In long-term relationships, feelings of passion tend to be really intense in the beginning, but typically decrease over time. As a result, one of the most common questions people ask about relationships is how to get that spark back—and keep it going. For this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast, I spoke with Dr. Amy Muise, an Assistant Professor at York University in Toronto, Canada who studies how couples can maintain sexual desire and satisfaction over time. We talked about the key things Amy has learned through her research, including how to keep passion alive, how to deal effectively with sexual disagreements, whether having more sex would make you happier, why cuddling after sex is good for your relationship, and so much more. Some of the topics we cover include: How can engaging in “self-expanding” activities help couples get the spark back in their relationship? Why is being motivated to meet your partner’s sexual needs crucial to maintaining passion? What happens when one partner consistently wants more sex than the other? How do you bridge a sexual divide like this? What does it mean to “positively reject” a partner’s request for sex? How do you turn down sex in a positive way? Are couples who have more sex necessarily happier than couples who have less sex? How much does what you do after sex matter? How often do people in relationships fantasize about ex-partners, and what does this mean for their relationships? To learn more about Amy, visit her website here and follow her on Twitter @AmyMuise. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: LEGIT Audio (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

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