Sexy Marriage Radio

SMR#276: Dirty Talk, RV Sex, Dealing With Rejection

15 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

It’s been a while since we’ve done a potpourri show. In this week’s episode we cover three different emails from listeners: Dirty talk RV sex De...

SMR#275: Spouse Shuts Down Because of Past Abuse

08 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

The things that happen to us when we’re young can impact us for a long time. In today’s episode we discuss an email from a listener that faces shu...

SMR#274: 2017 SMR Getaway

01 Feb 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Valentine’s Day is fast approaching? Have you thought about what you can do to enhance your relationship? What about coming to the Sexy Marriage Rad...

SMR#273: Behind Your Spouse’s Back

25 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Some things happen behind your spouse’s back. But what about when those things actually involve them, or betray them? That’s what we talk about in...

SMR#272: Being Vulnerable With You

18 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Each week you guys faithfully tune into our show. You email, you ask questions, you give feedback and you support us. This week we offer up a new leve...

SMR#271: Tests in Marriage

11 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Perhaps you don’t think of some aspects of the marriage as tests, but there are things that happen that may in fact be just that. That’s what we c...

SMR#270: The Sexy Marriage Radio Academy

04 Jan 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Welcome to 2017! Interested in a new resource that will help take your marriage to the next level? Consider joining the Sexy Marriage Radio Academy Th...

SMR#269: How The High Desire Wife Gets In Her Own Way

28 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are many couples that face the dilemma of the the wife being the high desire partner. While the dynamic between the high desire and low desire h...

SMR#268: How the High Desire Gets In Their Own Way

21 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We have talked at length about the high desire and the low desire. Many times the low desire partner gets all the focus, but there are some things the...

SMR#267: 10 Hot Spots To Touch

14 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are many areas worth touching when it comes to foreplay and sex. But what about some areas that may get overlooked? That’s what we cover in th...

SMR#266: Redefining Normal

07 Dec 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Normal. What exactly does that mean? This question is particularly troubling sometimes when it comes to marriage and sex That’s what we cover in thi...

SMR#265: How To Connect When You Don’t Agree

30 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

The political season has given way to the Holiday Season – but what do you do when the prior season found you and your spouse (or family) on opposit...

SMR#264: Naked Marriage, Getaway, and SMR Academy

23 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Today we take care of a little house-keeping. There are some great things happening at Sexy Marriage Radio … The Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway 2017 Be...

SMR#263: Books That Shaped Our View, Part 2

16 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Last week we covered several books that helped shape our views about marriage, sexuality and our role as counselors. This week is part two of our list...

SMR#262: Books That Shaped Our View

09 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are many things that influence and define our view or life, marriage, and sex. In today’s episode we discuss the impactful books that helped s...

SMR#261: Knowing vs Caring, Part 2

02 Nov 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There is a difference between knowing something and caring about something. In episode #257 we began this conversation, today we expand it. __________...

SMR#260: Bids For Relationship

26 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We make bids every day. Some are more overt and straight-forward than others. So how do bids play out in your marriage? What’s that? You don’t kno...

SMR#259: When A Spouse Does Not Like To Talk

19 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In every marriage relationship there is a talker and a no-talker (or a talk-less talker). This can create a great deal of angst both within you and be...

SMR#258: Sexy Marriage Radio Turns 5!

12 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

On October 10, 2011 Sexy Marriage Radio hit the airwaves! Join us this week as we celebrate 5 years! __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback@s...

SMR#257: Knowing vs. Caring

05 Oct 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Many of us believe that if our spouse knew what we struggle with or what we need then they would offer it or change it. But what if they do know and w...

SMR#256: Fetishes

28 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

What’s a fetish? If you don’t know, be sure to listen. That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at feedback...

SMR#255: Stop Shoulding On Yourself

21 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Shoulds are everywhere. Far too often it’s our shoulds that cause the most frustration and pain. How often do the shoulds impact your marriage? That...

SMR#254: Boldly Go Where You Haven’t Gone Before

14 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Routine plays a role in life. But it also causes boredom. So how can you “boldly go” where you haven’t gone before? That’s what we discuss in ...

SMR#253: Amateur Videos

07 Sep 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We are big advocates for spicing things up in sex. That’s part of why Sexy Marriage Radio exists. But what about spicing it up with videos or camera...

SMR#252: Porn and ED

31 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We have several shows on the effects of porn and marriage, but what is the relationship between porn and ED? That’s what we discuss in today’s sho...

SMR#251: Orgasm Is A Poor Litmus Test For Great Sex

24 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Orgasm gets lots of focus when it comes to sex. But what if orgasm is actually a horrible litmus test when it comes to what makes great sex? That’s ...

SMR#250: When Sex Is Painful

17 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Sex can be a lot of things. Some of them good, some bad. What about when sex is painful? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a ...

SMR#249: Sexual Courage

10 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Courage surrounds a lot of things. But what about sexual courage? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ Got a question? Email us at f...

SMR#248: Doing The Best You Can

03 Aug 2016

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve likely heard about the idea of people doing the best they can with what they have, but what about when people don’t? That’s what we discu...

SMR#247: Keeping a Marital High

27 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Most everyone has experienced an emotional high in life, or marriage. The euphoria of a vacation, a getaway, a great weekend. So how do you keep it go...

SMR#246: Sex Hacks

20 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

A hack is something that makes things easier or improves it. So what are some good sex hacks? That’s what we discuss in today’s show. __________ G...

SMR#245: How Is A Relationship With God Sexual?

13 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

My guess is this isn’t a question you’ve asked yourself? But we did while at the SMR Getaway and it lead to some great discussions among the liste...

SMR#244: The Importance of Emotional Intimacy

06 Jul 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy is something most everyone seeks. But what does intimacy really mean? Is it physical, or emotional? That’s what we discuss in today’s sho...

SMR#243: The Importance of Physical Intimacy

29 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy is something most everyone seeks. But what’s so important about the physical aspects of intimacy in marriage? That’s what we discuss in t...

SMR#242: Getting Your Spouse In The Mood

22 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There can be a lot of turmoil surround the idea of “being in the mood.” Specifically when you may be in the mood and your spouse isn’t. So who’...

SMR#241: Guilt and Shame

15 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are many different meanings associated with sex and sexuality. And not all of them are good. Especially, guilt and shame. That’s what we discu...

SMR#240: Staycation Sex

08 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Summer is here! Time for sun, fun, and sex. If you don’t plan on a vacation this summer, have you thought about planning a staycation? What about st...

SMR#239: Three Different Types of Sex

01 Jun 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Based on listener emails we’ve been asked about several different types of sex. Today we discuss three. Which ones are they? You’ll have to listen...

SMR#238: Surviving an Affair

25 May 2016

Contributed by Lukas

This seems like a logical follow-up to last week’s show … surviving an affair. If your relationship has experienced betrayal, then you should list...

SMR#237: Old Flames

18 May 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are times when an old flame re-enters your world. Or you intentionally seek them out. But be warned: this can be one of the most destructive thi...

SMR#236: Married To A Workaholic

11 May 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Some seasons of life require one spouse to spend long hours at work, or school, or both plus more things that take them away from the relationship and...

SMR#235: Long Distance Relationship Tips

04 May 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are times when you can’t be with your spouse, either because of business or military service or schooling, etc. So how do you maintain a steam...

SMR#234: It’s Always About Sex With You

27 Apr 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Perhaps you’ve heard (or said) this before. It can become quite a bind for both parties when you are gridlocked over sex. In today’s show, we addr...

SMR#233: Ticklishness

20 Apr 2016

Contributed by Lukas

A topic we have not covered on Sexy Marriage Radio, ticklishness. It can be something that adds playfulness and laughter, or it can derail foreplay an...

SMR#232: Forgiving Yourself

13 Apr 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Our episodes on forgiveness really hit home for many of our listeners. But there was one aspect we didn’t cover, forgiving yourself. That’s what w...

SMR#231: A Potpourri of Emails

06 Apr 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We have some of the greatest listeners and the greatest emailers, so today we simply spend the entire show answering emails. Registration is open for ...

SMR#230: Forgiveness Part Two

30 Mar 2016

Contributed by Lukas

We received a lot of email from our previous show about forgiving and forgetting, so much so that in this episode we answer emails from listeners abou...

SMR#229: Forgiving and Forgetting

23 Mar 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Forgiving is a vital part of marriage. At least a marriage that lasts and thrives. But what about the relationship between forgiveness and forgetting?...

SMR#228: Rebooting Your Sex Life

16 Mar 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Whenever you have trouble with your computer, you’ve likely heard the statement, “Did you try rebooting?” What if you did this with your sex lif...

SMR#227: A Chronically Negative Spouse

09 Mar 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Every marriage has one person who sees the silver lining in things, or who is a half-full kind of person, or is always optimistic. That means the othe...

SMR#226: Taking The Lead

02 Mar 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There will always be one person who leads. Is that you or your spouse? And what’s the importance of being a good lead? That’s what we discuss. Reg...

SMR#225: One Sided Sex

24 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

In response to last week’s episode, today we answer several listener responses. What’s one sided sex? That’s what we discuss. Registration is op...

SMR#224: Sex When Your Spouse Isn’t Into It

17 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

There are times when sex will happen and one spouse isn’t into it. Does this mean something is wrong? More importantly, what do you do when this hap...

SMR#223: Different Types of Sex

10 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

When you look at your sex life, you’ll likely see that there are several different types of sex happening. What is your most prominent type? That’...

SMR#222: The 2016 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway

03 Feb 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Today we are excited to announce we have finalized all the details for the 2016 Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway! Registration is now open for Bed Buddy Cl...

SMR#221: Melt Your Spouse With Your Hands

27 Jan 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Who doesn’t like the idea of your spouse melting in your hands? There’s a great way to help make this happen, and that’s through massage. Today ...

SMR#220: Relationships Are Co-Created

20 Jan 2016

Contributed by Lukas

A foundational belief I have is that everything that happens in relationships is co-created. This doesn’t mean causality – but each person plays a...

SMR#219: Rituals vs Ruts

13 Jan 2016

Contributed by Lukas

Rituals play a role in most everything we do as people. It’s what helps create the comfort of life we strive for. But what happens when these ritual...

SMR#218: Sex 101

06 Jan 2016

Contributed by Lukas

It may seem odd that 218 shows into Sexy Marriage Radio we are airing Sex 101. But there’s a good reason. To hear it, listen to this week’s show. ...

SMR#217: A Look Back at 2015

30 Dec 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Every year around this time we reflect on the shows that happened. The good, the bad, the ugly. So what stood out to us? That’s what Shannon and C...

SMR#216: Last Minute Gift Ideas

23 Dec 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Christmas is in a couple of days. If this is news to you, then you’ll like our last minute gift ideas. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk abou...

SMR#215: Attachment Parenting Can Ruin Sex

16 Dec 2015

Contributed by Lukas

We live in a child-centric society. And raising a child can disrupt married life, which isn’t a shocking statement. But what if a parenting style ca...

SMR#214: Talking to Kids About Masturbation

09 Dec 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Last week we discussed the importance of disconnecting the subjects of porn and masturbation. We received several emails asking about how to discuss t...

SMR#213: Porn and Masturbation

02 Dec 2015

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve done a couple of shows thus far on pornography (here, here, and here). What about the connection between porn and masturbation? That’s wh...

SMR#212: Being Thankful For Your Marriage

25 Nov 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Thanksgiving! How are you thankful for your marriage? That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this episode. __________ Got a question?...

SMR#211: Is Sadness Affecting Your Sex Life?

18 Nov 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Sadness and sex may seem like they don’t mix. And for many people they don’t … but why? That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this e...

SMR#210: Is Anger Affecting Your Sex Life?

11 Nov 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Anger is one of societies understood emotions. This doesn’t mean it’s right, but most everyone understands that anger is part of life. But does it...

SMR#209: The Controlling Sex Partner

04 Nov 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Last week’s episode what about fear. This week we shift to another fear, being out of control. Have you thought about how fear can impact your sex l...

SMR#208: What Do You Fear?

28 Oct 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Fear can affect people in all areas of life. Have you thought about how fear can impact your sex life? That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about ...

SMR#207: Dealing with Porn in Marriage, Part 2

21 Oct 2015

Contributed by Lukas

In episode 202 we tackled this touchy subject. Based on some feedback from our listeners, we’re addressing it again. Only this time, we go a little ...

SMR#206: The Bed-Buddy Club

16 Oct 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are many listeners of Sexy Marriage Radio who have asked for help in how to share our message and show with others. That’s what Shannon and ...

SMR#205: The Moral High Ground

07 Oct 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Perhaps you have heard about the idea of the moral high ground. Maybe not. Allow us to explain. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this...

SMR#204: Budget For Marital Success

30 Sep 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Money is often a major source of stress for many couples.  It can impact every aspect of family life and marriage. But what about dedicating some of...

SMR#203: Daily Connection Challenges

23 Sep 2015

Contributed by Lukas

In a previous episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we made a comment about not being totally in favor of the daily sex challenges that are proposed by churc...

SMR#202: Dealing with porn

16 Sep 2015

Contributed by Lukas

This is often a touchy subject. It can also be an extremely destructive one. But it’s an issue that impacts lots of marriages – porn. That’s wh...

SMR#201: How Big is Your But?

09 Sep 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Seriously? How big is it? Not sure what we’re talking about? Listen to find out what Shannon and Corey talk about in this episode. __________ Got...

SMR#200: Celebrating 200 Episodes!!

02 Sep 2015

Contributed by Lukas

200 EPISODES!!!!! It’s time to celebrate. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this episode. ### Join us for the Sexy Marriage Radio Ge...

SMR#199: Same Sex Fantasy

26 Aug 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are some listeners who’ve emailed curious about a same-sex fantasy. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this episode. ### Join us...

SMR#198: No Libido

19 Aug 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Should humans have a sexual libido? What if you have no (or a very low) libido? Does this mean there’s something wrong? That’s what Shannon and C...

SMR#197: Listener Emails

12 Aug 2015

Contributed by Lukas

We receive quite a few emails every week, which we love! In this episode Shannon and Corey answer several emails from our listeners. What we cover:...

SMR#196: Unplugged Sex

05 Aug 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There is tremendous benefit to getting away and unplugging from life together. You have the chance to unplug and get away – come join us on the Sexy...

SMR#195: Talking vs. Arguing About Sex

29 Jul 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are many couples who believe they talk about sex, but what if they actually argue about sex more than talk about it? That’s what Shannon and ...

SMR#194: Asking For What You Want, Then Getting It

22 Jul 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Many times in the past we’ve encouraged listeners to “Ask for what you want in your life.” While this remains good advice, what happens when you...

SMR#193: When Does Fantasy Cross The Line?

15 Jul 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are many episodes of Sexy Marriage Radio where we talk about fantasies. Shannon’s even written a book about it! But what happens when fantasy ...

SMR#192: Selfishness

08 Jul 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Selfishness gets a bad rap. Or does it? Sure we want our own way with things, but there is also other people wanting their own way as well. That’s w...

SMR#191: Sex Every Day

01 Jul 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are some couples who state they have sex every day. Ok. But what is the level of sex they’re having? That’s what Shannon and Corey talk a...

SMR#190: Wedding Night Tips

24 Jun 2015

Contributed by Lukas

While we have covered this topic before, we haven’t taken it this far. The beginning of a marriage can be filled with all sorts of emotions and exci...

SMR#189: Old Sex v. New Sex

17 Jun 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Some things in life get better with age. Drinks, books, style, conversation. What about sex? We believe sex can definitely get better with age. That’...

SMR#188: Celebrating Endurance

10 Jun 2015

Contributed by Lukas

How married life progresses into the decades together, it’s safe to say some years are better than others. Some may be great, some not even close –...

SMR#187: Guilt and Shame and True Love Waits

03 Jun 2015

Contributed by Lukas

True Love Waits is a movement aimed at helping teenagers and young adults save sex for marriage. An idea we whole-heartedly agree with. But has this m...

SMR#186: The Bait and Switch

27 May 2015

Contributed by Lukas

It’s possible you reach a point in married life where you feel like your partner pulled a bait and switch on you. When you think (or say) things li...

SMR#185: Work Sex vs. Play Sex, Part Two

20 May 2015

Contributed by Lukas

We spent most of last week’s show on “work sex.” This week, it’s time to play. Sex is more than just reaching climax. Slow down. Be playful. R...

SMR#184: Work Sex vs. Play Sex, Part One

13 May 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are several different types of sex. But they can often be boiled down to two categories … work sex and play sex. In this episode Shannon and ...

SMR#183: Marriage is About Growing Up

06 May 2015

Contributed by Lukas

What if our marriage and our sex life was actually part of a process designed to help us grow up? In this episode Shannon and Corey talk more about ...

SMR#182: Tearing Down Walls

29 Apr 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There can be many barriers and walls in our lives and relationships. Especially when it comes to our sex life. Hear Shannon and Corey talk about ho...

SMR#181: Sexual Addiction, Part Two

22 Apr 2015

Contributed by Lukas

We continue our conversation with Richard Blankenship about dealing with sexual addiction in marriage. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in...

SMR#180: Sexual Addiction, Part One

22 Apr 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are many people who struggle with issues around sex. Some go so far as being controlled by it. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in t...

SMR#179: Announcing the Sexy Marriage Radio Getaway

08 Apr 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Several of you have been anxiously awaiting for more information about the upcoming SMR Getaway. The wait is over. You can read more and register here...

SMR#178: Dealing with ED

01 Apr 2015

Contributed by Lukas

Many men can (and do) struggle with ED, or premature or delayed ejaculation issues. That’s what Shannon and Corey talk about in this episode. Enjo...

SMR#177: Intergenerational Patterns

25 Mar 2015

Contributed by Lukas

There are patterns in families. There are patterns in our life and we pass these patterns to the next generation. That’s what Shannon and Corey ta...