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Come Together | Dr Emily Nagoski #675
08 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, Emily Nagoski joins me as we discuss the creation of her new book on long-term relationships and lasting connections. We explore...
Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674
01 May 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex. There are dynamics of higher desire and lower ...
Minimalism and Marriage | Joshua Becker #673
24 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
On the Regular Version ... In this conversation, and old blogging friend, Joshua Becker, joins me to discuss the journey and benefits of minimalism. W...
Have Sex First on Date Night #672
17 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the importance of date nights in marriage and offer a unique tip to make them more enjoyable. It's the idea of having sex ...
The Idea Of Sex | Dr Marty Klein #671
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, Dr. Marty Klein joins me and discusses the importance of reframing the conversation around sex and challenging our ideas about s...
Jealousy and Insecurity | Shanenn Bryant #670
03 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week let's talk about jealousy. Shanenn Bryant joins me for a conversation about overcoming jealousy in relationships. Shanenn shares her persona...
Want To Be Wanted But Don’t Want To Want #669
27 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we dive into how marriage is simple but difficult, and emphasize the importance of honest conversations. Then we move into the main f...
Procrastination and Resistance | Tripp Lanier #668
20 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, Tripp Lanier joins me as we discuss the importance of self-reflection, understanding self, and overcoming resistance. We explore...
Initiating Intimacy | Rachel Facio and Stacey Sherrell #667
13 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, I'm joined by Stacey Sherrell and Rachel Faccio from Decoding Couples. We have a great conversation about the transition from no...
Normal Marital Sadism #666
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, in recognition of this being episode 666, we go a bit dark and discuss the concept of normal marital sadism (a term coined by Dr Davi...
Attachment Styles and Cycles | Dr Laurie Watson #665
28 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, Dr Laurie Watson joins me as we discuss the dynamics of relationships and how they can impact sexual intimacy. We explore the mi...
Yes, But … #664
21 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week we discuss the impact of trauma on reactions and responses in marriage. An email from a listener points out she felt that trauma was not ade...
More Destructive: His Porn Or Her Reaction? #663
14 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Today let's explore the impact of reactions and perceptions in relationships, specifically in the context of discovering pornography usage. There are ...
Get Past Your Past | Jason VanRuler #662
07 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, I'm joined by Jason Van Ruler as we discuss the importance of addressing past wounds and traumas in order to move forward in lif...
Who’s Responsible For Whose Orgasm? #661
31 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the truth about pressures in marriage and sex. We explore the dynamics of power distribution i...
The Truth About Pressures In Sex #660
24 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we continue the discussion on the topic of mercy sex and the pressures and obligations that can arise in marriage. Let's explore t...
Busyness and Unhealed Trauma | John Eldredge #659
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this conversation, John Eldredge joins me as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships. John brings up the concept of ...
Mercy Sex In Marriage #658
10 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we discuss the concept of mercy sex in a marriage. What are the characteristics of mercy sex and the impact it has on both the lowe...
The Search For Intimacy #657
03 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, we address some of the feedback from last week's episode about a husband losing attraction to his wife. We explore the impact of su...
My Husband Doesn’t Desire Me #656
27 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we dive into a listener's question about a lack of desire in her marriage. After working through the Our Intimate Choices workshee...
Overcome Destructive Anger | Natalie Hixon #655
20 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... Natalie Hickson joins me as she shares her mission...
How Do I Flirt With My Spouse? #654
13 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we discuss the topic of flirting in relationships. Plus, let's explore the concept of 'good naked' and 'bad naked' and how it can impact erotic ...
No-Nut November May Be Dangerous #653
06 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we discuss the Our Intimate Choices worksheet, a communication tool designed to facilitate conversations about boundaries, preferences, and comf...
Is Sex A Normal Function? #652
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Re...
Your Brain On Sex | Dr Emily Nagoski #651
22 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show ... We revisit a conversation with Dr Emily Nag...
What Money Means | Bill Nelson #650
15 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... I'm joined by Bill Nelson, a Certified Financial...
Connection Codes | Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill #649
08 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the ...
What If I Married The Wrong Person? #648
01 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Re...
Sorry Not Sorry #647
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Re...
Resentment Revisited #646
18 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone gets both versions again ... Today we revisit a conversation from the archives. I’m joined by colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we t...
Conditionally Unconditional #645
11 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Come join the conversations in the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Unlock th...
Fooling Yourself #644
04 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Unlock the Power of Intimacy - https://smr.fm/unlock In this week's episode Pam and I answer a listener's email about his trouble coming to terms wi...
Creating A Passionate Marriage #643
27 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We revisit our main framework of everything we talk about on Passionately Married. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? Ho...
Revisiting Stress and Desire | Dr Lori Brotto #642
20 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Registration is now open for the 2024 Passionately Married Getaway - smr.fm/getaway On the Regular Version ... We go back in time to revisit an episod...
Re-Storying Our Lives | Chris Bruno #641
13 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. Everyone gets the full show today ... Chris Bruno joins me today as we dive...
Marriage Warning Signs #640
06 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... In this week's episode Pam and I discuss warning s...
8 Steps Towards Great Sex #639
30 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We revisit a past segment from the archives where we dive into the idea of what is permissible in marriage and sex? This conversation is really less a...
Doing The Best You Can | Nellie Harden #638
23 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Nellie Harden joins me as we have a conversation about marriage and family life and how in the midst of this time, important things get missed or lost...
Trust Isn’t What We Think #637
16 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The 2024 Passionately Married Getaway is June 13-15, 2024. Register now. On the Regular Version ... An email from a husband who had an affair 5 years ...
Emotional Resolution | Cedric Bertelli #636
09 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I welcome Cedric Bertelli as we talk about his work with emotional resolution. We are all familiar with emotions, we all have them. But Cedric's...
Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #635
02 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
An email came in wanting our take on Dr Doug Weiss' Intimacy Anorexia concept. What exactly does this mean? Are we each capable of this? What do we do...
Men’s Sexual Wellness | Dean Pohlman #634
26 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I welcome guest Dean Pohlman, the founder of Man Flow Yoga. Dean shares his unique journey into the world of yoga, which started accidentally wi...
What Drives You? | Ellen Chute #633
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm joined today by Ellen Chute, LMSW as we talk through her metaphor of looking at family dynamics and systems ... where everyone sat in the car grow...
Attraction and Desire | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #632
12 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A regular guest joins me again today, Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, and we dive into the relational dynamic of attraction and desire. They happen to us,...
High Speed Porn | JK Emezi #631
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I'm joined today by JK Emezi, of Elevated Recovery and we have a frank conversation about high speed internet pornography. Learn more about JK here - ...
Over-Reaction To My Spouse’s Over-Reaction #630
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Pam and I get into a conversation about how we as married people can so often find ourselves over-reacting to our spouse's over-reaction. Why does thi...
Triggers | Debra Fileta #629
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Counselor and author Debra Fileta joins me today as we talk about triggers, trauma and the state of the world. Learn more about Debra and find her boo...
Divorce Is Not An Option, Or Is It? #628
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Pam and I use an email from a wife who is in a sexless marriage, going on 20 years now, and she wants to know if there is anything she can do, but div...
A Higher View | Dr Michael Sytsma #627
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Michael Sytsma joins me again as we dive into the idea of how there is something much deeper going on during sex. There is a higher view to take. L...
You Need A Tribe | Chandler and Jade Rogers #626
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Chandler and Jade Rogers join the show today as they share their story of pornography struggle, its impact on their relationship and their journey tow...
Takeaways From 30 Years Of Marriage #625
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Pam and I are looking back at what we've learned after 30 years of marriage. Come look back with us. On the Xtended Version ... A surprising...
Menopause and Hormones | Dr Kelly Casperson #624
17 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of hormones and menopause. If you are a woman - you won't want to miss this epis...
Unilateral Moves | Feedback Wednesday #623
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we answer emails from the Nation. A husband and wife will usually incorporate the use of a vibrator during their sexual encounters together. But...
Lust Management | Jay Stringer #622
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode I'm joined by Jay Stringer, a licensed mental health counselor, and we talk about the importance of facing and addressing trauma and p...
Lessons In The Sandwich Generation #621
26 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we are trying something different - this is a conversation from Pam and I while we were driving back from moving a parent into an independen...
Brave Listening | Dr Stacey Freedenthal #620
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I'm joined by Stacey Freedenthal, PhD, as we talk about the taboo topic of suicide and the importance of brave listening. Dr. Freed...
5 Minutes A Day | Dr Wyatt Fisher #619
12 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Hello, Nation! I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist and marriage counselor. In this episode, we discu...
Money And Love | Abby Davidson #618
05 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Abby Davidson joins the show as we talk about one of the more contentious topics in married life, money. What are some good ways to address this topic...
Postpartum Intimacy and Sex | Brianna Carey #617
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Brianna Carey joins me today as we discuss the common issues women face during the postpartum stage of life and marriage. To learn more about Brianna,...
Secrets of Sex and Marriage | Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma #616
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm joined by Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr Michael Sytsma as we talk through their new book, Secrets of Sex and Marriage. Based on their latest resea...
Be Difficult | Tonya Lester #615
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Tonya Lester joins me as we dive into the idea of how we should all be difficult. It's an interesting way to look at the concept of people pleasing an...
Sexual Styles #614
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
A husband has emailed us with feedback and his thoughts about Episodes #610 and #611. We go through his ideas point by point, and then land on a conve...
Conversation About Men And Women | Mark Rosenfeld #613
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
I had a fun conversation with Mark Rosendfeld, one that just started right when I hit record and simply kept going. We cover lots of aspects about men...
People Pleasers | Natalie Lue #612
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie Lue, author of The Joy Of Saying No, joins me as we dive into the trait of people pleasing. But isn't looking out for others and what they wan...
We React From Our Fear Or Pain Or Preference | Feedback Wednesday #611
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's a Feedback Wednesday again, where we answer questions from the Nation and today follow up from our episode last week. A wife emails in encouragin...
Should I Tell My Wife? | Feedback Wednesday #610
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It's Feedback Wednesday, where we answer questions from the Nation. A wife had a little issue with our Trust vs Hurt episode. She heard our take as po...
Our Bodies Tell God’s Story | Christopher West #609
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There are many times in life where we may wonder what's the meaning or story behind the things in our lives. What if there is something else going on?...
The Importance of Agency | Dr Juliana Hauser #608
25 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Juliana Hauser joins me as we dive into her work on the concept of agency. So what is agency? It's the ability to stand on your own two feet. To ma...
Passion Killers | Dr Alexandra Stockwell #607
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today I am joined by Dr Alexandra Stockwell, AKA the Intimacy Doctor, and we discuss the common passion killers in marriage and long term relationship...
How Sex Works In Our Brain | Dr Emily Nagoski #606
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today we are joined by Dr Emily Nagoski as we discuss how sex works in the brain. During the pandemic she rewrote her best selling book, Come As You A...
A Great Cake Recipe #605
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Welcome to the new digs ... Passionately Married. Today we discuss a great cake recipe .... as in a recipe for creating a great life and marriage. Wha...
Trust vs Hurt Revisited #604
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The whole show we are talking about trust and hurt ... and how there is a tremendous difference in handling these two aspects of betrayal, lies, and b...
You Are Not Broken Revisited | Dr Kelly Casperson #603
21 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today we pull a show from the vault and listen again to Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their...
How Things Have Changed | Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner #602
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm joined by Dr Clifford and Joyce Penner, pioneers in the world of Christian sex educating, coaching, teaching and help. Join us as we talk about ho...
Being Sexy and Connecting Revisited #601
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today we go into the vault. A caller wants to know if you have to believe you're sexy in order to actually be sexy. Another caller wants to know how t...
Getting In Our Spouse’s Way | Feedback Wednesday #600
30 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. Thank you to all our listeners for being part of our journey to 600 EPISODES!!!...
Your Sex Scripts Revisited | Dr Ian Kerner #599
23 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
An episode from the vault - and everyone gets the full show today. I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Ti...
Sex Scripts In Marriage | Feedback Wednesday #598
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. A husband shares his thoughts to the guy who was thinking of giving up ex in th...
Love And The Purity Culture | Dr Sean McDowell #597
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Sean McDowell joins me to talk through the impacts and influence of the purity culture on marriages and young people today. What messages about lov...
Normal Sex #596
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We receive emails and questions regularly from listeners wanting to know what is normal when it comes to sex. Everyone wants to feel like they're no...
Make Marriage A Fortress | Gary Thomas #595
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Gary Thomas joins me as we discuss his newest book, Making Marriage A Fortress. We talk through the stories of couples who have faced or are facing di...
Doing Sex Wrong | Dr Stephen Snyder #594
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex. Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong...
Delay Tactics Revisited #593
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Today is an encore of an older episode of SMR. An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the h...
The Importance of Touch | Dr Chelom Leavitt #592
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me again on the show. Today we talk about the research she has found regarding the importance of touch in our lives, and relat...
Principles of Passion and Desire #591
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Think of today's episode as a primer for everything we talk about on SMR. What are our basic frameworks when addressing life and marriage? How do we a...
Perimenopause | Dr Kelly Casperson #590
21 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Kelly Casperson joins us again as we dive into the world of women's sexual health - specifically the world of menopause and perimenopause. Let's fa...
Fantasies | Dr Justin Lehmiller #589
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surrounding fantasies and sex. On the Xtended version … Justin and I continue the conversati...
Sexual Shame and Brokenness | Jay Stringer #588
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many, if not most, of us have some sort of sexual brokenness or shame or trauma in our pasts. Today we have a conversation with Jay Stringer about his...
The Men We Need | Brant Hansen #587
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A conversation about men and what it is we really need from men in our marriages, families and societies with author Brant Hansen. How can a guy who p...
Came Home After Baby With A Different Body | Feedback Wednesday #586
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's Feedback Wednesday so we answer listener's emails and voicemails. A husband is more well-endowed than his petite wife is able to receive without ...
Sex Every Day #585
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What are the benefits of having sex every day? Are there negatives to this as well? What if it wasn't sexual intercourse every day ... but was simply ...
Nice Guys Revisited | Dr Robert Glover #584
10 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
An encore conversation with Dr Robert Glover on the topic of Nice Guys. And no, we're not meaning kind in this episode. What is the Nice Guy? How do y...
Obligation Sex | Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife #583
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone gets the full show today … A conversation with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife on the topic of obligation sex. Is it a part of every marriage?...
Trustworthiness #582
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What does trust mean? Is it a simple concept or a complicated one? What if we frame this topic under the lens of trustworthiness? That's our conversat...
Role Playing #581
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm joined today Jon and Katie Runyan, of Faithful Fling, and we dive into the world of role playing. How can it spice things up? How can a couple exp...
Testicular Cancer #580
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A husband had a testicle removed due to cancer (which was caught early). He was told by his doctor that his lib...
Retroactive Jealousy #579
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Recorded LIVE at the 2022 SMR Getaway. A caller has an issue with a statement made from a past show and left us a message asking if we would tell our ...
Encore of The Female Orgasm #578
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
An encore episode of a conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. Y...
Lets Talk About Testosterone #577
22 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
I'm joined by Dr Carole Hooven, a Harvard Lecturer, as we discuss her study and work on the science of testosterone. Why is it that this hormone is so...
Cliteracy #576
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
An encore presentation of the conversation with Dr Laurie Mintz, author of Becoming Cliterate. We talk about the orgasm gap, why it exists and what co...