Shame is nature’s way of training us to fit into our culture and society. Like an electric fence, it outlines the contours of the identity we’ve grown into and discourages us from straying outside the lines.This boundary around our comfort zone is often a poor match for ourselves and the world we live in. When we feel shame, our emotional experience stagnates, dampening our evolution and our enjoyment. People often find themselves stuck in the same shame cycles for years.In this episode, Joe and Brett examine the structure of shame and how to melt it on an intellectual, emotional, and somatic level.Transformed through awareness and love, our shame becomes a natural set of guide rails that help us live our life in alignment with our deepest values."All we're doing here is freeing the blocking of emotions by feeling into our body and creating love where there was abandonment."The following is the “wall of shame” referenced at the end of the episode, compiled from Brett’s journal and submissions from our listeners:Shame of being amateur/inexperienced...of missing opportunities...of being incompetent...of backing down or giving up...of not creating value...of being wrong, and then being hard-headed about it...of being an outsider who doesn't speak the lingo...of asking for help...of being 'transactional'...of not being present enough...of hovering anxiously...of having shame and hiding it...of being a 'hypocrite'...of being a know-it-all...of being helpless or clueless...of not 'deserving it'...of failing as a result of either over- or under-control...of upsetting people or scaring them with the truth...of showing hurt or disappointment...of not following my intuition...of not being clever, determined, or forthright...of not being ambitious, or of being too ambitious...of disagreeing...of telling people they are wrong...of being withdrawn...of needing people to change their behavior...of needing time...of thinking slowly...of not knowing how...of not feeling good when others are socializing…of not being enough (strong, present, resourceful, smart)…of freezing when action is required…of hurting the people I loveSend yours with the feedback form on our website to add to this list. Submissions will, of course, be anonymized. Learn more about our free workshops and online courses at artofaccomplishment.comWe invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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