The Baggage Reclaim Sessions
Episodes
Ep. 308: How to Be Selfish: Reclaiming the Right to Self with Suzy Reading
27 Mar 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks with psychologist Suzy Reading about her book "How to Be Selfish" and reclaiming the right to self-care and self-advocacy. They explore ...
Ep. 307: Why Resentment Shows Up and What to Do About It
27 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explores resentment as a signal from your body that you've crossed your own boundaries. She shares two personal stories - one where resentment...
Ep. 306 Quiet ADHD in Midlife: When You Don't Fit the Stereotype with Gabrielle Treanor
13 Feb 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks with coach Gabrielle Treanor about ADHD in midlife, particularly for quieter, introverted women who don't see themselves in stereotypica...
Ep. 305: The Beginning of the End: Spotting Your Jump the Shark Moment
30 Jan 2026
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explores 'jumping the shark' moments in relationships, those incidents of disrespect or disconnect that signal the beginning of the end. Episo...
Between the Sessions: It's JUST Christmas/the Holidays. Stay off the Relationship/Drama Crack!
12 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Read the article and comments (2012). 2011 version and comments Leave a voice note: https://www.speakpipe.com/baggagereclaim Support the podcast an...
Between the Sessions: We Can't Keep Trying to Recapture the Beginning
05 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. In this minisode, Nat...
Between the Sessions: Blessings in Disguise - Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For)
28 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Read the original articles and comments #1 Blessings in Disguise: Be Thankful They Didn't Show Up (and Other Things To Be Thankful For) #2 Blessings ...
Between the Sessions: When Someone's Imposing Something on You, They're Overstepping Your Boundaries
21 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Between the Sessions - Overlappers: When they start a new relationship just before your breakup
12 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 304: Truth-Telling and Healing: Rewriting Your Life's Narrative with GG Renee Hill
08 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with writer GG Renee Hill, author of Story Work, about the stories we tell ourselves and how they shape our lives. They discuss the impa...
Between the Sessions: Future Fakers and Future Faking 👀
29 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 303: Tired of Chasing: How to Tell if You're Ambitious or Just Activated
24 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie reflects on being tired of chasing and how it masquerades as ambition, tenacity and persistence. She explores people-pleasing patterns, over-i...
Between the Sessions: Why Do They Keep Having Sex With Me If They're Not Interested?
15 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares ano...
Ep. 302 Your Attention is Sacred: How Social Media Makes You Shop for Flaws with Amelia Hruby"
10 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with Amelia Hruby about social media and why our attention is sacred. They explore how platforms make our subconscious "shop for flaws a...
Between the Sessions: 30 Signs Someone Isn't Interested
01 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie's revisiting some of the most-read Baggage Reclaim posts from the past 20 years in this new Between the Sessions series. Today, she shares the...
Ep. 301 Self-Leadership with Ruthie Zerai: How to Stop Living at the Mercy of Others
26 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with coach Ruthie Zerai about self-leadership—taking responsibility for managing yourself rather than deferring that power to others. ...
Ep. 300: The Non-Linear Path: Celebrating 20 Years of Baggage Reclaim
12 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Recorded on Baggage Reclaim's 20th birthday and the eve of her daughter leaving for university, Natalie reflects on trusting your instincts, major lif...
Ep. 299: The Underdog Advantage: Breaking Cycles with Keeley Taverner
29 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks with psychotherapist Keeley Taverner about her journey from Ikea checkout to successful therapy practice, narcissism, social mobility wh...
Ep. 298: Stop Feeding Your Worry Goldfish: Finding Calm in Uncertain Times
15 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about managing anxiety, breaking worry cycles, and returning to yourself after difficult times. Episode show notes: https://baggagerecl...
Ep. 297: Breaking the Control Habit: Why I wrote my new book LET GO
25 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks with her publisher, JP, about her new mini memoir Let Go, exploring what it really means to release control, why vulnerability in storyt...
Ep. 296 Navigating Modern Romance with the Flirt Coach, Benjamin Camras
11 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with Benjamin Camras about why modern dating feels so overwhelming, how apps have normalised intensity, and why flirting should be about...
Ep. 295: Time for a Quick Recalibrate and Reset
30 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 294: Finding Work Tough? It's Not All On You (A Pep Talk)
15 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie challenges the exhausting habit of self-blame when things go wrong, exploring why we make everything about our "unworthiness" rather than reco...
Ep. 293: It's Not Too Late: Karen Arthur on Reinventing Yourself in Midlife and Beyond
02 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 292: Overextended and Overwhelmed: The Real Reason You Procrastinate
18 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 291: Trusting Myself Through an Unexpected Health Journey
04 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 290: People-Pleasing Styles: What Your Pattern Reveals About Your Past and Present
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 289: Dating Your Imagination: The Fantasy Trap in the Early Stages of Dating
07 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 288: Modern Friendship: Understanding Why We Find It Challenging with Anna Goldfarb
07 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks with author and journalist Anna Goldfarb about why modern friendships feel so complicated, exploring how to navigate relationships in an...
Ep. 287: Estrangement Lessons - Why I Had to Break up With My Mother
24 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie opens up about her decision to break up with her mother, exploring how she arrived at this choice and why sometimes stepping away from relatio...
Ep. 286: Money! Healing Our Relationship with Our Finances with Rachel Duncan
10 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
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Ep. 285: Having Your Own Back: What Self-Advocacy Really Means
27 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie takes us on a candid exploration of self-advocacy and what it means to truly have our own back. Drawing from her personal experiences in 2024,...
Ep. 284: Shifting Our Understanding of Attachment
13 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week's episode is about attachment, a topic Natalie's delving into for the first time with integrative coach, Elfreda Manahan-Vaughn because she'...
Ep. 283: Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
29 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with Lindsay C. Gibson, the author of million-copy selling 'Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents'. They delve into the chara...
Ep. 282: Gray Area Drinking and Our Relationship with Alcohol
15 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie chats with wellness coach (and former Baggage Reclaim student) Jolene Park about gray area drinking and understanding our relationship with al...
Ep. 281: "Is There Something About Me?"
01 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie's joined by her brother Richard again for a follow-up episode to discuss how their upbringing created a habit of wondering if there's somethin...
Ep. 279: Return of Nat (Come on!)
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
After twenty months, Natalie is delighted to be back! In this episode, she shares a bit about her journey to this point as well as what led to the dec...
Ep. 280: Secrets, Lies, and Coming Out
18 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever known that a loved one is holding back parts of themselves and essentially lying to you but they won't talk to you about it? Well, this ...
Ep. 278: The One Where We Say Goodbye
03 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show whic...
Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop
20 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim B...
Ep. 276: New Year, New No, and Recognising the Dark Side of People Pleasing
16 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the cha...
Ep. 275: You Don't *Have* to Be Friends With Your Ex(es)
02 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends ...
Exclusive Sneak Peek: Listen to a Chapter from The Joy of Saying No
18 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie shares an exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No. Pre-order your copy in audiobook, hardback and ebook formats.
Ep. 273: Ignoring, Dismissing and Overriding Ourselves Always Leads to Problems
04 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie breaks down why saying we're harsh/hasty/hypervigilant/picky leads to us ignoring, dismissing and overriding ourselves.
Ep. 272: Are You Disappointed? Or Is It That You're Angry?
21 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between anger and disappointment to take better care of ourselves and start moving forward. Pre-O...
Ep. 271: Let's Talk About Insane Politeness and Toxic Professionalism
07 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Some of what we force ourselves to do, silence and tolerate are forms of insane politeness and toxic professionalism. Natalie breaks down what these a...
Ep. 270: Knowing When To Fold On Unhealthy & Unfulfilling Relationships
23 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode following Natalie's summer break, she talks about knowing when it's time to fold on a relationship that isn't truly right for us....
(REPLAY) Ep. 158: It's Not That You're Not Good Enough; You're Over-Responsible
09 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this replay episode, Natalie explains why those habits that leave you doubting and disliking yourself and breaching your boundaries are a sign that...
(REPLAY) Ep. 87: Jaysus! What's up With All the Life Lessons, Professor Life?
26 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this replay episode, Natalie breaks down why repeat frustrations and challenges occur and shares three key questions we can ask ourselves to break ...
(REPLAY) Ep. 114: Have I Outgrown My Friendship?
12 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this replay episode, Natalie delves into what it means to outgrow a friendship, why it happens, and also why we need to be careful of assumptions a...
(REPLAY) Ep. 219: You Are Allowed To Rest
29 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this replay episode, Natalie examines our relationship with rest because so many of us have internal debates about taking time off, whether for a b...
Ep 269: Shifting from Shady to Loving Relationships (LIVE SHOW recording)
15 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie shares her thoughts on love, loving yourself, and why we don't need to have good thoughts and feelings *all the time* or be 'healed' to experi...
Ep. 268: Get Out of the Field of Shoulds by Choosing Desire Over Obligation
01 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A big part of being more boundaried is knowing the difference between doing things from a place of desire versus doing them from a place of obligation...
Ep. 267: About Riding the Rollercoaster of Worst-Case-Scenario Anxiety
24 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie shares what she's learned from a recent 27-day rollercoaster ride of anxiety and worry about a family member's health.
Ep. 266: Do More 'Reps' of Being Yourself
17 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about the importance of representing yourself--showing up, speaking up and stepping up for who you are. Instagram | Break The Cycle On...
Ep. 265: The Trouble With the Not-That-Innocent Good Girl/Guy
10 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explains why our need to be perceived as 'good' and even beyond reproach creates problems for some of the people around us. Book your ti...
Ep. 264: Let's Talk About the Real Reasons Behind Affairs
03 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
After receiving a lot of requests for her to talk about the topic, Natalie delves into why affairs happen and the importance of challenging some of th...
Ep. 263: Some People Might Miss the Point of That Statement You're Trying to Make
27 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about how dropping hints about our discontent with someone by making a statement with our behaviour tends to lead to that person not pi...
Ep. 262: 'I'm not ready/able for a relationship right now...'
20 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this week's episode, Natalie talks about why it's important to accept and respect it when somebody says that they can't be in a relationship with u...
Ep. 261: Punching Below Our Weight?
13 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Prompted by messages from people claiming that they seem to only feel confident dating or being in relationships with those who are 'below' their leve...
Ep. 260: Keeping It Real About What It Means to Take Responsibility
06 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It can be bloody infuriating when someone makes a mistake or does us wrong and they refuse to acknowledge or take responsibility. But plenty of us don...
Ep. 259: The Trouble With Overgiving and Overcompensating
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about how when we give too much--yes, there is such a thing!--we're really not 'giving' at all. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online C...
Ep. 258: It's Not Our Job to Meet Our Parents' Expectations
22 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about the comments parents make that suggest that we're not meeting their expectations and that they're disappointed with our life choic...
Ep. 257: Losing Ourselves Leads to Losing Our Temper
01 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why we surprise ourselves and others by losing our temper and behaving uncharacteristically and how we can navigate ourselves away...
Ep. 256: Even Grief Brings Out the Pleaser in Us!
25 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's been five years since Natalie's father died, and she's got some things to share about grief and anger, including why we don't have to perform our...
Ep. 255: Sharing Core 'Directional' Values Matters for Compatibility
18 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie delves into the topic of core 'directional' values and why they matter for compatibility in our relationships and our overall sense of well-be...
Ep. 254: Are You Inadvertently Avoiding a Successful Outcome?
11 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about how when keep going back on ourselves about something that causes us pain and discomfort, a part of us is afraid of what being suc...
Ep. 253: Was your intuition 'wrong' though?
04 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes we blame our intuition and don't feel as if we can trust it or ourselves. Natalie explains why our intuition isn't wrong, including how some...
Ep. 252: Respecting Someone Else's Fear (even when you don't 'get' it)
25 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why it can be problematic when we question or belittle another person's fear of something and why focusing on how 'good' we think ...
Ep. 251: Scammers Be Scamming
18 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The Tinder Swindler, Sweet Bobby, Love Fraud, and more. After watching and listening to a host of scam-related shows, Natalie shares what she's observ...
Ep. 250: Changes, That's Just The Way It Is
11 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's the 250th episode! Natalie shares what she's learned about change and evolving--intentionally and through the 'imposition' of necessity. Instag...
Ep. 249: The Trouble With Bare-Minimum Relationships
04 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie delves into why accepting just the bare minimum (or less!!) in our relationships is problematic and explains why that person who appeared to m...
Ep. 248: Keeping It Real About Self-Esteem
28 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In the first episode of 2022, Natalie shares her ideas about what self-esteem is and why we don't need to overcomplicate things when we decide to 'imp...
Ep. 247: The One Where Nat Went To Therapy
17 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In the final episode of 2021, Natalie shares a little on surprising herself by going to therapy this year and how 2021 pushed her to new, deeper place...
Ep. 246: Can We Know If a New Partner is Emotionally Available?
10 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie delves into what's going on when we try to find out whether someone we've just met (or have only just started a relationship with) is emotiona...
Ep. 245: Disagreeing With Loved Ones Doesn't Have to Be Threatening
03 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Why might we be able to debate and have disagreements at work or in certain situations but panic and shut down or become defensive with loved ones? Na...
Ep. 244: It Often Sucks Before It's a 'Blessing in Disguise'
26 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
With the 20:20 vision of hindsight, we often recognise our blessings in disguise. But at the time, whatever we're going through can suck, and Natalie ...
Ep. 243: That's Not My Baggage! I Know What's Mine 😁
12 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie shares how she learned to stop taking responsibility for other people's baggage and how this inspired the show's central question: What's the ...
Ep. 242: But Will You Actually Get Into Trouble?
05 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explains why learning to be unconditionally obedient skewed our perception of negative consequences and why it's time to update our thinking s...
Ep. 241: Always The Strong or Supportive One? People Might Not Know You're In Need
29 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about how our resistance and discomfort about asking for help or support reveals our reliance on being The Strong or Supportive One. I...
Ep. 240: Oh-Oh for Intensity and Fast Trust
22 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
We've texted or hung out with someone several times, why do we think know them already? Natalie shares why intensity causes us to mistakenly extend tr...
Ep. 239: Conflict Spotlights The Truth of Our More Fragile Relationships
15 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about the thoughts and feelings we default to when certain people disappoint, annoy or upset us and how these can help us have a more ho...
Ep. 238: Be Careful Who You Tell Your Problems To
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Being able to get things off our chest is crucial to our wellbeing and part of our intimate relationships, but sometimes we chat out our business to t...
Ep. 237: 'Mutual' is a Mentality
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie dives into the importance of approaching our interactions and relationships with a 'mutual mentality' so that we don't devalue, exploit and sh...
Ep. 236: Let's Stop Minimising Those Big Little Things
24 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie explains why downplaying the truth or significance of something—minimising—whether it's who we are and what we need or other people's asks...
Ep. 235: Delusions of Inferiority
17 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Plenty of us are a little bit too used to blaming ourselves for other people's feelings and behaviour and determining that we're not 'good enough'. Bu...
Ep. 234: *Sometimes* We're Controlling in Our Relationships
10 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes our habit of trying to control the uncontrollable creeps into our relationships. Natalie delves into this tricky subject, sharing some surpr...
Ep. 233: Eek, Am I Doing Self-Care Wrong?
16 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about how and why we put ourselves under pressure about taking care of ourselves and shares tips for breaking this perfectionism habit s...
Ep. 232 Columboing New & Prospective Partners on Social Media
09 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, ...
Ep. 231: One-Trait Minds and The Polar Opposites Game
02 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why being drawn to one particular thing in romantic partners can prove to be a major blind spot. Instagram | Break The Cycle Onl...
Ep. 230: Why you're still thinking about that certain someone or thing
25 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, ...
Ep. 229: Burning Out on 'Being There' for Others
18 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why we don't have to become drained, resentful or burnt out from supporting others. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course ...
Ep. 228: 'But why am I experiencing problems?'
11 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As humans, we don't like having problems, especially when we feel it's unwarranted and that we've done all the right things. But what if this is part ...
Ep. 227: The Reset Button
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about when somebody attempts to erase the past by acting as if it didn't happen and trying to pick up where they [decided they] left off...
Ep. 226: Yeah, But Am I Needy?
21 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
So many of us fear that we are 'needy' and so settle for less than what we need, desire and deserve. We also may have been called it by someone else, ...
Ep. 225: Are We Giving or *Imposing*?
14 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why our attempt to be giving or to make amends can backfire if our actions cross boundaries. Instagram | Break The Cycle Onlin...
Ep. 224: Our Experience of Someone May Differ Due to Context
07 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
It can be super frustrating when you have a negative experience of someone, and everyone else thinks the sun shines out of them. Natalie talks about w...
Ep. 223 The Gaslighting of Future Faking
30 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
When somebody fakes a future to get what they want in the present, the disappointment, confusion, self-doubt and sense of rejection can leave us reeli...
Ep. 222: They're Just Not That into You?
23 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why the infamous piece of advice, 'He's just not that into you' from the 2004 book of the same name, can easily be misinterpreted ...
Ep. 221 Sometimes We've Got To Block, Delete or Unfriend
16 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Natalie talks about why we resist blocking, unfriending or deleting even when continuing to engage harms our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual...