The Jayson Gaddis Podcast

SC 154 - A Couple's Journey of Getting Stronger Through Postpartum Depression and Conflict - TJ & Denise

31 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This couple learned how to get stronger through postpartum depression and conflict. Listen how they navigated a big personal crisis and how they helpe...

SC 153 - When One Of You Values The Relationship More Than The Other

28 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION: I understand that men generally will put career and providing at the top of their priority list, while relationships might hover near the bo...

SC 152 - Ellen Boeder - My Wife On How To Repair After A Ruptured Connection

24 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Fighting and emotional upset is just part of the program in a committed relationship over many years. But what separates the smart couple from people ...

SC 151 - Vetting a Future Partner

21 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION:I’m single and broken up with four months ago and have decided to take time out of the dating pool to get to know myself more, reflect on m...

SC 150 - Advice For Single Women Prepping For A Partnership - Marni Battista

17 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Here at The Relationship School®, we focus on the long-term relationship game. But what if you're ready for a relationship but can't find one? T...

SC 149 - Fear of Abandonment

14 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION:I keep running away from relationships with the opposite sex when they start to get close or use the ‘L word’, basically because I think ...

SC 148 - Past Trauma in Present Relationships - Pat Ogden

09 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Pat Ogden PhD is a pioneer when it comes to somatic trauma therapy. Her work has touched many people including me. Even if you don't think you have an...

SC 147 - Is It Okay To Go To Bed Angry?

07 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION:What are your thoughts on the ‘Don’t go to bed angry’ rule? SHOWNOTES This episode's question [1:00] When taking a time-out overnight...

SC 146 - The Trap of Becoming Your Partner's Therapist - Danielle LaPorte

02 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Ever feel like you're tolerating shitty behavior, shouldering the burden of being the ‘therapist’ in the relationship, or constantly giving t...

SC 145 - I'm Sorry You Feel That Way

31 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION:I feel like I’m doing my part setting boundaries, communicating my needs and asking for what I want.  What else can I try?I’ve done ...

SC 144 - Finding His Wife & Creating His Dream Relationship - Dan Doty

27 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Want to know one man's approach to calling in the one? How did he find his dream relationship? What exactly did he do? Then, how did he create the dre...

SC 143 - Boundaries & Needs

24 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION: Since a boundary of mine is about to be breached - again - does that spell the end of this particular partnership? I've been lying to myself...

SC 142 - Heal Your Past Through Self-Acceptance & Community - Christian Pankhurst

19 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Imagine you're 12 years old, at home watching tv, ears pricked up as you hear your dad pulling into the driveway. Every part of your nervous system li...

SC 141 - No Sex. What Do I Do?

17 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION:Going into my 10th month of a relationship. 2 week break up (his initiation), came back back asking to work it out, showing up strong, commit...

SC 140 - The 4 Freedoms That Develop Masculine Depth & Purpose - Satyen Raja

12 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The feeling of being lost and purposeless in life has a big impact on our relationships.  Men and women have a deep need to not only connect with...

SC 139 - Therapy Vs Coaching

10 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a difference between therapy and coaching? In this episode, I explore the main differences and what matters more than anything else when tryi...

SC 138 - How Having Expectations Can Hurt Your Relationship - Christine Hassler

06 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are two giant ways we screw up our relationships. One is by breaking agreements. The other is by never having agreements to begin with.   B...

SC 137 - How to Re-Parent A Triggered Partner

03 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Dealing with a partner who is triggered can be difficult - especially if they respond negatively to your help. Maybe you’ve been here before: your p...

SC 136 - Why Self Awareness & Digging Into Your Past Helps You Get A Great Relationship - Alexandra Solomon

28 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A major shift is happening with the way we educate young adults about relationships and sex.  Despite what we hear in the media about the 'hookup...

SC 135 - If Your Partner Made You Listen To This Podcast

27 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a friend or partner telling you to listen to this podcast?  Don't know where to start and feel pressured to get 'up to speed'?  ...

SC 134 - Ayahuasca, Trauma & Relationships - Dr Gabor Maté

21 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There’s been a surge in alternative, traditional methods to healing our deepest wounds. One of the main approaches that has gained popularity here i...

SC 133 - Asking For What You Need Without Making Threats

19 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How often do you find yourself wanting to ask for something in your relationship - more communication, more time & attention, more touch - only to&nbs...

SC 132 - 70% of Teens Want More Guidance About Romantic Relationships - Richard Weissbourd

14 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Finally about the real research that backs up the mission of The Relationship School®. Not only are teens NOT being educated about romantic rela...

SC 131 - When You Refuse To Accept Your Husband's Parenting Style

14 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION My husband’s parents have told me in the past (to them it’s funny) about how harsh they were with him as a baby and as a young child. Thi...

SC 130 - Why Male Entrepreneurs Fail in Relationships, & What To Do About It - Jordan Gray

08 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is for the male entrepreneur, a guy who is likely to have a hard time in romantic relationships. If you are dating or married to an entre...

SC 129 - The Danger of Over-Burdening Your Partner With Your Problems

05 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do we not burn out our partner with our problems? Is it okay to have them be the only support system for us? What is a better set up? In this epis...

SC 128 - Negative Beliefs That Block Your Relationship Potential

31 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you aware how your past negative experiences are shaping your current relationship reality? Well, they are and until you deal with those, it will ...

SC 127 - My Partner Has Issues, What Do I Do?

29 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTION from our listener Jeff: How can a couple grow together and be truly happy if one of the parties has some underlying personal issues? I dive i...

SC 126 - How Relational Skills Can Boost Your Confidence

24 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling insecure in relationships is par for the course. So, wouldn't it make sense to learn how to increase your confidence in a relationship? If you...

SC 125 - When Your Partner's Anger Triggers You

23 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If your partner gets angry and it triggers you, listen to this one. There are a couple of basic things you can do to support each other. QUESTION From...

SC 124 - How to Overcome Erectile Dysfunction

17 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you want to know how to overcome erectile dysfunction, you'll need a complete reframe on this entire issue. I offer my own personal experience and ...

SC 123 - How to Respect Yourself More

15 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why do some people get taken advantage of, taken for granted and walked all over in their relationships?  In this episode I talk about one crucia...

SC 122 - How to Make Online Dating Work For You - Evan Marc Katz

10 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Dating advice on a relationship podcast? Yes, enough people said they wanted that, so we're experimenting with our first dating episode. Evan Marc Kat...

SC 121 - Is Marriage Forever?

08 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What are the pros and cons of looking at marriage as forever? And how can you personally engage in one of the biggest commitments of your life without...

SC 120 - How to Deal With an Angry Woman? - Terry Real

03 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do you deal with an emotional woman? Guys are going to want to listen to this. My guest Terry Real shares a ton of insight here in his 2nd intervi...

SC 119 - How To End A Relationship Respectfully

30 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do you end a relationship with respect and dignity?  People make breaking up a lot more complicated than it needs to be. In this episode...

SC 118 - The #1 Hidden Reason Men Pull Away And Lose Interest

26 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why do men pull away when they get close? Then, some of them will come back, only to pull away again. WTF is going on here? SHOWNOTES What is going o...

SC 117 - Can It Work If My Partner Is 50% Into Personal Growth?

24 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Personal growth isn't the end all be all. But it does make a massive difference if you want a thriving partnership over time... QUESTION: “My ques...

SC 116 - The Neuroscience & Power of Safe Relationships - Stephen W. Porges

19 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wondered why you struggle to learn something new when you are stressed? Do you wonder why you or your partner are so damn sensitive? Wel...

SC 115 - How To Ask Your Partner For More Sex

17 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Is your sex drive different than your partner? This can lead to a lot of challenges. Unless, you keep things simple, lead with vulnerability and speak...

SC 114 - How to Feel More Connected - Ellen & Jayson

12 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Mandy - Smart Couple Facebook Page Feeling connected. First of all, can we explore the meaning of that in depth? To me it's hard to define and hard to...

SC 113 - Shame in Your Relationship

10 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

QUESTIONS: I was listening to Episode 12 with Dr Keith Witt and was really intrigued about the role that shame plays in conflict and in relationship....

SC 112 - How to Deal With Narcissism in a Relationship - Jeff Pincus & Rachel Cahn

06 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you dealing with narcissism in your relationship? How do you really know? What are the signs and more importantly, what's going on with you that h...

SC 111 - Stop Settling for Scraps in Your Relationship

04 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why settle for scraps in your relationship and be with someone who doesn't treat you with the utmost respect, even during the hardest of times? Well, ...

SC 110 - The Healing Power of Touch - Betty Martin

29 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Our culture as 'sexually jammed up' [11:00] The Request - Offer - Invitation method and what we can do to loosen ourselves up [16:00] Betty’s ‘Wa...

SC 109 - Masculine Woman Dating A Feminine Man

27 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you are a more "masculine" woman, chances are you'll find yourself with a more "feminine" man. Is this a problem? Not at all. In fact, if you under...

SC 108 - How To Feel Safe In Your Relationship - Bonnie Badenoch

22 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What is co-regulation and how do I feel safe in my relationship? In this episode my guest Bonnie Badenoch goes deep into the co-regulatory nervous sys...

SC 107 - What's The Point Of Marriage Anyway?

20 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

What does marriage really mean? [3:00] Are 50 year relationships realistic? [7:00] Using marriage as a vehicle for your own personal growth [11:00] ...

SC 106 - One Simple Tip to Working Out Your Differences

15 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

SHOWNOTES How to work out your differences quickly [2:00] Understanding how our childhood coping mechanisms effect our relationships [5:00] An effect...

SC 105 - Partner Not Meeting Your Sexual Needs

13 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Is it okay to go outside the marriage to get your sexual needs met? While this may seem like a straightforward answer, it's amazing to me how many fol...

SC 104 - How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner & Interpersonal Stress

08 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Stan Tatkin returns and serves up another awesome dose of relationship advice through the lens of adult attachment. From how relationships impact your...

SC 103 - How To Get Over A Cheating Spouse

06 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Question: Once someone cheats on you should you walk away completely and let go, or do you think going through something like this could strengthen a ...

SC 102 - The Surprising Difference Between Divorced People and Married People- Mark Manson

01 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

UPDATE: CONTEST WINNERS ANNOUNCED! What can you learn from divorced people and people who are married for a decade or two? What are the main differenc...

SC 101 - Getting Your Partner TO Meet Your Needs

27 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

SHOWNOTES Question: I’d love to hear more about the possible distinction between standing in one’s own needs and then the problematic zone of aski...

SC 100 - How To Repair in 3 Steps Before You Make It Worse

22 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

SHOWNOTES Contest announcement [5:00] How to repair a rupture [8:00] When you trigger your partner: the art of micro repairs [12:00] When ‘macro re...

SC 99 - Husband Doesn't Want To Work On Marriage

20 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Question: We’ve been together 3 months and I’ve been on a path  of self development for many years.  My new partner is very new to inner...

SC 98 - Evolving Men's Sexuality - From Porn To Presence - Destin Gerek

15 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you ever use sex to avoid closeness? Do you know what happens when a man who is called the Erotic Rockstar hits a wall and falls apart? In thi...

SC 97 - My Partner Doesn't Want To Get Married But I Do

13 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If one of you wants marriage and the other doesn't, there will be problems. You both need to get crystal clear and determine how "negotiable" this is....

SC 96 - Women's Sexuality - De-Armor Your Cervix

08 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you are a woman who feels shut down in your body or genitals, this conversation is for you. My guest Olivia Bryant helps you understand your cervix...

SC 95 - The Problem With Never Fighting In Your Relationship

06 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

If you are not fighting after 4 years of being together you're asleep. Why? I'll explain in this episode. I used to be proud of the fact that I never ...

SC 94 - 7 Behaviors That Kill Your Connection

02 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you killing the connection with these 7 behaviors? My guest Bryan Reeves lays out some of the most common connection killers and what to do instea...

SC 93 - Does His Size Matter?

31 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Here’s a good question from a listener. Essentially it’s about physical attractiveness and size. Check it out: Question: I’m newly interested in...

SC 92 - Abusive Relationships and How to Deal With Them

25 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Are you in an abusive relationship? In this episode we explore some of the hallmarks of an "abusive" relationship and what to do with any form of disr...

SC 91 - Is Flirting Cheating?

23 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve been in my current relationship for 15 months. Right off the bat, we rushed into it both freshly out of our relationships. At 3 months he start...

SC 90 - 4 Steps To Solving Money Problems In Your Marriage - Bari Tessler Linden

18 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Money and Relationships! Some say this is one of the top 3 reasons people get divorced. So, do the two of you feel "on the same page" with money or is...

SC 89 - Texting and Relationship Advice for Young Adults

16 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

A great 3-part question from Nathan from Oregon particularly pertaining to relationships as a young adult. He's also wanting to find mature relationsh...

SC 88 – The Hidden Power Of Conflict – Annie Lalla

11 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Annie Lalla brings the heat in this amazing episode full of love and wisdom. Damn can this woman spin some distinctions and reframe so many chall...

SC 87 - Why Some Men Struggle With A Woman's Emotions

09 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Why is emotional intensity so difficult for some guys to deal with? [1:20] Why some men can’t handle being around women (and people) who are depres...

SC 86 - Why People Get Divorced In January & What To Do About It - Charles J. Orlando

04 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Show Notes Charles’ relationship story. [9:50] How we know if we’re ready for marriage. [13:00] Why do you people get divorced in January? [15:00...

SC 85 - How Do I Let My Wall Down & Let Him In?

03 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We all have a wall in our most intimate relationships. Find out how to take down that wall in a way that works for you. I've got the first step laid o...

SC 84 - Do You Want To Be A Victim Or Get Empowered? - Alexi & Preston

28 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Want to hear how two people move from victim consciousness to a place of empowerment? Alexi and Preston have some bold answers on how to get over your...

SC 83 - If You Are Bored In Your Relationship - Ellen & Jayson

21 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Is your relationship boring or are you boring? Or, better yet, are you just stuck and unsure of how to deepen your relationship? Boredom is a sign tha...

SC 82 - How He Got His Wife Back with Ryan Michler

14 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Want to hear how one man got his wife back after a separation on the brink of divorce? It's actually quite simple but requires a certain kind of man t...

SC 81 - 87 Year-Old Pro-Sex Feminist Discusses The Female Orgasm - Betty Dodson

07 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Is the female orgasm that complicated and powerful? It can be for some of us, but in this episode, women's sexuality pioneer and sexologist Betty Dods...

SC 80 - A Couple's Vulnerable Story of Falling Apart & Getting Stronger Together with Tripp & Alyson

30 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

A brave smart couple shares their "dark period" and how they got through it. Anyone who has been married for a few years, and then adds in a child to ...

SC 79 - How To Deal With Holiday Family Drama

22 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Family drama will show you exactly where you and your partner are or are not aligned. Not knowing how to navigate your own triggers around your family...

SC 78 - The Secret Weapon For Men To Deepen Their Relationships With Women - John Wineland

16 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Why do men need more solid men around them? In this episode, we explore the power of getting very honest with other men and how that can benefit your ...

SC 77 - How To Work With Personality Differences - Joel & Antonia

09 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, personality hackers and smart couple Joel and Antonia share their personal experiences of working through differences by understandin...

SC 76 - Spirituality & Relationships with Jeff Brown

02 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this episode, we tackle spirituality and relationships with soulshaping mentor Jeff Brown. Jeff has a great knack for calling BS on the spiritual m...

SC 75 - How To Deal With A Partner That Talks Too Much

26 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve been a with a friend or partner who rambles on right? And, you check out or stop listening, but you let them talk right? We’ve all been the...

SC 74 - 8 Steps To Reconnect After Disconnection

19 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling disconnected is a common experience in long-term relationships. The question is how to get reconnected? Well, first you’ll want to start to ...

SC 73 - Men & Vulnerability with Connor Beaton of ManTalks

12 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Do men change? Can they overcome their blocks? Of course. But sometimes, they need a little permission or a nudge from another man. I’m always thril...

SC 72 - How to Deal With The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic (Part 2)

05 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want more connection while your partner wants more space? One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. In t...

SC 71 - How to Deal With The Distancer-Pursuer Dynamic (Part 1)

28 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

One of the most common issues in a partnership is the distancer/pursuer dynamic. What is going on here and how do you deal with a partner who needs a ...

SC 70 - Saying Yes To Relationship Pain

21 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Running away from relationship pain and problems often just creates more problems. Here I remind you why facing pain is useful. Check it out. Now. SHO...

SC 69 - The Grass Is Greener Syndrome In Relationships

14 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

The grass is greener with that other person! I used to think this quietly in my mind all the time, no matter who I was with. In this episode, I share ...

SC 68 - Your Relationship Q's - Anger, Jealousy, Depression, Honesty, Premature Ejaculation & More

07 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

It’s really normal to experience jealousy, depression, anger, intense attraction and so much more when you find yourself in a good relationship. Our...

SC 67 - 3 Steps To Become More Resilient Before, During & After A Fight with Rick Hanson

31 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

It is possible to rewire your brain in relationships and build inner strength. In fact, if you don’t work toward this, you’ll be in trouble down t...

SC 66 - Fault vs Responsibility

24 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Maureen writes “I’ve really lost interest in your work since you said on your webinar that if you get cheated on it’s your fault.” Thanks Maur...

SC 65 - Laser Coaching On Infidelity, Trust, & Blended Families

17 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Chris and Billy Jo are two podcast listeners who won a chance to be interviewed and laser coached by me on the podcast. As you listen, pay close ...

SC 64 - Tracking & Parenting Your Partner With Ellen Boeder

10 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Codependency gets a bad rap. Parenting your partner? Who wants be married to their mom or dad? But there’s more to the story here. And lots of ...

SC 63 - The Cost Of Stress In Your Primary Relationships with Dr. Gabor Maté

03 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Most of us have no idea how damaging relational stress can be. In this episode, legendary medical doctor and psycho-physio-spiritual trailblazer Dr. G...

SC 62 - 5 Steps To Calm Down Fast During A Fight

27 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Fighting, arguing, and disagreeing are essential in a relationship, But it’s critical to know how. Here’s a short episode to help you understand h...

SC 61 - Listener Questions & My Direct Answers

20 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In this Q&A episode, there were so many great questions. See the show notes below for a detailed line-up. SHOWNOTES How can I train myself to not go ...

SC 60 - Keys To Mastering Relationships & Life With Dr. John Demartini

13 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Did I interview Yoda or just world renowned human behavior specialist Dr. John Demartini? Okay, buckle your seat belt for this one and be prepared to ...

SC 59 - How To Create Healthy Expectations In Your Relationship

06 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are two kinds of expectations in a long-term relationship. Knowing the difference can help you sink or swim in your partnership. See if you can ...

SC 58 - How To Say I'm Sorry Like A Pro

29 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Saying “I’m sorry” is one way to try to repair after a relationship challenge, but it’s exceptionally limited. Not learning a new way to repai...

SC 57 - How Do I Know When It's Too Hard?

22 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships get hard. But how do you know when hard is too freakin’ hard? And, what do you do about it? In this episode my wife and I explore a ve...

SC 56 - 100% Responsibility Vs When To Leave The Relationship & Other Relationship Questions

15 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Your relationship questions are answered in this episode. We cover a lot of ground. One theme is how to deal with “value” differences in an intima...

SC 55 - The Purpose Of Relationship Pain

08 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Relationship pain has a very clear purpose. If you are hip to it, you’ll thrive in relationships. If you are uneducated here, you’ll run away and ...