In this episode of The Grounded Union Podcast, Brandon and Caitlyn coach Drew and Chelsea through a three-year journey of porn addiction recovery that's been overshadowed by persistent lying. In this live call-in session, Chelsea vulnerably shares her heartbreak: despite Drew's initial confession and stopping pornography, she has "literally zero trust" as small lies continue to surface. Brandon and Caitlyn trace Drew's compulsive dishonesty back to childhood shame and his first exposure to pornography at age eight, revealing why traditional one-time disclosures fail. They challenge Drew to embrace daily radical transparency, explaining that "silly lies" signal deeper hidden truths. This raw coaching session introduces their four R's rewiring process and offers a powerful promise: commit to removing the veil completely, and your marriage will be transformed within a year.Looking for immediate support in your marriage?Grounded Union Couples App: Tap here to claim your spotWorkshops for Couples: Join the waitlist to get notifiedFollow us on social at @brandontalksmarriage & @caitlyn_doerksenCheck out our IG account to stay updated @groundedunionYouTube Show available hereTimestamps & Key Moments:00:00:28 – Welcome to Season 3: The hosts introduce the new season's format, featuring nine brave couples for relational and practical live call-in coaching, beginning with Drew & Chelsea's story of betrayal, infertility, and healing. 00:01:32 – The Breaking Point: Chelsea reveals discovering Drew's porn addiction in 2022, three years into marriage, after conceiving their son during the one week he wasn't active in his addiction. 00:03:41 – The Deeper Root: Drew opens up about how his confession was encouraged by a men’s group—but how lying remains his reflexive shield against fear and shame.00:06:32 – The Recent Lie Uncovered: Chelsea details how she uncovered a recent lie about internet use, describing the emotional exhaustion of catching dishonesty even in seemingly small things. 00:09:20 – The Panic Response: Drew admits he panicked when he realized he'd broken their agreement and instinctively deleted the history to hide it.00:17:25 – Self-Perception as Failure: Drew describes himself as "failing to do the things I need to do" and "not being the man my wife deserves." 00:23:14 – The First Exposure to Porn: Drew recounts seeing pornography at age 8, with a deep dive into how that early moment shaped decades of addiction, secrecy, and shame. 00:28:44 – Rewiring the Narrative Through Embodiment: The healing process is reframed: instead of blaming culture, control, or sin nature, Drew is invited to reclaim his power and rewire both behavior and belief through conscious honesty.00:30:29 – “Silly Lies”: A powerful reminder that small lies don’t exist in isolation—they usually point to larger truths left buried, requiring courage to bring into the light.00:37:45 – Embodiment and the Nervous System Zones: A breakdown of the “fire,” “ice,” and “grounded” nervous system states, and how embodiment can help regulate reactions to daily relational triggers. 00:45:25 – The Power of Ongoing Transparency: Encouragement to go beyond the initial disclosure and begin seeing yourself clearly, allowing your spouse to do the same—bit by bit, together. 00:52:23 – A Marriage with Nothing Hidden: The vision: a marriage where everything is known and nothing needs to be hidden—a relationship built on radical safety, not secrecy. 00:58:07 – Trusting Actions, Not Words: Trust is earned by the husband's daily, consistent actions—waking up and getting in his body, and initiating hard conversations every night—not by simple apologies or words.

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