A Hostage Negotiator’s Advice for Difficult Conversations & How to Stay Alive Longer
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What is ASMR and why do people experience it while watching soft‑spoken videos?
there is one word i think gets people in trouble with money probably i'm probably spending about this much every month i'm probably saving enough i'm probably on track for retirement probably is not a financial plan. I've been using Monarch. It's a personal finance app that puts your whole financial picture in one place, and it replaces probably with actual numbers. For example, Monarch showed me that our spending last month jumped about 30% from the month before. 30%. We had some home repairs, but none of the bills seemed like a big hit at the time. But put them all together, and wow. But I didn't realize how much our spending had jumped until Monarch showed me. And I think that's how money can get away from you.
It's not necessarily one giant expense that sets off alarm bells. It's all the things that add up that you don't really notice. That's what I like about Monarch. You can see your spending, accounts, investments, and savings goals all in one place and see what's really going on with your money. If you're operating on probably, maybe it's time to find out. Write your own money story with Monarch. Use code SYSK at Monarch.com to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. That's 50% off your first year at Monarch.com with code SYSK. Today on Something You Should Know, how watching someone fold towels could be the best few moments of your entire day. Then, advice for the next negotiation or difficult conversation you have to have.
The goal here is to be able to tell somebody else what they want so accurately that when you're done describing their side of the argument, they say, yes, that's exactly what I'm looking for. Because when people feel heard and felt and seen, their guard decreases.
Also, a great way to improve your email messaging. And the latest science on how to live a long and healthy
life. This idea that actually quality has a quantity of its own. That if you improve the quality of your life, you can actually increase the quantity too. Doing things that you love with people that you love will increase the quality and quantity of your life.
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Fascinating intel. The world's top experts. And practical advice you can use in your life. Today, Something You Should Know with Mike Carruthers.
I think I may have mentioned this years ago on this podcast, but it just came up in conversation and I think it's worth repeating if you haven't heard about it. Hi and welcome to this episode of Something You Should Know. So there is an 18-minute YouTube video and it's about how to fold towels. Yeah, right, fold towels. And it's narrated by a woman who barely speaks above a whisper. Over 2 million people have viewed this video so far, and most likely not because they need to learn how to fold towels. Instead, it's because an increasing number of people report experiencing something called Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response, ASMR. And it's a whole body tingling that listening to soft, monotone voices can trigger.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
What is ASMR and why do people experience it while watching soft‑spoken videos?
0:00–7:05
2
How does former hostage negotiator Ryan Dunlap define a successful difficult conversation?
7:05–14:03
3
What practical strategies does Ryan recommend for de‑escalating tense negotiations?
14:03–21:10
4
How should you prepare and frame a request for a raise to get the best outcome?
21:10–29:16
5
What does science say about improving quality of life to extend lifespan?
29:16–36:11
6
Why should you remove emotions from business emails and what are the common mistakes to avoid?
36:11–42:04
7
How do gender‑specific health risks (autoimmune disease, heart disease, etc.) affect longevity advice?
42:04–48:31
8
What single habit can combine physical, cognitive, and social benefits for a longer, healthier life?
48:31–49:58
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