225: Am I Too Late To Find Love? With Tamsen Fadal
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Who is Tamsen Fadal and how did she transition from TV news to menopause advocacy?
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Maybe it's Maybelline. Hi, Tamsen. Hi. I'm so fucking excited to have you on today. When I tell you the amount of people that have requested this episode is I get nauseam at this point. So before we get into any of that, I need you to tell if anyone who doesn't know you, tell me a little bit more about you. You have such a robust history. I am so excited to dive in.
Oh, thank you. I'm so excited to be here, by the way. So I don't even know where to start ever nowadays, but I was a TV journalist for a long time, like years and years and years in New York City, the last place. And during that time, I, well, let me go back. So I was a TV journalist. And then during that time, I met somebody who I thought was going to be the love of my life. And we wound up opening a business in New York City, which is how I got to know New York City much better, got to know the dating scene in New York City so much better. The business, the relationship didn't work out. Subsequently, the business didn't work out. But for a while, it was a dating and matchmaking business in New York.
Because at the time, which was years ago, there were 200,000 more single women than men in New York City. And that number, I'm like, holy shit, that's unbelievable. And why are all these women having a hard time? Because these are amazing women. And why are these guys such assholes? So that was the premise of the business. Eventually that went away and I continued doing my news career. And then about three years ago, I walked away from a 20-year career in news to start advocating for women in health and wellness and specifically perimenopause menopause. So that's who I am. I love that podcast. I have a podcast, The Tamsen Show. I have two films, Perimenopause and Menopause. And I have a book that I recently wrote.
I'm working on my next one.
I love it. Is the next one going to be about dating or no?
No, it's not going to be about dating. No, no. You know, I did a little bit of dating in this book because it was important. I think like women in midlife, a lot of them are going through divorce and going, what the hell do I do now? Like I'm going to get back out there and date. This is like crazy. So no, it's not going to be about that. It's going to be about this next chapter. But I think they'll always be dating it. We can't get away from relationships.
If only. Right? Because whether it be with other people or yourself, it's always fucking fun. I've had a lot of relationships with myself and a lot with other people. Okay. So the reason I wanted you on is because not just that you have so much wisdom, but because I love your content that you've created about the lessons or like what it messages to little me or like what would I tell my 20-year-old, my 30-year-old, right?
Yes.
So we've got all the run in the gamut. We've got 20s up until 50s, 60s. And I really wanted to kind of understand what have you seen is the difference from every decade, specifically to where you are now, obviously. What were the biggest differences that you noticed between 20s, 30s, 40s, and into your 50s? Oh, my gosh. I like this. I've never been asked this. I love it. I'm
going to give it to you. So I think in my 20s, I was worried about everybody else. Like, I wanted to make sure everybody liked me. I would go to bed at night like... Is anybody mad at me? Is everybody OK? Did I upset anybody? Does everybody think I'm nice? And I was hardcore into my career, like working hard, traveling across the country, traveling around the world. And so I really that's all I cared about was my career and finding somebody. So I was dating constantly, not in a really great way, didn't care about meeting somebody for I wasn't worried about getting married.
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Chapters
8 chapters
1
Who is Tamsen Fadal and how did she transition from TV news to menopause advocacy?
0:00–6:23
2
What lessons did Tamsen learn about dating after her divorce and how did she rebuild her life?
6:23–13:52
3
How can someone decide whether or not to have children when faced with external pressure?
13:52–19:56
4
Do age‑gap relationships work and what age differences are realistic at different life stages?
19:56–26:27
5
Why do dating apps feel like a second job and how can you stop feeling burnt out?
26:27–33:24
6
How can you set new dating goals for each decade of your life?
33:24–39:29
7
What strategies help you stop feeling behind on your relationship timeline?
39:29–45:43
8
Why should perimenopause be discussed in your 30s and what early signs should you watch for?
45:43–50:16