Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Welcome to today's episode of the Mindset Mentor Podcast. I'm your host, Rob Dial. If you have not done so, hit that subscribe button so you never miss another podcast episode. And it is finally here. I'm running my first large-scale event this year called Freedom Live.
It's a three-day in-person experience built around one thing, becoming the person who can build the life that you want of total freedom, financial freedom, mindset freedom, and the freedom in every area of your life with more money, Today, I'm going to be talking about one habit that has completely changed my life.
and we're gonna talk about goal setting and we're gonna talk about systems. And now, as far as goal setting goes, I have loved goal setting since I was 19 years old.
When I first found goal setting in 2006 and my first mentor started teaching me how to set goals and how to be striving for a goal, it made me feel like life was a little bit more exciting, like I could become more than I currently am. But I find a lot of people struggle with goal setting, and then they especially struggle with goal achieving.
And so today I'm gonna talk about how to set up your life in general so that you actually achieve your goals that you do set for yourself. And this comes from a quote that James Clear says, and I love it because he didn't come up with this concept, but he really does talk about it in his book. And the quote says, you don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of yourself.
systems. And so today we're going to be talking about the systems that you have in your life to help you get to where you want to go. Now, when we look at goals, goals are really good. And I do think that everybody needs to set goals so you know what direction that you're heading in.
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Chapter 2: What is the purpose of the Freedom Live event?
But there are two really big problems with goals. And goals are not inherently bad, just so you know. They give us something to strive for. They give us something to aim at. But goals can also come with limitations that really what I have found over years of coaching people hold people back in subtle ways. And so the first one is that goals are specifically outcome orientated.
And so like just focused on just getting to this one outcome. it can really hold you back. And so goals focus on a specific result, which is good, but it can also be limiting. Like lose 20 pounds is that specific result. Finish my novel is that specific result. Get a promotion is that specific result.
And while there's nothing wrong with wanting these, goals place all of the emphasis on just the end result and nothing else. And if you don't hit your goal, it can make you feel like you're a failure and then make you less likely to wanna set goals again and wanna go for goals again. And it also, when you don't hit a goal, it kind of lowers your confidence.
It breaks trust within yourself when you don't reach that goal. And so if your goal, for instance, is like to run a marathon, every day you train, you try to get better, you might feel like you're not quite there, but you're getting a little bit better and a little bit better
Chapter 3: What one habit transformed the host's life?
But you only actually succeed, quote unquote, succeed when you cross the finish line. And that's the limit with goals is you only succeed when you cross the marathon finish line or whatever finish line that that goal is going for. And so the only time you succeed is when you accomplish that goal.
which can really rob you of satisfaction from the entire process of becoming better and being proud of yourself. And so that's the first thing that goals can really hold you back with. And the second thing is that goals don't address long-term change in your life. And so when you achieve a goal, you might actually just revert back to your old habits.
For example, if your goal was to lose those 20 pounds that we were just talking about, what happens once you reach it? Without some sort of system in place to maintain your progress, you're likely to fall back into the old habits that cause you to gain weight in the first place. It's not like you lose 20 pounds and they stay off forever. You have to have a system in place to keep it off.
And so that's why approximately 80% of people who lose 20 pounds or more gain it back within two years. It's because they're like, oh, I hit my goal. Now I get to celebrate. Now I get a case of the I deserve it. You know, I get to have an extra piece of pizza. I get to have an extra slice of pie. And then over and over and over again, your habits go back to your old habits.
And now you're back to the same weight that you were. And so systems work better with achieving goals. And they work better to focus on your systems. And you're more likely to achieve your goals if you focus on the systems.
And so instead of putting all of the emphasis on this specific outcome, like finishing the marathon, crossing the finish line, a system emphasizes the process that you have to go through to actually get there. So it's about building a routine or a framework that leads to consistent improvement. If you do this, what's crazy about it you're more likely to actually hit your goals eventually.
And so here's the reason why systems are so powerful. Number one, systems focus on what you can control. So while you can't always control the outcome of the goal that you're going for, you can control the actions that you take every single day. So for instance, instead of saying something like, I wanna write a book, you can create a system where you write 500 words every single morning.
That's something that you can control. And if you can't get it in the morning, well, then you can move your schedule around to make sure you get it done before you go to bed. But then you're not focusing on just finishing the book, which seems like this big daunting task. You're just focusing on, hey, 500 words every single morning.
And so this approach really puts the power back in your hands because it's about showing up consistently. And that's how you succeed is being consistent. The most successful people in the world are not the ones that just show up once or twice or a couple times a week. They're the most consistent people in the world.
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Chapter 4: How can you effectively set and achieve your goals?
And it's like, it goes back to that quote, which is the man who loves walking will go further than the man who's running to hit a goal. Over the course of the lifetime, the man who loves walking will go further than the person who's just like, I'm trying to run a marathon. And so that's the first thing that makes systems so powerful is that you can, it focuses really on what you can control.
If you roll your ankle and you can't really control that. It might have been a rock that was in the road, you didn't see it, something happened, and now you feel like a failure because you weren't able to cross the finish line versus like, hey, I'm doing this system every single day. The second reason why systems are so important is because it builds sustainable actions for your life.
And so by focusing on daily or weekly actions, you naturally start to build actions and habits in your life that stick. So if your goal, for instance, is to eat healthier, a system that would go along with that might involve meal prepping every single Sunday and then carrying a water bottle with you everywhere you go throughout the day.
This is the biggest key to systems is that over time, these small, consistent daily actions start to become second nature. They start to become who you are, and then the results will naturally start to flow from there. The third reason why systems are so important is because they reduce your decision fatigue.
Like you don't realize how many decisions you have to make every single day and how every single decision takes a little bit of energy from you. And so when you rely on a system, you don't have to consistently wake up and make decisions and figure out what you need to do and do something different. It's just like, no, you just follow it. The system tells you what to do.
And so if you have a fitness system, like I'm going to work out every weekday at 7 a.m., you don't have to spend energy on when you're going to do it. You've already got it done. It's part of the system. And just by doing that, you free up mental energy in other areas of your life. And so you can use that mental energy, the decision making, for something in business later on today.
I read an article a couple years ago that said that Jeff Bezos only makes three decisions a day. That's what he focuses on. But they're the three most important decisions every single day to scale his life and his business. So if you're wanting to run more, you might just set up a system where you run every day like we were talking about.
And so you add a few more minutes or you add a few more miles every single week so that you're getting progressive overload. And from that, you can actually start to grow. And so it might seem really small, but one thing that I've really learned by reading about neurology and about psychology is that the less that you have to make decisions, the more likely you are to take action.
It makes it easier to take action. The more decisions that you need to make or the more opportunities or options that you have in front of you, for many people, turns into paralysis by analysis. They do nothing because there's too many things that they could do. So what I like to think of is less thinking, more doing.
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Chapter 5: What are the limitations of traditional goal setting?
And so run another five minutes this week, that's a win. Run another five minutes next week, that's a win. So you're always getting a lot more wins in the process. And when you get these wins and you get excited about it and you celebrate yourself and you get proud of yourself, your brain releases dopamine when you're celebrating your wins.
And dopamine is a chemical of motivation, which makes you want to do more. And when you get dopamine, you want more dopamine, which means you're more likely to show up the next day. So each time you complete a part of your system, whether it's writing for 30 minutes or practicing a skill or learning a language or completing a task, you get a sense of accomplishment.
and running a marathon, you kind of only really get the full sense of accomplishment when you've crossed the finish line. And so you're getting all of these little wins across the way, which makes you more motivated to show up the next day. And so let me give you a few like real life examples of what this could look like in your life. And let's say that you want to be more mindful, right?
A goal approach would be, I want to meditate for 30 minutes every single day. And then if you miss a session, you've done this before. We've all done this before. You miss a session or you don't go for 30 minutes or, you know, you struggle to sit for 30 minutes. You might feel discouraged. You might feel like you lost and you might want to just quit altogether.
So that's when you're focused on your goals. But when you're focused on your systems, it might just be like, I'll meditate for however long I can every morning after brushing my teeth. Even if it's two minutes, that's a win. With the system, you're not tied to this like rigid outcome or thing that you have to do. Some days you might meditate for five minutes. Some days it might be 20 minutes.
The key point here is that you show up consistently and you integrate this routine into your daily routine. Showing up consistently is how you will eventually win in life. Let's say another one is like systems around fitness, right? A goal approach would be like, I want to work out five times a week.
That means if you skip a session or two, you might feel like you failed and you're going to get discouraged and you're less likely to show up next week. How many of you guys have done that before? I want to work out five times this week. And you work out three times and you feel like a piece of shit. You get mad at yourself, down to yourself. You shame yourself. You get yourself.
And then you don't show up next week and you quit. Yeah, because you don't make yourself feel good. make yourself feel bad about it, right? So this makes you less likely to show up when you beat yourself up because you didn't hit your quote unquote goal. A systems approach would be like, I'm gonna move my body every day, even if it's just five minutes.
The system focuses on creating a consistent habit of movement, whether it's stretching, walking, running, going to the gym, a full workout, Over time, you'll naturally build the routine of exercising regularly without this pressure of having to hit this fixed target. And you're more likely to, over the long run, get more movement than someone who's like, I have to work out five times a week.
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Chapter 6: Why are systems more effective than goals for long-term change?
Number four is to track your progress. So the system and the reason why you wanna have it is so that you're staying consistent. So track your progress in some sort of way. Put it down in your calendar. Have a notes tab in your phone where you can track and make sure that you're doing it every single day. And number five is try to refine it whenever you feel like you need to.
Your system is not gonna be perfect the first time that you set it. You'll learn what works. You'll learn what doesn't work. When it doesn't work, don't be an asshole to yourself. Don't guilt yourself and shame yourself and make yourself feel bad and be like, oh, I just learned something that doesn't work for me. Let me make adjustments around this.
So adjust it so that your system will eventually be as effective as possible, but also enjoyable in some sort of way. And so really what it comes down to is the beauty of these systems is that success becomes a byproduct of your actions, right? And when you focus on the process of what you're trying to do, the results tend to take care of themselves.
And the best part about this is that you don't have to focus on success. You don't have to focus on the end result. You just focus on what you need to do today. You don't have to worry about tomorrow. You don't have to worry about yesterday. And eventually success will be a byproduct of the actions that you take, which is essentially what's important.
And it just makes it, if I'm being honest, it just makes it easier to continue to keep doing these things long-term. And anytime you could do something long-term, you're eventually going to get to the success that you want. So that is how you set up systems instead of goals. So that's what I got for you for today's episode. If you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram stories.
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