If you’ve ever thought, “If I were really confident, this wouldn’t feel so hard,” or felt pressure to sound more impressive than you actually feel, this episode might gently challenge that entire narrative.In this episode of Awfully Quiet, I sit down with Dr. Dan Rosenfeld, psychologist, comedian, and author of The Confidence Equation, to explore why trying to sound confident might be the very thing keeping you stuck in self doubt.Born with cerebral palsy, Dr. Dan has navigated barriers most of us will never face. Through that lived experience, he developed a grounded, unconventional understanding of confidence rooted in self-trust rather than performance.In this conversation, we explore:Why “building confidence” might be a trapThe difference between looking confident and actually feeling itHow to work with your inner critic instead of fighting itThree quiet shifts that move self-doubt toward self-trustWhy introverts may already be closer to real confidence than they thinkThis conversation genuinely shifted how I think about showing up, especially behind the microphone. Instead of trying to sound impressive or polished, Dr. Dan invites us into something far more powerful: self-trust, experimentation, and using the “paint and brushes” already in our hands.🔗 Connect with Dr. Dan and explore his book The Confidence Equation: Three Keys to Unleashing Self-Confidence as an Introvert.Follow the show:AWFULLY QUIET (bts + reflections): @awfullyquietpodcastSUBTLE (tips + tools): @subtleseries

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