Sexy Marriage Radio

Someone Has To Lead #376

10 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Hear several callers each wanting assistance with how to approach rejection, engagement from their spouse during sex, and how to handle being the High...

The Ultimate Intimacy App #375

06 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We continue on the topic of intimacy today. Although we also add in some technology. The Ultimate Intimacy App is a fantastic resource for marriage an...

Tastes, Body Is Not My Own, More Foreplay #374

03 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today we cover several different topics as well as a follow-up from last week’s show. What can help change the taste of my semen? A husband and wife...

Deeper Intimacy With Steven Ing #373

30 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy. The word can mean so many different things. Steven Ing joins me today as we discuss what does intimacy mean, and how do we create a deeper l...

Semen, Breasts and Fantasy #372

27 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today is another potpourri show as well as a couple of follow-ups from last week’s show. A wife emails us for help in how to better handle her react...

Broken Trust #371

23 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Unfortunately everyone is likely going to face the topic of today’s show. Betrayal, deception and the pain it creates in relationships are far too c...

Honesty, Ickiness and Waited Now Terrified #370

20 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today is a potpourri show where we cover three different emails. How do you tell a spouse the truth when they ask you “Was it good for you?” Some ...

Better Sex Through Mindfulness With Lori Brotto #369

16 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many shows and books and articles aimed at helping you achieve better sex. Sexy Marriage Radio exists to try and help as well. And throughou...

Negotiation In Marriage #368

13 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Negotiation can be a part of business. Even part of relationships. But what if it’s actually part of the growth process in life and marriage? Enjoy ...

Sex, God and Church With Tina Schermer Sellers #367

09 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Why is there so much shame surrounding sex and sexuality? Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers joins me today as we discuss her research and work around this sub...

Toys, Erotica and Fantasies #366

06 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We have discussed the use of toys and fantasy in the past, but this time we venture into the topics a little differently, and also address the world o...

Love Worth Making With Stephen Snyder #365

02 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Stephen Snyder joins me today as we discuss what can make sex in a long lasting marriage fantastic. Enjoy the show! You can find Dr Snyder’s boo...

Living In Community With Others – #364

30 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all live among other people – but how deep are we really in a community of others? There’s tremendous benefit to living life on a deeper level ...

Good Girls And Sex With Sheila Wray Gregoire #363

26 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many women who grew up thinking sex was something bad, and they’ve carried this belief into adulthood and marriage. Today Sheila Wray Greg...

When One Spouse Is Too Busy #362

23 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all live busy lives. Perhaps too busy. But what happens when one spouse is just too busy for what they say they want in marriage? That’s where we...

Spirituality and Sexuality With Chuck MacKnee #361

19 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a link between spirituality and sexuality? Can that link be greater than we think? Dr Chuck MacKnee joins me on today’s episode as we discu...

When Roles Reverse #360

16 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are roles each spouses play in marriage and family life. What happens when the traditional roles you play get reversed? That’s where we go tod...

Grief and Sex With Elise Thompson #359

12 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Grief is a reality of life. And when one or both spouses are directly impacted by loss it can affect the marriage in several ways. My colleague Elise ...

Teaching Intimacy To Your Kids #358

09 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We are big proponents of teaching our children about sex. But an emailer asks us how do you teach them about intimacy? That’s what we discuss today ...

Seeking Your Pleasure In Sex With J Parker #357

05 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode I’m joined by J. Parker or Hot, Holy, Humorous – a blogger, podcaster and author who leads the conversation about how wives s...

Wedding Vows, Sex Vows and Erotic Vows #356

02 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone is likely familiar with the idea of wedding vows. The commitments we make to our spouse regarding our life we’re beginning together. But wh...

How To Awaken Desire #355

28 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode I’m joined by Laurie Watson, a LMFT, Sex therapist and author who leads the conversation about how to create desire in marriage...

When The Dynamics Of Sex Are Unfair #354

25 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many things about life that may seem fair, or unfair. What about the dynamics of sex that may not seem fair? That’s what we discuss today ...

Simplicity, Habits and Marriage #353

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode I’m joined by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits. He and I discuss how his journey of simplicity and habits has impacted his life, marri...

Conditions and Imbalance in Marriage #352

18 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today we cover a couple of emails from the Sexy Marriage Nation. Are there conditions in marriage? And love? How do you address major unbalances in ma...

More Love, Less Conflict #351

14 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

On today’s episode I’m joined by Johnathan Robinson, a psychotherapist and a professional speaker who leads our conversation about how to create m...

Libido and Oxytocin #350

11 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many times we receive an email about how a spouse has no, or low libido. This will impact the relationship and their life, but is their base...

Becoming Cliterate #349

07 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today the Sexy Marriage Nation hears from Dr. Laurie Mintz, a professor at the University of Florida and a Licensed Psychologist. Her new book is the ...

Our Journey Of 25 Years #348

04 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We celebrated 25 years of marriage last week! Join us as Pam and I discuss some of how our 25 years of marriage together have impacted us, and how Sex...

Menopause and Marriage #347

31 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today’s show is a continuation of the menopause discussion. This week Dr. Carol Peters-Tanksley joins me to explore the subject from her view as an ...

Masturbation In Married Life #346

28 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today my wife Pam and I follow from last week’s episode on sex toys in marriage. This time we discuss more about the use of toys but land more in th...

Menopause and Hormones #345

24 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

One topic has shown up a lot recently in the Inbox of [email protected] is how to address menopause and hormones. Well today I have Nanc...

When Sex Toys Feel Like A Threat #344

21 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Sex toys are great! Or they’re a threat! Join us as Pam and I discuss the history of vibrators and answer a couple of emails about confidence and se...

Marriage Roundtable: Best and Worst Marriage Advice #343

17 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Our first ever Marriage Roundtable! Today Pam and I are joined by Caleb and Verlynda Simonyi-Gindele of Only You Forever and Seth and Melanie Studley ...

Talking About Sex With The One You Have It With #342

14 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Talking about sex is an important aspect of marital, and sexual satisfaction in life. But it is also a difficult conversation for some to being, get t...

Communication of Desire #341

10 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Communication is a big deal in life, and marriage. Everything we do (and don’t do) communicates. So how does this all play out when it comes to our ...

Welcome to Sexy Marriage Radio 3.0 #340

07 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

WELCOME to SMR 3.0!!!!! And yes, it’s Monday and there’s a new episode. Why? You may ask. Listen to the show to hear all about the new things happ...

SMR#339: Sexually Confident Husband

02 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle a couple of emails following up the Pain During Intercourse Episode and then cover a voicemail on the idea of regaining your sexual co...

SMR#338: Sexual Compatibility

25 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What exactly does it mean to be compatible? Specifically sexually compatible? That’s what we explore today. __________ Sponsor: This episode is spon...

SMR#337: Authenticity and Saying No

18 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today we have a couple of calls – one with a great idea to spice up your TV watching and other asking how do you be authentic in your life while str...

SMR#336: Pain During Intercourse

11 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are times when sex is not pleasurable at all. In fact there are women who experience pain during sex. Today I’m joined by a colleague, Debby W...

SMR#335: A Sexual Moratorium

04 Apr 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Perhaps you’ve heard of this idea, or not. What would happen in your marriage if you took an extended, purposeful break from sex in your marriage? I...

SMR#334: Defensiveness In Sex

28 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today my first co-host of Sexy Marriage Radio joins me on the air. Gina Parris and I discuss the differences between higher and lower desire in sex th...

SMR#333: The Energy Differences Can Create

21 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many differences between spouses in marriage. Higher vs Lower Desire. Initiating vs Responding. Connecting to be interested in sex vs sex to...

SMR#332: Initiate, Responding and Triggers

14 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Today my wife Pam and I cover a couple of related topics … What does a husband do when his wife doesn’t initiate sex? And an email from a listener...

SMR#331: Looking Back And Forward

07 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Join us for Shannon’s farewell episode as we look back on our journey together on the show – and a brief look forward towards what is yet to come....

SMR#330: Priming the Pump

28 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

There are many times when one spouse wants the other to change something, stop something or start something. Losing weight, better diet, more initiati...

SMR#329: Mindsets Toward Sex

21 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever looked at the mindset you have towards your sex life? That’s what we explore in this episode. Plus, there’s an important announcemen...

SMR#328: I Want You To Want Me

14 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a common human desire to feel wanted. But what most often keeps us from feeling this way in marriage? Enjoy the show. __________ Sponsor: This ...

SMR#327: Past Used Against You

07 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when your past (or a fantasy you’ve shared) is used against you by your spouse? Shannon is back to help me explore. Enjoy the show. ___...

SMR#326: Positive Emotional Tension

31 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dr. Robert Glover joins me again as we discuss the idea of creating positive emotional tension in married life. Check out more of his work at https://...

SMR#325: Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway and Initiation

24 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Announcing the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway 2018! June 21-24 at the Marriott Solana in Westlake, TX (just north of DFW Airport). This is our fourth ann...

SMR#324: Birthday Sex, Shower Sex, Oral Sex

17 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Emails from listeners … I’m fascinated by the differences between higher and lower desires – particularly about Birthday Sex. A discussion about...

SMR#323: Lingerie For Your Bed

10 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

This month we have a new sponsor for SMR – Naked Bed ~ A Sensual Sheet® designed to help you let go and experience more in your intimate moments in...

SMR#322: Kids and Money in Married Life

03 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Voicemails from two listeners … What are some tips to help recapture married life and sex before kids? How can we approach money in our married life...

SMR#321: Helpful Tips For Married Life

27 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Email from a listener … What are some things you’d recommend for young married couples (or every couple) since you’re wife is on air with you no...

SMR#320: Longing vs Lusting, Holiday Sex

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Voicemail and email from listeners today … What is the difference between longing vs lusting? (@ 2:30 mark) Tips for sex over the Holidays, especial...

SMR#319: Rebuilding and Keeping A Deeper Connection

13 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Voicemails from listeners today … What can you do to establish a deeper connection after discovery of pornography use? And a caller who is intereste...

SMR#318: Sex After Pregnancy and Being The Higher Desire

06 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Voicemails from a couple of listeners today … How do you get back to normal sex after pregnancy? How do you deal with being the higher desire when y...

SMR#317: Great Married Sex, Feeling Cherished, Intergenerational Nice Guy

29 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle several emails from our listeners … What makes married sex so great? How to feel cherished and loved. Breaking the intergenerational...

SMR#316: Animals in bed, No kissing, Accepting compliments

22 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today we tackle several emails from our listeners … Animals in bed. No kissing in the marriage, even during sex. My spouse will not accept my compli...

SMR#315: After The Discovery of Spouse’s Porn Usage

15 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve covered the topic of pornography on several past shows, but not quite in this way. What do you do after you discover your spouse’s porn usag...

SMR#314: Marriage Undone Then Redone

08 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Today I’m joined by Tray and Melody Lovvorn of Undone Redone, a podcast and ministry willing to wade into the messiness of life and marriage. Listen...

SMR#313: Marriage Maintenance

01 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Maintenance is a known requirement when it comes to our cars, homes, and other things we own. But what about our relationships? Especially our marriag...

SMR#312: The Nice Guy

25 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

I’ve talked about the idea of the Nice Guy before on Sexy Marriage Radio, today I’m joined by a friend and mentor of mine Dr. Robert Glover. He’...

SMR#311: Vanilla Fantasies

18 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are people and couples who may not have fantasies, or if they do they are very vanilla. So what do you do if this is you, or you’re married to...

SMR#310: The Silence Is Killing Me, Part 2

11 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In case you missed the beginning of our discussion on this idea, check it out here. Today we continue with some practical ways you can confront the si...

SMR#309: The Silence Is Killing Me

04 Oct 2017

Contributed by Lukas

An email from a listener helps set the stage for this episode. One answer to the conflict we have in marriage surrounding sex could be one thing, but ...

SMR#308: Listener Emails – The D Word, Spouse Is My Anything, Oral Sex

27 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Listener driven radio happens this week. We cover emails about The D Word, can my spouse be my anything, and oral sex. Enjoy the show. __________ Got ...

SMR#307: I Do Not Know What I Want

20 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are times in life, sometimes many times, when we may not know what I want. What do I do when this happens in my sex life? That’s what we discu...

SMR#306: Sex and Infertility

13 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are many couples who struggle with infertility issues. But what makes this struggle even greater is the way this struggle impacts the marriage’...

SMR#305: Can Marriage Be Solved?

06 Sep 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are many times when we fall victim to the belief that marriage is an issue that can be solved. That’s what we discuss this week. Enjoy the sho...

SMR#304: My Spouse Is My Everything

30 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Far too often we have placed unrealistic expectations and requirements on marriage and our spouse. What has been the fall out from this pressure? That...

SMR#303: Redefining A Stud

23 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There are many definitions of a stud (not talking about building materials). So how do you define what makes a stud? Or makes someone sexy? That’s w...

SMR#302: Handling Regrets in Marriage

16 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Regret is something humans face in many facets of life and relationship. But how do we handle regret better in marriage? That’s what we discuss this...

SMR#301: Abstinence and Married Life Follow Up

09 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Several episodes ago we talked about the abstinence movement and its impact on married life. This show resulted in lots of emails from our listeners. ...

SMR#300: Episode 300!

02 Aug 2017

Contributed by Lukas

EPISODE 300!!!! What a great milestone. Listen as we celebrate this accomplishment – live from the 2017 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway. Enjoy the show....

SMR#299: Overreacting To Triggers

26 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Overreactions run rampant in marriage. And it can cause quite a bit of trouble in like. So how do you get better hold of overreactions to triggers in ...

SMR#298: Self-Soothing

19 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

One of the main ideas that will help grow us up is our ability to learn how to self-soothe. What exactly does this look like? That’s what we discuss...

SMR#297: Men Can Also Be Crock-Pots

12 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It has been said that women are like crock-pots and men are like microwaves. But what if men are like crock-pots as well? That’s what we discuss thi...

SMR#296: Abstinence and Married Sex

05 Jul 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Many listeners may have been raised with an abstinence message when it came to sex before marriage. While this message is important – it can also ha...

SMR#295: Antidepressants and Sex

28 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

One theme in our Inbox keeps being repeated, how medications for depression, anxiety and the like impact sex life in marriage. It can be a real issue....

SMR#294: Power of the Third Follow Up

21 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 292 we interviewed a listener and his struggle with the power of the third in his marriage. Based on feedback from several listeners, this ...

SMR#293: He Comes First

14 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We have scripts that we follow in married sex. One of the most common would be she comes first. What if he comes first? Enjoy the show. __________ Got...

SMR#292: The Power of The Third

07 Jun 2017

Contributed by Lukas

One thought we have talked about is this idea of “the power of the third.” The idea that we are trying to live fully alive lives, which will possi...

SMR#291: Potpourri Feedback from Listeners

31 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Sexy Marriage Radio listeners are the best in the world. Especially when they call us to task and keep us in check. Like today’s show where we answe...

SMR#290: Security and Desire

24 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We have discussed how women are security seeking creatures and when a husband’s job outlook fluctuates it could impact security. Today we are joined...

SMR#289: Solidness

17 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

One of our challenges is for us as married people to be more solid. So what does solidness mean? That’s what we discuss. Enjoy the show. Still time ...

SMR#288: Sexual Laziness

10 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Laziness can be something many people face in life. But what about in marriage? In sex? That’s what we cover in today’s episode. Enjoy the show. S...

SMR#287: Sexless Marriages – Power And Control

03 May 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Last week we covered Sexless Marriages, and we struck a nerve with several of our listeners. Lots of times what is really happening in a sexless marri...

SMR#286: Sexless Marriages

26 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We have episodes on this topic in the archives, but it’s so worth covering again. The sexless marriage. It’s quite a bind – for both spouses. En...

SMR#285: Soft and Hard and Scheduling

19 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Soft and hard – the words can bring very different thoughts to mind. Especially within the context of sex. Same with the word scheduling. Want to kn...

SMR#284: The Dance of Desire Differences

12 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This week we are joined by a listener looking for help in understanding the differences in desire levels and the dance that causes in his marriage. En...

SMR#283: Americans Are Having Less Sex

05 Apr 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Research from late last year states that Americans are having less sex that they were a couple of decades ago. Why do you supposed that is? That’s w...

SMR#282: Pursuing vs. Asking

29 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

To ask for sex or pursue it. It can be quite the quandary. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway – June 22-25, 2017...

SMR#281: Cuckolding

22 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Perhaps you’ve never heard about cuckolding. Well, after today’s show that will no longer be the case. Enjoy. Interested in going to the Sexy Marr...

SMR#280: Sexual Confidence Or Vulnerability

15 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Another listener joins us for this episode. Join us as Molly asks how she can increase her sexual confidence. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to t...

SMR#279: What Is It Like To Have Sex With You?

08 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

We have asked this question before … Would you want to be married to you? Today we ask – What is it like to have sex with you? Enjoy the show. Int...

SMR#278: Low Desire But Likes The Chase

01 Mar 2017

Contributed by Lukas

This week a listener joins us on the air to explore her issue of feeling like she is the low desire spouse, yet wants to be the chaser in the marriage...

SMR#277: Trust Equals Lust

22 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Trust equals lust. But trust isn’t just about infidelity or affairs. It is so much more. Enjoy the show. Interested in going to the Sexy Marriage Ra...