Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1943DM Charles Duhigg asked Lewis about his best friend and business partner Matt. Not the funniest guy. Not the smartest. The most rational. And the one who always proves he actually heard you. That turns out to be the whole secret. Duhigg walks through looping for understanding, a three-step method they teach at Harvard's negotiation program and in law schools. Ask a real question. Repeat back what you heard in your own words. Then ask if you got it right. That last step is the one everyone forgets. He also explains why being understood feels so good. The ancestors who bonded with their people and invested in their community are the ones who survived. The pull toward connection is built into us. Lewis describes what it feels like when a therapist finally gets it. Magical. Safe. Like someone truly sees you. Take a listen before your next conversation that actually matters. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Topics looping for understanding, Charles Duhigg, effective communication, active listening, how to feel heard, conflict resolution, supercommunicators, Lewis Howes, building connection, communication skills Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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