The Shrink Think Podcast
Episodes
151. They're Not Attacking You They're Defending Themselves
01 Aug 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Often in relationships, we project what we think the other person's intent is and then perceive them to be "attacking" us. The reality, though, is tha...
150. Don't Be Offended
25 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The world needs more peace. One of the ways we can spread it is to stop being offended about things that don't concern us or that we simply don't need...
149. Are You Triggered Or Just Overwhelmed?
19 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
People say they're "triggered" left and right these days, but what does that word even mean? Does it mean what they think it means? Probably not. They...
148. Stop Asking Agenda-Based Questions
05 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You may be asking questions with an agenda that leave others feeling defensive or like you're looking for something specific. This may be keeping you ...
147. Dating 101: Some Do's and Dont's
28 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Many people come to therapy discussing issues with dating. We compiled these into one episode just skimming the surface of how to go about dating to f...
146. Be Honest With Yourself
21 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you want to give yourself a valuable gift, start with being honest with yourself - about yourself. Telling yourself the truth about your thoughts, ...
145. Stop Pretending-Tolerate Your Fear & Accept Reality
14 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Fear is one of the most powerful feelings we experience, which can drive behavior and distort your perception. Learning how to tolerate how fear feels...
144. When You Have Value Differences With Your Therapist
07 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Some people believe you and your therapist must have all the same values in order to work together effectively. There is some merit to this, but you c...
143. When Do You Need Family Therapy?
31 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When is family therapy a good idea and how can you know it's not couples counseling or individual therapy that you're needing? Family therapy involves...
142. Enneagram: The Body Triad (8s, 9s, 1s)
24 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Enneagram has 3 triads, each with 3 numbers (9 total numbers or personality types). In this episode, we break down the Body/Gut Triad which includ...
141. Helping Friends Who Are Suicidal
16 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
It can be scary when a friend tells you they're suicidal or having suicidal thoughts. Many people don't know what to do or say, and are afraid of doin...
140. Enneagram Triads
10 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This is a follow-up to a previous podcast episode on the Enneagram, outlining the three triads: Body/Gut (8s, 9s, 1s), Heart (2s, 3s, 4s), and Head (5...
139. When You Outgrow Friendships
03 May 2023
Contributed by Lukas
What happens when you work on yourself and grow, then realize some of the friendships you've had no longer work for you? They're not bad, just just ma...
138. Start Doing This To Deepen Connections In Your Relationships
20 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
If you're wanting to deepen the connections in your relationships, stop "relating" when the other person is sharing something personal and instead do ...
137. Yung Pueblo's Observing Beyond Reactions
11 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Yung Pueblo (his real name is Diego Perez) is a poet and philosopher whose writings have inspired millions of people. His instagram (@yung_pueblo) pos...
136. Transferring To A New Therapist
04 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have to start over if you transfer from your current therapist to a new one? How can you make that switch smooth? Two behavioral health experts...
135. How The Enneagram Can Help Improve Your Relationships
29 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
The Enneagram can be a helpful tool not just for mental health counselors but for anyone interested in improving their relationships at work, with fri...
134. Your Mental Health Diagnosis Is Not Your Identity
22 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
So many people go to therapy unknowingly believing their mental health diagnosis is their identity. They say "I am bipolar" or "I am depressed" instea...
133. Is It Narcissism Or A Need To Feel Special?
15 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Based on Dr. Craig Malkin's book "Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists", we break down the healthy human need ...
132. Guest Pavel Ythjall Found Purpose & Joy From A Tragic Car Accident (Part 2)
08 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our guest, Pavel Ythjall, is on the show today sharing about a tragic car accident he was in that paralyzed his wife from the neck down and broke his ...
131. Guest Pavel Ythjall Found Purpose & Joy From A Tragic Car Accident (Part 1)
01 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Our guest, Pavel Ythjall, is on the show today sharing about a tragic car accident he was in that paralyzed his wife from the neck down and broke his ...
130. Walk Yourself Out Of The Prison You're In (Forgive)
22 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In a previous episode (#123, "Forgiveness") we talked about the importance of forgiving. Our listeners asked us to explain "how do you walk out of the...
129. Don't Be So Attached
15 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
You may experience anxiety because you're too attached to outcomes and potentials, which you have no control over. You may also get anxiety because yo...
128. All About Extroverts
08 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Much has been written and said about extroverts-they talk a lot, enjoy being with people and in groups, and can't sit still. Extroverts do draw their ...
127. All About Introverts
01 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Introverts are often misunderstood as being shy or lacking social skills, but that's not always true. Introverts draw their energy from being alone ra...
126. Random Therapist Musings
24 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Do you want a behind-the-scenes listen to the conversations between two therapists about their day? This episode is an off-the-cuff dialogue describin...
125. Panel: On Being Men with Uriah Guilford, Ernesto Segismundo, Connor McClenahan (Part 2 of 2)
18 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We spent a weekend on a men's retreat in Las Vegas, NV at the home of Ernesto Segismundo with Uriah Guilford and Connor McClenahan-all therapists and ...
124. Panel: On Being Men with Uriah Guilford, Ernesto Segismundo, Connor McClenahan (Part 1)
11 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
We spent a weekend on a men's retreat in Las Vegas, NV at the home of Ernesto Segismundo with Uriah Guilford and Connor McClenahan-all therapists and ...
123. Forgiveness
04 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Forgiveness is one of those things that people have a hard time with and often misunderstand. What is forgiveness? What is it NOT? What is unforgivene...
122. Why Do I Keep Picking The Same People To Be With?
28 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you have found yourself repeating the same patterns in relationships and wondering "why do I keep picking the same type of people to be with," this...
121. Guest Lisa Mustard Shares Her Passion for Learning in Education and Podcasting
20 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Guest, Lisa Mustard, is a therapist and host of The Therapy Show podcast. She creates continuing education content to share with her audience to learn...
120. How To Be A Good Friend
14 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everybody needs a good friend, but many people don’t know what it takes to be a good friend - which will then attract good friends. It’s important...
119. How To Be Happy No Matter What
07 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
How is it that some people seem to be happy no matter what happens? And it's not a fake happiness. They have ups but they also have downs that don't s...
118. How Do Therapists Remember Everything?
01 Dec 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wondered how in the world therapists remember all the details about their clients or keep the stories straight? With so many people we m...
117. The Point of Parenting
22 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
There are tons of parenting books and podcasts out there with tips on how to do it well. We're not re-creating those. We discuss the ultimate point of...
116. Are You A Content Or Process Communicator?
16 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you communicate, do you focus on the content of the conversation - the specifics of what you're talking about? Or do you focus more on the dynami...
115. How Faith Can Help Your Therapy with Guest Whitney Owens
09 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Our friend and colleague, fellow podcaster Whitney Owens, is back as a guest on our show talking about how faith can be a valuable resource for people...
114. Gaslighting (Part 2 of 2)
02 Nov 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone talks about gaslighting these days, so we took two sessions to break it down for you. We used a simple list of 10 signs of gaslighting behavi...
113. Gaslighting (Part 1 of 2)
26 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone talks about gaslighting these days, so we took two sessions to break it down for you. We used a simple list of 10 signs of gaslighting behavi...
112. Intro To Blended Family Dynamics
19 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you or your partner become a step-parent, things can become pretty complicated in terms of the relational dynamics between the two blended famili...
111. What To Do When Everything Is Going Well
12 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever walked into therapy not knowing what to talk about because everything was going well? Some people cancel those appointments, some people...
110. Regulate Your Body
05 Oct 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If your nervous system is activated, it means you are dysregulated and may find yourself reacting to people in your life and relationships. Learn how ...
109. Can You Talk Too Much In Therapy?
28 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Some people who come to therapy talk the entire session, maybe because there's nobody else in their life who is safe or who listens without judgment o...
108. Your Sleep Affects Your Mental Health
20 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever had a terrible night's sleep and found yourself feeling grumpy, irritable, reactive, and unmotivated the next day? You may not realize h...
107. Why Aren’t You Fixed Yet?
14 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Many people complain after several months of therapy that nothing has changed or that the problems still exist and have only slightly gotten better. W...
106. It IS All About You
07 Sep 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you come to therapy, it's important that you talk about yourself! You can mention the other people in your life and give context, of course, but ...
105. This Isn’t What I Came To Therapy For
31 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes you start talking about things in therapy that aren't what you came in for. Why is that? You might think you have a complete picture of your...
104. How Should You Feel When You Get Ghosted In Therapy?
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is for clients and therapists. When a client suddenly stops coming to therapy without an explanation, how should you feel? Why does that happen? ...
103. When You Run Out Of Things To Talk About In Therapy
17 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What do you do when you've talked about all the things you came to therapy to talk about? A lot of people either get stuck here or believe this means ...
102. Moving From Parents of Children to Parents of Adults
09 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's a difficult transition for parents when children become adults. They want more independence and autonomy, but they still need you for some things...
101. Relating To Your Parents As An Adult
02 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you're a teenager and become an independent adult, your relationship with your parents changes... or at least it should. In this first of two epi...
100. Celebrating The First One Hundo
27 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We made it to 100 episodes! It took almost two years of dedication and we're so proud and excited to be here! We take some time reflecting on early ep...
99 - You Can Be Right But You Won't Win Hearts
20 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you're in conflict with someone and trying to communicate through it, sometimes you can slip into a right/wrong mentality and end up defending yo...
98 - What Do YOU Mean By That?
13 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Communication is a key part of relationships, and a common reason conflict happens. When talking with someone, it takes both of you to work together t...
97 - Internal vs. External Processing
06 Jul 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever noticed that some people process out loud, verbally, while other people tend to take more time to think and then share? There definitely...
96 - The Mind, Body, and Pain
29 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
The mind and body have an incredible relationship: when you have experienced psychological pain, your body can store it along with critical psychologi...
95 - When Your Behaviors Don't Match Your Values
21 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Why do we value something but find ourselves acting in ways that do not reflect those values, such as avoiding conflict when we value honesty or conne...
94 - I Don't Believe You're THAT Happy
15 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When some people come to therapy, you might explain how your life hasn't been bad - in fact, maybe it's been pretty good - so you don't understand why...
93 - Does Your Grief Need Therapy?
08 Jun 2022
Contributed by Lukas
People in America (and in the West) have difficulty with death and loss. Often when we lose someone and grieve, others don't know what to do with our ...
92 - What Your Addiction Is Really About
31 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you wondered why you do the addictive behavior you do, like what that is really about? Is it to gain a sense of control? Is it to feel acceptable...
91 - Why Do Therapists Ask About Childhood?
25 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever wanted to go to therapy but dreaded being asked about your childhood? Do you wonder what the big deal is about childhood that therapists...
90 - Why You Need Different Perspectives To Change
18 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you can only see your own perspective, you can end up staying stuck repeating your own patterns. In order to change and grow, you need a differen...
89 - How To Receive Difficult Feedback
10 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Therapy is a difficult place if you struggle receiving feedback. The change process requires that we see ourselves differently than we do, and to see ...
88 - Humility Is A Choice To Grow
04 May 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you engage in therapy, you will come to a point where you will receive feedback about yourself that you may not have known before and need to add...
87 - Do Your Beliefs Have To Align With Your Therapist?
26 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you have religious or spiritual beliefs, is it okay to work with a therapist who doesn't have any? Or if you aren't religious, can you still be hel...
86 - What Therapists Experience When You Contact Us
19 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This is a behind-the-scenes episode! When a client sends an email or leaves a message for a therapist, this is what we see and think. We want to share...
85 - When You’re Addicted To Your Anxiety
13 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes when you want to heal from your anxiety, you find yourself unable to let go of it or even... addicted to it. Why is that? We talk about how ...
84 - Attachment Styles in Action: Anxious & Avoidant Types
06 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has an attachment style that influences and impacts their relationships. Everyone starts out as a dependent baby and seeks to end up as an in...
83 - Attachment Styles in Action: Secure & Disorganized Types
30 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone has an attachment style that influences and impacts their relationships. Everyone starts out as a dependent baby and seeks to end up as an in...
82 - Things To Know About Couples Counseling
23 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
If you're wanting to do couples counseling, there are a few things you'll want to know before getting started. Seeing a therapist with your partner is...
81 - What Even Is Therapy?
16 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
This may seem simplistic but talking about what therapy is is one of the most important topics we could cover! What is therapy and what happens in a s...
80 - Honesty & Openness in Therapy
08 Mar 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Being honest and open with your therapist means not censoring yourself, sharing things you might be afraid to share, and being receptive to feedback a...
79 - Can A Therapist’s Personal Experiences Be Helpful?
21 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
A therapist doesn't have to share your experiences in order to be able to effectively help you (like a doctor performing surgery without ever having e...
78 - Do Therapists Have Bad Days?
16 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever left a session feeling like it was just okay? Did you wonder if your therapist was having a bad day? Sometimes that does happen! Listen ...
77 - What Is Informed Consent In Therapy?
09 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
When you start therapy, you're required to sign a document giving your consent to therapy. But what exactly is "informed consent" and how does it appl...
76-[PANEL] Maintaining Intimacy & Connection In Relationships
01 Feb 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Guests William Hemphill and Colleen Wenner join the Shrink Think Podcast in this episode to talk about how to maintain intimacy and connections in you...
75 - What A Therapist Is NOT (Part 2 of 2)
24 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is a therapist and what is a therapist NOT? In the last episode (#74) we explained what a therapist is, and today we tackle what a therapist is N...
Ep. 74 - What A Therapist Is (Part 1 of 2)
19 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
What is a therapist and what is a therapist NOT? These are the topics of the next two episodes. Today we tackle what a therapist is. Our goal is to he...
Ep 73 - Resource Kit For Your Therapy Goals
12 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
It's always helpful to evaluate your progress toward goals in therapy, and the start of a new year offers a great opportunity to do that - but you wil...
Ep 72 - Bridging The Gap Between Clients & Therapists
04 Jan 2022
Contributed by Lukas
We are narrowing our focus as a podcast in order to more do what we set out to do: bridge the gap between clients seeking therapy and the professional...
Ep. 71 - When Your Child Has A Mental Health Disorder
22 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In a previous episode (#66), we talked about what to do when your kid goes to therapy. As a follow-up, in this episode we address the unique circumsta...
70 - [PANEL] Things Therapists Wish Clients Would Stop Doing
15 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Guests Cindy Brock and Laurie Groh join the Shrink Think Podcast in this episode to talk about a difficult subject: things you wish your therapy clien...
Ep. 69 - [PANEL] How To Identify Obstacles To Your Growth
07 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 69. Guests Valarie Harris and Chris Swenson join the podcast to share their wisdom about how you can identify what may be holding you back fro...
Ep. 68 - Evaluating Your Therapy Process
01 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 68. As the holidays approach and people's schedules get busier, the question arises whether or not to take a break from therapy and return in ...
Ep. 67 - Preparing For The Holidays
23 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 67. With Thanksgiving and Christmas quickly arriving, you need to know how to handle therapy in the midst of these holidays. Do you take a bre...
Ep. 66 - So Your Kid Is In Therapy
17 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 66. If your child is in therapy, you won't want to miss this episode! We talk about what you need to know in order to help your child - and yo...
Ep. 65 - Mental Illness & Diagnosis
10 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 65. Did you know that if you go to therapy, you may be assigned a diagnosis, indicating you have a mental illness? What is a mental illness an...
Ep. 64 - Can Therapists Accept Gifts From Clients?
03 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 64. When you receive good help from a therapist, it's common to want to give them a gift to say thank you. For therapists, there is an added c...
Ep. 63 - What's The Point of Homework in Therapy?
27 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 63. What is the purpose of homework in therapy? Why do therapists give clients homework? Do you have to do it if you're a client, or can you s...
Ep. 62 - Self Help Can Help Therapy
20 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 62. If you're someone who consumes self-help material, you might think therapy is for other people. This episode explores how to recognize whe...
Ep. 61 - When You Get Stuck in Therapy
13 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 61. People often get to a "stuck" place in therapy where things stop moving or progress halts. Why is this? There is a surprising culprit. Man...
Ep. 60 - Joe Sanok: Thursday Is The New Friday
04 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 60. Guest Joe Sanok of Practice of the Practice joins the show to talk about his new book called "Thursday Is The New Friday." Joe claims the ...
Ep. 55 - Be Informed, Not In Fear
01 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 55. With COVID-19 concerns rising again, we look at how being informed helps you operate from a more grounded area of your brain than the area...
Ep 59 - How To Pick A Therapist (Part 3)
29 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 59. This is the last of a 3-part series that walks you through the process of finding the right therapist for yourself. In this episode, we ta...
Ep. 58 - How To Pick A Therapist (Part 2)
22 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 58. This is the second of a 3-part series that walks you through the process of finding the right therapist for yourself. In this episode, we ...
Ep. 57 - How To Pick A Therapist (Part 1)
15 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 57. This is the first of a 3-part series that walks you through the process of finding the right therapist for yourself. In this episode, we h...
Ep. 56 - Confrontation In Therapy
08 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 56. What happens when there's a conflict in therapy, between client and therapist? What do you do if you're the client - do you bring it up to...
Ep. 54 - Oversensitivity
25 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 54. Oversensitivity is giving feelings and emotions too much weight to the extent that you are unable to tolerate common life experiences, int...
Ep. 53 - Destigmatizing Mental Health
18 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 53. Mental health and psychological issues have been stigmatized for many years. In this episode, we look at some of the reasons why this has ...
Ep. 52 - Types Of Therapy: EMDR, SE, Neurofeedback, Brainspotting (Part 2)
11 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Episode 52. We conclude this series on the types of therapy with Part 2, a continuation of Episode #51, on common interventions: EMDR, Somatic Experie...