Desire - with Emily Nagoski
01 Jan 2018
Contributed by Lukas
How do you separate fact from fiction when it comes to creating and sustaining sexual desire? In this episode of Relationship Alive, our special guest...
122: The Science of Empathy and How to Keep Yourself Clear
26 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We're all empathic. What this means is that you can catch emotions and states-of-being like a cold. But if you don't know that what you're feeling isn...
121: Tackling the Fears of Loneliness and Abandonment
19 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
There are some fears that are inherent to being alive. They might be big, they might be small, but they definitely are there, within you. Two of these...
120: Strengthen Your Connection: Undefended Love with Jett Psaris
12 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s get practical for a moment. You’ve heard about the importance of courage and vulnerability in taking your relationship to the next level. Ho...
119: The Most Important Thing Is What You Bring
06 Dec 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How important is it to find the "right" partner? If you're inspired by thoughts of how amazing a relationship could be - but wondering what to do next...
118: Crafting an Uncommon Bond and Soulshaping - with Jeff Brown
28 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you want to shift your relationship from the mundane towards something more transcendent? Is this something you could experience w...
117: Why Projection Can Be Useful - Neil Sattin
21 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What are you projecting onto the world around you? How do you figure it out? And how can you use what you discover to grow, to live with MORE integrit...
116: Sex, Love, and Dating: From Addiction to Health with Alex Katehakis
14 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Can you be addicted to love, or sex, and - if so - what does that mean? How does the way that your parents raised you - especially when you were reall...
115: The Courage to Not Be Perfect - with Neil Sattin
06 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Does perfectionism get in the way in your relationship? How do you navigate the gap between how things are - and how you'd like them to be? What do yo...
114: How to Get the Most Out of Therapy - with Jeff Zeig
31 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re going to seek help from a therapist (or coach), then how do you set yourself up for success? How do you find the right therapist? And how ...
113: How to Find Healing and Connection in a Dark Time - with Neil Sattin
24 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When things get tough in your relationship, how do you get through it, to the other side - in a way that leaves you better than you were before? Wheth...
112: How and Why to Apologize Effectively with Harriet Lerner
18 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever received an apology that didn’t quite cut it? That made things even worse? Plus, let’s face it - life can be messy. Despite your bes...
111: How to Ask for Support - with Neil Sattin
10 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Do you ever feel alone in challenging times? There's an art to weaving a web of support for yourself, so that the people in your life know how to show...
110: Your Tantra Questions Answered - with Diana Richardson
04 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How can you use the techniques of tantra in your everyday, busy life? How do you get off the “getting off” grid when it comes to sex, and find dee...
109: Is This Normal?
26 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Is it normal to have conflict in your relationship? How do you know if what you're experiencing is OK - or a sign of doom? And, even more importantly ...
108: Creating Positive Intensity in Your Connection with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt
19 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Does it seem like the only time that things get intense in your relationship is when negative things happen? This kind of experience, repeated over ti...
107: A Little Honesty Goes a Long Way
13 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What's an amazing source of energy for your relationship? The TRUTH! Are there moments when you're not telling the full truth? Or does it seem that yo...
106: Stopping The Nice Guy Syndrome with Robert Glover
06 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a “nice guy” - or are you in a relationship with one? While there’s nothing wrong with being nice, it can create problems - especially w...
105: One Small Thing That Can Change Everything
29 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you get from where you are now - to where you want to be? If you keep doing more of the same, then you're going to experience...more of the sam...
104: How to Get What You Need - Nonviolent Communication with Max Rivers
22 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel like there are some things that you just can’t ask for? How do you get what you truly need in relationship? And how do you navigate to t...
103: Are You Being Codependent or Considerate?
15 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if you're being codependent? What happens if, in the process of trying NOT to be codependent, you stop considering your partner? How ...
102: How to Evolve Your Relationship with Jeffrey Zeig
08 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you grow into something new and greater with your partner? How do you foster feelings of love, passion and connection - no matter how long you’...
101: A User Manual for You
02 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know what you *really* want in relationship? And how can you help your partner truly understand what makes you tick - so that they can spea...
100: Attraction - How to Sustain It and How to Revive It - with John Gottman and Sue Johnson
22 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you sustain attraction in your relationship over the long term? What can you do if you no longer feel “the spark” with your partner? And, w...
99: The Secrets of Scheduling Sex Successfully
17 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are you too busy for sex and connection? What if sex just isn't happening, or isn't happening enough in your relationship? While there are many reason...
98: How to Stop Being a Victim - Feeling Good Together with David Burns
11 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When it comes to the success of your relationship, how much are you standing in your own way? How do you get really clear on your part in the dynamic?...
A Brief Interlude
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Find out what's in store for the upcoming 100th episode of the Relationship Alive podcast! Also, this week is an opportunity for you to get caught up ...
97: How to Enlist Your Friends to Support Your Relationship
27 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
There’s nothing quite as powerful to help you on your journey as the community of friends that surround you. However, our friends aren’t always cl...
96: How to Transform the Hidden Beliefs that Hold You Back with Katherine Woodward Thomas
20 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you stop repeating the old beliefs and actions that are holding you back? How do you ensure that the core part of your inner guidance is sendin...
95: Who is Holding You Back?
13 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you clear away the energy of your past to help you be present in your life, and relationship? In today’s episode, we talk about a specific pr...
94: Conscious Weddings and Commitment with Lila Sophia and David Tresemer
06 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you bring magic and consciousness to the way that you commit to your partner? And, if you’re getting married, how do you create a wedding tha...
93: How to Find the Gift in Any Moment
31 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When someone gives you a gift, what do you do? Do you stick it in the closet and wait for a rainy day? Or do you open it, and appreciate it, right the...
92: Creating New Possibilities from the Inside Out - Winning from Within - Erica Ariel Fox
23 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you get better at being you? How do you get past the stuck points - that gap between what you know you could/should do - and what you actually ...
91: The Power of Deep Relating
16 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you get better at being in relationships? How do you create different experiences than you have had in the past (especially after the honeymo...
90: Heal Your Relationship at the Deepest Level With Hedy Schleifer
06 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a particularly sticky place that comes up in most relationships. It’s the place where your deep desires meet your partner’s fear and res...
89: How to Have a Healthy Long Distance Relationship
02 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the recipe for success in a long distance relationship? How do you stay connected when you’re apart? And how do you handle the times when y...
88: Helen Fisher - The Anatomy of Love: What Makes Love Last
22 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we love? Is it part of human evolution? What in our biology makes us strive for love and intimacy? And how do we make it last? This week we wel...
87: How to Know If Someone Is Right for You
19 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if someone is right for you? Whether you're dating and trying to figure it out, or finding yourself second-guessing your choice of par...
86: Beyond Mars and Venus - Reducing Stress and Improving Nutrition with John Gray
09 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What role does your gender play in how you react to stress? And how does it determine the best ways to recover from stress? And what does it mean in t...
85: How and Why to Take Space
05 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What is the role of "alone time" when you're in a relationship? How do you take space in a way that helps your relationship grow, and flourish? And wh...
84: Deepening the Divine in Your Relationship - Andrew Harvey
28 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
If you want to take your relationship to the next level, then you have no choice but to connect at a higher level. And I mean a MUCH higher level. How...
83: How to Be OK No Matter What
22 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are you making choices based on fear? Or are you making empowered choices, based on who you truly are? When you come from a place of fear you usually ...
82: How Safety Leads to Better Sex - Sue Johnson
15 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you have better, more passionate, more connected sex with your partner? If you’re looking for information about how to deepen your sensual co...
81: Are You Addicted to Distraction?
08 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What is the impact of distraction on your relationship? Or, for that matter, on your life? And - what can you do about it? There's only one way to kno...
80: Bring Your Shadow Into the Light - Keith Witt
28 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do unconscious forces affect what you do in your relationship? Is there a way to get in touch with those things lurking in the shadows of your inn...
79: How To Speak Your Truth
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you speak your truth (effectively) in your relationship? And what can you find out about yourself from the requests that you make of your partn...
78: How to Have More Fun in Your Relationship with Cathy Salit
14 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you foster more fun and creativity in your relationship? How do you change things up when they get boring? How do you keep them from getting bo...
76: Healing from Infidelity with Michele Weiner Davis
01 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How can you heal your relationship after one of you has had an affair? What does it take to restore trust and come back to a place of mutual love, pas...
75: A Powerful Oxytocin Booster for Your Relationship
26 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you increase the levels of oxytocin, the "love" molecule, in your relationship? And can you do it in a way that also helps with any imbalances ...
74: John Gottman - How to Build Trust and Positive Energy in Your Relationship
18 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What are the keys for building trust, at any stage in your relationship? What can you do to amplify the things that are going right in your relationsh...
73: Neil Sattin - If It Were Easy You Would Already Be Doing It
11 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Isn't this supposed to be easier? Sometimes you do get the gift of a new perspective or skill that facilitates change, and everything just falls int...
72: Love, Sex, and Awakening with Margot Anand
04 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you take sex to the next level? Make it something that continually enlivens you - without resorting to gimmicks that are unsustainable at best,...
71: Just One Thing
29 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
With so much information - how do you choose what to do to help your relationship? There's no possible way that you could do it all, and in this week'...
70: How to Get Your Partner to Do What You Want
21 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Whether it's making love, or doing the laundry - how do you create an environment where your partner wants to fulfill your desires? This week's brief ...
69: How to Be Completely Alive in Your Relationship - Hedy Schleifer
13 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
How do you bring the full YOU to your relationship? How do you keep things fresh, and vibrant? How do you breathe that life into the places where you ...
68: Are You Willing?
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
If you're looking for things to change or grow in your relationship, but nothing is happening, you might need to ask yourself this IMPORTANT question....
67: How to Get Your Ex Back with Chris Seiter
29 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Breakups happen. With the right frame of mind, any breakup that you go through can become a golden opportunity. It can be the best thing that ever hap...
66: The Impact of Gratitude
23 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know that amplifying the gratitude in your life can have an enormous impact on shifting you from scarcity to abundance? Today's episode, short...
65: Divorce Busting and Strategies for Relationship Success with Michele Weiner Davis
15 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you feel like your relationship is going in the wrong direction? How do you find new things to try when you feel like you’ve tri...
64: How to Amplify the Positive in Your Relationship
09 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
How do you increase the amount of positive energy in your relationship? Since what you focus on grows, in this week's episode I'm going to give you so...
63: Dan Wile - How Collaboration Creates Intimacy
02 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
How do you foster intimacy, even when you're fighting? The recipe for a successful relationship involves learning how to collaborate even when things ...
62: Neil Sattin: The Secrets of Relationship Repair
27 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
When things go wrong in your relationship, what do you do to make things right? Whether it's something small, like accidentally hurting your partner's...
61: Orgasmic Meditation with Aubrey Fuller
19 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Want to deepen your sense of what’s possible in sex, and experience a completely new kind of sensual connection to your partner? There’s more to s...
60: Neil Sattin on Risk, Vulnerability, and Courage
13 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Being in relationship is an act of courage. And while it's easy to see the obvious moments when you're "feeling your fear and doing it anyway" - what ...
59: How to Make Difficult Conversations So Much Easier with Sheila Heen
05 Oct 2016
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you and your partner disagree on something truly important? How do you find a way to bridge the divide and come back to a place of...
58: Self-Care: A Crucial Step with Neil Sattin
29 Sep 2016
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most important skills in relationship is knowing how to actually show up - to be present. And while presence is a skill you can learn, ther...