Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 437

10 Mar 2015

Contributed by Lukas

A self-professed "pervert" is married to a self-professed "Christian." He wants to keep watching his porn in peace, she forbids it. Should he sneak to...

Savage Love Episode 436

03 Mar 2015

Contributed by Lukas

The Lovecast welcomes Anna Sale from WNYC's "Death, Sex & Money" podcast to pick over the nuances of Dan's thinking on non-monogamy.  We check in on ...

Savage Love Episode 435

24 Feb 2015

Contributed by Lukas

An amputee is offended when her new boyfriend warns his brother about her disabilities. Is she being too sensitive?  A man is being ask to lie about ...

Savage Love Episode 434

17 Feb 2015

Contributed by Lukas

A married woman has lost all sex drive. Her husband is willing to let her be with other men. But the thought of her husband with another woman makes h...

Savage Love Episode 433

10 Feb 2015

Contributed by Lukas

A kinkster is worried that her feminist mother will see some bruises and assume the worst about her boyfriend. How can she explain that they are in a ...

Savage Love Episode 432

03 Feb 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Gather round, heathens: It's Bible study time! Dan and gay Evangelical Christian Matthew Vines talk about how gay Christians can help the less "affirm...

Savage Love Episode 431

27 Jan 2015

Contributed by Lukas

On this, the week of Dan and Terry's 20th anniversary, Dan grapples with some tricky, tricky questions: At exactly what point in the dating process wo...

Savage Love Episode 430

20 Jan 2015

Contributed by Lukas

It's the Getting Women to Come Show! Sometimes ladies can't come and want to. Sometimes ladies can't come and they don't want to. Dan sure talks a lot...

Savage Love Episode 429

13 Jan 2015

Contributed by Lukas

How can you tell when a slap to the face is welcome or unwelcome in a BDSM situation? A weepy slapper wants to know.  How much trouble can naughty ph...

Savage Love Episode 428

06 Jan 2015

Contributed by Lukas

A husband can't be bothered to bring his wife to orgasm. Why? It's too much work! His hand gets tired! A man is pretty sure his nephew is gay. The res...

Savage Love Episode 427

30 Dec 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A drunken lass has intellectual crushes on her professors. How can she express her "love for their intellect?"  A man is totes bummed when a date dit...

Savage Love Episode 426

23 Dec 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Come all ye faithful. It's the Lovecast Live Christmas Extravaganza!  Recorded at Seattle's Neptune Theatre, this show features singer-songwriter Rac...

Savage Love Episode 425

16 Dec 2014

Contributed by Lukas

If you're a bisexual man in a monogamous relationship with a woman, is a little twink porn so wrong?  When mothers move in: A woman's libido plummet...

Savage Love Episode 424

09 Dec 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A bi man from a conservative Christian family had been through conversion therapy twice as a child. Strangely enough, it didn't work. He's all grown u...

Savage Love Episode 423

02 Dec 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman dating a water-sports enthusiast is having a hard time, just "letting go." A straight man is horrified by misogynistic, abusive porn. Why is i...

Savage Love Episode 422

25 Nov 2014

Contributed by Lukas

If you or someone you love is considering coming out over Thanksgiving, you simply must listen to the Magnum version of the show. A lesbian's father i...

Savage Love Episode 421

18 Nov 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Wait. You haven't yet heard "My Brother, My Brother and Me?"  Well, we've rectified that situation, as Dan joins forces with the Brothers McElroy for...

Savage Love Episode 420

11 Nov 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This week Dan speaks with Janet Yassen from the national rape support organization RAINN about recovering your sexuality after a sexual assault.  A f...

Savage Love Episode 419

04 Nov 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and the incomparable RuPaul chat about Drag Race, foot fetishes and living in Wyoming.  A man's girlfriend wants to seize control of his alcohol ...

Savage Love Episode 418

28 Oct 2014

Contributed by Lukas

It's the triumphant return of Dr. Barak, here to reassure us that drinking pee is still "pretty darn safe."  Is guzzling jizz the equivalent of drink...

Savage Love Episode 417

21 Oct 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Delusion and disfunction; this episode has more than it's fair share. Inevitable break-ups, sexless marriages, cheating and scheming. Feast your ears!...

Savage Love Episode 416

14 Oct 2014

Contributed by Lukas

It's the Savage Lovecast LIVE from Vancouver BC. Featuring the super-delightful sex researcher Dr. Lori Brotto and the incomparably filthy singer-song...

Savage Love Episode 415

07 Oct 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A man is getting a yucky feeling from his best friend's new girlfriend. They've never met, mind you. But she seems kind of superficial? On social medi...

Savage Love Episode 414

30 Sep 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Dan brings on heavy-hitter advice columnist Margo Howard (daughter of THE Ann Landers…) to cackle and spar about cooking your way into yo...

Savage Love Episode 413

23 Sep 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A man's wife uses their dom/sub relationship as ammo when they are fighting. And THAT AIN'T FAIR!  Should it be a deal-breaker if your boyfriend does...

Savage Love Episode 412

16 Sep 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Hey Dan Savage! What do you think about waiting to have sex until marriage? Dan? Good idea?  A woman enjoys sharing naked photos of herself. Her frie...

Savage Love Episode 411

09 Sep 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman is shocked to learn that her best friend is a trans woman. Why did she keep it secret? Should the caller feel betrayed?  Hear the tale of the...

Savage Love Episode 410

02 Sep 2014

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when your potential new roommate comes with his very own stalker?  Dan chats with Dr. Vy Chu about the real risks of sleeping with hon...

Savage Love Episode 409

26 Aug 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and his old co-host Mary Martone talk about cat jealousy, mate poaching, and have an epic, drag-out battle over fat-shaming.  This episode is bro...

Savage Love Episode 408

19 Aug 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Dan welcomes author Joan Price to talk about sexuality for older folks. Meanwhile, back in high school, a gay lad is suffering because his ...

Savage Love Episode 407

12 Aug 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Take it from us, whatever you do- don't offend the adult baby.  Also, how should you respond when you get hit on by a 13 year-old?  On the Magnum, D...

Savage Love Episode 406

05 Aug 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Starting the show, Dan invites co-ranter Congressman Patrick J. Murphy to discuss why democrats treat military personnel better than the Rs.  A gay m...

Savage Love Episode 405

29 Jul 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and infectious disease doctor/science writer Jonathan Golob talk about people who are anti-vaccine and whether you should have sex with them.  On...

Savage Love Episode 404

22 Jul 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan and his buddy Lucy chat about spanking, cheating, pervy cousins and sleeping with the cab driver.  206-201-2720 This episode is brought to you by...

Savage Love Episode 403

15 Jul 2014

Contributed by Lukas

When a guy uses concert tickets to entice you to spend time with him, should you accept, even if you feel no attraction? Or would that make you mercen...

Savage Love Episode 402

08 Jul 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan welcomes special guest ranter Martha Plimpton to talk about Hobby Lobby. A gay male couple were locked in a pattern of cheating to get revenge on ...

Savage Love Episode 401

01 Jul 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A gay man appears to be a straight man magnet. Straight men declare their love for him more than gay men do. Why? And how can he make it stop?!  Mean...

Savage Love Episode 400

24 Jun 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman discovers through dubious sources that her step-mother might be cheating on her father. Dan walks her through a way to deal with this unpleasa...

Savage Love Episode 399

17 Jun 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman battling cancer wishes to marry her boyfriend. But he's not quite ready. Maybe a sex-advice podcaster can convince him?  Another woman doesn'...

Savage Love Episode 398

10 Jun 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A man has learned that his father was sadistic, abusive and cruel. The caller is in to S&M. Does this mean he is destined to be just like his reprehen...

Savage Love Episode 397

03 Jun 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman is going nuts because her boyfriend insists on keeping a memento of his previous girlfriend. Is he being unreasonable, or is she the mayor of ...

Savage Love Episode 396

27 May 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A woman notices that her gay friend is dating younger and younger guys. At what point does young become too young?  A bisexual woman feels stifled in...

Savage Love Episode 395

20 May 2014

Contributed by Lukas

In our first installment of "Second Opinion," Dan and Slate's Dear Prudence face off on how to deal with poisonous in-laws, and how much to tip when y...

Savage Love Episode 394

13 May 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Can two Aquarians last as a couple? Can they really?  Pop quiz! When is the best time to tell your girlfriend that you have crabs: a) Before you make...

Savage Love Episode 393

06 May 2014

Contributed by Lukas

He grew up conservative and Christian. Now that he's over it, he's dating an awesome lass. But she likes to talk about sex, and he's still shy and gig...

Savage Love Episode 392

29 Apr 2014

Contributed by Lukas

How can a man best comfort the woman he just dumped?  A woman is scared to tell her parents that she is engaged to a man thirty years her senior.  A...

Savage Love Episode 391

22 Apr 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Savage Love Episode 390

15 Apr 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan counsels a woman in yet another a conservative small town on how to help her lesbian daughter make it out of there alive.  A gay man has gone abo...

Savage Love Episode 389

08 Apr 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Bisexual erasure no more! Dan interviews Benoit Denizet-Lewis on his recent piece in the NYT Magazine.  Dan councils a heart-broken lesbian with univ...

Savage Love Episode 388

01 Apr 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This episode is riddled with parents creeping out their kids.  A man in an established open relationship is horrified to learn that his step-daughter...

Savage Love Episode 387

25 Mar 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Dan speaks with Seattle sex workers Mistress Matisse, Savannah Sly and Dehlia DeLions about the biz. Topics covered: proper client etiquette, telling ...

Savage Love Episode 386

18 Mar 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This week, bizarrely, Dan welcomes 74-time Jeopardy! winner Ken Jennings to banter and chat. Sure, Jeopardy boy can handle minute details about the Sp...

Savage Love Episode 385

11 Mar 2014

Contributed by Lukas

On the Magnum version, Dan speaks with Irish drag queen Panti Bliss about his battle with litigious homophobes and the mighty, mighty power of drag. ...

Savage Love Episode 384

04 Mar 2014

Contributed by Lukas

We are delighted to welcome back Mollena Williams, a.k.a "The Perverted Negress," to talk about the kinky men you'll meet online who start the convers...

Savage Love Episode 383

25 Feb 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This week on the Magnum version of the Lovecast, Dan enlists heavyweight ethicist Randy Cohen (the former New York Times columnist) to help answer som...

Savage Love Episode 382

18 Feb 2014

Contributed by Lukas

It's the LIVE Valentine's Day show, taped at Seattle's Neptune Theatre.  The theme was sex and death, (a.k.a "Coming and Going.") With special guests...

Savage Love Episode 381

11 Feb 2014

Contributed by Lukas

We open with a heartrending call from a woman in the Bible belt, whose own children condemn her for dating a black man. The year is 2014. Dan chats wi...

Savage Love Episode 380

04 Feb 2014

Contributed by Lukas

This is one of our all-time favorite shows, people.  Dan speaks with Russian journalist Masha Gessen, about the alarming rise of anti-gay oppression ...

Savage Love Episode 379

28 Jan 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A first-time unicorn finds herself alone and naked on the bed, while her couple argue. Should she give them another chance?  A woman has lost 180 lbs...

Savage Love Episode 378

21 Jan 2014

Contributed by Lukas

A man with his dream girl, simply cannot forgive her for cheating on him at the very beginning of their relationship. What is the remedy? "Why do I li...

Savage Love Episode 377

14 Jan 2014

Contributed by Lukas

On this show, Dan welcomes Seth Stephens-Davidowitz from the New York Times to shed some light on how many men are actually gay in the US.  A young m...

Savage Love Episode 376

07 Jan 2014

Contributed by Lukas

Red Bull and Vodka makes him last and last and last. But is it the Red Bull or the Vodka?  A man and woman want to try a three-way. Do ex-girlfriends...

Savage Love Episode 375

31 Dec 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A gal is convinced her good friend is a homo. Should she use her wiles to lure him out of the closet?  A lad is good friends with a woman who admitte...

Savage Love Episode 374

24 Dec 2013

Contributed by Lukas

  In this very special "Christmas" episode of the Savage Lovecast, you may detect a theme of problematic families. Bigot uncles, closet cases, intole...

Savage Love Episode 373

17 Dec 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A gay man and his straight friend find their relationship has changed forever. To find out why, you'll just have to listen.  Can porn kill your boner...

Savage Love Episode 372

10 Dec 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A sexually active woman is slut-shamed by her own roommates in a prudish house intervention.  A caller wonders if gay men will pay to be dominated. I...

Savage Love Episode 371

03 Dec 2013

Contributed by Lukas

When attending an orgy, what is the proper etiquette in explaining that you are deathly allergic to beeswax, and therefore cannot kiss anyone for fear...

Savage Love Episode 370

26 Nov 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A man and his wife have agreed to divorce. But they have to keep living together for 3 more months. Would it be shabby to start sleeping with the hot ...

Savage Love Episode 369

19 Nov 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Is it selfish to have a vasectomy?  Lesbian roller derby sleepover! A lesbian couple are hosting a sleepover for the all-girl roller derby team that ...

Savage Love Episode 368

12 Nov 2013

Contributed by Lukas

An erotic masseuse has serviced an estimated 5000 dicks, over the course of 23 years, to support her family. Now what?  A gay man engaged to his boyf...

Savage Love Episode 367

05 Nov 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Do bisexuals need a new label? Dan interviews Salon writer Anna Pulley on bi nomenclature. Listen in as Dan convinces a mother to leave her conservati...

Savage Love Episode 366

29 Oct 2013

Contributed by Lukas

This week Dan talks sex and death with Caitlin Doughty of Ask a Mortician. Spooky!  Dan also chats with Dr. Sydnee and Justin McElroy of the Sawbones...

Savage Love Episode 365

22 Oct 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to Season 16 of the Savage Lovecast! This Magnum season has 26 episodes, from October 22 through April 22. Go to www.SavageLovecast.com to get...

Savage Love Episode 364

15 Oct 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Next week is your chance to get in on the full Magnum season from the very beginning. www.SavageLovecast.com A gay man wonders if he should bring mac...

Savage Love Episode 363

08 Oct 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Season 15 approaches! The new season will start on October 22. Be sure to go to www.savagelovecast.com then, to renew or or subscribe for the first ti...

Savage Love Episode 362

01 Oct 2013

Contributed by Lukas

There's a lot of bisexuality sloshing around this show. Dan speaks with Ellyn Ruthstrom of the Bisexual Resource Center on coming out, and seeking acc...

Savage Love Episode 361

24 Sep 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Are young ladies allowed to call or "text"  unattached, young men to ask for a date? Or would this tarnish a girl's valued reputation?  A sex worker...

Savage Love Episode 360

17 Sep 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A gay man's truly evil step-mother falsely accused him of sexually assaulting his younger siblings. His father never rose to his defense. Should he fo...

Savage Love Episode 359

10 Sep 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Dan speaks with pro-gay rights Christian John Shore about the NALT Project. Non-douchey Christians: here's your chance to speak up. www.NotAllLikeThat...

Savage Love Episode 358

03 Sep 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A man (with a British accent that had the tech-savvy, at-risk youth  panting like hound dogs at noon,) likes to cat around town, despite his ostensib...

Savage Love Episode 357

27 Aug 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Dan helps a woman determine the fine line between over-permissiveness and slut-shaming for her 14 year-old step-daughter.  In more hand-wringing, a y...

Savage Love Episode 356

20 Aug 2013

Contributed by Lukas

"Cum Dumpster." Is this a sweet, sexy term, or just plain nasty?  A straight woman in Texas feels like a nelly gay man trapped in a woman's body. How...

Savage Love Episode 355

13 Aug 2013

Contributed by Lukas

After over a year of dating a woman online that the caller had never met, he is horrified to learn that she isn't at all who she said she was. What no...

Savage Love Episode 354

06 Aug 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A straight man has been the recipient of some rather shoddy pegging. Dan sets him on a better course.  A woman's older boyfriend insists her gay frie...

Savage Love Episode 353

30 Jul 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A woman has become a regular third (unicorn) for a couple's three-ways. They buy her dinner and drinks. Should she get get over feeling like a mooch a...

Savage Love Episode 352

23 Jul 2013

Contributed by Lukas

  Listen in as Dan Savage and Ari Shapiro (fancy-pants White House correspondent for NPR) drink, talk about monogamy and Dan's book, drink, talk abou...

Savage Love Episode 351

16 Jul 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Her boyfriend wants it every day. She can manage 4-6 times per week but he still berates her for not putting out enough. Who's side will Dan come down...

Savage Love Episode 350

09 Jul 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Hooray for happy rants! Dan tells you how he felt and what he did when he found out that DOMA was repealed.  A man's random ejaculation resulted in a...

Savage Love Episode 349

02 Jul 2013

Contributed by Lukas

First off, prepare yourself for the most Depressing Rant Ever. (We recorded this show well before DOMA went DOWN.) A young gay man connected with anot...

Savage Love Episode 348

25 Jun 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Kids today! A woman agrees to give her new lover her used panties. He then reports that his eleven-year old nephew got a hold of them and did unspeaka...

Savage Love Episode 347

18 Jun 2013

Contributed by Lukas

How soon is too soon for anal?  A woman who had a brief foray into sex work long ago wonders how to tell her partners without shame, rejection or tit...

Savage Love Episode 346

11 Jun 2013

Contributed by Lukas

On this week's Micro version, how should you comport yourself when you're the Dungeon Monitor, and you have to watch your ex-girlfriend be some other ...

Savage Love Episode 345

04 Jun 2013

Contributed by Lukas

This show is for the ladies.  First Dan attempts to smash the patriarchy with his opening rant.  Then he sticks up for a woman whose military husban...

Savage Love Episode 344

28 May 2013

Contributed by Lukas

A woman met a man in a bar and they exchanged numbers. Then she sent him some steamy, hot, erotic fiction that she wrote. About him. What's the readin...

Savage Love Episode 343

21 May 2013

Contributed by Lukas

"She wants a dom, not a dick." Gather round everyone, and listen in as Dan Savage and Mistress Matisse gab about BDSM, where kink comes from, fantasy ...

Savage Love Episode 342

14 May 2013

Contributed by Lukas

This week on the Savage Lovecast: Tales of open relationships gone horribly wrong. Is it so wrong to move in with your boyfriend to save on rent? Also...

Savage Love Episode 341

07 May 2013

Contributed by Lukas

How should you respond when your cousin accidentally sends you a naked pic?  Dick growing pills. Any money in that racket?  Dan speaks with Dr. Thom...

Savage Love Episode 340

30 Apr 2013

Contributed by Lukas

"Am I just his beard?" asks a woeful girlfriend.  Another gal did a little snooping, and discovered that her man has a "happy endings map" of all the...

Savage Love Episode 339

23 Apr 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Dan helps a sneeze fetishist concoct a plan to make her sex life more…sneezy.  Growing up, a man had insufficient testosterone. Now that he's takin...

Savage Love Episode 338

16 Apr 2013

Contributed by Lukas

Dan speaks with Slate editor Emily Bazelon on sexting, slut-shaming, bullying and suicide. A meddling friend watches in horror as her Mormon friends p...