The Dildorks
Episodes
Hard-Won Wisdom
23 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What’s the best lesson you’ve ever learned about sex, dating, or masturbating? This week we’re celebrating Kate’s birthday by distilling some ...
Come Fly With Me
16 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Traveling with a partner can be magical, or it can be stressful as hell. This week, we’re discussing the pitfalls and best practices of taking trips...
Standard Practice
10 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to have “high standards” or to be “too picky” in the realms of dating and sex? This week we’re talking about standards, bo...
A Huge Turn-On
02 Apr 2024
Contributed by Lukas
There are a ton of ways that size differences can be eroticized, from age play to giantess porn to vore fantasies. This week, we share our thoughts an...
Art Smarts
26 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re joined by Addison Finch, the artist who created our new logo! We talk with him about how the art came together, plus his work as a t...
That Escalated Quickly
19 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Definition | Deciding to Get Married | Hierarchical vs. Non-Hierarchical | Polysecure by Jessica Fern | Escalator Without Hierarchy | Polywise by Jess...
Messy Masculinity
12 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Is porn addiction real? Is the NoFap community just a bunch of chastity fetishists? Are men okay? This week Kate chats with Kris Taylor, an academic f...
Commit to the Bit
06 Mar 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Humor is a big component of our sex and kink, but it’s not always appropriate during scenes. This week we talk about how and when to deploy humor to...
Porn Scorn
27 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Watching porn while in a relationship can be more contentious than watching it while single; this week, we theorize on why that is, and answer listene...
Romantic Antics
20 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
With Valentine’s Day having just passed, this week we tried to figure out what “romance” actually is. Consistency | Autism & Aromanticism | Lov...
Buzzkill
13 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when a sex toy reviewer quits using vibrators? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss her recent break from using vibes, the reasons fo...
Good Vibes Only
06 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We’re answering listener questions on sex toys this week – and sharing some of our snarky takes about certain sex toy brands. Meeting People Wher...
Sealed With a Piss
30 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Watersports is a wet, wild, and wonderful kink! This week, we’re discussing piss play: what we find hot about it (and what we don’t), how we’ve ...
Goals for Our Holes
23 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Take a peek inside our brains: this week we’re recounting our favorite sexual fantasies from 2023, and setting some sex goals for the coming year. ...
Toy Talk
16 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ready to get incredibly nerdy about sex toys? This week we’re discussing the toys we loved most in 2023, as well as recapping the best sex we had in...
Raunchy Retrospective
09 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Happy new year! This week we’re discussing some of the big changes we experienced in our sex, kink, and dating lives this past year. How Was 2023? ...
Jizz the Season
19 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy holidays, friends! This week we’re answering listener questions about navigating sex, kink, and relationships around the holidays. Holiday Co...
Feeling Things Out
12 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It can be tricky to determine your sex/kink compatibility with someone you’ve just started flirting with, so this week we’re offering advice on ju...
Sage Advice
05 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate chats with Sage Monroe, a phone sex operator and consultant, about the ups and downs of the phone sex business. Getting Into It | Prof...
No WHAT November?!
28 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Since the month is almost done, this week we’re examining the practice of No Nut November and the community around it. Unfortunate Origins | Mastur...
Lackluster Libido
21 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If your libido’s low right now, you’re not alone. This week we’re talking about periods of diminished sexual desire and what we like to do about...
Gimme That Big Hard Lock
16 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Ever heard of Locktober, the month-long chastity challenge? Kate’s spouse mb recently did it (with Kate as keyholder) and in this episode, the two o...
Dick or Treat
31 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Halloween! This week we’re addressing some seasonal sexy inquiries, about fear play, haunted houses, Chewbacca masks, and more. Turned On By ...
Hot Off the Press
25 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re answering listener questions on erotica and fanfiction! Pearl Necklace Bondage | Finding Kinky & Trans Authors | Heckin’ Lewd | N...
Wet Ink
17 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing our current relationships to erotica and fanfiction, since Kate just had a story published in Rachel Kramer Bussel’s ne...
Open Impropriety
10 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back to talk about polyamory boundary violations some more this week. Cuckolding | Whose Responsibility Is It? | Downstairs DJ’s No Nut Nov...
Over the Line
03 Oct 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It can be tough to recover when someone violates a relationship agreement in polyamory, but there are ways to prevent this from happening, or to repai...
Fascinating Fetishes
26 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing some unique fetishes that have been posted about on the /r/Sex subreddit recently, including belly buttons, Speedos, and ...
Come to Your Senses
19 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Limiting one or more senses can have a big effect on how you experience sex and kink. This week we’re talking about sensory deprivation play! Using...
I've Scene Enough
12 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a lot of debate right now about sex scenes in movies and TV, so this week we’re discussing whether sex scenes are necessary, what makes a ...
Professional Show-Offs
05 Sep 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Being an online creator can feel quite exhibitionistic at times, and not always in a sexy way. This week we’re discussing the ups and downs of being...
Smooth Move
29 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing “sex moves” that have been propagated by the internet, like the shocker, the rusty trombone, and the knee trick. Are...
Deal or No Deal?
22 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re parsing the differences between limits, boundaries, and dealbreakers – and explaining some of our own rules in each category. Def...
Seeing Red
15 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re discussing safewords again this week, including how to know when to safeword, how to safeword if you tend to go non-verbal during scenes, and ...
Just Say the Word
08 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Safewords are an important tool for many kinksters, so this week we’re discussing what safewords are, when they’re useful, and some tips on how to...
Selectively Social
01 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sure, we’re pretty sexual people, but are we social? This week we’re discussing our current thoughts on, and strategies for, socializing while the...
Sperminology
25 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing some more new-ish additions to the sex/kink lexicon, some of which we like and some of which we find baffling. Prejac | ...
Play on Words
18 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week, your two millennial cohosts debate and discuss the definitions of various sex/kink terms popularized by Gen Z. Feeling Old | Gooning | Sim...
Intimate Brutality
11 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Billy just got back from kink camp (Dark Odyssey Fusion) as well as TES Fest, and this week he tells us about what it was like to do both of those kin...
Cis & Tell
04 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In light of Elon Musk recently declaring “cis” to be a slur on Twitter (it’s not), this week Kate is interviewed by her spouse mb about what it ...
Break the Bank
27 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate chats with pro financial dominatrix and kinky comedian Lane Kwederis about findom and her one-woman show, Sex Job! Findom Beginnings |...
Tears for Queers
20 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Crying can be hot, challenging, painful, cathartic, pleasurable, or all of the above. This week we’re talking about our current relationship to cryi...
Brat Chat
13 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Continuing our discussion of brats, “bad” subs, and “good” subs, this week we talk about how rebellion, humor, and colorful language can be wo...
Bad to the Bone
06 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some submissives like to be “good,” some like to be “bad,” some like to be “bratty,” and some prefer a combination or like to mix things u...
Gremlin Container
30 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Billy is interviewed by his boyfriend Dee Darkholme about “free use” kink, a type of consensual non-consent… while planning a free use...
State of the Masturbation Nation
23 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re talking about our ever-evolving relationships to masturbation and how it all relates to self-love, self-co...
Mommy Dearest
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re (belatedly) celebrating Mother’s Day by talking about mommy kink – plus a decent amount of daddy kink thrown in for good measure...
Sublime Submission
09 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’re so excited this week to be chatting with Mollena Lee Williams-Haas, a kink educator, podcaster, author, and performer. We got into a fascinati...
Going Under
25 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate has a nerdy chat with Sleepingirl, an author, podcaster, and long-time hypnokinkster who has created numerous erotic hypnosis resources...
Your Ass is Grass
18 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It’s that time again: this week we’re celebrating 4/20 by getting blazed and answering “highpothetical” questions about sex and kink! Tune in ...
Facials, Furries, & Fingering
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re answering random sex advice questions, like: Is it hotter to wear a suit, or sweatpants? How can you enjoy sex when you’re trying ...
Horny Story Lore
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This week Billy is joined by his partner, Dee Darkholme, for a nerdy discussion of kinky roleplay: how characters get developed, which characters and ...
Constructive Cliticism
28 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve both reviewed a LOT of sex toys, so this week we’re talking about the intricacies of sex toy reviewing: what makes a good review, how we tes...
Living on the Edge
21 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Edging and denial go together very well, and this week we’re talking about both: why they can be fun, why they can be annoying and difficult, and ho...
Mental Help
14 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Depression can put a strain on relationships, but it doesn’t have to! This week we’re talking to our friend JoEllen Notte, an author and mental he...
Thanks, I Hate It
07 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes. paradoxically, it’s fun to suffer! This week we’re talking about suffering in a kink context: why we (sometimes) like it, how to do it ...
Not Now, Honey
28 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It can be embarrassing (or hot! or both!) to come at the “wrong” time. This week we’re talking about inopportunely-timed orgasms, why they can b...
Role Me Over
21 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Roleplay is a big part of both our sex/kink lives, but what does it actually mean to play a role? This week we’re diving into the intricacies of pla...
Roses Are Red, Etc.
14 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! This week we’re discussing the pros and cons of this “Hallmark holiday” and answering listener que...
Sanitize Me Daddy
07 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Even though we both make sex media, we’ve both felt pressured to “sanitize” what we do from time to time. This week we discuss professionalism, ...
Hate 2 Date
31 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Why are dating apps so bad?! This week, we discuss some of our issues with dating apps and (maybe) some ways to work around these problems. Fake Prof...
Yeet Those Teets
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Billy’s partner Dee Darkholme just got top surgery, so this week, the two of them discuss the process of deciding to get it, what the actual procedu...
Anal Ambitions
17 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We both want to do more butt stuff this year, so in this episode we discuss our experiences with anal play, our reasons for wanting more of it, and ou...
What's Next in Sex?
10 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What did we accomplish sexually in 2022, and what are our sex & kink goals for 2023? This week we’re discussing all that, plus our best sex sessions...
A Hole New Year
03 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex/kink/dating lives in 2022: new things we tried, new toys we enjoyed, new fantasies we couldn’...
Come Here Often?
06 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we had a wide-ranging discussion about “picking people up,” pickup artists, social skills, the ethics of seduction, building confidence,...
Shop Til You Top
29 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do you find kink implements that are both practical and pretty? This week we’re sharing our best tips for kink toy shopping, as well as sex toy ...
Buysexual
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we offer our best advice on shopping for sex toys, interspersed with some anecdotes about our wacky days working in sex toy retail. In-Pers...
A Stroke of Genius
15 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Is it safe to use a banana, an electric toothbrush, or a wooden spoon as a sex toy? This week, we’re discussing makeshift and homemade “sex toys”...
Get Revved Up
08 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Not everyone gets horny in the same way or at the same pace! This week we’re discussing the difference between responsive desire and spontaneous des...
Tough Talks
01 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Navigating conflict is one of the trickiest parts of being in a relationship, so this week we’re discussing our best tools and techniques for having...
Cheater-o-Meter
25 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing more behaviors that might be cheating, or might not be – like keeping your ex’s nudes, neglecting to use condoms, or ...
Trick or Cheat
18 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There’s a lot of confusion over what constitutes cheating on someone, so this week we’re discussing what we think cheating is, and what it definit...
Bonus Boners
11 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’re releasing this bonus episode, originally recorded for our $12+ Patreon supporters, on our main feed this week because Billy is out sick. Enjoy...
Eat, Spray, Love
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What the hell is squirting, anyway? This week we discuss our experiences with squirting, our theories on the controversies that surround it, and our f...
Live and Let Bi
27 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’re busting more bisexuality myths this week, like: Are bi people more likely to want to have a threesome? What’s the difference between bi and ...
I Don't Bi It
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Since it’s Bisexuality Day on Friday, this week we thought we’d bust some common myths and misconceptions about bisexuality and bi people. 100% B...
Pervs Have Feelings Too
13 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Lately we’re both unenthused about doing kink with people we don’t have an emotional connection with, so this week we’re discussing the role of ...
Natural Kinklinations
06 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How do our kinky tendencies affect other areas of our lives? This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss how dominance, submissiveness, toppiness and bot...
Screwing the Whole Crew
30 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we revisit the topic of group sex: threesomes, foursomes, and orgies. We discuss how our mindsets about group sex have changed over the pand...
Quirky Creations
23 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve both tried a lot of sex toys, and this week we’re talking about some of the weirdest ones we’ve ever encountered, from the Lelo dick tuxed...
Strap Chat
16 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We both love strap-on sex, and this week we’re discussing our fave harnesses and dildos and our top tips for giving good strap. Our Strap Experienc...
We've Done This 300 Times
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re celebrating our 300th episode by talking about our “top 3” choices in a bunch of different categories! Pain Implements | Dirty ...
Keeping Our Privates Private
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Privacy can be a tricky subject to navigate in sexual relationships, so this week we’re answering listener questions on the fine line between privac...
Femmes 4Ever
19 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Femmes are somehow both erased and revered in the queer community. This week we’re discussing Kate’s femme identity: what it means, how she arrive...
Illicit Ingenuity
12 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we set out to have a discussion of creativity in kink, and it turned into a meandering discussion of that, Bex’s adventures at kink camp, ...
Robot Revelry
05 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate’s spouse Matthew Bischoff returns for a discussion of kinky apps, sex machines, electrostimulation and other fun sex tech. Notes App...
The Future is Cumming
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Could sex apps, high-tech vibrators and sex robots ever replace sex with actual humans? This week Kate is joined by her spouse Matthew Bischoff, a tec...
Games, Toys & Bi Guys
21 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re joined by our friend Brent Black (a.k.a. Brentalfloss), who’s currently working on a sequel to his hilarious party game Use Your W...
Beyond Your Wildest Dreams
14 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we discuss sex dreams, romantic dreams, wet dreams, and other ways that crushes and carnality show up when you’re dreaming! Getting Mad |...
Utterly Entranced
07 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It’s been a while since we talked about erotic hypnosis, so this week Bex interviews Kate about how hypno is manifesting in her relationship and kin...
The Hair Down There
31 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
People have a lot of feelings about body hair, so this week we thought we’d discuss pubes, armpit hair and leg hair: our feelings about them, our re...
Tickle the Ivories
24 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week Bex interviews Kate about her other creative outlet besides writing about sex: writing songs (including songs about sex!). We discuss the so...
Boy Juice
17 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Bex’s partner Ashe recently celebrated 6 months on testosterone, and Bex has been on it for 5 years – so this week the two of them sat down to cha...
If You Want Something Done Right...
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We’re talking about masturbation again this week! Tune in to hear us answer listener questions about solo sex. Donate to Your Local Abortion Fund |...
Wank You Very Much
03 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Masturbation Month! This week we’re answering complex questions from listeners about the logistics and ethics of masturbation. Grumpy About M...
Money Honey
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Ever enjoyed spending money on someone, or being spoiled by someone? This week we’re discussing financial domination: why it’s hot, how to do it (...
Smokes 'n' Jokes
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A very happy 4/20 to all who celebrate! Once again this year, we’re celebrating by doing “Highpotheticals,” i.e. getting high and answering your...
Hitting the Right Notes
12 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we’re so excited to be talking to sex-positive singer/songwriter Rachel Lark, who we’ve both adored for many years! We chat about her n...
Life of the Party
05 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re diving deeper into the topic of sex parties: how to break the ice, handle conflicts, communicate what you are and aren’t up for, a...