Sexy Marriage Radio

Abstinence In Marriage #575

08 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A husband who has had a past struggle with porn and sex addiction is in the midst of an agreed upon abstinence period with his wife. She says it will ...

Q&A Potpourri: Consent, Oral Sex, Waiting #574

01 Jun 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Pam and I work through a potpourri of questions today .... A husband is struggling with the idea of consent in marriage, even when his wife has given ...

Best Of SMR: Awaken Female Desire #573

25 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A best of SMR episode with an email from a higher desire wife that's in a catch 22. An interview with Pam Costa about her journey and research into fe...

Not Enough #572

18 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband wanting to explore some new things during sex with his wife, yet she takes this as she's not enough for him. A husband emails ...

Feelings and Meanings #571

11 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A followup voicemail regarding episode #569 - what are some better questions and conversations starters to address difficult issues in marriage? An em...

Grace Marriage #570

04 May 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Brad and Marilyn Rhoads, co-founders of Grace Marriage. Hear us talk about their story and how it applies to most every marriage. Learn ...

Wife Is Fine With Being Fine #569

27 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A husband is stuck in a scary place in his marriage. His wife says she has no attraction towards him, at least physically. Yet she also is fine with t...

Attraction #568

20 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined today Kimberly Beam Holmes, of It Starts With Attraction, and we dive into the world of attraction. Or as she had framed it ... PIES. Learn...

Exploring Kink and BDSM #567

13 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined today by Tornus and Smartypants, of Full Circle Kink, as they take us on an exploration in the world of kink and BDSM. Communication is kin...

Respect #566

06 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A wife suffered from insomnia for a while in her marriage, and it wrecked their sex life. How do they get it back now that the insomnia is no longer t...

Even Vacation Sex Has Decreased #565

30 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A husband is frustrated because while he usually could rely on vacation sex being adventurous and frequent with his wife, something's changed with her...

Sex Scripts and Stories #564

23 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A husband wants to learn how to change up sexual encounters with his wife so the experience will last longer - but changing it up ruins it for his wif...

Higher Desire Wife #563

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today I'm joined by J Parker, of Hot Holy and Humorous, and we discuss the plight of the higher desire wife. It's more common than we think, it's impa...

Being Sexually Mindful #562

09 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Chelom Leavitt joins me as we discuss her research and work on being more sexually mindful.  You can find more about Dr Chelom here - https://www....

Orgasm Denial #561

02 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A follow up to a couple of segments from Episode #559. Was I too harsh in my wording? A couple is exploring the idea of orgasm denial - where there wi...

Domestic and Spiritual Abuse #560

23 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we dive into a topic that is sadly far too reaching in our world -  domestic and spiritual abuse. Colleen Ramser joins me in our discussion abo...

Tried It, Don’t Like It #559

16 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A follow to a message from an Instagram Q&A I was a part of over Valentine's Weekend. A wife tried out something new in sex, didn't like it, yet her h...

Roommates Not Lovers #558

09 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today, everyone gets the full show … Dr Robert Glover joins me again as we dive into the roommate syndrome often found in marriage. What are the fac...

One Flesh #557

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A followup to Episode #555 - what about the Scriptural concept of marriage is described as being one flesh? A wife emails as lower desire, yet her hus...

Finding Your Power #556

26 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Juli Slattery joins me as we talk through her decision to re-write her very first book, Finding the Hero In Your Husband.  What's new, and what ha...

It’s My Body #555

19 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a couple looking for more resources to help them explore the spiritual and tantric side of sex. A wife calls in wanting to know how t...

The Worst Advice About Porn Ever Given #554

12 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Today we hear the story of Clinton and Charity Munoz of Restored 2 More, and how pornography almost destroyed their marriage, and Clinton's life. Alon...

Birthday Favors #553

05 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … A voicemail from a listener pushing back on how we answered a wife in a prior episode. He believes she sh...

Best Of SMR: Masturbation and Expectations #552

29 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife. A caller wondering about more information about masturbation and is ...

Break Out Of A Sexual Rut #551

22 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Pam goes through a Sex Ed Quiz again. Follow along to see how you do. A wife wants to know how to best co-parent with her step-kids mom, who is now in...

Married Sex #550

15 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Gary Thomas about his newest book, Married Sex. You can learn about Gary and his work here - https://garythomas.com On the Xtended...

Great Sex Rescue #549

08 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me as we talk about her newest book, The Great Sex Rescue. Learn more about Sheila on her site https://tolovehonorandvacuum...

Arousal vs Attraction #548

01 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife who wants to know if asking questions to her husband about his past struggle with porn will increase the temptation. A voicemail ...

Best Of SMR: Too Tired For Sex #547

24 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a Rape Crisis Counselor concerned about one of our past messages of leading towards what you want in sex. How do you spice up sex whe...

If I Do This Will You Do That #546

17 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

After our segment on BDSM in Episode #541 we received a couple of emails about how we totally missed the mark are came across as judgmental. Today we ...

Dealing With Breast Cancer #545

10 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Dr Laurie Watson and we talk about how breast cancer impacts a couple's  married life, sex life and desire - plus the journey for both ...

Resentment #544

03 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today I'm joined by a colleague Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and we talk about the marriages where everything seems to be great - except in one area. Wh...

Not Feeling Chosen #543

27 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Two emails from wives who do not feel chosen in their marriages. One wife has trouble trusting because of this and past betrayals from her husband. Th...

You Are Not Broken #542

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Kelly Casperson, MD as we discuss the limiting beliefs many people have when it comes to their bodies and their abilities in sex and lif...

Secrets Of Great Sex #541

13 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we are celebrating SMR's 10 year anniversary!!! On the Regular version of today's show ... Some thank you's are in order as we have been on ...

Sex As An Idol #540

06 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Can sex be an idol. How would you know? A dating couple want to know more about what options are there for birth control as they prepare for the marri...

Can’t Turn My Mind Off #539

29 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Dr Emily Jamea as we discuss the distracted mind, or put another way - how to address the times when you can't turn off you mind. Learn ...

All Things Are Permissible #538

22 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A wife gets turned off when her husband wants to do some novel things in their sex life. How can she address him and the situations better? A husband ...

When The Low Desire Initiates #537

15 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Adding music to your sex life in marriage. Join the conversation at my.smr.fm. A husband is in a 2 year stretch of sexlessness. How can he get his wif...

Not Attracted To My Spouse #536

08 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There is a cure for ticklishness. Plus this same cure works to create deeper erotic connections! Two newlywed couples email us about issues they are h...

Fantasies of a Third #535

01 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A military wife wants to know how to encourage her husband to be interested in more romantic sex, oh, and she's the higher desire for all the other ki...

Are Women More Sexual Than Men? #534

25 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A follow up from an email on last week's show. A newlywed asks for tips to help prepare or avoid the issues that he hears other couples inevitably fac...

Too Quick Too Slow #533

18 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A husband takes too long to orgasm during oral sex, and too quick during PV sex.  A wife wants help understanding how to help her husband address the...

Consent #532

11 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Announcing that registration for the 2022 SMR Getaway is open now ... come join us in downtown Indianapolis! Learn more and register here.  A follow ...

Best Of SMR: Missionary Position and Love Languages #531

04 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A look back at one of our favorite episodes according to the Nation. Two voicemails with some additional ideas to explore from a prior email from a hu...

Delay Tactics #530

28 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband wondering why many marriage resources out there take the stance of it's the husbands fault. A husband emails wanting to know i...

Crossdressing #529

21 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a member of the Nation adding to the conversation about how a HD Spouse can approach their LD Spouse better on the topic of sex. A wife ...

Wife Won’t Let Husband Masturbate #528

14 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife whose husband says that if she would let him masturbate or look at porn he would be more interested in sex with her and would be ...

Rapid Fire with Longer Answers #527

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We recorded an extended rapid fire episode while at the SMR Getaway, only this time we go more in depth with the answers. On the Xtended version ... P...

Found My Husband’s Dildo #526

30 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife who feels stuck between faking it during sex or withholding and wants to know the best Biblical way to approach this in her marri...

Best Of SMR: Oral Sex and Gagging #525

23 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife who gets nauseous and gags at the thought of her husband ejaculating into her mouth – yet he would really like to experience th...

Best Of SMR: Low Desire Wife #524

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A past episode with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about the Higher Desire/Lower Desire dynamic. Specifically about how this often plays out for the lower...

Touch and Massage #523

09 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Denis Merkas of MELT: Couples Massage about how touch is so important in life and marriage. Take advantage of the first sale in 2 ...

Hostage Taking #522

02 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a newly-married wife who is interested in sex more in the evening while her husband in interested in the mornings. Plus, he masturbates ...

Rapid Fire: Newlywed, Oral, Talking and More #521

26 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we try go rapid fire again and still don't get to all the questions submitted via Instagram. Want to follow us there? Please do: @sexymarriagera...

No Sex Allowed #520

19 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a husband about their therapist's advice that the should not have sex for the next 4 months. A husband emails about how his wife will...

Dominant or Submissive #519

12 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife who really wants her husband to explore and lead as a Dominant role in their sex life, although he is more of a Submissive. On th...

Telehealth Help and Desire Differences #518

05 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you find a therapist or marriage coach in the age of telehealth? You can work with Dr Allan - for more info click here. Guides mentioned in the...

Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex #517

28 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone get the full show today. I'm joined by Dr Ian Kerner as we discuss his new book So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex. To learn more abo...

Rapid Fire Q&A #516

21 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Today we try something different. We cover lots of questions in rapid-fire style. All questions were submitted via Instagram. Want to follow us there?...

Optimal Sexual Experiences #515

14 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Dr Emily Jamea and we discuss her work on helping couples experience optimal levels of sex in their marriage.  To learn more about Emil...

Lust #514

07 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband curious about all the penile enlargement and performance products promoted today. A wife who has experienced pain in the begin...

Edging #513

31 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Bouncing your eyes is one way to avoid the temptations around us, but what about steering your energy as well? An email from a husband who is wonderin...

Snoring #512

24 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A peek behind the curtain into how Pam and I address the issue of snoring, and the messages built into our moves. An email from a husband who is the h...

Moments of Meeting #511

17 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How does a husband help his wife be more confident, while also helping his teenage daughter be less confident?  A husband is confident at work, yet s...

We Aren’t Good Kissers #510

10 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a wife who wants to connect better with her husband through kissing, but they have trouble doing so. An email about the connection be...

My Own Taste #509

03 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a higher desire husband looking to not take the rejections so personal from his lower desire wife.  A husband wants to go down on his w...

Three Types Of Sex #508

24 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Irene Fehr and we have a conversation about the three types of sex she believe all couples experience in marriage. To learn more about I...

Next Wisest Step #507

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Please check out the SMRNation Community at my.smr.fm Pam and I have a coffee shop conversation about when you're faced with choices where there reall...

Fantasies About A Wife’s Past #506

10 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A listener joins me on the air to work through why he fantasizes  so much about his wife's past sexual encounters. On the Xtended version ... We cont...

Allergic to Sex #505

03 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a couple who wonder if allergens can be passed through semen and what are steps to take to prevent this from affecting his wife. Another...

Rather Leave than Cheat #504

27 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A husband feels so stuck in a marriage with really lousy sex that's he's thinking of leaving because he's afraid he'll cheat. Another husband emails a...

Lazy Lover #503

20 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a husband with three questions about his marriage. An email from a newer into marriage couple asking for resources to help spice thin...

Purity Movements #502

13 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the 2021 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway is now open. Click here to learn more.  An email from a husband who married a woman who was mar...

Self Exploration #501

06 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we enter into 2021 - what are your 3 Words to help shape your year? An email from a husband, on behalf of his wife, asking about how to venture int...

Let’s Celebrate 500 Episodes #500

30 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Several members of the SMR Nation join Pam and I as we celebrate 500 episodes. Come enjoy the party! On the Xtended version ... What have we learned f...

Simple Dailies #499

23 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A wife emails us to point out that we have missed the boat when it comes to husbands letting themselves go physically and how that impacts sex. An ema...

Doing It Wrong? #498

16 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Stephen Snyder joins me again to talk about all things sex. Namely, what if we're doing it all wrong? To learn more about Dr Snyder check out his s...

Being Dangerous #497

09 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Tripp Lanier, the host of The New Man Podcast, joins me today to talk about how playing it safe in life will dampen, if not destroy passion and energy...

Complaint or Request #496

02 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Pam and I have a Coffee Shop Conversation about the question: How often are complaints by your spouse heard as a request? An email from a husband who ...

Loneliness #495

25 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr J.W. Freiberg, "Terry", joins me to discuss the epidemic of loneliness. It is a far too common issue and has negative results on our health and lif...

Don’t Be Ilcliterate #494

18 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Laurie Mintz joins me again to discuss the route to female orgasms as well as their importance. Learn more about Laurie here https://www.drlauriemi...

The Dad Edge #493

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Larry Hagner from Dad Edge Podcast joins me to discuss to role and importance men play in fatherhood, marriage and the world. Hear more from Larry her...

When Was The Last Time… #492

04 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We go through a marriage quiz to see how well we are handling the romantic side of our marriage. An email from a wife who is growing in self-confidenc...

I Only Orgasm In My Sleep #491

28 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you spend money like a Millennial? An email from a wife who experiences orgasms only in her sleep, and is also married to a narcissist. On the Xten...

Filming Sex #490

21 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a listener asking for our thoughts on if it's okay for her and her husband to film one of their sexual encounters. An email from a husba...

Intimacy With Ease #489

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today's show ... Jessa Zimmerman joins me today to let the SMRNation know about our free webinar - How To Help Your Partner ...

Mental Illness and Marriage #488

07 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Erin Ramachandran, who along with her husband have founded Mental Health Strong. A resource aimed to help married couples when one...

Are We All Liars? #487

30 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A husband who has struggled with his weight all his life emails to tell us about how his wife has told him she is not attracted to him physically and ...

Indecisiveness #486

23 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A caller asking how she can help her husband's performance anxiety issue. An email from a husband asking about the difference between telling your spo...

Discernment Counseling #485

16 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Marni Feuerman joins me as we discuss the times when couples may need discernment counseling. What is it and how does it work? Learn more about Dr ...

I Still Feel Guilt and Shame #484

09 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a listener concerned about some of the guests we have on our show and the fact that their values may go against the values of SMR. A fol...

Sexual Dysfunction #483

02 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Amy Killen joins me to discuss several of the myths that people face when it comes to aging and sex and sexual dysfunctions. Learn more about Dr Am...

Swallowing #482

26 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a wife who doesn't want to swallow, even when her husband is using the line "If you love me you'd be willing to do this." An email fr...

The Change Triangle #481

19 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Today Hilary Jacobs Hendel joins me to talk about her book It's Not Always Depression, and the Change Triangle. You can learn more about Hilary on her...

Intimately Us #480

12 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We are excited to announce a brand new resource aimed to help make your marriage fun and sexy ... Intimately Us You can find the App in the App Stores...

Everything Isn’t Terrible #479

05 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Kathleen Smith and I discuss her book, Everything Isn't Terrible, and how appropriate it is for our lives here in 2020. Learn more about Kathleen o...

Power Plays #478

29 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a wife looking to keep the connection and intimacy with her husband, who had a stroke 17 years ago.  A follow up email from a listen...

Sex Is Only On My Spouse’s Terms #477

22 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a wife whose husband regularly views porn and when confronted replies with "I have needs." A husband emails in asking our thoughts about...

31 Days To Great Sex #476

15 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Sheila Wray Gregoire joins me to discuss her new book 31 Ways To Great Sex, available now. Check out more of Sheila's work here - https://tolovehonora...