Most of us walk into hard conversations with the wrong goal. We're chasing agreement when we should be building connection. We're choosing accuracy when we should be choosing tone. And then we wonder why the conversation went sideways.In this episode, Ryan talks about the hard conversations almost everybody is sitting on right now. The one with your spouse. With your kid. With your boss. With the coworker who keeps dropping the ball. He walks through the internal shift that has to happen before the external one, why connection is the credit score of communication, and why John Gottman's research on the first three minutes of a conversation might change how you start the next one.You'll learn the difference between an accusatory tone and an inviting tone, why same content can land in two completely different rooms, and the one question to ask yourself before you say the hard thing.If you've been carrying a conversation around for weeks, this episode will give you the language to finally have it well.

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