I’m often tempted to go lone wolf mode, but friendship expert Jaimie Krems came along to tell me why I’m dumb.An Associate Professor of Psychology and Director of the UCLA Center for Friendship Research, Jaimie is one of the world authorities on friendship; what it is and why we desperately need it. She brought the stats about the material benefits of friendship, as well as the differing ways friendship functions among men, women, and between the sexes. I learnt so much!This production was made possible by DFI Rentals - book gear for your next shoot here: https://www.dfirentals.com/Subscribe to my Substack to see the bonus questions and send in your own for upcoming guests! https://elliotbewick.substack.com/Check out more of Jaimie's research at: https://www.kremslab.com/ or https://www.center-for-friendship.com/Follow Jaimie on X: https://x.com/JaimieKremsCHAPTERS00:00 Can men and women just be friends?04:22 What is friendship for?08:32 What does Gen Z get wrong about friendship?13:14 What are the best signifiers that someone wants to be friends?16:50 The material benefits of friendship21:26 The problem with ‘lone wolf’ mode23:24 How do you seek out new friends without seeming needy?26:15 What’s your advice for those struggling to make friends?28:10 How do male and female friendships differ?33:24 The function of venting36:53 How we compete for friends42:50 How social media impacts our relationships48:04 What are our preferences for age-gaps in friendships?50:38 How do you manage the power balance of a friendship?55:55 What Game Theory teaches us about friendship1:01:02 Tips for the viewer1:03:10 The benefits of older mentors1:05:47 Elliot: “Why am I so attracted to older women?”1:07:21 What sex dolls tell us about preferences1:09:52 How do sexual and platonic relationships interlink?1:13:15 Do we optimise for kind friends?1:15:38 How can Gen Z stop being so isolated?My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elliotbewick/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@elliotbewickX: https://x.com/elliotbewickABOUT THE NEXT GENERATION: In a world saturated by social media and marked by skyrocketing rates of anxiety, depression, and ADHD among Gen Z, young people are growing up in a landscape of chaos and contradiction. While protests swell in city streets and activists hurl soup at famous artworks to demand climate action, a quieter crisis unfolds within - the mental and emotional battles faced by a generation trying to make sense of it all.The Next Generation is hosted by 20-year-old Elliot Bewick, offering a raw and honest look at the world through the eyes of those living in it. Bringing together insight from professionals and young people on the ground, this podcast isn’t here to complain or chase clout. It’s here to bend the arc of the modern world towards solutions, truth and a love for the beautiful adventure of life itself.

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