The Dildorks

Hysterically Wrong

31 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We’re busting more sex toy myths this week, including the infamous medical origin story of the vibrator, orgasm guarantees, and a dearth of toys for...

The Vibes Are Off

26 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There are countless myths and misconceptions about sex toys, and this week we try to set the record straight on a few of them!   Vibrator Numbness |...

The Big Bang

17 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is large penetration a goal worth aspiring to? This week we discuss our evolving feelings on fisting and other forms of XXL penetration!   Current F...

You're In Good Hands

10 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

There are always interesting new fetishes to discover! This week we’re discussing some unusual kinks we’ve heard about lately, from latex-sheathed...

Words of Jizzdom

03 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Giving advice can get tricky when you’re polyamorous (or just prone to messy romantic drama), so this week we’re offering more advice on giving ad...

Penny For Your Thoughts?

24 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We love giving advice, so this week we’re advising you on advising – how and when to give helpful advice, the best ways to ask for it, and the com...

How F*cking Romantic!

17 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Happy (belated) Valentine’s Day! This week we celebrated by answering listener questions about love and romance. Crying on V-Day | Romance vs. Frie...

Making an Impact

10 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We used to talk about spanking all the time, but is it still one of our favorite kinks? This week we discuss our current feelings on impact play! Jum...

Flirt Alert!

03 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we chat with dating coach/columnist (and former pickup artist) Harris O’Malley, a.k.a. Doctor NerdLove, whose work we’ve admired for a ...

Yearn, Baby, Yearn

27 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Romantic yearning can be deeply painful, but it’s also kinda hot and fun. This week we discuss our experiences with this unique emotion in contexts ...

New Queers' Resolutions

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss our favorite sexual fantasies of 2025, the sex & dating goals we set for ourselves last year, and our new goals for 2026. Fanta...

Take It From the Top

13 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on the biggest changes in our sex & dating lives in 2025, the sex toys we loved most, and the weirdest se...

Gag Gift

24 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy holidays to those celebrating! We’re discussing objectification kink again this week, through a seasonal lens. Holiday Stress | Giving People...

An Object Lesson

16 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be ‘objectified’ in a kink scene, and how is that different from the other, less-hot ways one can be objectified? This week w...

Working Out the Kinks

09 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we dive deeper into kinky-on-vanilla relationships, discussing how to tell if someone might be vanilla, how to explore kink outside of a new...

Vivaciously Vanilla

02 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Can a kinkster be truly satisfied dating a vanilla person, and vice-versa? This week we discuss bridging the gap between kinky and vanilla partners! ...

Bewitched, Bruised, & Bewildered

25 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Can it be romantic to get spanked, stepped on, and bossed around? Absolutely! This week, Billy interviews Kate about how her submissiveness is deeply ...

Sexy Eccentrics

18 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’ve got a whole new batch of interesting fetishes from Reddit to discuss, from trees to heavy metal music to illusionists. Making Them ...

Full of Yourself

11 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What is self-confidence and why does it matter? This week, we’re unpacking what it means to feel confident, why it’s hot, and how to cultivate it....

Straight to the Point

04 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we continue our discussion of heterosexual culture, discussing straight wedding traditions, gender reveal parties, the kinkification of stra...

Set the Record Straight

28 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

To celebrate Halloween, this week we’re discussing some of the scarier aspects of heterosexual culture! Dating Straight People | Not Gay | The Trag...

We Good?

21 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Regularly-scheduled “check-in” conversations are one way to keep a relationship strong – so this week, we discuss our favorite ways of checking ...

Gender & the City

14 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Kate and mb interview the brilliant Tuck Woodstock, host of the Gender Reveal podcast and co-editor of the hilarious new anthology Sex Chan...

Sweet Sweet Service

07 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How has our relationship to service kink changed as we’ve gotten older, done more therapy, and moved in with our partners? This week we discuss our ...

Ass Is In Session

30 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

People believe all kinds of nonsense about anal play, so this week we’re busting myths about butt stuff.Makes You Gay | Homophobe Ick | (Un)Natural?...

Get the Word Out

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are some sexual labels more cringe than others? Do our public labels differ from our private ones? And what’s up with people who don’t think we sh...

What It Says On the Tin

16 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When it comes to sex and gender, labels can be helpful and affirming, but they can also be limiting and divisive. This week, we discuss our own labels...

Ace of Hearts

09 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Asexuality is a highly misunderstood identity, so this week we’re discussing what it means to be ace – and why Kate is newly identifying that way!...

Carpe DM

02 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we give more advice on play parties, including how to become a DM, how to approach a stranger for play, and how to take care of yourself em...

Bedding Crashers

26 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Party time! This week, we discuss etiquette and preparation for attending a play party, whether it’s sex-focused, kink-focused, or both. Sex as a H...

Explosively Erotic

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We always love learning about interesting fetishes, and this week we’ve got a bunch of juicy ones to discuss, from bomb-shaped women to pig-shaped m...

Keep It Rolling

12 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Watching movies and TV shows with a partner can be surprisingly bonding and eye-opening! This week we discuss the ways our relationships have benefite...

Was It Good For Me?

05 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we dig deeper into the subject of sexual selfishness, answering questions like: Can it be selfish to give pleasure? How can you satisfy a st...

Sweetly Greedy

29 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be selfish in bed, and is it always necessarily a bad thing? This week we discuss our relationships to “selfishness” and rece...

Meet in the Middle

22 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Talking about sex is hard, which is why so many sex educators try to “meet people where they’re at,” a concept we unpack this week to help you h...

Lip Service

08 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we celebrated International Kissing Day by answering listener questions about kissing! “We Should Make Out” | Hormone Changes | Kissin...

Home Sweet Homo

03 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, while Kate’s moving from Toronto to New York, Billy chats with his partner Dee Darkholme about THEIR recent move, and what it’s been li...

Emotional Blue Balls

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How do you get over a friend who doesn’t like you back? This week, we wade deeper into the topic of unrequited feelings within a friendship. Crush ...

Probably Platonic?

17 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you catch feelings for your friend? This week, we discuss the tricky art of keeping a friendship afloat while attraction rocks the b...

Copulationships

10 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Friendships with benefits are an important part of our sexual landscape, so this week we discuss how to navigate casual ongoing sexual partnerships wi...

Pleasure for the Better

03 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sexual pleasure can be wonderful self-care, even during some low-libido times. This week we discuss our favorite methods of sexual self-care. Happy P...

Take the 'E' Train

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week Kate chats with her wife mb about how HRT (hormone replacement therapy) can affect transfeminine people’s skin sensitivity, orgasm intensi...

Do It Yourself

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Masturbation Month to those who celebrate! This week we’re answering listener questions on jerkin’ it.Want to Want It | Solo Pain Play | Mas...

Let's All U-Haul

06 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Living with your polycule: bad idea, or best idea? This week we discuss the emotional and practical realities of Billy’s recent decision to move in ...

Leather Whenever

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Kate chats with friend of the show Addison Finch about the ritual and reverence of bootblacking, and what we can learn about our current po...

Blaze of Gloryhole

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

As is tradition, this week we celebrate 4/20 by getting intoxicated and answering silly hypothetical questions about sex. Last Prisoner Project | Mov...

Who, What, Where, & When?

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you prefer to plan dates or have them planned for you, a date’s location or activity can play a big role in how well it goes – so this wee...

Put Your Best Tit Forward

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Lots of people like to incorporate multimedia into their sexting, so this week we discuss the benefits of sending voice memos and provocative pictures...

Textual Healing

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we discuss some of our favorite things about sexting – like how it can build rapport, establish compatibility, and even increase your empa...

Ask Me (Almost) Anything

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we answer more questions about asking questions – including questions that can help you suss out somebody’s politics or kinks, negotiat...

And How About You?

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Diving deeper into our recent discussion on how curiosity is sexy, this week we discuss the practice of asking questions on dates: why it matters, why...

Dating While Taken

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Polyamorous dating can be pretty different depending on whether you’re single versus in a long-term relationship already; this week we discuss our e...

Fetishes Are Fabulous

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re discussing some interesting and unusual fetishes we’ve stumbled across recently, from glossy magazines to nail-biting to haircutti...

Tell Me More

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we discuss two crucial qualities that can make you exponentially better in bed (and out of bed, too): curiosity and creativity.Sexual Skills...

Pleasure Under Pressure

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Pursuing pleasure isn’t always as easy as it may seem, so this week we’re discussing some common hurdles to pleasure and how to overcome them, amo...

Please Please Me

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When times get tough, pleasure becomes more important than ever. This week, we discuss our favorite ways of accessing pleasure, and the role it plays ...

Flip the Script

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re continuing to discuss some of our favorite films about the LGBTQ+ experience – plus a few about non-monogamy and sex work, for goo...

Queens on the Silver Screen

21 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We needed a dose of queer resilience this week (maybe you do too!), so we’re talking about some of our favorite queer films and the evolution of LGB...

Tell Me What You Want, What You Really Really Want

14 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

This week we get real vulnerable (and a li’l intoxicated) and tell you about some of our favorite new fantasies from 2024, the goals we set for our ...

Long Story Short

07 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

How did you grow and change in 2024 when it comes to sex and relationships? This week, we’re reflecting on our biggest (and kinkiest) shifts over th...

Leave a Message At the Tone

17 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Vocal tone can have a big effect on kink scenes and everyday conversations alike, so this week we’re discussing our feelings on voices and dirty tal...

One Singular Sensation

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

People are always coming up with new and interesting fetishes, and this week we discuss some unusual ones we’ve seen lately. Current Definition | “...

Access Denied

03 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, a conversation about denial kink devolves into a wide-ranging discussion of gendered sex narratives, the kinky legacies of trauma, and the ...

Hello, Stranger

26 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What if celebrity crushes can be healthy, actually? This week, we discuss some of the benefits of parasocial relationships, for people on both sides o...

Nuttin' in Common

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss the politics and philosophy of No Nut November, and how it compares to chastity play. NNN vs. Chastity Kink ...

You Don't Know Me, But...

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve experienced parasocial relationships from both sides of the coin, so this week we’re discussing our experiences with this sometimes-nice, so...

Phantasms & Fantasies

29 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing our favorite fantasies outside the realm of realism. Fantasies Changing Over Time | Impossibilities | T...

Wand-ering Down Memory Lane

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re taking the week off, so here’s the full, previously-unreleased conversation we had when Kate interviewed Billy for Making Magic in September...

Are You Mad At Me?

15 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we dig deeper into the fear of rejection, sharing some ways we cope with this fear in our own lives and discussing how cultural and hormona...

The Brush-Off Blues

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Halloween is coming up, so we decided to talk about fear… of rejection! Fear Fluctuations | Self-Soothing | Vulnerability Points | Pandemic Changes...

We Heart Sadists!

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sadists get a bad rap sometimes, so this week we’re discussing some of the things we love about them. Stigma | Consent | Emotional Complexity | Int...

Eat Me, Drink Me

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week Billy chats with his partner, Dee Darkholme, about their shared love of cannibalism kink. Cannibalism Is Romantic | Obsession & Limerence |...

Gender Splendor

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Friend of the show Mx. Nillin Lore has a new book out called How Do I Sexy?: A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers, so this week we spoke with them a...

Ready For Anything

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss how we’d prepare for a first date, a threesome, a first sex/kink conference, and a new crush, in honor of National Preparednes...

Service with a Smile

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can people-pleasers be into service kink? This week, we’re discussing our evolving relationships to providing and receiving service (sexual, domesti...

The 400th One

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Can you believe we’ve done 400 episodes?! This week, we look back at some of our old “hot takes” and see whether we still agree with them. Vuln...

The Vore, The Merrier

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Vore is one of the most interesting and fantastical kinks out there, and this week we’re doing a deep-dive on it while continuing to discuss animate...

A Flirtation with Animation

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is animated porn as hot as “the real thing”? Sometimes it’s even hotter! This week we’re discussing what animated porn can do that live-action...

Ghost in the Machine

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ghosting may not be the most mature way to end things with someone, but it does happen – so this week we’re discussing the ethics of ghosting, and...

Pretty Little Head

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Intelligence play, such as bimbofication, is an edgy-yet-intriguing kink for many people – so this week we’re discussing our own feelings about it...

Tongue-in-Cheek

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re diving deeper into our discussion of kissing, covering common issues people have with making out, like finding tongues gross or not ...

Lip-Lock Talk

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kissing is hot, and can tell you a lot about a person. This week we’re answering listener questions about making out. Evolving Opinions | Kissing v...

Shock, Horror!

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We're continuing our discussion on emotional sadomasochism this week, covering hypnosis, negotiation, mid-scene troubleshooting, and how to subvert ha...

When Hard Feelings Make You Hard

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sadomasochism isn’t just physical – many kinksters play with pain and discomfort in the emotional and psychological realms, too. This week we’re...

At First Blush

25 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why are first times so hot? This week we’re interrogating our feelings on first times, both real and roleplayed. What is a “First Time”? | Firs...

You Asked, We Rambled

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We’re answering listener questions this week about rimming, condoms, masturbation, fetishes, and more! Rimming | Sick People | Textured Condoms | L...

Sure, Why Not?

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week Billy talks with his partner Dee Darkholme about some of the unusual kinks and dynamics that have emerged in their relationship. Feet | Fut...

Giving Good Hole

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re chatting with the brilliant author and podcaster Tina Horn about her new book, Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation o...

What Makes the Magic Wand So Magic?

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Here's the first episode of Kate's podcast miniseries on the Magic Wand, Making Magic!The Magic Wand is a cult-favorite sex toy, beloved by vibrator c...

Just Like Magic

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Kate’s about to launch a project she’s been working on for a year, a podcast miniseries about the Magic Wand called Making Magic: How the Magic Wa...

Switching Things Up

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Changes in your kinky power dynamic can be scary and destabilizing, but they can also be exciting, healing, and necessary. This week, we discuss shift...

Skilful Self-Love

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Masturbation Month! We’re celebrating by answering listener questions about jerking off. Cum Socks, Cum Box | Pruney Fingers | Jerking Off to...

Immerse Me, Queen

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What do sex, kink, Michelin-star restaurants, Disney World, and Dungeons & Dragons have in common? This week we’re talking about the concept of imme...

Hard-Won Wisdom

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the best lesson you’ve ever learned about sex, dating, or masturbating? This week we’re celebrating Kate’s birthday by distilling some ...

Come Fly With Me

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Traveling with a partner can be magical, or it can be stressful as hell. This week, we’re discussing the pitfalls and best practices of taking trips...

Standard Practice

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, bo...

A Huge Turn-On

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts an...

Art Smarts

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a t...

That Escalated Quickly

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jess...

Messy Masculinity

12 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic f...