The Mel Robbins Podcast
The Most Important Career Advice You’ll Ever Hear With Harvard Business School’s #1 Professor
03 Apr 2025
Who is Professor Alison Wood Brooks?
I just want to make sure I got this straight because I feel a little bad because I was out to dinner last night, believe it or not. I mean, I love how the universe works. And the person that was waiting on our table came up and it turns out that they're a huge fan of this podcast. And it was really cool. And I said, oh, well, what topic would you want me to cover?
And I kid you not, she said, I'm the manager at this restaurant and next week I'm going in and I'm asking for a raise. And I think I gave her the wrong advice. What'd you tell her?
Well, the first thing I said to her is I said, the one thing I don't want you to do is do not look at Glassdoor and do not find every other salary range in your area and then assume that your boss should pay you that because that doesn't feel like you telling me that you're irreplaceable. That feels like an ultimatum.
And when somebody does that to me, it makes me go, okay, well, if you'd like to get paid that at a different restaurant, go get that job.
Yeah.
And I then said to her, what I would do is I would look back through your calendar and your photographs and jog your memory and try to come up with a list of all of the problems you solve. All of the things that you do that your boss does not realize that you do. Come up with the number of different jobs that you do.
And then also come up with the reasoning behind why you want to grow in this role and why that's important to you. But I didn't say, I want you to first stop and put yourself in your boss's shoes. What does your boss need in an incredible manager? What makes you irreplaceable? And I think that's something that nobody is talking about. Yeah.
And or take the you've now instructed her to make this like log of things that she's done. She could bring the log to her boss and say, which of these things is most valuable to you? What do you think is what am I doing here that you love so that I can do more of that? Which of these do you think I should do less of? How can I grow in this role? What should I be doing differently, better, great?
Which of these are most valuable to you that make you want to hold on to me?
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