What does it really mean to be “kink curious”—and is kink as niche as we’ve been led to believe? In this episode, Gigi Engle a psychosexual therapist and author of Kink Curious, and I unpack the language we use around sex; from kink and fetish, to vanilla, safewords and boundaries. We discuss how labels can both support and limit our understanding of ourselves, and explore the spectrum of desire, and the role of curiosity and play in adult sexuality. This conversation also gently guides listeners through the practical side of exploring kink — from communicating with partners and navigating mismatched desires, to understanding consent, boundaries, aftercare, and the importance of self-awareness in what Gigi describes as Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). Gigi talks about why she felt it was important to focus on kink as the topic of her book and what she thinks people so commonly misunderstand about it and its practices. She also discusses the role of shame and 'shoulds' when it comes to sex, and how it shapes a lot of what she sees people presenting as challenges in her therapy room, and how she helps them to work through it. - New Episode Every Friday - This series was brought to you by Lelo, the world-leading luxury sexual wellness brand whose range is built on the belief that a fulfilled intimate life is a vital part of our overall wellbeing—a sentiment that sits at the very heart of this podcast. Head over to LELO.com and use the code KM15 at the checkout to receive 15% off your order. Code valid until 30th June 2026 - Follow Us On Socials Kate Moyle https://www.instagram.com/katemoyletherapy?igsh=MXNpNnFla240a3Rhcg== Gigi Engle https://www.instagram.com/gigiengle?igsh=aHlkc3d1b3J0b25u Lelo https://www.instagram.com/lelo_official?igsh=MWhvZzJpa3o3c3l1cA==

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