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Chapter 1: Why don't I feel a spark with the perfect partner?
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Chapter 2: What should I do if I'm not attracted to my date?
Now, like I said, your list will be different than mine because you've been there. But yes, attraction is a huge part of it. And yes, attraction grows over time. I don't know if attraction grows over time, but its importance in... It's importance fades in my experience, not my personal experience, but just in talking to people.
But yes, I think the quote-unquote looking right or not handsome, is he overweight a little bit? Is that the problem?
Well, it's – excuse me. A little. Okay. Um, which he's actually, that was one of the things that we kind of bonded over. He's, um, towards the beginning of his fitness journey, which I've been on for the last few years. Awesome. And I've lost a significant amount of weight and we've actually talked about, I'm like, Oh, it took me almost four years to get to where I wanted to be.
And this is what I did.
And so I don't think this has any new attraction, Hannah. I really don't.
Okay.
I think the vibe's just not there and that's okay. Can I go one layer deeper?
Of course.
That's heartbreaking, isn't it?
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Chapter 3: How can I navigate a job I hate?
You've done a ton of work. You lost a lot of weight. You did a lot of healing. You know what I want you to have? Have some freaking fun. You're a special needs mom. You have no fun in your life. Have fun. Have fun. Does that make sense?
It does, and I appreciate that very much.
Go have a good time. Go have a good time. Hold hands. Kiss boys. Like, fun, fun. We don't have enough... The world's on fire, literally. Let's find joy where we can. Let's find fun where we can. And I know I'm overstating it, and I don't even know what I would do if something happened to my wife. I can't even wrap my head around that psychologically, but...
Yeah, I'm kind of glad this is the guy you got your first rodeo back on the circuit. Sounds like he was a pretty cool guy, treated you well, and there was not a spark there. It's all great. It's cool. Swipe right. Thanks for the call, Hannah. You're awesome. Go get them. We'll be right back.
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Chapter 4: What steps can I take to improve my work situation?
But what the research says over and over and over again is those that find joy and happiness from the inside out, not the outside in, they win, man. They win. They just win. And that's what I want for you. Most of the people who go from job I hate to job I hate to job I hate really are running for themselves. That's not you, obviously. But, man, I just want to applaud you again.
You saw that your current job was a sinking ship. You jumped off the lifeboat. You got into the next safe boat. Man, I don't like this boat. It doesn't smell good in here. People are mean on this boat. But this boat is putting food on my family's table. And maybe this is a good moment for us to rethink how we're doing everything.
But all of these things put you back in the driver's seat of your life instead of you feeling like you're being drug around by a job you hate. Get back in the driver's seat, brother. Appreciate the call, Jimmy. We'll be right back. All right, let's talk about train well. Listen, there's no such thing as mental health separate from physical health, separate from emotional health.
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Let's go out to Norfolk, Virginia and talk to Anna. Not Hannah or Banana. What's another one? Manna? Fanta? Santa? Let's go out to Anna. What's up, Anna?
Hi, John. Thank you so much for talking to me. I feel like I've heard all those nicknames and more.
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Chapter 5: How do I balance my job with family responsibilities?
And I'm stuck in this house with this child that everyone says you're supposed to love. You're supposed to be so grateful for. And no human is ever supposed to be locked in a house with a screaming child alone. That has never happened in human history until like a few years ago. It's madness.
Yeah.
And so the phone worked.
I hear what you're saying. So now I have connection with friends. And it's not nearly as addictive as it used to be.
Now it's a habit.
But still.
Now it's a habit. It's an automation.
So how can I practice?
Hold on. Can we go beneath that for a second?
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Chapter 6: What should I do if my job is affecting my mental health?
Don't stop. You keep shooting and trying and I have to just be for a second. You've never had somebody tell you, God, I'm so glad that you're my life. And so give yourself a moment. You get to practice sitting in that seat. You've never been in that seat. And it's kind of like when I stare at my nine-year-old and I'm like, hey, look at me.
And she goes, she looks at me and I said, you are the most beautiful woman, the beautiful girl I've ever seen. And she goes, dad. But look, she has to look away because the laser of how much I love her, it burns too bright for her right now. And that's okay.
Mm-hmm.
Yeah.
Yeah. How much are you on your phone? Seven to nine hours. What are you, or what are you at now? Two hours a day?
Uh, it varies. I have been on it more recently. It's more like maybe three, three and a half hours every day.
Okay. So you have a 60% reduction. If you were trying to lose a hundred pounds and you lost 60 of those, would people be cheering you on? Yes. Okay. They'd be screaming and yelling. Yay.
I don't know how to communicate with my husband about it because we're trying to parent together. This affects my parenting. We're trying to live life together, and this affects my ability to function and think clearly and all that, right?
No, no, no, no.
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