The Skillful Podcast
Activity Overview
Episode publication activity over the past year
Episodes
#61: DBT Skills Group for Therapists
01 Feb 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a therapist who wants the experience of being in a DBT skills group yourself? Are you curious about how the skills can help YOU? Marie...
#60: Problem Solving
17 Jan 2024
Contributed by Lukas
What DBT skill do you use when your emotion fits the facts? One option is to work on changing the facts. The skill of Problem Solving offers a st...
#59: Willingness
14 Dec 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode discusses the DBT skill of Willingness. Willingness is one of the reality acceptance skills that we teach in Distress Toleranc...
#58: Applying DEAR MAN in Difficult Interactions
29 Nov 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Once you have grasp of the DEAR MAN skill, you might find yourself getting stuck when you try to use it in difficult interactions. Maybe the other p...
#57: Figuring Out How to Change Painful Emotions
07 Jul 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Once you have a grasp of the change-oriented skills in DBT (such as Check the Facts, Opposite Action, and Problem Solving) it can be hard to figure ...
#56: Emotions Explained: Shame
08 Jun 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Shame is one of the most painful emotions we can experience. This episode explores what shame is, when the emotion is useful (and when it'...
#55: Emotions Explained: Fear
19 Apr 2023
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode focuses on the emotion of fear. At its most fundamental, fear keeps us safe. It guides us to fight, flee, or freeze in the face of ...
#54: Emotions Explained: Anger
31 Mar 2023
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Marielle and Ed discuss the emotion of anger. In its most useful form, anger moves us to protect and defend ourselves and those we ...
#53: Walking the Middle Path
23 Feb 2023
Contributed by Lukas
When we find ourselves getting caught in extremes, the DBT skill called Walking the Middle Path helps us re-calibrate. Use this skill when you...
#52: Interpersonal Effectiveness Overview
27 Jan 2023
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is an overview of the core Interpersonal Effectiveness skills in DBT, focusing on clarifying objectives, DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST. Ther...
#51: How to Assert Yourself, Part 2
24 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In Part 2 of How to Assert Yourself, Marielle and Ed discuss common interpersonal pitfalls in speaking up for yourself in relationships. Do you swallo...
#50: How to Assert Yourself, Part 1
03 Aug 2022
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find it hard to speak up for yourself in relationships? If so, this 2-part series on how to assert yourself may help you understand why it can ...
#49: Dealing with Fears of Abandonment
29 Apr 2022
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, Marielle and Ed answer a listener's question about fears of abandonment when conflict arises in relationships. These fears go straigh...
#48: Emotion Regulation Overview Part 2
23 Dec 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is the 2nd part of an overview of the Emotion Regulation skills in DBT, focusing on skills that can help you be in Emotion Mind less ofte...
#47: Emotion Regulation Overview Part 1
24 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The Emotion Regulation skills in DBT offer lots of ways to help you identify and respond to emotions. Some of the Emotion Regulation skills focus on c...
#46: Don't Believe Everything You Think
02 Nov 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode explores how to apply mindfulness skills to help you manage distressing thoughts using the DBT skill called Mindfulness of Current Though...
#45: Soothing Trauma Symptoms with Elle Michel, LMFT
08 Oct 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle interviews Elle Michel, LMFT, a therapist in Los Angeles who specializes in treating complex trauma. Elle uses a combination of modali...
#44: Working with Judgments
09 Sep 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today, we take a deep dive into working with judgments. Judgments about ourselves and others can increase emotional suffering and negatively impact ...
#43: Distress Tolerance Overview Part 2
19 Aug 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The Distress Tolerance skills in DBT offer creative ways to get through challenging situations without making things worse. In Part 2 of this overvi...
#42: Distress Tolerance Overview Part 1
28 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
The Distress Tolerance skills in DBT offer creative ways to get through challenging situations without making things worse. Today's episode is Part 1 ...
#41: How Strongly to Ask or Say No
15 Jul 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find asking for things or saying no hard? If so, this episode is for you. Marielle and Ed provide a framework for thinking about how strongly...
#40: Overcoming Procrastination
04 Jun 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode is a response to a listener question about procrastinating making progress towards life goals. Marielle and Ed explore the emotions t...
#39: Getting Unstuck with Greg Bodin, MFT
20 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle interviews Greg Bodin, MFT, a therapist in the San Francisco Bay Area who practices Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT. Greg ...
#38: What the Heck is Dialectics?
06 May 2021
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle and Ed discuss the D in DBT: Dialectics. Dialectics helps us remember that two seemingly opposing forces can both be true, change is t...
#37: Level Up Your Skill Use
21 Apr 2021
Contributed by Lukas
This episode is in response to a listener question about combining DBT skill use for difficult situations. We thought it was a great question to tackl...
#36: More Listener Questions
31 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode of The Skillful Podcast, we answer two listener questions. The first question is from a listener who wants advice about balancing conf...
#35: Coping with Pandemic Fatigue
17 Mar 2021
Contributed by Lukas
As we pass the year mark of pandemic life, many of us are exhausted and eager to get back to how things used to be. While there are positive developme...
#34: Getting Through the Holidays
16 Dec 2020
Contributed by Lukas
As we close out the year, new skills may be needed to help you get through a holiday season that's unlike any other. Marielle and Ed discuss skills to...
#33: Ten Common Communication Myths
28 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today's episode explores ten common interpersonal myths. These myths can prevent us from being as effective in relationships as we like. Some of these...
#32: Election Season Survival Skills
14 Oct 2020
Contributed by Lukas
This is a special episode geared towards our listeners in the United States. We have a big election approaching and if you struggle with your emotions...
#31: Self-Soothing Revisited
06 Aug 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find it hard to take care of yourself? The DBT skill of self-soothing is designed to help you tolerate distress, but it's also helpful for regu...
#30: What Happens When You Have an Emotion
16 Jul 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle and Ed unpack what happens in the body and mind when an emotion occurs. There's actually a lot going on! If you are sensitive to or ...
#29: Using DBT Skills in Anti-Racist Work
30 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today Marielle and Ed offer ways to use DBT skills to support emotional equilibrium during a time where systemic anti-black racism is being confronted...
#28: Listener Questions
02 Jun 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today Marielle and Ed answer listener questions. The first question is from a listener in Sweden about how to cope with anger at others for not t...
#27: Radical Acceptance During a Pandemic
19 May 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today's show revisits Radical Acceptance in the face of a global pandemic. Marielle and Ed discuss how they are using this skill (or not using it!) du...
#26: Coping with COVID-19 [Part 3] Being Skillful in Relationships During Quarantine
28 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle and Ed discuss skills to help you communicate with other people during a global pandemic where we are all facing new interpersonal cha...
#25: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 2]
07 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle and Ed continue to discuss DBT skills to cope during a pandemic. We are all going through a collective trauma and need extra support. ...
#24: Coping With COVID-19 [Part 1]
26 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, Marielle and Ed explore skills to help you cope with your emotions as we collectively face a pandemic. Many of you may be feeling ...
#23: Pros and Cons
04 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today's show covers the DBT skill called Pros and Cons. While most of us have already done informal pro and con lists in our heads when facing a tough...
#22: Build Mastery and Cope Ahead
27 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, Marielle and Ed discuss the emotion regulation skills of Build Mastery and Cope Ahead. These are future-oriented skills that invol...
#21: Surviving Sexual Assault with Dr. Kelsey Harper
05 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Today I'm talking with Dr. Kelsey Harper, a clinical psychologist and DBT therapist who works with trauma, PTSD, and chronic emotion dysregulation. ...
#20: How Do You Talk to Yourself?
22 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
In today's episode, we discuss your relationship with yourself, focusing on the skill of Loving-Kindness. When you are having a hard time, are you ki...
#19: What are Your Values?
08 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Instead of making New Year's resolutions this year, think about using the momentum of the new year to make changes in your life that are aligned with ...
#18: Using Skills to Get Through the Holidays
27 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are a time where there is often a lot of pressure to have a certain kind of experience - one that is about family, friends, joy, and cele...
#17: Why Doing Nice Things for Yourself Matters
13 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you have a hard time doing nice things for yourself? The DBT skill called Accumulating Positive Events in the Short-Term is all about doing small, ...
#16: Opposite Action
30 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sometimes it's better to not act on our emotions. The DBT skill Opposite Action helps you act opposite to what your emotion is telling you to do. Us...
#15: Check the Facts
16 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
In Episode 15 of The Skillful Podcast, Marielle and Ed discuss checking the facts. When you have a painful emotion that you want to change, using the ...
#14: Why Do We Have Emotions?
02 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Many sensitive people have wished at times that they could just get rid of their emotions. They may try to dampen, suppress, or deny emotions. Althoug...
#13: 10 Common Myths About Emotions
18 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Today Marielle and Ed discuss the 10 most common myths about emotions. These myths can come from the culture around us and from the families we were r...
#12: Distraction & Self-Soothing to Ride out Painful Emotions
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Marielle and Ed continue their conversation about Distress Tolerance focusing on Distraction and Self-Soothing. While these skills won't solve any pro...
#11: Radical Acceptance
21 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Today, Marielle and Ed discuss the skill of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is a Distress Tolerance skill that helps you stop fighting reality,...
#10: The TIPP Skill: Using Your Body to Calm Down
07 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Marielle and Ed continue their conversation about Distress Tolerance focusing on the TIPP skill. That extra P in TIPP isn't a typo! TIPP is an acronym...
#9: Introduction to Distress Tolerance & the STOP Skill
24 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Marielle and Ed delve into a discussion today on how you can learn to tolerate emotional distress and overwhelm without making things worse. There's...
#8: Emotional Over-Control with Neil Howell, MFT
10 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you someone who's good at getting things done, following the rules and planning ahead? These can be wonderful traits to have but you may notice th...
#7: Understanding Validation in Relationships and Why We All Need It
26 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you know how important it is to feel validated? Validation lets us know that we have been heard and understood. We all have the need to be understo...
#6: Get What You Want by Using the GIVE and FAST Skills of DBT
12 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Would you like to learn how to ask for what you want, how to resolve a conflict, and how to have your opinion taken seriously in your relationships? T...
#5: Using the DEARMAN Framework to Say No
29 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find it hard to say 'no', or get what you want in your relationships? Today, Marielle and Ed will be talking about interpersonal effectiveness....
#4: The HOW Skills of Mindfulness
15 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Would you like to introduce a mindfulness practice into your daily routine? Today, Ed joins Marielle once again and they continue talking about the mi...
#3: The "What" Skills of Mindfulness
02 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Would you like to learn to practice mindfulness in the DBT framework? Today, Marielle and Ed will be discussing the three 'what' skills of mindfulness...
#2: Introduction to Mindfulness and the Wise Mind
30 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Would you like to know more about DBT and where it all started? In today's episode, Marielle and Ed will be looking into the background and developmen...
#1: What is Emotional Dysregulation?
26 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you highly sensitive? And do you struggle with very intense emotions that sometimes overwhelm you? Today, for the first episode of The Skillful Po...