Sex is never just physical. Our desire, frustrations, and turn-ons are shaped by how we think, how we feel, and how safe we feel—both with our partners and within ourselves. In this episode, Julie and Yue sit down with health educator, researcher, and New York Times bestselling author Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. to explore the psychology and neuroscience of sex beyond surface-level conversations. Drawing from her groundbreaking work in Come As You Are, Come Together, and Burnout, Emily breaks down why sexual desire isn’t one-size-fits-all and how stress, context, and emotional connection influence our sexual experiences far more than we’re taught to believe.In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why Sexual Desire Looks Different for Everyone • The “Accelerators” and “Brakes” That Shape Arousal • How Stress, Body Image, and Emotional Safety Impact Sex • How to Navigate Mismatched Desire Without Shame or Blame • Why Desire Naturally Ebbs and Flows in Long-Term Relationships • How to Build Sexual Connection During Stressful or Transitional Seasons • Why Sexual Satisfaction Is About Safety and Understanding—Not PerformanceTo learn more about Emily Nagoski: follow @emilynagoski and visit https://www.emilynagoski.com/

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