We are born self-confident. By the time we hit our teen years, that self-confidence dwindles. Lisa Sun suggests confidence is a mindset and we get to choose to be confident. Lisa joins Kevin to discuss the concept of gravitas and confidence. She realized that gravitas is about believing in yourself on the inside before projecting it outward. Lisa also shares the eight forms of confidence that she discovered through research and surveys and recognizes that all eight forms are valid, and each person's confidence language is unique. Leaders need to replace vague advice like "be more confident" with specific conversations about strengths and provide feedback that acknowledges individual strengths and why they believe in team members. Listen for... 00:00 Introduction 02:32 Lisa Sun: The Birth of Gravitas 05:17 Internal Belief: The Heart of Gravitas 06:14 From Self-Consciousness to Bursting Confidence 07:41 Reimagining Confidence: A Choice and Mindset 08:56 Western Bias in Confidence Perception 09:47 Dale Carnegie's Mark on Lisa's Confidence Viewpoint 10:12 The Call to Redefine Gravitas 11:14 Kevin Eikenberry on Gravitas-Confidence Nexus 11:51 Lisa's Three C's: Courage, Compassion, Connection 12:14 Exploring the Eight Variants of Confidence 16:05 The Power of Creation in Confidence 17:07 The Imperative of Self-Driven Confidence 18:14 Revolutionizing Confidence Conversations 18:41 Book Insights: A Holistic Take on Confidence 19:41 The Female Superpower: Achievement & Knowledge 20:32 Elevating EQ in Societal Conversations 21:30 Rethinking Team Views on Confidence 22:18 Navigating the Dual Sides of Strengths 23:13 Evolving Leadership with Time 24:20 Crafting Your Personal Confidence Lexicon 25:01 Boosting Self-awareness with a Confidence Quiz 25:35 Universal Confidence Language: A Mindset and Choice 27:00 Bridging the Women's Confidence Divide 28:34 Feedback Pitfalls: The Vague Confidence Directive 29:15 Leadership 101: Dimensional Feedback 29:41 Ease Your Level-Up Moments 31:19 Lisa's Fun Side: Art & Dance 33:06 Reading Corner: "Asian-American Dreams" 34:25 Discovering More About Lisa 35:45 Putting Today's Insights into Action 36:07 Closing Meet Lisa Name: Lisa Sun Her Story: Lisa Sun is the author of Gravitas: The 8 Strengths the Redefine Confidence. She is the founder and CEO of GRAVITAS, a company on a mission to catalyze confidence. GRAVITAS offers innovative size-inclusive apparel, styling solutions, and content designed to make over women from the inside out. Prior to founding GRAVITAS, Sun spent 11 years at McKinsey & Company, where she advised leading luxury fashion and beauty brands and retailers in the U.S., Asia, Europe, and Latin America on strategic and operational issues. Her first collection was featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, People, and The Today show in the same month. Sun and GRAVITAS have been featured on CNN and in Forbes, Fast Company, New York magazine, Elle, Marie Claire, InStyle, and more. GRAVITAS includes among its activities a commitment to AAPI causes and New York City's Garment District. Often called the "dress whisperer," Lisa is also a highly sought-after public speaker who likes to impart her hard-won knowledge on gravitas and how to best harness it to other women. https://gravitasnewyork.com/ https://gravitasnewyork.com/pages/my-confidence-language-quiz https://twitter.com/LisaLSun https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777 This episode is brought to you by... The Long-Distance Team. Remote leadership experts, Kevin Eikenberry and Wayne Turmel, help leaders navigate the new world of remote and hybrid teams to design the culture they desire for their teams and organizations in their new book! Book Recommendations Gravitas: The 8 Strengths That Redefine Confidence by Lisa Sun Asian American Dreams by Helen Zia Related Episodes Sparking Leadership Confidence with Angie Morgan Being Present and Staying Grounded with Scott O'Neil Executive Presence with Joel Garfinkle

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