How Women Are More Powerful Over 50
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What sparked the viral conversation on aging and attention?
I recently did an episode called how I turn heads over 50 and it's gone somewhat viral. I've had more emails and DMS about it and more listens views and comments on YouTube than any other episode I've done. It sparked a lot of great conversation about how we feel about our appearance and about ourselves and about aging. Some of the comments were related to getting male attention. Some women thrilled they still get it, others lamenting its loss, and some relieved to be free from it. But here's what's so very interesting about that. Nowhere in that episode did I ever say anything about him. Not once. That episode was not about seeking or desiring male attention. In fact, I specifically made the point that turning heads isn't about needing or seeking attention from anyone, including men. So the conversation today is a very important one.
Why should women not seek male attention for validation?
I'm telling you how to claim your own personal power at any age, what it takes for older women to be more magnetic and extraordinary than ever, and yes, how to turn heads when you walk into any room and why that is a good thing. This is a thought revolution, so I hope that you will stick around for some serious badassery. Hi, it's Hillary. Welcome to the Hillary Silver Podcast. Thanks for tuning into the conversation today. If you haven't already, it would mean so much to me if you'd take a minute to just click that five star rating on your podcast app, leave a review and subscribe so you never miss one of my episodes. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please consider sharing it with a friend because if you like it, they will probably like it too.
It makes sense why some of you went right to thinking about male attention when I spoke about turning heads when I walk into a room. Because from the time that we are little girls, we are conditioned to believe that our worth and our value is derived from external sources.
How are women conditioned to seek external validation?
We learn that there is a certain way to be in this world and if we are not that, then we will not be accepted, liked, approved of, that we aren't enough or that we won't belong. We learn that our worth is tied to what we achieve And we get praised when we do well and maybe even criticized if we fall short even just a little bit. We are encouraged to go with the flow, be nice, don't rock the boat, help others, and be a good girl. It's really all about what will other people think. And there is a lot of pressure on how we look, on our appearance, all so that we can get the guy and therefore we are then deemed lovable and desirable. We are only desirable when someone desires us, rather than just believing that we are worthy and desirable because we simply are. Maybe you've heard this. This is what I used to get. Be ladylike. What boy will want to go out with you if you act like that? We are conditioned to please and accommodate and be agreeable. And it has us seeking approval and acceptance and attention.
And that external validation is what makes us worthy and enough. And this is the most diminishing and disempowering message that we can give to girls. It is literally giving our power away. and handing it over to other people and other circumstances that we cannot control. And it's what most of us grew up with, even from well-meaning parents and moms. And so then it follows, right, that as we age and our faces change and our bodies change and all the ways that it does, and in ways that we believe society or men or others don't value or find attractive, then therefore we aren't valuable or attractive anymore. We don't deserve the limelight, that we are systematically ignored and we become the invisible woman.
What is the myth of the 'invisible woman'?
That's what I talked about on the other episode, so I'll make sure to put the link in the show notes for you. But listen, my friends, this is all total and complete bullshit. All of it. And I just won't have any of it. And I don't want you to buy into it either. It's only real if you believe that it is. And I personally do not see it happening anywhere. And I do not feel it in my life at all.
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Chapters
5 chapters
1
What sparked the viral conversation on aging and attention?
0:00–0:56
2
Why should women not seek male attention for validation?
0:56–1:59
3
How are women conditioned to seek external validation?
1:59–3:53
4
What is the myth of the 'invisible woman'?
3:53–4:16
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How can women over 50 reclaim their power and confidence?
4:16–10:22
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