The Dildorks

No Pain, No Gain

08 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re delighted to chat with Leigh Cowart, the author of one of our favorite recent books, Hurts So Good: The Science & Culture of Pain on...

Serves You Right

02 Feb 2022

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re discussing the ways service kink manifests in our relationships currently, and what our biggest service-related fantasies are.Teache...

Peen Machines

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Sex toys for penises are seldom discussed, compared to their vulva-focused counterparts, so this week we’re shining a light on our favorite toys for...

Archetypes After Dark

18 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How can we use the idea of “archetypes” in our kink scenes? This week we’re discussing some of our favorite kinky archetypes and how we incorpor...

Boozy Screws

11 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of people combine sex with alcohol, but how can one do so in the safest and kindest way possible? This week we’re discussing the important int...

Happy Nude Year

04 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Happy new year! This week we’re reflecting on our sex and kink adventures from 2021, and setting goals for 2022. Our Holidays | This Year vs. Last ...

Titillation & Explication

21 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happy holidays! We’re finishing off the year by answering some questions about penis size, lesbian sex, sex work, and other sexy miscellany. Scisso...

Let's Talk About Text, Baby

14 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re still pontificating about sexting! In this week’s episode, we share our thoughts on sending and receiving nudes, sexting in public, being a ...

Textual Attraction

07 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Now more than ever, sexting is a key way many people are expressing their sexualities. This week, we share our current thoughts on, and approaches to,...

What the Fig?

30 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

If you know what figging is, then you know that this episode where we got figged during the recording is gonna be a wild one. If you don’t know what...

(Don't) Stop in the Name of Love

23 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re answering more listener questions about consensual non-consent! More Negotiation Questions | Evaluating Limits | More Real | HUSTL...

When No Means Ohhh

16 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Consensual non-consent is a controversial kink, so this week we’re talking about how to do it in the safest, hottest, and kindest ways possible. De...

Zonked Out

09 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re discussing sleepy sex: how to do it safely and consensually, why it’s kinky as heck, and what additions can make it even kinkier. ...

Sexpress Yourself

02 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people wish they were better at dirty talk, so this week we’re discussing some of our favorite dirty-talk tips and tricks! Revisiting | Separa...

Praise Craze

26 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been turned on by receiving or giving praise? This week we’re discussing the ins and outs of praise kink! Mean 4 Pay | What is Praise Kink? | ...

You Always Remember Your Fist

20 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Fisting is an oft-misunderstood sex act, so this week we’re discussing the mechanics and philosophy of this much-revered form of hand sex. Misconce...

Cum Conundrums

12 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re answering sex advice requests from Reddit about masturbation, threesomes, vaginas, hookup etiquette, and more! Jerking Off After Se...

The Paddle is Mightier

05 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Kate’s debut book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is launching in one week, so this week Bex interviews her about the writing process, the philosop...

Heckin' Horny

28 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re talking with Mx. Nillin, a sex blogger, educator, and erotica author, about their upcoming anthology of trans and non-binary erotica...

Perverts in Tents

21 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Bex just got back from Dark Odyssey kink camp, so in this episode he regales us with kinky stories and offers advice for folks considering going in fu...

Rub-a-Dub-Dub

14 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people worry about their sexual hygiene and grooming, so this week we’re answering listener questions on these sensitive topics! Good vs. Bad ...

Tender Gender

07 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Lots of people have learned new things about their gender and identity during the pandemic, so this week we’re discussing how to re-enter the dating...

OnlyBans

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

With the recent news about OnlyFans fresh in our minds, this week we’re discussing sex work stigma, financial issues in the sex industry, and how to...

What's in the Cards?

24 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re joined by sex blogger and tarot reader Wendy Phillips of The Wench Works. We chat about blogging, self-esteem, and the intersections...

Bookish Hookups

10 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our guest this week is the sex educator and author Allison Moon! Her wonderful new book, Getting It, inspired this deep-dive discussion of casual sex....

Sex, Dating, & Celebrating

03 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re celebrating our 250th episode by doing something a little different this week: our partners, Ashe and Matt, put us in the hotseat to interview...

Not Tonight, Honey

27 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Many people get nervous about sexually rejecting partners, or get sad when someone sexually rejects them. This week we’re giving advice on common se...

Thanks, But No Thanks

20 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Being rejected is hard, and rejecting someone might be even harder. This week we’re delving into the intricacies of romantic rejection! Soft No’s...

Meta-More

13 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Navigating polyamory can be difficult even in the best of times, so this week we’re answering listener questions about non-monogamy! Polycule Crush...

Helping the Horny

06 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re answering questions from the /r/Sex forum on Reddit, on topics such as threesome etiquette, strap-on psychology, and the definition ...

It's All Relative

29 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Talking to your family about sex can be awkward, but we’re here to help! This week we answer your questions on navigating various sexuality-related ...

Sex Drive Nosedive

22 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Lots of folks are struggling with libido issues due to pandemic stress, so this week we thought we’d discuss ways to rekindle your libido when it’...

Ex-Rated

16 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Whether your ex is now your best friend or your sworn enemy, it’s evident that relations with exes can be tricky… This week we advised listeners o...

On the Other Hand...

08 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Hands and fingers and fists, oh my…! This week we’re talking about hand sex: how to do it, why some people are hesitant to do it, and what makes i...

Coquettish Fetish

01 Jun 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We talk about kink a lot, but what about fetishes? This week, we’re discussing what it means to have a fetish, what to do if you’re sexually incom...

Casual Copulation

25 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we discuss our ever-evolving feelings about casual sex, hookups, and one-night stands! Anxiety & Awkwardness | The Good & The Bad | Scarci...

Cummunal Space

18 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re answering more listener questions about public sex, including sex in locations like fitting rooms, graveyards, and a moving car! Be...

Out in the Open

11 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

With the weather warming up and vaccines being administered, we figured now would be a good time to talk about public sex, something we’ll be able t...

Hurt Me Harder

27 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

We’re revisiting the topic of masochism this week to discuss our current, ever-evolving relationships to pain, and our fave mental techniques for ge...

Oh High There

20 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happy 4/20, y’all! One again this year, as is tradition, we’re getting high and asking each other silly sex questions. Enjoy! Two Strains | Last ...

"Nope" is a Complete Sentence

13 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re continuing our discussion of limits in kink! Can limits be a fetish? Can limits be toxic? Can limits be gently and safely pushed? T...

The Limit Does Exist

06 Apr 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Your limits are valid! This week we’re talking about hard and soft limits in the realms of sex and kink: what they are, why they’re important, and...

What Cums Next?

30 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What will dating be like after COVID? This week, we’re discussing how (and whether) to re-enter the dating scene after the pandemic. Tinder Plus | ...

Hellooo, Nurse!

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re doing a deep dive on medical play! We talk about why we’re into it, what it can look like, and the various tropes and pitfalls ass...

Aural Service

16 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week Kate is chatting with the Bearded Scotsman, a creator of erotic audio and ASMR files. We discussed consent, chivalry, “Tumblr doms,” and...

Let's Get Meta

10 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Relationships between metamours can be tricky, so this week we’re discussing the do’s and don’ts of connecting with your partner’s partner! D...

Off the Cock

02 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re answering more questions about the duration of sex: how to deal when it goes on too long, how to ask for a round two, and more! Sad...

The Long & Short of It

23 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of people worry that the sex they have is “too short” or “too long,” so this week we’re answering some listener questions about the du...

The Moan, the Merrier

16 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re discussing some of the intricacies of group sex – a type of encounter we’ll hopefully be able to have again someday, post-pande...

Be Mine, Valentine

09 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Valentine’s week! In this episode we answer some listener questions about celebrating Valentine’s Day. Love is Art Kit | Clone-a-Willy | Lo...

Slut for Kindness

02 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re talking to Eva Bloom – a sex educator, YouTuber, and author – about sexting, casual sex, desire during a pandemic, and more! Be...

Cumming of Age

26 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

As we near the end of our twenties, we’re discussing how the aging process has affected our sexualities thus far, and how we envision our sex lives ...

Cuddle Buddies

19 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

While our show is mostly about sex, it’s not the only type of intimacy that matters! This week we’re discussing how emotional and physical closene...

Reunited & It Feels So Good

12 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when your long-distance relationship isn’t long-distance anymore? This week we’re talking about the adjustments and changes that occu...

A Household Name

05 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Since many of us are stuck at home right now, this week we’re chatting about household service tasks in D/s dynamics! Distance No More | Meal Plann...

Hindsight 2020

29 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

So long, 2020! This week, we’re reflecting on how this hellish year affected our sex lives, what salacious goals we did and didn’t achieve, and wh...

"O" So Good

22 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re celebrating Global Orgasm Day by answering some of your questions about orgasms! What Orgasms? | Global Orgasm Day | Strap-On Orga...

Kinky Trinkets

15 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The gifting season is upon us! This week we’re discussing what makes a great sexy gift, whether you’re trying to spoil a partner, a friend, or you...

Holy Matrimoany

08 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Kate got married last month, so this week we’re talking about the sexy and kinky dimensions of wedding traditions! Wife Life | Wedding Dress Fetish...

No More-gasms

01 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, Bex chats with his partner Ashe (of Rose Glass Photography) about the ways they play with chastity in their relationship! Chastity vs. Org...

Touch Me So Write

17 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re talking with Sinclair Sexsmith, writer, educator, and editor of the new book Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5! We touch on...

Singled Out

10 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Some people love being single, some hate it… Whatever your opinion may be, this week we’re discussing the single life! Election News | Bad at Bei...

Otherwise Engaged

03 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Kate got engaged recently (!!) so this week is a frank discussion of marriage proposals, engagement, and the various unconventional ways one can do th...

Sensitive Matters

27 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Your sexual sensitivity can affect your enjoyment, self-esteem and more – so this week we’re discussing some of our best tricks for managing sensi...

24/Heaven

20 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be in a 24/7 D/s dynamic, why is it hot, and why is it comforting? This week we're discussing round-the-clock power exchange! Al...

Perv Parameters

13 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re addressing some of your questions about boundaries, especially as they pertain to sex, friendships, and non-monogamy! Inappropriate...

The F*ck Stops Here

06 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Setting boundaries is hard, but important! This week we’re discussing the tricky business of drawing a line in the sand, with romantic partners and ...

Vet Your Bottom Dollar

29 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you figure out whether a potential kink partner is safe enough and a good enough match with you before you do anything with them? This week we’...

Anxious4Avoidant

22 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re talking with polyamory-experienced psychotherapist Jessica Fern about her excellent new book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, & Cons...

For Crying Out Loud

15 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Crying is good for the soul, but did you know it can also be good for the libido? This week we’re discussing the kinky appeal of crying: cathartic s...

Key to My Heart

08 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about their recent forays into chastity play! Orgasm Control | Past Chastity Experie...

Spaced Out

01 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’re returning to the topics of subspace and topspace this week to answer some great questions from listeners about these phenomena! Switch Drag |...

Space Cadets

25 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Subspace and topspace are two highly sought-after types of experience in the kink world – but what are they, and how do you access them? This week w...

Twitillating

18 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re discussing the intersections of sexuality and social media with Katrin Tildenberg, Ph.D., and Emily van der Nagel, Ph.D., two resear...

Charts 'n' Hearts

11 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re talking to Aryn, an astrologer, podcaster, and sex and relationship coach. They fill us in the answers to our crucial sexual astrolo...

The 200th One

04 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s our 200th episode! Join us as we discuss some other milestones in our lives – specifically our sex lives. 200!!! | Old Episodes | Sex Shop |...

Putting the "D" in ADHD

29 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Conditions like ADHD can affect your whole life, including your sexuality and relationships, in really interesting ways! This week Kate interviews Bex...

Achy Breaky Bod

21 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Chronic pain can make your sex life tricky, but it doesn't have to ruin it! This week Bex interviews Kate about her mysterious chronic pain disorder, ...

Social Lubricant

14 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re answering your conversational queries! We explain how to deduce someone’s openness to chatting, ask questions people actually want...

Verbal Intercourse

07 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to be good at conversation? We’re not claiming to be experts, but we have our preferences… This week, we’re discussing convers...

Fair Play

30 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we sometimes call kink “play”? How does it relate to the games we played as children? This episode is a meandering philosophical discussion...

Here Comes the Pride

23 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

It’s a weird time to be celebrating Pride, to say the least… This week we’re talking about some ways you can access a little Pride magic even in...

Nerves & Pervs

16 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hope y’all are doing okay in this very stressful time. This week we’re discussing how high stress levels affect sex and dating, from dissociation ...

Adora-ble

09 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re joined by self-made porn queen Gwen Adora to discuss how her online sex work business has changed in light of the pandemic – and ...

Stripping From Home

02 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we talked with sex educator, columnist, and stripper Andre Shakti about how she’s transitioned her sex work career onto the internet in th...

The 5-Knuckle Shuffle

26 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Hope you’ve had a lovely Masturbation Month, despite the circumstances! This week we’re answering more listener questions about jerkin’ it. No ...

Polyamory Plus Pandemic

19 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we had a great chat with authors and polyamory educators Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell about their 6-week online course, Unfuck Your Po...

Maysturbation

12 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Happy Masturbation Month! To celebrate, we’re answering some of your most pressing questions about what some people euphemistically call self-lovin’...

Smackrilege

05 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re chatting with journalist, author, and theologian Tara Isabella Burton. Her forthcoming book Strange Rites is about how the “relig...

Signed, Sealed, & Quivered

28 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re joined by erotic letter writer, tarot reader, and oral historian Jamie Beckenstein to discuss the joys of sexy snail mail! Rail Mai...

Riffin' and Spliffin'

21 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Happy 4/20! This week's episode is our annual Highpotheticals special, where we get high off our asses and answer sex questions sent in by listeners. ...

Queerantine

14 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back answering more of your COVID questions! Tune in to hear our thoughts on maintaining relationship momentum during the crisis, balancing di...

SexyDorkyQuarantine

07 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Want to liven up your self-isolation with some sex and/or kink? We’ve got more suggestions this week than you can shake a dick at! Protocol & Ritua...

Jokester Kinksters

31 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week we’re joined by kink educator Carter Brûlée to discuss one thing the three of us have in common: being silly, playful, and giggly during...

Sexual Distancing

24 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Wow, what a week. This episode we’re answering questions about the thing that’s on everyone’s mind – COVID-19 – and how it intersects with s...

Self-Serve Perv

17 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you do kinky stuff if you don’t have (or don’t want) someone to do them with? This week we’re talking about solo kink: why it’s fun, ho...

Deepening... Our Friendship

10 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Don’t listen to this episode while driving! This week Kate busted out her fledgling hypnosis skills and hypnotized Bex, after an extended scene nego...

Depression Transgression

03 Mar 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week, we’re chatting with writer and mental health advocate JoEllen Notte about her incredibly helpful soon-to-launch book on sex and depressio...

Arousing Carousing

25 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

We’re talking about play parties again this week, and this time we’re focusing on what happens once you get to the party. Hear our best advice on ...

Love in the Time of Collars

18 Feb 2020

Contributed by Lukas

This week Kate is joined by her partner Matt (they/them) to talk about collars: what they are, why people like them, and how to go about buying one, n...