The Dildorks
Episodes
A Queer Lens
11 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re joined by Ashe, the photographer extraordinaire behind Rose Glass Photos, who also happens to be Bex’s partner! We discuss how pho...
Fete-ish
04 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Play parties are so fun, but also confusing and scary at times! This week we’re demystifying the processes of finding play parties to attend, mental...
Kinkquiries
28 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re answering some of your big kink questions, including how to keep things casual in a kinky friendship-with-benefits and what to do wh...
You're Hot, Then You're Cold
21 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s be cool and heat things up: this week we’re discussing temperature play!Weather | Sensation Play | Easy vs. Advanced | Ice | Topping | Risks...
Started From the Bottom
15 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
What skills do bottoms develop that allow them to take more sensation, feel good about doing so, and make their tops happy? This week’s episode is a...
Vagic Tricks
07 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Vulvas and vaginas are great! This week we’re discussing our feelings about these widely venerated and vilified parts – both our own and other peo...
Twentybyeeeteen
31 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Happy New Year! This week we’re reviewing how our sex lives progressed in 2019, and looking forward to discuss our 2020 sex goals.You’re Wrong Abo...
Taboos 2: Electric Taboogaloo
18 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back to chat more about taboo kinks! Hear us unpack incest porn, edgy ethnoreligious roleplays, forced feminization, and more. Relativity | L...
Hidden & Forbidden
10 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re talkin’ taboos! Hear us discuss some of our favorite taboo kinks, like intoxication, consensual non-consent, and sleepy sex. More ...
Shall We Trance?
03 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Almost everyone’s curious about hypnosis, so we’re back this week doing Hypno 101! Learn about how trance works, what it feels like, and what kink...
Very, Very Sleepy
26 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We attended a hypnokink event together recently so this week we decided to chat about erotic hypnosis! Hear about our fantasies surrounding this kink,...
Lady HD
19 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Bex sits down with Rachael Rose, a chronically ill and disabled sex educator, to talk about their shared diagnosis: ADHD! Find out how this ...
Skype Hype
12 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re tackling the sex and kink elements of long-distance relationships! Tune in to hear our best Skype sex tips, how protocol works in LD...
Go the Distance
05 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We’ve both been in multiple long-distance relationships, so today we’re discussing the weird, wonderful, and sometimes wistful realities of LDRs!W...
Doc Worship
29 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Bex is back from the hospital after his top surgery! This week he’s telling us the story of his experience (with some contributions from Kate, who w...
Attachment Not Found
22 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We sat down with therapist and educator Aida Manduley to discuss the psychological model known as attachment theory – how it works, why it matters, ...
Chesterday's News
15 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In preparation for Bex’s long-awaited top surgery, we had a conversation about his reasons for getting it, what he’s been doing to get ready for i...
Separation Anxiety
08 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week rounds out our 3-part series on breakups! We’re addressing some awkward post-split situations, like reclaiming your possessions, saying go...
Breakup Breakdown
01 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We had more to say about breakups, so here’s another episode about the ends of relationships!Grammar/Gender Rebel | Rebounds | Staying Friends | Sma...
It's Not You, It's...
24 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How did it take us this long to do an episode about breakups? This week we’re discussing some of our worst splits, how we think they should be done,...
Revolutionizing Romance
17 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re interviewing Dr. Liz Powell, psychologist, speaker, and author of our favorite book on non-monogamy, Building Open Relationships. We...
Gaming the System
11 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Truth or dare? We DARE you to join us this week for a discussion of sex games: different types, ways to play them, and why they might be beneficial. T...
A Song of Nerds & Queers
03 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Bex interviews his friend and roommate, sex educator and queer pirate Jo Goforth, about finding identity through fandom, positive representa...
Dating is Grating
27 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We’re back to smash more romantic myths this week! Hear our takes on unconditional love, jealousy, internet relationships, and more. Femme Multitask...
Happily Ever Laughter
20 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
There’s so much bullshit discourse about dating and relationships out there, so this week we’re busting romantic myths! Hear us debate first-date ...
Protracted Attraction
13 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Kate recently came out as demisexual, so this week we’re discussing that identity: what does it mean, how does it manifest, and how does it relate t...
Safety First
06 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Safer sex protocols don’t have to be boring or a mood-killer! Today we’re diving into our thoughts and feelings on condoms, dental dams, STI testi...
The Nineteen-Filthies
30 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Step back in time with us and let’s discuss 1950s household dynamics! Hear us weigh in on why this style of D/s is hot, complicated, and even potent...
Interior Dickorator
23 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Home is where the heart is, and also (often) where the sex is! This week we’re discussing the ways home decor can interplay with your sex and dating...
Bawdy Language
16 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ever noticed how sometimes you can say a lot without saying anything at all? This week we're discussing the delicate art of non-verbal communication –...
TES Friends Forever
09 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Bex just got back from TES Fest, a thought-provoking kink conference in New Jersey. This week, he recaps what he learned there, and we discuss some ki...
Get This Party Started
02 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Getting the ball rolling is hard sometimes, so this week we’re discussing the intricacies of initiating sex. What are the best and worst ways to do ...
Kinksters 4 Inksters
18 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We’re talking about body mods this week: tattoos, piercings, and how they interplay with our sex and dating lives. Tune in for tattoo advice, kinky ...
Stride of Pride
11 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Pride month! This week we’re discussing our favorite and least favorite things about Pride, from tutus and play parties to biphobia and cops. ...
The Drive That Thrives
04 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Up, up, and away: this week we’re discussing our sex drives! What is the libido, what stokes it, what tempers it, and what can you do when yours doe...
I Only Have Eyes For You
29 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you see what I see? This week, we’re discussing the visual aspects of sex, and how the acts of looking and seeing (or not) play into our sexualit...
Pheromoans
21 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Take a deep breath now: it’s time to discuss sex smells (and tastes)! We divulge our fave and least fave olfactory experiences during sex, our thoug...
Cumpetence
14 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise. Blowjob Skills | Good At Sex? | Bad Chemis...
Etiqueer
07 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You asked, we answered: in this episode, we discuss queer etiquette quandaries, from pronouns to flagging to threesomes. Femme Flirting | Pronouns | M...
Sir-ious Business
30 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relat...
Sounding (No, Not That Kind)
23 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic ...
Highpotheticals: The Redux
17 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex...
Habitual Ritual
09 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions. Cre...
Touch Much?
02 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hug...
Nutbusters, Part 2
27 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more… Stereotypes | Sex...
Nutbusters, Part 1
20 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among...
BFFs in Love
13 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in ...
Penetration and Beyond
05 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like u...
Episode 127: Full of Hot Air
26 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my… Exam...
Episode 126: Crush Rush
20 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And al...
Episode 125: An Invaluable NREsource
12 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and p...
Episode 124: Bless This Depressed Mess
06 Feb 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the wa...
Episode 123: Cumpatibility
30 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatib...
Episode 122: Mind the Strap
23 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more... Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison Finc...
Episode 121: Fantastical
16 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about,...
Episode 120: The Ill-dorks
08 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2...
Episode 119: Is That Piss or Champagne?
02 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d l...
Episode 118: Perv Emergence
20 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week...
Episode 117: Gift Rifts
12 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve receiv...
Episode 116: Objectively Hot
04 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. T...
Episode 115: BDSM BFFs
27 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly. R...
Episode 114: Boots, Etc.
20 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualiz...
Episode 113: Uncumtrollable
14 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Hold your horses: this week we’re talking about orgasm control! We discuss forced orgasms, chastity, abstinence, and various other facets of this fa...
Episode 112: Peepin' and Creepin'
06 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Take a peek inside our minds as we discuss voyeurism! Learn about ways we've explored this kink, why we find it hot, and what voyeuristic fantasies we...
Episode 111: Horny Yet Horrendous
30 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing fear play: what it is, why we like it, and what kinds we want to try. Scary Movies | Fear | Trust | Role...
Episode 110: Man of a Million Kinks
23 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Friend of the show Dick Wound, of the Off the Cuffs and Being There podcasts, joins Kate this week for a goofy discussion of intense kinks ranging fro...
Episode 109: LOLyamory
16 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we're bustin' some myths about our fave relationship style: polyamory! Hear us get sassy about hierarchy, infidelity, stigma, and more... Hi...
Episode 108: Role the Dice
09 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Got a flair for the dramatic? This week we're rolling out our thoughts on roleplay: why we like it, what kinds we like, and whether or not it’s a st...
Episode 107: Yearn to Learn
02 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
School is back in session, so we’re discussing sex ed! Find out what we learned about sex in school – and what we learned, um, elsewhere. Skipping...
Episode 106: Vice Advice
25 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
You asked, we answered! This week, we address listener questions on topics ranging from awkward set-ups to platonic kink to dancing dilemmas. Hope thi...
Episode 105: Slappreciation
18 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Impact play has left quite a mark on us! This week we discuss why we like pain, how beginners can get into spanking, and the answers to all your burni...
Episode 104: Sextual Intercourse
12 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sexting is a truly modern sex act. This week we discuss our favorite sext-initiation methods, secret screenshot-ogling, and most treasured emojis, amo...
Episode 103: Nothing Butt the Truth
04 Sep 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re reflecting on butt stuff in all its delightful forms: anal sex, rimming, butt plugs, and more! Girth Enthusiasm | Butt Barometer | P...
Episode 102: Get Your Hand in the Game
29 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we revisit one of our fave topics: hand sex! We describe how we’re feelin’ about fingers and fists these days, and then answer listener...
Episode 101: Open Wide!
21 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
It’s back to basics this week, with a discussion of oral sex! Find out how we feel about giving head, getting head, rimming, and other mouth-centere...
Episode 100: Purity vs. Immaturity
14 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
It's our 100th episode!! We celebrated by taking one of those weird 100-point purity tests to determine which one of us is sluttier. Any guesses?! Acc...
Episode 99: Seducing Sex Scribes
07 Aug 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Here's our live show from the 2018 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit! We discussed the fine art of romancing sex bloggers, from DM-slides to consent prac...
Episode 98: Boxed In, Boxed Out
31 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk gender, folks! This week we’re discussing masculinity, femininity, why they’re good, why they’re bad, and how we hope to see them c...
Episode 97: Look At Me, Everyone!
24 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re discussing the intersections between group sex, public sex, and exhibitionism! Find out how to navigate a play party, what constitut...
Episode 96: Leaps & Boundaries
17 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
We're joined this week by the lovely Marcia Baczynski, speaker, writer, coach, and sexual communication expert! We touched on consent, flirting, long...
Episode 95: Diamonds in the Rough Sex
10 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What sex acts do you consider underrated? This week, we’re rhapsodizing the unsung heroes of our sex lives: fingerbanging, the thigh grind, making o...
Episode 94: Dryspellibacy
04 Jul 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes your sex life is about the sex you’re NOT having… This week we’re discussing dry spells, celibacy, and other sexless situations! Sexti...
Episode 93: Protocol Me Maybe
26 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re picking the brain of writer and kink educator Sinclair Sexsmith! We touched on punishment, protocol, confidence, consent, and so muc...
Episode 92: Out, Out, and Away
19 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
What does it mean to “come out” and why is it important to us? This week we’re telling our coming-out stories and discussing the intricacies of ...
Episode 91: The Puppisode
13 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, Bex is chatting with YouTuber and kink sexpert Pup Amp and educator and queer historian Pup Dane about their mutual interest: puppy play! G...
Episode 90: Forget to Remember
05 Jun 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week Kate is joined by DJ Pynchon, blogger, author, and erotic hypnosis enthusiast, for a lively discussion about hypnotic amnesia, winking kink,...
Episode 89: Puber-T
29 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Bex has been on testosterone for a whole year! This week, Kate interviews him about how his body, brain, and sexuality have changed over the past year...
Episode 88: Hazy 'n' Spacey
23 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we're having a risk-aware discussion of sex and altered states: doin' sex and kink stuff while drunk, high, sleepy, and more. Find out how ...
Episode 87: Say It Somehow
16 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week, we answer the question: how do you communicate well, and with love? Find out our “love languages,” our best tips for giving good compli...
Episode 86: Porn This Way
09 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Bex just launched his new porn store as Billy Lore, so this week we’re talking about making porn! What’s fun about doing cam shows? Which porn sta...
Episode 85: Let's Get Little
02 May 2018
Contributed by Lukas
CONTENT NOTES for this episode: consensually roleplaying as a little girl, little boy, daddy, mommy, or siblings; incest roleplay and actual incest; ...
Episode 84: Highpotheticals
24 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
It's our traditional yearly 4/20 episode! Hear us get blazed and debate the merits of clone sex, impact toys as zombie murder weapons, and whether or ...
Episode 83: Ready For This Jelly
18 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re gigglin’ with sex blogger Mx Nillin about their ingenious blog series “Mx Nillin Fucks,” wherein they masturbate with various ...
Episode 82: Grown-Up Playtime
11 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re talking with Dawn Serra, sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and founder of the Explore More Summit! We chatted about parentin...
Episode 81: More Paprika
04 Apr 2018
Contributed by Lukas
In part 2 of our sex educator FAQ, learn how to get good at dirty talk, how we got so confident talking about sex, and what the Dildorks TARDIS would ...
Episode 80: FAQs of S-E-X
28 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re answering some sex-educator FAQs! Hear our Hot Takes on butt stuff, deepthroating, and dick size, among other things… “Educate M...
Episode 79: Luv 2 Negoti8
21 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Negotiation is a crucial kink skill, and this week we’re sharing our best tips! Find out our fave questions to ask, common negotiation pitfalls, and...
Episode 78: Happy Spending
13 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This week we’re giving you our two cents about financial domination, cash fetishism, and sugar daddies! Find out why we’re into these kinks, how y...
Episode 77: Con-persion
07 Mar 2018
Contributed by Lukas
We just got back from the Playground Conference in Toronto! Find out what we learned from the sessions we attended, what conference protocol is and wh...
Episode 76: Just Plane Hot
27 Feb 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Here’s the live show we recorded at the Playground Conference in Toronto! We talked about sex and travel: which toys are our suitcase must-haves, ho...