Sexy Marriage Radio

Intention or Action #475

08 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation based on two emails from listeners who are each struggling to understand and navigate a big gap in desire between themselves and their ...

Fantasies, Tell Me What You Want #474

01 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Justin Lehmiller joins me to talk about his research surround fantasies and sex. On the Xtended version ... Justin and I continue the conversation ...

Mutual Masturbation #473

24 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today's show ... An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating togethe...

Your Marriage Story #472

17 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband who loses his erection when the direct stimulation stops.  A wife wanting to know if there are dangers to porn use in their m...

Simultaneous Orgasms #471

10 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

On the regular version ... An email from a husband whose wife believes if they can't orgasm together at the same time then there must be something wro...

Securely Attach Your Genitals #470

03 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A voicemail from a wife wanting to increase the erogenous zones on her body. An email from a wife whose husband only touches her when he wants sex, us...

Stress Proof Your Brain #469

27 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Melanie Greenberg joins me to talk about her research surround the brain and stress. Read more from Melanie on her site - https://drmelaniegreenber...

Wife Is Not Sexually Attracted To Me #468

20 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband asking for ideas on how he show more appreciation to his wife for her supporting him in some stressful times.  A wife wants t...

Girls and Boys and Sex #467

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Peggy Orenstein joins me to talk about her research surround the messages girls and boys are experiencing and have experienced with the subject of sex...

Perfectionism #466

06 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Margaret Rutherford joins me to tackle perfectionism and how it can actually be something that is covering up depression.  Learn more from Dr Ruth...

Simple But Difficult #465

29 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband asking about sex during pregnancy and how they can stay connected and intimate. A husband is wondering how he can handle rejec...

Cherish #464

22 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Gary Thomas joins me again to discuss the idea of cherishing your spouse. Listen to hear how this idea transformed his marriage and sex life. You can ...

Sex For Emotional Attachment #463

15 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins me to answer an email from a wife who thinks she may be using sex as a form of emotional attachment and it possibly i...

Healthy Hedonism #462

08 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Dr Nan Wise about her work in the field of sex and sexuality - specifically about the importance of pleasure in life. You can find...

Quarantine Sex #461

01 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the stress and issues couples will face in their sex lives during times of quarantine...

Marriage in the Time of Quarantine #460

25 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

With almost a fifth of the world's population in quarantine or distancing for the next couple of weeks, how do you navigate married life better? On th...

Stress and Sexual Desire #459

18 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Lori Brotto joins me to discuss how stress impacts life and sex. Specifically sexual desire. Learn more about Dr Brotto on her website - www.debunk...

Spouse Won’t Try Anything New #458

11 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Dr Laura Dabney joins me to answer a couple of questions from the SMR Nation. A husband asks for help in getting his wife to be willing to try new thi...

Too Easy For Your Spouse? #457

04 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation about slowing down in life and marriage. A question from a husband asking for help with a position they both enjoy but want it to last ...

Responsive Desire #456

26 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Dr Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, about all things sex. What's normal? What about responsive desire? Context is king? C...

Question Potpourri #455

19 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A question from a wife about a condition her husband has called phimosis and how this impacts their sex life.  Another wife wants to know how to get ...

The Female Orgasm #454

12 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Vanessa Marin, a fellow sex therapist, about the most common issues couples face in their sex lives today. You can find more about...

Daily Self Touching #453

05 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A husband calls in asking for our thoughts about his wife's habit of touching herself most every morning and night. A newly-wed wife calls wanting hel...

Labels, Disabilities and Meanings #452

29 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A husband asks for our thought regarding a better term to use when referring to a specific part of his wife's body. An email from a spouse asking for ...

Fantasies, Threesomes and Anxiety #451

22 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A couple of emails about fantasies ... from threesomes to aggressive sex almost like rape. Are these common? What do they mean? On the Xtended version...

Anal Sex #450

15 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A couple of emails on the topic of Anal Sex. What do you do when one spouse is unwilling to try it? And what are some tips for those who are willing t...

ADHD and Marriage #449

08 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

I'm joined by Melissa Orlov, of ADHD Marriage and we discuss how ADHD impacts life and relationships. Read more from Melissa on her site here - https:...

Role Playing #448

01 Jan 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to 2020. Join us as we go through our 3 words for the year. What are yours? An email from a listener wondering how to get his wife more comfor...

Best Of SMR: Three Kinds of Sex #447

25 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A look back in the SMR archives at one of the most popular shows to date. Birthday sex, shower sex, oral sex. On the Xtended version ... The importanc...

Foreplay For Foreplay #446

18 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Jessa Zimmerman joins me to answer an email from listeners who say they have a great marriage but real struggle in their sex life. A conversation abou...

When To Walk Away #445

11 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

As a gift from us to you this Holiday Season both versions of today's episode are free. Today we are joined by author Gary Thomas as he discusses his...

Holiday Movies and Vaginas #444

04 Dec 2019

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a husband concerned about how the Holiday Hallmark movies impact his wife and their marriage. Plus a husband seeks our help in understan...

Reading List #443

27 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A sex ed quiz for my wife and co-host, Pam. An email from a listener asking for a reading list to help him not only in the counseling world but also i...

Not Always In The Mood #442

20 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Dr Sarah Hunter Murray, a therapist who has a new book exploring the science of men, sex and relationships. Check out her work and...

Help My Parents and Confronting Desire Differences #441

13 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a listener about how to bring up the idea that his parents need counseling. Plus a 2 part email from a higher desire wife who wants help...

Selfish and Needy #440

06 Nov 2019

Contributed by Lukas

A conversation with Dr Laura Dabney, a Psychiatrist who works with clients by helping the deal with emotions better - especially the emotions we've of...

We’ve Had This Fight Before #439

30 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … A conversation with Dr Claudia Grauf-Grounds about her research and work around the subject of conflict a...

Sensate Focus #438

23 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … An email from a listener who wishes we would have addressed the “you complete me” line differently in...

The Lower Desire Wife #437

16 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Dr Jennifer Findlayson-Fife, a fellow therapist and we discuss the dynamic of desire diff...

Metaphors and Sex Therapy #436

09 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Deb Thomas, a fellow LMFT and Sex Therapist and we discuss how metaphors can be helpful w...

Abuse In Marriage #435

02 Oct 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On the Regular version of today’s show … I’m joined by Dr Steven Stosny as we discuss how abuse happens in marriage and relationships – and ho...

Trust and Hurt #434

25 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s show … We’ve combined the Regular and the XTD versions into one show – this week only. The whole show we are talking about trust an...

Arousal and Desire #433

18 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … My wife Pam is tested on her knowledge with a 10 Question Sex Quiz And an email from a husband looking fo...

Sex and the Enneagram #432

11 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A conversation with Ann Gadd, author of Sex and the Enneagram. You can learn more about Ann by visiting h...

The Challenges of Intimacy #431

04 Sep 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A conversation with Jeff Abraham, the CEO of Promescent, and how to create intimacy in marriage by being ...

The F Word #430

28 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from listeners asking for our take on the use of the “f” word in married life and sex. A voi...

Darker Fantasies #429

21 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband emails looking for help for he and his wife regarding the fantasies she often turns to for sexu...

Spilled Milk and Differences #428

14 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband emails to share his journey to getting his wife on board to talking more about sex and wonders ...

Being There For You #427

07 Aug 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a wife who has repeated attempted to educate her husband about how she wants sex to unfold,...

Reframing and the Orgasm Gap #426

31 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A couple of voicemails from members of the SMR Nation sharing some reframes of topics we’ve previously ...

Testing Solidness #425

24 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … How well do you do at showing the people that matter in your life that they matter? I’m joined by Dr. R...

Trusting After Porn #424

17 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A wife calls in wa...

Wife Wants Variety #423

10 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A wife calls in wa...

One Sided Sex In Marriage #422

03 Jul 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a li...

Lasting Longer and Squirting #421

26 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

The following episode was recorded live while at the 2019 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! On today’s regular version of the show … A husband calls in...

Something Worth Wanting #420

19 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband looking for more information on how to present something worth wanting. A wife wanting to know ...

Boundaries #419

12 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A husband is looking for how to add more variety to his sex life when his wife has fear of pain during se...

Masturbation and Massage #418

05 Jun 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … Two different questions about masturbation. What if it could be reframed as a path forward and what about...

Accelerators and Brakes #417

29 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … We don’t french kiss anymore. How can I get it started again in my marriage? Plus we’re joined by Set...

Premature Ejaculation #416

22 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … How do I help my spouse believe they are attractive when it’s not what they believe about themself? Plu...

Is Sex Addiction Real? #415

15 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … Several voicemails about the pressures that are felt in married life. From changes to sex to foreplay. On...

What Is Normal #414

08 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … Several voicemails from the SMR Nation ranging from how does a wife better handle her husband’s struggl...

State of the Union #413

01 May 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … What do you do when your husband goes straight for the genitalia in foreplay? A caller asking for more in...

Masturbation and Expectations #412

24 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … An email from a husband wanting more than just functional/duty sex with his wife. A caller wondering abou...

Talking #411

17 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A couple of voicemails from members of the Sexy Marriage Nation asking for help in the conversations that...

It Takes One To Tango #410

10 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Tastes and Not Going to Happen #409

03 Apr 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Spectrum Relationships and Giving vs Giving In #408

27 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Oral Sex and Gagging #407

20 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Confidence #406

13 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 5 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular vers...

Hold Onto Yourself #405

06 Mar 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 10 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular ver...

Cruelty In Marriage #404

27 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Less than 10 spots available. Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular ver...

Missionary Position and Love Languages #403

20 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Two voice...

Healing From Betrayal #402

13 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An email ...

Sex As A Weapon #401

06 Feb 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Celebrating 400 Episodes #400

30 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! WE ARE ALMOST FULL!!! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of ...

Saying Yes #399

23 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience s...

Desire Differences and Communication #398

16 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience s...

Repeated Betrayals and Power #397

09 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience s...

Too Tired For Sex #396

02 Jan 2019

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audience s...

More Wine? #395

26 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Help us out by taking this short survey … Audien...

Faking It #394

19 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … A wif...

Clitoral Orgasms #393

12 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … We ad...

Awaken Female Desire #392

05 Dec 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … An em...

Being Sexy and Connecting #391

28 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … Do yo...

Power and Sexlessness #390

21 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 On today’s regular version of the show … A cou...

Getaway and Masturbation #389

14 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … Registration for the Sexy Marriage Getaway 2019 is now open! Click here to join us June 20-23, 2019 Plus ...

When Sex Seems Like Work #388

07 Nov 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … A lengthy conversation with Jessa Zimmerman about how sex can be a lot of work, as well as some discussio...

Not Sexually Attracted To My Husband #387

31 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … How to break the negative interaction cycles that can happen in marriage. Plus a conversation with a marr...

Masculine and Feminine Energy #386

24 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … More conversation about what do you do when trust is broken in marriage based on a callers response to a ...

Sexual Attraction and Fantasy with Dr. Julie Slattery #385

17 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s regular version of the show … What do you do if you find you’re not sexually attracted to your spouse? We have emails from both gende...

Seven Year Itch #384

10 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

SEXY MARRIAGE RADIO TURNS SEVEN THIS WEEK!!!! On today’s regular version of the show … A man calls in who was able to shut down desire and arousal...

Marriage Grows You Up With Dr Corey Allan #383

04 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Marriage is mostly on the job training. And there’s a purpose for the relationship that not enough people are talking about. Marriage is designed to...

Repeated Betrayals and The Wife Is The Higher Desire #382

01 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A caller asks us for help in understanding why he would seek attention elsewhere when his marriage is really good. And a wife calls trying to understa...

Sex After 50 With Laurie Betito #381

27 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Aging impacts us all. It’s inescapable. But that doesn’t mean sex is over or even fades. Dr. Laurie Betito joins me today to discuss ways to keep ...

Unilateral Marriages #380

24 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What do you do when you find yourself stuck against a stone wall in marriage? And that wall is your spouse and their unwillingness or disinterest in p...

Puppy Dogs and Pussy Cats With Sheri Winston #379

20 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are differences between men and women. These differences can sometimes cause some issues in marriage. What if the differences can be captured wi...

Emptiness vs Fullness #378

17 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A member of the SM Nation adds to the conversation regarding the optimum penis size. Is there a Sexy Marriage Diet? Translation, foods that will aid y...

Marriage Roundtable: Breaking Free of Ruts #377

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Life has ruts and routine. So do relationships, families and marriages. So how do you break out of these ruts? And when should you? That’s what we d...

Someone Has To Lead #376

10 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Hear several callers each wanting assistance with how to approach rejection, engagement from their spouse during sex, and how to handle being the High...