Sex With Dr. Jess

Sex Terms You’ve Never Heard: CBT, AMDL & More!

08 Sep 2024

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How To Prep For A Threesome

09 Jul 2024

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A quick 'Thank You' from Dr. Jess and B (it really is us!) - Every time you shop our affiliate links and use our discount code DRJESSVIP, you’re sup...

4 Types of Couples — Which One Are You?

08 Dec 2023

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4 Types of Couples – Which One Are You? Thank you for reading and listening to our podcast (from us - Dr. Jess and B)! We truly appreciate your tim...

Sex, Gender & Intimacy: People Collide with Isle McElroy

23 Nov 2023

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Isle McElroy joins Jess and Brandon to talk about intimacy, vulnerability and sex -- on paper and in the flesh. An award-winning non-binary author bas...

Managing Burnout In Relationships: Conservation of Resources Theory

17 Nov 2023

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Thank you for engaging with our content and tuning in to the podcast. We like and appreciate you! If you’re interested in exploring more, browse our...

Eroticize Daily Interactions: 20 Actionable Tips For Busy Couple

10 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Thank you for reading and listening to our podcast (this is Dr. Jess and B, for real)! If you're feeling like shopping for buzzing toys or linge...

How To Stop Bickering: 12 Strategies

03 Nov 2023

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Do you want to... Bicker less and catch yourself before you start? Stay calm and empathetic during conflict? Feel more at ease and connecte...

Candid Conversations: Managing the ‘Work Spouse’ and Therapy Avoidance

27 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this Q&A, Jess and Brandon weigh in on listener queries related to "work spouses", dealing with a partner who refuses to go to therapy and "love ta...

Sex & Relationship Q&A: Cheating, Trust & Sexual Pressure

19 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How do you define cheating? And how do you recover once trust has been broken? How do you deal with sexual pressure from a partner? Womanizer...

How To Plan A Successful Threesome

06 Oct 2023

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All About Threesomes

28 Sep 2023

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Most people fantasize about threesomes, but not many people - actually dive in. In part I of our Threesomes podcast, we dive into the data and get som...

Pleasure, Spanking & Masculinity with King Noire

22 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Before we begin... (Dr. Jess and B here). We want to express our thanks and gratitude to you for reading and engaging with our site. We sincerely appr...

A Guide to Compassionate Communication

14 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  How do you cultivate deeper connections through communication? How can you summon compassion in the heat of conflict? How do you define ...

3 Sex & Relationship Lessons From “Lifestyle” Couples

08 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How Lifestyle Couples Keep Their Relationships Hot, Happy, and Connected Couples in The Lifestyle — often referred to as swingers — practice a fo...

Top Relationship Tips From Happier Couples: 8 Secrets To Success

31 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Happy couples from across the globe share their best advice for richer relationships. From the relational to the emotional to the sexual, the happiest...

Financial Infidelity & How To Talk About Money

24 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Has your partner lied to you about their finances? Have you ever hid spending (or debt) from a partner? Do you and your partner disagree about m...

Sex Q&A, Alvinophilia & Sex vs. Social Media

17 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sex vs. Social Media & The Surprising World of Belly Button Pleasure Thank you for listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess Podcast and reading along here!...

Jess & Brandon’s Latest Argument. And A 7-Minute Solution

11 Aug 2023

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Looking for a quick exercise to offset the potentially harmful effects of conflict? Jess & Brandon explore a 7-minute solution to support "cognitiv...

12 Strategies To Deal With Rejection

03 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  Whether at work or in a personal relationship, rejection can suck. Listen to the SexWithDrJess podcast (above) or read the brief summary and ful...

How to Manage Rejection Part 1

27 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Rejection is a life skill. This week, Jess and Brandon revisit a previous conversation about how to deal with someone who pulls away without explanati...

Attraction & Body Image: Communication for Couples

20 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

A pregnant listener wants to know how to deal with hurt feelings; after her partner; interrupted a conversation to check out another woman. Jess and B...

Romance Scams & How To Date Safely

13 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Have you encountered scammers while dating online or in person? We received this query from a loyal listener: "I started dating after divorce (I wa...

Q&A Quickie: Sexual Desire & Painful Sex

06 Jul 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How does your relationship affect desire and libido? How do you rekindle connection and desire after breaking up and then reuniting? How do you ...

How to Be An Ally & Accomplice

30 Jun 2023

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  https://www.sexwithdrjess.com/wp-content/uploads/Dr.-Antony-Chum-Website-Promo-1.mp4   What's the difference between an ally & an acco...

How to Explore Kinks & Fetishes

22 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we develop fetishes and kinks like heirophilia and small penis humiliation? How do you tell a partner about a specific desire, fant...

Q&A Quickie: Passing Gas, Snooping & Ex-Lovers

15 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

When is it okay to pass gas in front of a new partner? Is it ever okay to snoop in their messages? Should you ask about their past? When shou...

Swallowing, Gag Reflexes & SLPs

09 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What are swallowing disorders? Who can benefit from the support of a Swallowologist? Can you learn to control your gag reflex? What do therap...

Backdoor Pleasure with Luna Matatas

02 Jun 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Curious about anal pleasure and rimming? Luna Matatas has you covered. She shares tips for oral, seduction, confidence and more. Luna Matatas is...

How To Get Over Performance Anxiety

25 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Performance pressure can affect pleasure and sexual response from the desire to erections to orgasms and more. In this episode, Jess and Brandon discu...

Improve Sexual Self-Esteem & Communication

19 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Curious about how to overcome sexual repression and boost sexual self-esteem? Dr. Tara has you covered. She joins Jess to share her personal story of ...

Real-Life Sex Confessions: AURORE

12 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Curious about what other people get up to behind closed doors and online? Carly from AURORE is here to share. She collects confessional sex stories su...

How to improve sleep for better relationships (and better sex)

04 May 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are your sleep habits adversely affecting your relationships? Is a lack of sleep affecting your sex life? Do you want to sleep better and wake u...

Marriage Advice From A Divorce Lawyer

27 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Family lawyer Justin Lee sees relationships and marriages from both sides: couples come to him before they get married (or move in together) and when ...

3 Conversations To Save A Relationship: Why? How? What?

21 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

In this quickie episode, Jess and Brandon reflect upon a recent argument and share three conversations to address relationship issues. They share thei...

Secrets of A Happy Couple (After 35+ Years!)

14 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

            Mike and Denise are one of the happiest couples ever. They've been together since they were teenagers, raised two ...

Scheduling Sex, Erectile Issues & Sexual Avoidance

07 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Is scheduling sex a good idea? And how do you deal with a partner - who is struggling with erection issues? Is avoidance of sex but engagement w...

Pelvic Floor Essentials: The Key To Sexual Health From Puberty to Menopause

31 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Pelvic floor function is essential to sexual health a pleasure, but how much do you know about this key region? Do you know… At what age should...

Open Relationships & Polyamory

24 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What questions should you consider if you’re thinking of opening up your relationship? What issues do couples commonly face when considering poly...

Help! We’re not sexually compatible

17 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Sex therapist Dr. Donna Oriowo joins us to answer your questions about sex and relationships. How do you manage sexual incompatibility? What d...

Can Gender Bending Improve Sex?

10 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can Gender-Bending Improve Sex? Exploring Pleasure Beyond the Binary Thank you for reading and listening to the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast. Your click...

Quickie Q&A: Should you change for a partner & how do you know if non-monogamy is right for you?

24 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How much can you ask a partner to change? And how do you know if non-monogamy is the right choice for you? Jess and Brandon discuss these listener...

Chore Wars: How To Stop Fighting About Housework

17 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

We are riding a high after appearing on The TODAY Show this morning! Hoda and Jenna were the warmest hosts and in this week's episode we dig a little ...

Why We Don’t Celebrate Valentine’s Day

10 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Jess & Brandon weigh in on why they don't love V-Day and answer questions from listeners; who wants to have a happier Valentine's -- free from pressur...

How To Build Emotional Intimacy

03 Feb 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy is about so much more than sex. It can be emotional, relational, practical, physical, spiritual and so much more. This week, Jess and Brandon...

Reset Your Relationship In 2 Minutes

27 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Take a few minutes to slow down and reconnect with this simple exercise designed for emotional connection, physical intimacy and mindfulness. It's not...

7 Minutes of Sex: Desensitization?

20 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's time to debunk the myth of the "dead vagina syndrome" and overcome hangups about vibrators - so that; we can all enjoy more pleasure! If y...

Kinks, Fetishes & Pervertibles

13 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the difference between a fetish and a kink? How common are kinks and fetishes? What are the most common fetishes? How do I move when...

Help! I’m only attracted to the “wrong type” & what to do when I’m no longer “in love”

05 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Why am I only attracted to "toxic" partners? How can I heal & move on from old wounds? What do I do when I love my partner, but I'm no longer "i...

Revolutionize Relationships In 2023

30 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Let's start 2023 on the right foot with some easy strategies for happier, more fulfilling relationships of - all kinds. Jess and Brandon share; 7 simp...

How To Let Go of Judgment & Shame

23 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Naked News host & producer Laura Desiree joins us to talk about her career in journalism and her journey to living a life free of shame and full of pl...

Full Body Orgasms

16 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Want to experiment with orgasms? Explore pleasure across every square inch of your body with this head-to-toe pleasure guide that will help you get o...

Nipple Orgasms & What To Do When Your Partner Can’t Orgasm

09 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you so much for engaging with our content and for listening to the SexWithDrJess podcast — we appreciate you and your support (for real). If y...

How To Have Different Types Of Orgasms Part I

02 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

From clitoral orgasms to prostate orgasms to G-Spot orgasms and everything in-between, Jess and Brandon share tips & personal insights & experiences o...

Have More Fun With Orgasms!

25 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  What makes an orgasm bigger or better? How do you know if you or a partner has had an orgasm? Can some bodies orgasm more easily than ot...

Q&A: Help! My partner picks porn over me

18 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you talk about porn in relationships? What if you disagree about porn? Why would a partner opt for porn and masturbation over partnered s...

Lessons From A Porn Star: Orgies, Love & More!

11 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Journalist, hip-hop artist, and porn performer, Malcolm Lovejoy, joins Jess and Brandon to share his insights on music, sexual rights, the adult indus...

Sexual Communication

04 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you sometimes feel like you talk a lot, but your partner doesn't really hear you? Have you told them what you like, but they don't seem to get it? ...

The Sex Spreadsheet: Your Ultimate Conversation Guide

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  This week, Jess & Brandon are sharing tips and tools from some of the happy couples they've met over the past month. Tune in to find out about s...

Best Blow Job Tips Pt II

21 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for reading this post on how to give a better BJ.  We appreciate you, as so does your penis owning partner. If you're feeling frisky and wa...

Better Blow Jobs Pt I

14 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Thank you for listening, reading, and exploring your pleasure with us.  You can check out some of our favourite toys via our affiliate links and plea...

Hot Husbanding Threesome Q

07 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Hot Husbanding, Baby Steps & Finding Your Third: Listener Q&A on FFM Threesomes Curious about hot husbanding? You’re not alone. A listener recently...

Better in Bed: 15 Oral Sex Tips

30 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

  Without any pressure, if you feel inclined to use our affiliate links when shopping for toys, please know we appreciate it (and you!).  Please ...

Non-Monogamy: One Couples’ Story

23 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Emma and Fin met in middle school, started dating in college, and have been practising non-monogamy for 15 years. They share their story of falling in...

How to be more understanding & supportive (and get more of what you need)

16 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know how to offer support when a loved one is stressed out? Do you feel supported when you're distressed? This week, we share an exercise to...

The Most Common Sexual Fantasies (And How To Talk About Them)

09 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Jess and Brandon discuss research - related to the most common sexual fantasies — from threesomes and group sex to sex with older partners and more....

How To Talk To Youth About Sex, Porn & Sexting

02 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When should you start talking about porn (literacy)? How can you support a teen who has been sexting? How do you explain where babies come from ...

How to meet people at a sex club

26 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Overcoming Shyness: How to Meet People at a Sex Club Thank you for reading and listening to our podcast on how to meet people at a sex club! We appre...

Sex Q&A Quickie

19 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Should I use Kegel balls? What's a good prostate toy that's not too big? Can I isolate my vaginal and anal muscles in pelvic floor contractions?...

Hooking Up Safely

12 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can you prepare for a hookup if you'll be partying with drugs & alcohol? What protection should you use for different types of sex? How do I...

When the clitoris doesn’t work

05 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When the Clitoris Doesn’t Work: Pleasure Beyond Direct Stimulation Thank you for reading, listening and engaging with our post on when the clitoris...

Sex playlists!

29 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What do sex and music have in common, and what's the best music to enhance your sexual experience? Jess and Brandon explore the erotic-musical connect...

How to get your libido back

22 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How to Get Your Libido Back: Practical Strategies for Reigniting Sexual Desire Thank you for reading and tuning into the podcast! Your clicks on our ...

How To Stop Sexual Harassment

15 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can you recognize sexual harassment & what can you do to stop it? What language can you use to interrupt a harasser? How can you start a convers...

Fighting on vacation? How to have a happy (& hotter) trip

08 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Want to have hotter sex on your summer vacation? It starts with a harmonious relationship. This week, we share tips and strategies to help you enjoy a...

Hookup Culture, Sugar-Dating & College Sex

01 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What’s sex like on college campuses? Who is having more sex/hookups? What role does religion play in college sex? Have college students bri...

Discordant Couples: When One Partner Wants An Open Relationship

24 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when one partner wants to open up the relationship; and the other wants to stay monogamous? How do you broach the topic? What iss...

Erotic Embodiments & Polymorphously Perverse Playgrounds of Pleasure

17 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What are erotic embodiments? Why should we all consider erotic role models? How do we embrace and expand pleasure in our bodies? What are the...

Trauma & Therapy & Writing As A form of Healing

10 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you begin to process trauma? How do you know if you need to process past trauma? Is it ever too late to process trauma? What are some ...

How do I give my partner an orgasm?

03 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

From physical techniques to setting the scene and riling them up, Dr. Jess shares tips, strategies, and approaches to pleasure and orgasm. Be sure to ...

Masochism and The Pleasure of Pain

27 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is masochism and why can pain feel so good? How do you differentiate between safe indulgences and pain versus self-harm? How can you begin ...

Narcissism & Toxic TV with Tasha Bailey

20 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What are some signs that you’re dealing with a narcissist? Does narcissism exist along a spectrum? How can you manage narcissistic behaviours ...

Open Relationships: Psychology, Attachment Styles & Communication

13 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you build compassionate open relationships? How do attachment styles show up in non-monogamous relationships? What is a non-hierarchical ...

Couples’ Therapy: Issues, Trends & Advice

06 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What are the most common issues in therapy today? Should new couples go to therapy? How do you know if you’re a good fit or if you’re forcin...

Sexual Health Qs Answered: Erections, Orgasms, Hormones & More!

29 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Board - certified urologist; Dr. Joshua Gonzalez joins us to answer your sexual health questions. What can I do about ED? Are there natural treat...

How To Intensify Sex: Elevated Erotic Feelings

22 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Take your pleasure to the next level by exploring the emotions that intensify the experience. Your elevated erotic feelings (EEFs), can heighten physi...

Emotional Seduction: The Core Erotic Feeling

15 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

We (Dr. Jess and B writing here!) sincerely appreciate you using our affiliate links and discount code DRJESSVIP when shopping for your pleasure produ...

Sissification, Fetishes & Chastity Play

09 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What is the appeal of sissification? How do you introduce kinky play to a partner? What are the 7 types of sissification? How can consensual ...

Safer Sex & STIs: What You Need To Know

01 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How often should you get tested? What are the risks of oral sex? What are the risks of giving oral when you have a cold sore? How can you red...

How To Have Multiple Orgasms: Part II (For Clitorises)

25 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How to Have Multiple Orgasms: Part II (For Clitorises) Before we begin... (Dr. Jess and B here, no AI bots…) We want to express our thanks and grat...

Kinky Tapas: Psychological Kink, Dominance & More

20 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Luna Matatas & Marla Renee Stewart join us to offer a sneak peek into their Kinky Tapas retreat. They answer all of our questions including: How ...

12 Strategies To Manage Rejection

11 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Managing Rejection: Insights from the Bedroom to the Boardroom Please don't reject us...haha, but if you do, that's cool too. If you’re shopping fo...

Rejection: What To Do When Someone Pulls Away

05 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What should you do when a love interest pulls back out of nowhere? Perhaps you’re hitting it off and then all of a sudden things change — texts...

Healthy Relationships & Human Trafficking

25 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Can you recognize the signs of human trafficking? Would you know what to do to support someone who is being victimized by a trafficker? February 22 is...

Quick Connection Exercise for Couples

18 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One Thing I Love About You: A Quick Connection Exercise for Couples (and Anyone You Love) Thank you for reading and listening to the Sex With Dr. Jes...

The Hottest Phone Sex Tips

12 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Phone sex can be smokin’ hot — for auditory lovers, long-distance play partners, and anyone who wants to spice things up with dirty talk and fanta...

How To Have Multiple Orgasms (Part I)

05 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How to Have Multiple Orgasms – Part 1 Thank you for reading and listening on how to have multiples! We’re (Dr. Jess and B) so grateful for your s...

How To Have Bigger, Better Orgasms

29 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You don’t have to intensify your orgasms, but if you want to explore techniques to do so, we’ve got you covered. We share easy strategies you can ...

Ghost-facing Q&A

21 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s quickie answers a few viewer questions about why ghost-facing is all the rage and how to spice things up when mobility is limited. Thank yo...

(Quality) Time Management In Relationships

14 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How much time should you spend together? What constitutes quality time? How do you talk about your need for alone time, and time apart? How do you ...

Relationship Resolutions for 2022

07 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Want more pleasure and passion? How about more mindful connections and a boost in self-esteem? We don’t have all the answers, but we’re sharing a ...