There are certain relationship patterns that just feel impossible to break…The overthinking.Waiting for a text back.That feeling in your body that they’re going to leave… even when nothing is technically wrong.And a lot of the time, people don’t realize this is anxious attachment — and that it’s not just in your thoughts, it’s actually living in your body.In this episode, I sat down with Mitch Webb (nervous system expert and host of Rooted Conversations) and we really got into all of it — overthinking, reassurance seeking, fear of abandonment, and why these patterns keep repeating.We talked about how this actually forms (trauma, childhood experiences, nervous system dysregulation)… and why trying to just “think differently” doesn’t actually shift it.And then we went deeper.I actually guided Mitch through a live somatic therapy / brainspotting session to work through fear of uncertainty in real time, so you can see what this work actually looks like, not just hear about it.If you feel stuck in relationship anxiety or like you keep ending up in the same push/pull dynamic… this will help you understand why — and what actually starts to change it.

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