Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1881Katherine Woodward Thomas knows what it's like to be trapped by your own mind. She was so deep in binge eating disorder that she became unemployable, non-functional, unable to move forward in life. So she did what you're supposed to do: therapy, 12-step programs, eventually becoming a psychotherapist herself. She spent over a decade analyzing why she was the way she was, helping other people do the same. And here's what she discovered that changed everything: understanding your past saves your life, but staying there won't change it. She realized around age 40 that she'd been solidifying her wounded identity by constantly focusing on it. The breakthrough came when she understood that it's the future that actually pulls us forward, not the past.What makes this conversation so powerful is how Katherine explains the hidden mechanism that keeps us stuck. When you believe you're not good enough, you over-function and over-give, which actually trains people to undervalue you. When you believe you're invisible, you can't even recognize your own needs, let alone bring them to others. When you believe you're not safe, you create push-pull dynamics that keep love at arm's length. We're unconsciously enrolling others in validating our deepest wounds through how we show up. Katherine's approach flips the script: start with who you need to become for your positive possible future, then clear what's blocking that path. She'll walk you through how to differentiate your wise self from your wounded self, how to stop letting your younger parts drive the car, and how to finally break free from the patterns that have been running your life.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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