The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

How to feel accepted and connected - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 255

01 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the fastest way to get the connection back? Or how about how to feel accepted and not judged by your partner? Listen here as I offer you a...

Codependent Relationships: Signs, Symptoms, and How to Change It

24 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Most people have a little bit of codependency going on. However, if you have a relationship that is based on codependency, you're probably feeling ins...

How to change your relationship patterns with NLP - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 253

18 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

There's a little known hack out there in the personal growth world about changing patterns, beliefs, and thoughts. Tony Robbins' entire approach is b...

Can You Fall In Love Too Fast? - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 252

10 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are there really any risks with falling hard for someone? You know, when you're just in the zone with this person and you lose track of time and space...

Spirituality & Relationships - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 251

03 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

My friend Tami Simon, founder & CEO of Sounds True, shares her insights about the spiritual path and relationships. Her decades of interviewing the wo...

Why trying to change your partner is impossible unless… - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 250

26 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wish your partner, or ex, would just change? I mean, if only they would, everything would be awesome, right? Not so fast. But... there is ...

Women's Sexuality & Nervous System Post Birth, Trauma and #Metoo - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 249

20 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

It took Kimberly 6.5 years to heal her body and have sex without pain. Her vulnerability and knowledge is huge and she shares it all on this podcast. ...

Fragilizing & Dealing With Passive or Insecure People - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 248

13 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This week's podcast is all about passive people and walking on eggshells. In fact, there's a fun new term "Fragilizing". Listen to find out what the h...

Stephen Porges On How Facial Expressions Impact Your Relationships - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 247

05 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Are you a caregiver who is on the verge of burnout? What is the difference between the central nervous system and the autonomic nervous system? What h...

Why Confidence Is More Attractive Than Looks - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 246

30 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we explore your confidence. Why is it more attractive than looks? Or is it? Listen in as we quickly explore this terrain and listen fo...

Dr John Demartini on Money & Relationships - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 245

24 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

For the 3rd time, we bring on polymath and human behavior master Dr. John Demartini. In this episode you're going to be confronted and learn a TON! Di...

Becoming a Conscious Parent with Dr. Shefali - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 244

16 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wonder why your children trigger you? What if parenting was designed to get you to grow up and become more fully yourself. In this enlight...

High School Students Ask 7 Relationship Questions - EPISODE 243

09 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The Youth Initiative High School in Viroqua, WI had the opportunity to ask Jayson 7 powerful questions. Check them out and listen in to hear his respo...

3 Women Share About Their Relationship Journey – Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 242

02 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we explore in depth what our signature course DPIR is all about.... Shownotes: (5:25) Introduction (12:00) Takeaways of being part of ...

DPIR- Practicing relationship skills for 9 months - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 241

27 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? These are questions you NEED to be asking yourself. Unless yo...

Relationship Coaches Vulnerably Share Their Story - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 240

16 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when people get together and train and practice relationship skills together for 9 months? This does. Listen in as these 3 people share i...

4 Elements of Good Relationship Coaching - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 239

11 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the difference between bad coaching and good coaching? There are four elements of good coaching and you’ll want to know what they are. S...

3 Elements of Bad Relationship Coaching - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 238

05 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this 3 part series we explore relationship coaching. First, we start with "bad" relationship coaching and things you need to look out for when hiri...

Race, Psychotherapy and Manhood with Paul Williams - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 237

29 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

How do men shut down? What is the process?   Then, how exactly do they finally open up? What is it that has a man open up and share his feelings,...

The 5 Illusions Of Manhood - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 236

22 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Want to hear the reason his first marriage didn't work out? He bought a house, had a successful job, and thought this is what she wanted. But, it didn...

Intimacy Between Men with Brandon Alexander - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 235

15 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I interview a new friend Brandon Alexander and spontaneously it turned into a pretty intimate conversation about boyhood, manhood, spo...

The Top 5 Things Men Want from Women in Partnership with Ellen Boeder -Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 234

07 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, you'll find out "The top 5 things men want from women in a relationship." And, the #1 answer, and clear leader by far, may surprise y...

The Top 6 Things Women Want In A Male Partner – Smart Couple Podcast Episode #233

03 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

This podcast comes from a blog post I wrote for Elephant Journal where I polled over 200 women on my social media channels wit this question: Hetero-w...

Toxic Masculinity & Male Sexuality – Smart Couple Podcast Episode #232

23 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode we explore toxic masculinity and male sexuality. It all starts how we raise our sons. Check it out. SHOWNOTES: (0:15) Intro / Recap fr...

For Men Who Have a Closed or Guarded Heart - Smart Couple Podcast #231

16 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode I explain how society and culture play an massive role in the indoctrination of men from a young age, which keeps their hearts behind ...

3 types of men in partnership, which one are you? - Smart Couple Podcast #230

12 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Money, Powerful Questions, & 8 Dates To Have With Your Partner - Drs. John and Julie Gottman - Smart Couple Podcast #229

08 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Few experts have studied more marriages - and determined what makes those relationships succeed or fall apart - than Drs. John and Julie Gottman. The ...

Smart Couple Podcast Update And Events - Smart Couple Podcast #228

30 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

We're up to big things over here! Listen in for some Smart Couple Podcast updates and an upcoming events download.   SHOWNOTES: Jayson’s Teach...

Getting The Love You Want - Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt - Smart Couple Podcast #227

24 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Interested in a super useful and deeply moving webinar replay featuring a legendary couple, both of whom are couples therapist and bestselling authors...

How To Ask People To Challenge You - Smart Couple Podcast #226

15 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

 If you're serious about wanting to grow and become a better version of yourself you need to know how to ask people to challenge you. Don’t be ...

5 Signs You're In An Insecure Relationship - Smart Couple Podcast #225

09 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

 Your relationship on shaky ground? Learn the five signs of an insecure relationship and some steps you can take to build the secure relationship...

Relationship Problems In Spiritual Communities - Gabrielle & Ted Usatynski - Smart Couple Podcast #224

04 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, Jayson and Ellen speak with relationship mentors Gabrielle and Ted Usatynski about their spiritual journeys and h...

Relationship Advice For Teens - Evalyn Peacey - Smart Couple Podcast #223

20 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this unique episode, Jayson and high school student Evalyn Peacey exchange questions about small talk, screen time, online relationships ...

Raising Boys Without Dads - Warren Farrell - Smart Couple Podcast #222

12 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Author and researcher Warren Farrell unpacks his new book The Boy Crisis showing nothing predicts hardship in a boy’s life more than being ‘dad de...

How Parents Can Teach Kids To Apologize - Smart Couple Podcast #221

05 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Saying sorry is the default, socially acceptable response to conflict but it’s also a cop-out. Learn to respond in a way that leads to REAL repair s...

How To Deal With Emotional Triggers In An Intimate Partnership- S tan Tatkin - Smart Couple Podcast #220

29 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Clinician and teacher, Stan Tatkin, explains what scientific research is telling us about pair bonding, adult attachment, and how to avoid triggering ...

Setting Boundaries With Dysfunctional Family Members - Terri Cole - Smart Couple Podcast #219

15 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole shares some creative (and funny) strategies for handling problematic family relationships.   SHOWNOTE...

How To Avoid Holiday Drama Part 2 - Smart Couple Podcast #218

07 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING! Are you ready for all the family time? Start preparing now and turn your annual holiday drama into time you really enjoy.&nbs...

SC 217 - If You Just Got Broken Up With

31 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

So you're dealing with a breakup. In this episode, Jayson offers a guided meditation to help you work this heartache out of your system.   SHOWNO...

SC 216 - Taking Space

23 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If your partner feels like a 'ball and chain’, you're doing something wrong. You can feel free to totally be yourself AND have an intimate partnersh...

SC 215 - Conflict Part 3

17 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In this final installment of a three-part series on conflict, learn four things you can do post-conflict to repair the relationship as quickly as poss...

SC 214 - Conflict Part 2

10 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

In part two of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson breaks down the two skills you need when you're in the heat of it and explains the different...

SC 213 - Conflict Part 1

04 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Few things can rip a partnership or friendship apart like conflict. In part one of this three-part series on conflict, Jayson proposes ten pre-conflic...

SC 212 - Wedding Vows Dos and Don'ts

26 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Weddings include a lot of really great traditions. But those old school 'in sickness and in health' vows suck. Find out how to do vows the right way. ...

SC 211 - How To Feel Like You're Enough

18 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You've submitted questions. Jayson's got answers! This Ask Me Anything episode addresses feelings of inadequacy and mismatched sex drives.   SHOW...

SC 210 - Addiction & Partnership

06 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

 Have a partner, friend or family member with an addiction? Feeling discouraged about their ability to change? Well, often times at the core of a...

SC 209 - Caretaking Vs Caring For

29 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Society often glorifies the caretaker to a saint-like status. But, it’s important to know when caretaking reaches the point of actually being more h...

SC 208 - Stop Struggling And Unlock The Secrets To A Safe, Empowered Partnership

22 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel safe and secure? Seen and understood? Supported and loved? On a daily basis? Are you spending a fortune cleaning up after your failed rela...

SC 207 - Gender, Self-Reflection & Self-Care - Alexandra Solomon

09 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

According to professor and therapist Dr. Alexandra Solomon, engaging your partner in conversation about their past experiences is one of the best thin...

SC 206 - The Mother-Son Relationship Dynamic - Ellen & Jayson

01 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You know those couples where the woman handles almost everything and the man, well ... kind of kicks back and acts like a teenager? That's the mother-...

SC 205 - Jayson Coaching A Brave Couple - Thomas & Heather

25 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

As grand prize winners of a recent Smart Couple podcast contest, Heather and Thomas got to sit down for a free session with Jayson. In this emotional ...

SC 204 - The 4 Attachment Styles & Not Taking Things Personally - Diane Poole Heller

11 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

 A lot of things you take personally in relationship have very little to do with your partner. Those issues are really the result of YOUR past, Y...

SC 203 - Reassuring A Jealous Partner - Ellen & Jayson

03 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all want a little reassurance. And that's okay! But as Jayson's wife Ellen Boeder points out, if you're needing reassurance because you feel jealou...

SC 202 - Why Entrepreneurs Struggle In Partnership & What To Do About It - Pete Pearson

27 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What does it take to build a strong team-style partnership? Why do so many entrepreneurial types rely on teamwork in their careers, but stru...

SC 201 - Dan Savage On Being Monogamish - Dan Savage

20 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you just defaulting to monogamy? Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Author, sex-advice colum...

SC 200 - How To Handle An Emotionally Shut Down Partner & Other Important Questions

13 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It's fair to say that relationship is a journey to discover and learn the answers to one love-related question after another. So, what better way to c...

SC 199 - They Went To 5 Different Therapists, Hired Divorce Lawyers And Somehow Stayed Together! - Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt

07 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Couples therapy legends Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt were told by THEIR therapist that they were the couple from hell. Since then, not only have they...

SC 198 - 4 Men Discuss Love & The Path Of Personal Transformation

30 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Having awesome friends is great. Having awesome friends that are ALSO on the personal growth path IS BETTER! Personal growth powerhouses Reuvain Bacal...

SC 197 - Warriorship, Anger & Not Running Away From Your Relationship Problems - Mark Groves

23 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain ther...

SC 196 - Why Feeling Insecure Is A Good Thing

16 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where yo...

SC 195 - How They Both Got To A Full Yes After 2.5 Years Of Struggle - Neil Sattin & Chloe Urban

09 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and y...

SC 194 - 3 Ways For Couples To Make Tough Decisions Together - Ellyn Bader

02 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WO...

SC 193 - Reversing Disease & Illness Using Your Mind & Relationships - Dan Siegel

25 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Right now, researchers and the public are fascinated with brain science and Dr. Dan Siegel is a legend in that department. Jayson and Dr. Siegel dig i...

SC 191 - 3 Things Bessel van der Kolk Did To Help Him Through His Recent Trauma

10 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A new study shows child abuse should be considered the second largest cause of illness in the U.S.. And yet, our diagnostic system ignores trauma comp...

SC 190 - Transforming Defensive Men Into Inspired Men - Adam Gilad

02 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

 Men are getting their world's rocked by the #MeToo movement and the rapid change in gender norms. In this episode, Jayson taps into Adam Gilad's...

SC 189 - Top 10 Takeaways From The Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA - Jayson & Ellen

29 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA was a dream for a relationship research and brain science nerd! If you geek out on that stuf...

SC 188 - Life After Divorce On Facebook - Mark Shapiro

22 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

If you're like most people, you spend FOUR HOURS A DAY on your phone and check it ONE HUNDRED TIMES! Is all that time improving your life and the live...

SC 187 - 3 Stages of A Long-Term Relationship

13 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

  In this episode, Jayson breaks down the three stages of long-term relationships, why they matter and what it takes to advance beyond the three ...

SC 186 - Moving From Victim To Genius - Gay Hendricks

08 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Ever heard of a freak accident rocking someone's world and totally changing them for the better? Gay Hendricks has one of those stories! If you're int...

SC 185 - Parents-Why Your Kids Need You To Be In Charge - Kim John​ Payne

01 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Kids have been getting a lot of attention for troubling behavior recently...committing mass shootings, posting disturbing viral videos and lashing out...

SC 184 - Life Purpose, The Cost of Comparison, & Spiritual Development - Dr. John Demartini

20 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Seeking purpose, health and happiness? International educator, best selling author, researcher and human behavior expert Dr. John Demartini can help y...

SC 183 - Why it's Essential to Fight in Front of Your Kids

06 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Fighting in front of the kids is a major taboo, but should it be? What if we started treating each conflict in the home as an opportunity for relation...

SC 182 - Dealing With Your Inner Critic and Inner Child - Richard Schwartz

31 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Not a fan of your inner critic? Want to get rid of it? What if that negative voice inside isn't your enemy but a valuable part of your internal family...

SC 181 - How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work - Connor & Vienna

22 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Did you know around one in ten marriages starts as a long-distance relationship? Connor and Vienna are one long-distance couple on their way to marria...

SC 180 - 4 Women Who Are Transforming Their Relationship Life

18 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering HOW The Relationship School® changes lives? If it's really worth it? Curious why more and more people are saying it's life changing an...

SC 179 - Podcast Changes & Top 10 Podcasts From 2017

06 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Happy New Year! In this special episode, Jayson shares his candid thoughts on what worked for the Smart Couple Podcast last year, what did not and the...

SC 178 - Millennials & Marriage - Kiyomi & Joel

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering what you can learn from a millennial couple? Turns out it's quite a bit! Kiyomi and Joel are a mixed-race millennial couple that discovers h...

SC 177 - How A Couple Recovered From Cheating - Leahnora & Noah

14 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Couples that survive the toughest relationship challenges are so impressive! Leahnora and Noah are one of those couples. Cheating nearly tore them apa...

SC 176 - Why Spiritually Developed People Struggle With Monogamy - Ellen & Jayson

06 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

 Is your spiritual growth helping your relationship? Are you collaborating with your partner to better yourself as an individual? Or are you goin...

SC 175 - Embracing Gender Differences & Hormones - John Gray

30 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

According to John Gray, women are embracing their masculine side and men their feminine side more than ever before and our new behavior is s...

SC 174 - Details about the Smart Couple Quote Book

19 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The Smart Couple Quote Book is out! This is a relationship book unlike any other. Add tools to your relationship toolbox with just a minute of re...

SC 173 - Healing Relational Trauma In The Body - Sharon Stanley

16 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others? Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley sa...

Zen Parenting With Cathy & Todd - Cathy & Todd Adams - SC 172

09 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What is Zen Parenting Radio?  Todd & Cathy’s story Cathy’s post-pregnancy identity crisis You can’t make your partner like what you like&n...

SC 171 - Porn Vs Having Sex With A Real Person - Gary Wilson

02 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why do so many men use porn? What is it doing for them? I think it's obvious that porn can ruin your relationship, but what's not so obvious is why so...

SC 170 - Overcoming the 'Nice Guy' Syndrome - Robert Glover

26 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I used to try really hard to get people to think I was a good guy. This is another version of the "nice guy syndrome." And, it had a big cos...

Dan Savage Vs Jayson Gaddis on Monogamy - SC 169

24 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Dan Savage is known for his criticism of monogamy. But what is he missing and why does he think it's a disaster waiting to happen? Listen as Jay...

SC 168 - How to Avoid Dating Narcissistic Men After 40 - Bobbi Palmer

19 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you are serious about not dating another narcissistic man, and you are an awesome woman over 40, 50, or 60, this episode is for you. My guest Bobbi...

SC 167 - Smart Couple Podcast Feedback

17 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

SC 166 - Evolutionary Love - Andrew Harvey

11 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever wonder if your relationship pain is guiding you deeper into whatever you need to heal yourself? What kind of relationship do you have with...

What Does ‘Do the Work’ Actually Mean? - SC 165

09 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What Does ‘Do the Work’ Actually Mean? 1:30 Defining ‘doing the work’ 3:00 Developing the self 4:00 What is the inner child? 5:30 How long mus...

SC 164 - Loyalty In Gay Relationships - Jean Malpas

05 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Loyalty is essential in a long-term partnership. Is loyalty different for gay couples? What honest conversations and boundaries are you both talking a...

Will Porn Ruin My Relationship? - [SC 163]

30 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What's porn's place in a relationship? [2:00] How porn can negatively affect a relationship [5:00] Porn is not the bad guy [7:00] Porn, like any comp...

SC 162 - The Purpose of Marriage and the Truth About Soulmates - Arielle Ford

28 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Arielle Ford explores the ups and downs of marriage, what to do with a new age nice guy, and how to rekindle the spark after stuckness. This week's gu...

SC 161 - Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

26 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

2:30 Defining emotional abuse 4:45 It Takes Two 5:30 Do you feel safe in your own home? 6:10 It's more complicated than 'just leave.' 7:00 How are you...

SC 160 - What Keeps You From Finding The One - Katherine Woodward Thomas

21 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What does your intention have to do with creating a great relationship? According to my guest, everything. If you are single, what vibe are you puttin...

SC 159 - What To Do When You Get Defensive

18 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION When my boyfriend gets triggered and shares his thoughts and feelings with me, how do I not take it personal and get defensive? I feel like t...

SC 158 - Interpersonal Neurobiology - Dan Siegel

14 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to understand the long term cost of not repairing a rupture, Dan Siegel, who coined the term interpersonal neurobiology, is about to illum...

SC 157 - Outgrowing Your Friends

11 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Quote from the Smart Couple Quote Book Stop wasting time with people who don’t support your fullness. Stop apologizing for who you are. Do not spend...

SC 156 - Setting Boundaries with Ease, Grace and Love - Terri Cole

06 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Boundaries are essential in a partnership and Terri Cole knows a lot about them. We talk about getting sober, parenting her inner child, what it takes...

SC 155 - Asking Your Partner To Change

05 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION: It seems like my husband wants me to change things, and that there are things I want him to change... Is that the same things as wanting him...