Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels Impossible & What to Do About It
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Why does making friends as an adult feel impossible?
Hey, it's your friend Mel, and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. Ooh, I am so glad that you're listening to this because today you and I are going to talk about why making friends as an adult feels impossible. And I'm just going to start by saying, I want to put this on the record, for most of my adult life, I didn't understand the rules of adult friendship. If you knew me, Mel Robbins, in my 20s, 30s, or even 40s, first of all, I apologize because I will own the fact that I was a walking red flag as a friend. You know, I was the kind of person who was both clingy and also exclusive. I was kind of transactional. I might have been supportive to your face, but in private, even though I wanted to be supportive, if you were winning, it made me feel insecure and jealous or threatened. Look, I made every mistake. that you could make in friendship. But I didn't know what it takes to truly create a great friendship, or more importantly, how to be a good friend. Because I didn't know a simple fact back then.
See, when you hit your 20s, absolutely everything about friendship changes, and nobody sees it coming. I didn't. So today, I'm going to walk you through very eye-opening research that I've done and then apply to my own life in the area of friendship. It's life-altering. It's groundbreaking. You're going to love this. See, I now know the rules of adult friendship. I understand and own the mistakes that I made. And as you listen today and you think about what I'm sharing with you, you're probably going to realize these are some of the same mistakes that you're making too, and you don't even know it. I didn't know it. So if you're feeling lonely, if you feel like you never see your friends, if you're wondering, where did all my friends go?
Or if you're surrounded by people, but they just don't feel like your people anymore, I or you just wish you had more fun, you had a better social life, you could create those close friendships that you really yearn for and you deserve, this conversation is exactly what you need to hear. It doesn't matter how old you are. Doesn't matter how young you are. Everything that you're about to learn is going to open your eyes and alter your life. Because yes, it is true. It does feel impossible to make adult friends. We all feel it. But after our conversation today, you will know the truth is that the best friendships of your life, they're not in the past. They are in your future. And today, you're going to get the step-by-step roadmap and the insights that you need to go create them. Hey, it's your friend Mel, and I just want to take a moment and welcome you to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am so excited you're here, and I'm especially excited about what you and I are going to talk about today. This is research and insights that changed my life. It has made my life better.
We're going to be talking about friendship. You are going to love this. You're going to want to share this with people that you know, that you love, and in fact, If this is one of your first episodes, I want to take a moment and welcome you to the Mel Robbins Podcast family. Because you made the time to listen to this particular episode, here's what I know about you. I know that you're the type of person, you value your time, number one. Number two, you made the time to listen to this, and that means you're interested in learning about ways that you can improve your life. And one of those ways that you want to improve your life is by creating friendships. I love that for you. And if you're here because somebody forwarded this to you, guess what?
This is a sign that you do have friends. This is a sign that you do have people that care about you. And so I love that for you. And I love what we're going to talk about because you are going to feel so empowered. You're going to feel even more connected to friends because today I'm going to remind you of truths that you already know. that friendship matters, that you're capable of creating it, that the best friendships, some of the most fabulous people, they're not on the road behind you, they're on the road ahead of you, and you're going to get what you need today to know how to create those friendships, despite the fact that it feels impossible right now as an adult to make new friends.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Why does making friends as an adult feel impossible?
0:00–4:27
2
What changes occur in friendships when you hit your 20s?
4:27–21:40
3
What is the Great Scattering and how does it affect friendships?
21:40–34:46
4
What are the three pillars of adult friendship?
34:46–40:44
5
How can you create lasting friendships in adulthood?
40:44–56:19
6
Why is energy important in friendships?
56:19–1:01:35
7
What is the Let Them Theory and how can it help?
1:01:35–1:07:27
8
How to approach friendships with flexibility?
1:07:27–1:16:54
Speakers
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