The Jayson Gaddis Podcast
Episodes
Therapist or Relationship Coach. Which is Better for Me? - Jayson Gaddis - 357
25 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy—and how can you tell which one you might need? Actually, both serve a specific purpose and can ...
Upsides and Downsides of Being Codependent-ish - Jayson Gaddis - 356
18 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Maybe you feel like you might be codependent (or at least have the tendencies)...which might mean you’re codependent-ish. Did you know that’s a th...
Choose Her Every day, Or Leave - Bryan Reeves - 355
12 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to choose your partner— daily. As men, we often have been programmed to deal with things a certain...
The 6 Best Parenting Tips To Raise Optimal Humans - Jayson and Ellen - 354
04 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Parenting is an important subject, as we all know—whether you are a parent or have only been parented. Regardless, parenting and family dynamics aff...
The Results of Interviewing 100 Couples - Nate Klemp, Ph.D. - 353
28 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Marriage and relationships require give and take on both sides. But what if you feel like you’re giving a lot more than your partner is—or vice ve...
Overcoming Money Fears & Getting Empowered - Garrett Gunderson - 352
21 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Navigating money fears in relationships can be a big source of conflict, but finance guru Garrett Gunderson has tons of knowledge to help. As with any...
How Some Men Show Their Love - Jayson Gaddis - 351
14 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As men, we sometimes aren’t sure how to show love for our partners in a way that makes them feel loved. We stick with what’s comfortable for us. C...
Parenting Without Losing Your Partnership When Baby Arrives - Stan Tatkin and Kara Hoppe - 350
08 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re a parent, you know that bringing a new human into your life is a drastic change. It can be difficult to maintain a balance with your own n...
When Your Spiritual Work Isn’t Enough - Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder - 349
01 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Spiritual growth and relational growth are both important to experience. But where do the two intersect? It can be difficult to bring your experience ...
Men, Pleasure, and Power - Shana James - 348
23 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Where do power and pleasure overlap in a relationship—or do they? Both power and pleasure can have negative connotations, but as coach Shana James a...
Spiritual Bypassing - Robert Masters - 347
16 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Spiritual well-being can be an amazing thing… But is it stunting your personal growth? This week, Psychotherapist Robert Masters and I talk about th...
One of The Biggest Co-Parenting Dynamics That Creates Resentments - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 346
09 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever watched parents and wondered “WTF is going on there?” Lol. Me too. My wife and I do our best to try to help parents be a...
The Dojo of Partnership, Healing Family Issues, Resistant Partners & Spiritual Narcissism - Annie Lalla - 345
01 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do you feel lost when it comes to healing family issues or dealing with a resistant partner? This week’s episode features Annie Lalla, a podcast fav...
How Much Intimacy Can You Tolerate? - Jayson Gaddis - 344
26 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How much intimacy can you tolerate? To dig into this and understand what you might be avoiding, listen to this short ten minute podcast. https:...
Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic Motivation, Failure, Addiction, & More - Jessica Lahey - 343
20 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
There‘s one mistake I see many parents make. They try to shield their kids from any challenge & failure. But as a consequence, they never learn to d...
My Human Design Session - Erin Claire Jones - 342
12 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do you really know yourself? Being self-aware is essential to unfold your full potential and make the right decisions in life. In this wee...
Boundaries & Other Tips For Brand New Parents - Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. - 341
05 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In today’s episode, I talk with Dr. Tina Bryson on how to take back the power in your relationship with your child by setting boundaries. Dr. Bryson...
2 Steps To Overcome Impostor Syndrome - Jayson Gaddis - 340
28 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever found yourself putting on a mask to fit in? Were you afraid others might notice and call you out? If so, you‘ve experienced Impostor S...
Overcome Codependency with Healthy Boundaries - Terri Cole - 339
21 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How do you set healthy boundaries? Boundaries are essential to draw a clear line between what‘s ok for you and what‘s not. Without them, you‘ll ...
How to Own Your Space with Healthy Aggression – Kimberly Ann Johnson – 338
14 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wanted to say something, but decided not to say it because you were afraid to? This week’s podcast features Kimberly Ann Johnson, we’...
One Path To More Meaning In Your Life - Jayson Gaddis - 337
07 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Have you found yourself feeling completely disconnected from meaning in your life? If so, you definitely need to check out this week’s podcast. It’...
How To Heal After a Break Up & Get Back Together - Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath - 336
31 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How can you get back together with your partner after breaking up? As you will discover in the podcast, getting back together with your partner ...
The 5 Most Common Types of Fights in a Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 335
24 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know there are only 5 types of fights you can have in your relationship? The causes for them are more deeply rooted than you think… It’s t...
Overcoming Fear & Befriending Ourselves - Sharon Salzberg - 334
17 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Are you aware of all the benefits meditation provides—both for yourself and for your relationships? This week, I talk with meditation teacher and au...
Screen Time & Keeping Your Kids Safe Online - Devorah Heitner, Ph.D. - 333
10 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Devorah Heitner and I talk about kids, privacy, and screen time. Especially during the pandemic, it’s important to find a balance between...
Two Ways to End a Relationship - Jayson Gaddis - 332
03 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know there are only two ways to end a relationship? It’s true—just two. And whether you’re the one initiating the ending or you’re the...
A Personal Story Of Overcoming Mental Illness - Keith Kurlander - 331
23 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This week, a very close friend Keith Kurlander joins me in a very inspiring discussion on mental health and overcoming mental illness. His story is be...
When Your Partner Doesn’t Need Anything - Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder - 330
16 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s podcast, my wife Ellen and I answer a common question: What do we do with this person who is saying they don't need anything? We post...
Training To Be A Relationship Coach - Jayson Gaddis and RCT Students - 329
10 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder what our Relationship Coach Training (RCT) students go through to become relationship coaches? Curious to know what you can gain from taki...
Healing Trauma With Peter Levine - Peter Levine - 328
02 Feb 2021
Contributed by Lukas
How do you deal with past traumas that get triggered in your daily life? Are you unsure why certain interactions in your current relationship get you ...
What’s The Difference Between Self-Regulation And Being Calm? - Jayson Gaddis - 327
26 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when someone you care about gets difficult to handle? Let's say they raise their voice at you or give you the silent treatment. Whatever ...
Charles Eisenstein on Separation and Interbeing - Charles Eisenstein - 326
20 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Our modern society presents us with the mythology that answers these philosophical questions like "Who am I?" or "What’s my purpose in life?” But ...
The Angry Therapist’s Advice For Singles - John Kim - 325
13 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
If you’re single and dating, are you tired of all the dating apps in our swipe-right culture? This week, John Kim LMFT, better known as the Angry Th...
Nature, Connection & Purpose - Tim Corcoran - 324
05 Jan 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know I took my son on a 5-day father’s son wilderness survival trip a few months ago? It was so amazing. And, did you also know connec...
4 Questions To Start A New Relationship Or New Year - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 323
29 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As 2020 winds down, what are you hoping to see what happens in the new year with your relationship? Maybe you want to rekindle the romance. Or maybe y...
One Reminder for Relationship Success - Jayson Gaddis - 322
22 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know the longest study conducted by Harvard University on human behavior found that the single biggest determining factor of a well-lived life...
Two Couples Get Real About What Makes A Successful Couple - Christine Hassler & Stefanos Sifandos - 321
16 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder what makes a successful couple? This week, my wife and I welcome back a returning guest Christine Hassler (and her partner!).We hosted thi...
Oxytocin Bonding In Relationships - Dr. C. Sue Carter, Ph.D. - 320
08 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why oxytocin is called the “Love Drug?” This week, Dr. Sue Carter, author of "Attachment and Bonding: A New Synthesis” joins me in a...
How To Communicate Your Need For Connection In A Relationship - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 319
01 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this week’s podcast, my wife Ellen and I continue the discussion on attachment dynamics and give tips for all you ‘pursuers.’ If you ar...
How To Communicate Your Need For Space In A Relationship - Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder - 318
23 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Here’s a scenario: You and your partner had a fight or disagreement. You want to talk about it; they don’t. Hmmm. How do you deal? In ...
How To Raise A Boy To Be A Great Man - Michael Gurian - 317
17 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know when males have an emotive experience, two parts of the brain lights up? And when females have an emotive experience, nine parts of the b...
Dealing With A Partner Who Is Depressed, Distant, or Too Busy - Jayson Gaddis - 316
11 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you’re in a relationship with someone who’s dealing with depression and is being distant? Should you stay or should you give the...
Resmaa Menakem on Trauma & White Body Supremacy - Resmaa Menakem - 315
04 Nov 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Somatic Abolitonist, Resmaa Menakem, shares a true story about racial discrimination between the police and his family. He also challenges the h...
A Mother's Personal Journey with Attachment - Bethany Saltman - 314
28 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
We continue our discussion from last week’s podcast with my wife Ellen on attachment dynamics. This week, writer Bethany Saltman, author of a "Stran...
How to Work with Different Attachment Styles - Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder - 313
21 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Here’s a scenario: You want to talk about something that is bothering you, but your partner tells you they need some time to think and walks away. Y...
Resolving Trauma with Psychedelics & MDMA - Dr. Rick Doblin, Ph.D. - 312
13 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Using psychedelics to resolve trauma wasn’t something I was aware of when I first started experimenting over 30 years ago. The research has exploded...
Tips For Helping Young Children Resolve Conflict - 311
08 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
When you were young, did you know how to work through conflict? Were the adults involved at all or was it more of a “hands off” situation? Whateve...
Your Relationship To Money - Ken Honda - 309
24 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of couples fight about money. Money has a lot of charge for most of us. That’s why I wanted to interview Ken Honda about how we can improve ou...
3 Myths Single People Believe - 308
16 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are single, I got some feedback from a lot of people on this. They helped me ensure that these are in fact, 3 of the biggest myths around being...
Overcoming Fear, Standing Up To Your Parents & Finding Your Own Path - Kute Blackson - 307
09 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever upset someone because you wanted to speak your truth or follow your truth? If you choose to follow your heart in life, you’re going to...
Meeting Adversity - 306
02 Sep 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are feeling stressed I think this will be helpful for you now, and to save for a future date when you are feeling stressed. Your ability to mee...
Social Capital At Work & At Home - Dr. Wayne Baker, Ph.D. - 305
26 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been around someone who just drains you of energy? Or, on the flip side, fuels you up? We all have energy flows, and it can actually be ...
2 Types Of Narcissism & How To Avoid Them - Dr. Stan Tatkin, Ph.D. - 304
20 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
A lot of podcast listeners ask about narcissism so I thought I’d find an expert. Stan Tatkin is that guy. He did his dissertation on narcissism. So ...
When To Bring Up Difficult Things - 303
11 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever struggled to bring up something challenging with someone you care about, you know how dicey it can be sometimes. If you don’t bring...
3 Critical Parenting Tips to Deal with Stress and Anxiety at Home - Dr. Tina Bryson - 302
05 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are feeling stressed, anxious or overwhelmed, this is a must listen. It might have been one of the best parenting interviews I’ve done. My gu...
Loneliness, Social Isolation And Living Alone - Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad - 301
28 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Some of you know that I nerd out on research about relationships. Well, have you heard about the research study that says loneliness is more lethal th...
How To Become A Relationship Coach - 300
22 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you are a helper, therapist, or coach (or you are curious), here’s a great podcast I just recorded about helping others and taking the leap to be...
The 3 Fears That Hold Men Back - Tripp Lanier - 299
15 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
My good friend and Men’s Coach Tripp Lanier joins me in episode 299 of the podcast for a killer convo about why we shouldn’t take ourselves so ser...
The Mystery And Power Of Self Directed Social Emotional Change - Dr. Rick Hanson, Ph.D. - 298
08 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Can we rewire our brains to find more fulfillment in ourselves and in our relationships? Psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson joins me in episode 298 of the p...
The Collaborative Way - Lloyd Fickett - 297
30 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Join me in episode 297 of the podcast for a moving and motivating conversation with Lloyd Fickett, founder of “The Collaborative Way”. We get in d...
Dr. Ed Tronick On Infant Development & Why Repair is The Key To Great Relationships - 296
24 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I’m a big fan of esteemed psychologist Dr. Ed Tronick and was stoked to pick his brain in episode 296 of the podcast. Join us for an amazing convers...
Black Men Speaking Out - Michael Taylor and Jon Walton - 295
15 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 295 of the podcast I continue our race conversation with Michael Taylor and Jon Walton, 2 friends of TRS whose life’s work is to educate ...
Racism And What We Can Do To Dismantle It Right Now - Louiza "Weeze" Doran - 294
08 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As the anti-racism protests and movement continue to spread across our country, I wanted to represent a few Black voices on the podcast to help me/us ...
Mask Shaming - 293
03 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As the pandemic continues, one of the most charged topics that’s come up is mask wearing. Many people are wearing them because their area requires i...
The 2 Most Common Male Sexuality Issues And How To Resolve Them - Destin Gerek - 292
27 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As a man, I have wrestled with my sexuality most of my life. That’s why I love it when other men are willing to “go there.” Here’s...
Resolving Conflict in the High-Stakes Corporate World - CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke - 291
20 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In episode 291 of The Relationship School podcast I spoke with CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke, co-founders of Thrive! Inc. coaching and consultin...
Are You And Your Partner Incompatible? - 290
13 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did I choose the wrong person? Are we just incompatible? These are a few of the tough questions many couples ask themselves at some point in their rel...
Building Better Brains for Our Kids - Dr. Judy Cameron, Ph.D. - 289
06 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
The brain is a beautiful thing, isn’t it? Our brains are what shape us as human beings, but do you ever wonder what’s shaping your brain? Join me ...
Embracing & Evolving Women’s Sexuality - Alexandra Solomon - 288
29 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Making love is a pretty straightforward act, but man do we love to make it complicated. How society views sex has always been messy and made wose -- h...
Integrative Approaches to Mental Health and Depression - Dr. Will Vanderveer - 287
26 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Did you know 1 in 10 Americans take an antidepressant? Yup. For some, the treatment can really help. Yet for many, it doesn’t do much. The COVID-19 ...
3 Steps To Face Interpersonal Stress And Get Stronger - 286
20 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have you let someone know how you are lately? How you really are? Because it’s okay to not be okay right now. I encourage you to be more honest with...
5 Steps To Gain Control When You Feel Overwhelmed & Afraid - Cory Muscara - 285
15 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Depending on your situation, the pandemic and economic uncertainty can leave any “normal” person feeling out of control, overwhelmed, or afraid. S...
Tips For Couples And Families On Lockdown - 284
08 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Word is that child abuse and domestic violence are on the rise right now due to people being stuck at home. And, if China is any indication, divorce c...
2 Powerful Questions To Ask Yourself During A Crisis - Philip McKernan - 283
01 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is an extremely intimate and powerful episode with world-renowned speaker Philip McKernan. He asks you 2 questions that can completely change how...
Fear - 282
30 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we talk briefly about fear and how to deal with it. http://relationshipschool.com/connected
Lessons From A Navy Seal During Tough Times - Mark Divine -281
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I think you’ll find this podcast interview very helpful right now. It’s a good reminder of how to work through adversity. My guest is Mark Divine,...
Social Distancing While Staying Connected During Coronavirus - 280
17 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you practicing social distancing? How are you doing this without being a jerk? BOUNDARIES. :) Here are a few simple tips and my thoughts on ...
Addiction & Parenting Difficult Teens - Aaron Huey - 279
10 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I love teenagers! As you know I used you to work with troubled teens in a variety of settings, from drug treatment centers to wilderness therapy progr...
8 Unrealistic Expectations In Relationships - 278
06 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In last week’s podcast, I answered the question people ask me all the time, “Is it okay to have expectations?” I came up with 6 expectatio...
Is it Okay to Have Expectations In Relationships? - 277
04 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Is it okay to have expectations in relationships? My answer is nuanced. It’s a YES, and it’s a No. Listen to this short podcast and discover the s...
The 4 S's of Attachment-Based Parenting - Dan Siegel - 276
26 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
One of my mentors, Dan Siegel, is back on the podcast for his 3rd interview. This time, we dive deep into attachment-based parenting. Dan’s wo...
Integral Levels & Lines Of Development - Keith Witt - 275
18 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
I first got introduced to Ken Wilber when I was in grad school. The guy’s mind is insanely brilliant. He takes a lot of maps of human development an...
PTSD, Trauma, & Resiliency - Arielle Schwartz - 274
12 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
If you or someone you love suffers from PTSD check this out. According to the American Psychiatric Association, PTSD can be a disabling co...
4 Non-Negotiable Needs Required For a Secure Partnership - 272
29 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have needs? Do you own them? Or do you know you have needs, but then you get scared to ask for them to be met because you're afraid the other p...
What is Men's Work? - Boysen Hodgson - 271
21 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What is men's work? Most people are unclear what this term means, but once you find out, you'll be cheering on men who are involved in it. In this pod...
The 2 Most Common Reasons Relationships End - 270
15 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Your closest relationships will end one day. Other than dying, do you know the 2 most common reasons relationships end? Listen here to find out and le...
Making Meaning & Developing Safety & Resiliency Through Relationships - Joan Borysenko - 269
08 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Joan Borysenko is an amazing woman who has some wonderful life lessons around resiliency, making meaning, and developing safety in your relationship l...
Creating Systems to be Less Distracted & More Available - Nir Eyal - 268
31 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you check your phone all day long? Have you ever tried to speak to someone about something important only to have them distracted by their phone or...
How To Help Someone Who Doesn't Take Action - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 267
22 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have someone in your life who when you try to help them, they just won't follow through? I mean, you have really good advice and insight, but i...
The Power of Body Language & Being Socially Awkward - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 266
18 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
At every stage, I've been a bit socially awkward. Yes, me, relationship guy gets socially awkward. I'm often more introverted than people think.  ...
If You Are Thinking of Divorce - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 265
11 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
If you are thinking of divorce, you've probably spent hours analyzing things. I just want you to consider a few more points, just in case. Listen to t...
Co-parenting & Blended Families
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
I received enough requests that it was time to do an interview on co-parenting and blended families. This is a great primer for you if you are in this...
How to Control Your Mind Using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy with Steven Hayes - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 263
26 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever tried to control your thoughts to no avail? Do you have a critical voice judging you from the inside? If so, I have great ...
Spiritual Development vs. Relational Development - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 262
19 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Here in Boulder Colorado there are a lot of spiritual people doing great, deep, spiritual work. But does it translate into relational developme...
Attachment Science & Getting to the Root Of A Couple's Problems - Relationship School Podcast Episode 261
12 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Want to help couples better? Want to learn about the real issue in your partnership? This interview will shed some serious light on what's below all t...
How to Feel Seen By Others - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 260
06 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling seen is one of the 4 core needs in a partnership. However, what does that mean and how do we do that? What if we don't feel safe? What ...
How Does A Woman Help A Man Open Up And Do His Inner Work? - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 258
30 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Women ask me all the time, "How do I get him to open up?" It's an important question as some of us guys are pretty emotionally jammed up. But there ar...
The Pro-attachment Satisfaction Cycle - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 259
30 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Years ago, I watched a woman re-pattern a baby's movements after a tough Caesarean birth. It was so powerful. It all happened in a few minutes. She wa...
Masculine And Feminine Energy In Relationships
14 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Recently I interviewed my friend Joanna Shakti on masculine/feminine energy. Some people get pretty triggered with these terms, but I think th...
Over Parenting - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 256
08 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
If you are not a parent, this is pretty interesting. I think you can learn a few things here. If you are a parent, there's such a thing as too much pa...