The Susan Winter Show

Love Simplified: 4 Signs They're Worth Dating | Relationship Advice

12 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Wish love could be simplified? How do you know if the person you're seeing is worth dating? Here are four signs that prove your date is in alignment w...

A Limited Selection of 'Not Ready' and 'Not Available'

02 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You're ready to date — but the pickings are slim. Your location and preferences offer a limited selection from which to find your right match. If yo...

Do Married People Miss Single Life?- Relationship Advice for Couples

26 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Happily married, but feel like you never ‘explored' single life? Before you destroy the solidity of what you have, consider these healthy options to...

How To Get Over Someone You Never Dated – Dating Advice

11 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how to get over someone you never dated? Are you caught in a loop of obsession and can't seem to break free? Here's what's really going on —...

The ‘SLOW DATING PROCESS' for Long-Lasting Love- Dating Advice

06 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is the ‘slow dating process?' Learn the formula to creating a long-lasting love. 

Why they lose interest if you do this…

28 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

?si=pK9IaU8Bl1ShOV5F You lacked confidence and were afraid to proceed… so they thought you weren't interested. Can you reignite their attraction? #...

How To Heal From A Blindsided Breakup- Breakup Recovery

14 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Blindsided breakup? One minute they're planning your future, the next minute they've left with no closure. What happened? What should you do?

Why Men Like Mean Girls- Relationship Advice for Women

05 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do men only value a ‘mean' girl? What is the true allure of a female who's not nice? Learn how to discern from a guy who only values the chase, over...

Who Hurts More After A Breakup?

29 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas


They were all in, asked you to be their girlfriend, then broke up with you. What happened? Here's the answer to your ‘flashpanning' partner's rea...

The Dumper Regrets More Than You'll Ever Know

24 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas


They dumped you and couldn't care less (so it seems). Here's a truth about your dumper's remorse that they'll never share: #dumpersremorse #regrets...

Conquer the Fear of Relationship Failure - Relationship Advice

19 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have a fear of failure, not only in love but Life? Learn the powerful tools that create confidence and set you free from self-doubt.

How to Get Your CONFIDENCE Back After A BREAKUP

15 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How to Get Your CONFIDENCE Back After A BREAKUP. Have the words your partner said destroyed your confidence? Want to never feel like an ‘option' aga...

Dating Games: Beware of ‘Ghostlighting'

08 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What is ‘ghostlighting' and why is it especially abhorrent? Learn the signs of this bad dating behavior and how to regain your confidence and contro...

Is LOVE enough?

04 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We often hear the saying, “love is enough” to make a romance work. But is it? The underlying message shouldn't be ignored. You're asking for less:...

How To Be Happy and Single

01 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How do you view being ‘single?' What's your inner dialogue (and does it make you unhappy)? Here's the key to unlocking your happiness while being si...

Right Person Wrong Time

23 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Right Person, Wrong Time. Does it feel like you've met the right person but at the wrong time? What's the ‘time' issue? Is it a matter of logistics,...

Why do people fall in love with a bad person over a good person?

18 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why do people fall in love with a bad person? Worried you're too nice and can't win at love? Here's what does work: #FallInLove #WinAtLove #PartnerSel...

Rejected: The cure for feeling ‘worthless'

11 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you seeking approval from the one who rejected you? Tying your self-worth to someone who never saw your value is a self-defeating loop of obsessio...

Are You Settling or Being Realistic; How To Know- Relationship Advice

06 Feb 2024

Contributed by Lukas

 Is what you've got the best you can do? How do you know if this partner is right for you? How many differences between you and your partner are okay...

EX Started Dating Right Away - What Should I Do Now?

26 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

 Dumped. Confused. And wondering why your EX (who wanted to be ‘alone') could move on so fast with someone new? This type of breakup can affect you...

The Best Advice for New Relationships: Do's and Don'ts

21 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

New relationship? Want to create a foundation of healthy partnership and long-lasting love? Here are the 6 components you need to see your new relatio...

Instead Begging for Attention From Your Partner, Do This - Relationship Advice

12 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas


 Not getting the attention you need from your partner? Lacking emotional intimacy and the warmth that you crave? Tired of asking for what you need...

Modern Dating Challenges And How To Deal With Them – Dating Advice

09 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Modern Dating Challenges and How To Deal with them- Dating advice. Feel like dating has become a chore? Dating games, hot and cold behavior, mixed mes...

12 Signs Your Relationship Is Over and What To Do About It 

04 Jan 2024

Contributed by Lukas

12 Signs Your Relationship Is Over and What To Do About It. Do you know the 12 signs? Here's the list that shows you where you stand. But take heart. ...

Have You Ever Suffered From Limerence? - Understanding the Connection and How to

23 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

What is limerence and why is it such a powerful feeling? Limerence in an immediate attraction and mental obsession with a specific person. This sensat...

How To Get Your Ex Back When You Think You Messed Up

15 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how to get your ex back when you think you messed up? Here are the 10 steps you need to take to open the door to love again and win back the...

Too much hurt to handle dating?

08 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

  
Have you suffered too much hurt to handle dating one more time? Here's how to avoid the pain and heal the disappointment, confusion, and hearta...

Letting go of your ex (to find new love)

04 Dec 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Moving beyond obsessing over your ex and being able to love someone new requires redesigning ‘the dream.' Here's how to find new love: #breakups #lo...

How to stop ‘hoping' (when there's no hope)

27 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck wanting someone who's lost interest? Is there hope for you? Was it real or a game? You'll get your answers by asking these questions: #I...

They'll regret losing you when…

20 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

How can you make them regret losing you? Stepping off the emotional roller coaster makes the magic happens. Here's how: #BreakUps #Obsession #RegretLo...

2 Mistakes Men Make with an Older Woman

13 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

There are 2 classic mistakes younger men make with older women. Here's what they are and how to avoid them: #OlderWomen #YoungerMen #Friendzoned #Dati...

Do they love YOU (or your generosity)

10 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do they love you? Or the gifts (and resources) you provide? Here's how to know if their affection is genuine, you won't feel used and unappreciated: #...

Dumped and Blocked (with no convo)

06 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Were you suddenly dumped and blocked without any conversation or explanation? Getting closure without a convo seems impossible until you do this: #Dum...

Is it love bombing or real?

03 Nov 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can you tell the difference between love bombing and genuine interest? It can be tricky because game replicates “real.” Learn the signs that disti...

Where's my soulmate?!?

27 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Impatient, frustrated, and wondering why your soulmate hasn't materialized? The pressure to find “The One” can feel excruciating… until you do t...

How to stop obsessing over someone (and flip the script)

20 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Can't seem to stop obsessing over someone who doesn't want you (enough)? Here's how to  move from weak and needy to confident and alluring: #obsess...

The one you thought would NEVER hurt you

16 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The one you never thought would hurt you flipped the script. Wish you'd have known what to look for in advance? Here are the signs that show you choos...

Did I lose my chance at love?

13 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you lost your chance at love? Were you hesitant to commit and now they've moved on? Here is what you can do right now: #ex #lostlov...

Do You Have Partner Selection FOMO?

10 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

   Do you have partner selection FOMO? Feeling like you need to choose someone (anyone) before you're left with no one? Here's how to cure the feel...

4 Reasons why dating has become so hard (and how you can fix it)

02 Oct 2023

Contributed by Lukas

It's not just you. Everyone's confused, frustrated, and about to lose hope. Here are the 4 reasons why dating has become so hard (and what you can do ...

Dating Games: Decoding ‘Pursuit and Retraction'

21 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the early signs of the ‘pursuit and retraction' game? Before you fall for the bait, get skilled at picking up the red flags and learn th...

How to Find Love as a Single

16 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how to find love as a single? The shift within is far easier to achieve than you think. Here's how to attract the joy and happiness you seek...

The ‘Honeymoon' Breakup: Taking them off the pedestal

03 Sep 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You dated briefly but fell for them hard. The ‘honeymoon' breakup placed them on a pedestal. Here's how to take them down to right size and set your...

How to benefit from solo travel (whether single or partnered)

21 Aug 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Yearning to travel but hesitant to do so alone? Seeking 'me-time' but worried how your partner's going to respond? Growth is essential to individuals ...

21st Century Dating with RAYE and Susan Winter

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

https://idobi.com/.../21st-century-dating-raye-susan-winter/ World renowned DJ and music producer Ryan Skyy and I discuss the evolution of modern dat...

Stuck in FWB (and fearful of their attraction to others)?

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

       Stuck in a 'friend with benefits situationship'? Trying to hold your ground while your ‘friend' examines other romantic options ? Here's...

Waking up from the seduction of ‘the dream'

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

    
Meeting someone new can inspire a ‘dream' of your future. But are your dreams in alignment with  reality? Here's how to properly evalua...

Dating Games: 5 Signs of a ‘Flashpanner'

01 Apr 2023

Contributed by Lukas

‘Flashpanners' have 5 tell-tale signs that reveal their dating game. Here's how to identify their courtship cycle and save yourself from heartache w...

Situationships: They're ‘not ready'

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

You thought the two of you were on the same page.  Affection, dates, time together, and time with each other's friends. THEN, this happens. They say...

How to Impress an Older Woman: First Dates

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how to impress an older woman from your first date onward? It's easier than you think. You can relax and be yourself when you separate myth,...

Dating Games: When your partner says, “I'll try.”

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

‘Trying' isn't accomplishing when the excuse is repetitive. It's procrastination. Don't fall for this dating game. Here's how to handle a lazy, unmo...

5 Signs of an Online Romance Scam

20 Mar 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Do you know the top 5 signs that prove your online admirer is a scammer? These are the first 5 moves in the scammers playbook that reveal their hand (...

Open Relationships: Fear of the Future

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling to manage fear in your open relationship? Wondering how to be fully present but can't help feeling insecure? Here's the answer to t...

Dating Games: The ‘Justified Narcissist'

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

The ‘justified narcissist' is my term for a person who claims their bad behavior isn't their fault. Their ‘condition' (aka the ‘fake hall pass')...

Breakups: Hoping ‘one day they'll realize your worth?'

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you waiting and hoping that one day your ex will realize your worth? Here's why you're  stuck in a loop, obsessed and yearning for a ‘good rev...

Breakups: Waiting for your ex to come back?

22 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you caught in a loop of waiting and hoping for your ex to come back? Wondering why it's so hard to let go and why you can't stop thinking of them?...

Your Human Rights Are Your Dating Rights

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Your human rights supersede any condition of your relationship, including dating title (or lack thereof). You deserve to be treated with respect. Here...

Your ex says they'll ‘come back' (in the future)

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Your ex wants you back — in the future. They need to ‘grow' and ‘heal. Do you trust them? Should you wait? Here's your answer: #ex #breakups #ba...

How to ‘Hardball' (without losing a good match)

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

‘Hardballing' means sharing your dating goals on the first date. Done properly, it brings the right partner in. Done improperly, it pushes a qualifi...

Committed (but worry about the future)

01 Jan 2023

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling to enjoy a committed relationship but find yourself worrying about the future? When life goals and values don't match, hard decisio...

Fear of running into ex (with their new lover)

11 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

It's scary enough running into your ex unexpectedly. But what about running into them with their new lover? Rather than fear this possibility, prepare...

They've shut down. What should I do?

11 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Has your partner shut down, gone radio silent silent, or ghosted you? What's the right move? Here's when to reach out and when to cut your losses: #cl...

Can they love you (again)?

11 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Too cautious. Too guarded. Too late? Did you lose their love for good? Maybe not. Here's how to tell if you still have a chance: #toolate #lovelost #s...

GHOSTED by a person you're close to

11 Dec 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Stunned by the fact that someone close ghosted you? Stuck in a loop of wondering ‘why?' This isn't some random person. You can talk to each other. S...

Dating Games: The ‘Bad Texter'

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Don't buy the lie when someone says, “I'm a bad texter.” It's a choice. You'll never be a priority with this type of person. Here's why: #badtexte...

The Chronic Fear of Rejection

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you have an ongoing fear that the person you want will reject you…even when things are going well? Here's what's happening and how to turn your i...

Got your ex back (as well as old triggers)

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Finally! You got your ex back. You should be thrilled, right? But you're in the same pattern of arguments and triggered responses. Here's how to exit ...

Why they won't give you a “label”

23 Nov 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering why your partner won't give you a “label?” There are two distinct reasons for not clarifying your status. Want to know which applies to ...

LOA: Love and the Law of Substitution

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You MUST have that specific partner, right? Why are your thoughts so limited? Learn the secrets of the Law of Substitution to manifest your ideal mate...

Going No Contact with your Ex (and trusting your decision)

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You went No Contact with your ex for your mental health. Now, a trusted friend says you're overreacting. Who do you trust? Your friend, or yourself? H...

Self-Sabotage? Or Setting Boundaries?

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you pushing someone away (and wondering whether it's self-sabotage or self-protection)? Here's the difference between setting healthy boundaries a...

How to Know If They Like You

28 Oct 2022

Contributed by Lukas

How do you know if they like you? Watch my video for the signs of someone who's seriously interested, as opposed to a fleeting (and self-serving) desi...

Breakups: They were ‘all in,' then suddenly bailed

25 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What makes a person suddenly bail after they were ‘all in'? Here's what happens when their future plans collide with today's reality: #dumped #break...

Why they're losing interest (and how you can fix it)

25 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas


What do you do when your partner loses interest in you? Can you fix it? Learn how to regain their attraction (and desire) while rebuilding your co...

Dating Games: When a ‘joke' is not a joke

25 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Partner trying to sabotage you through ‘humor?' Making a joke at your expense is humor that hurts. Deactivate the emotional trigger through this cou...

LOA: The Universe's ‘Love Test'

25 Sep 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you (really) want what you say you want? Here's how the Universe will test your newly amended request for a greater love and better partner:  #LO...

Manifesting a Partner: ‘This, or Greater' 

20 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you fixated on trying to manifest a specific partner? Maybe you're thinking too small. Here's the LOA hack to getting a higher love:  #LOA #lawo...

How do you truly ‘let go and move on?'

20 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You've tried to ‘let go and move on' but your mind is still holding a space (and hope) for their love. How do you advance yet keep a spot for their ...

When is the right time to have sex? 

20 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

When is the right time to have sex? Pace can impact a relationship's success. But how do you make that determination? Here are the questions to ask yo...

Will believing we're ‘worthy of love' make it happen?

20 Aug 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Does believing we're worthy of love make it happen? Or does it ‘allow' love to enter our consciousness? Here's the distinction between inner tapes a...

When constant obsession won't let you move on

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is constant obsession not allowing you to move forward? How are you feeling stuck, and tried everything (yet nothing works)? If so, try this: #obsessi...

What's the sign that shows they're hooked?

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The moment you see ‘THE LOOK,' you'll know you're being considered as relationship material. Your partner has just awakened to your value, and worth...

How to Find Love as a Cynic

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Have you had so many negative experiences that you no longer believe love can happen? Here's the cynic's guide to attracting a love that's healthy and...

Missing your ex? Or just bored.

25 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You're feeling a little low and find yourself thinking about your ex. Are you having second thoughts? Or are you simply bored? Here's the answer: #bre...

There's chemistry (but they're holding back)

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your date is holding back despite intense mutual chemistry. What does this mean? Is it a game? A test? Or the foundation for a meaningful partnership?...

The Insecurity of an Undefined Relationship

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling with feelings of jealousy and insecurity due to your undefined relationship? Here's how to regain your composure and confidence: #s...

Breakups: Was is all an act? 

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

They loved you, then left you. This extreme change of heart leaves you wondering… was it ALL an act? Here's what really happened: #breakups #dumped ...

ACCEPTING FWB (when you want a relationship)?

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you trying to be at peace with settling for a ‘friend with benefits' situation (when what you really want is a ‘relationship')? Here's your ne...

You didn't fall in Love. You fell in ‘Hope' 

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Is your obsession based on love? Or a powerful desire fueled by ‘hope.' Knowing this distinction saves heartache and creates serenity. #love #hope #...

They can't be with you (but won't let you go)

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Your ex has been in contact. They say they miss you and want you. BUT… they can't be with you due to their circumstances. What's going on? #ex #brea...

Obsessing over, “Why don't they want me?”

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

They wanted you (or so it seemed). What happened? The loop of obsession over this question can feel like a downward spiral. Here's why, and your way o...

 3 reasons they're pulling away

06 Jul 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You thought everything was going well. Then, your partner began pulling away. Learn the 3 big reasons why this is happening (and how to counter this r...

Ultimatums: Do they work?

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do ultimatums work? And if so, when should you use them? Here's the best way to get the answers you need: #datingadvice #communication #couplesgoals #...

Dumped- because they ‘don't want to hurt you'

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

One minute they love you. The next, they dump you. Why? They “don't want to hurt you.” What does that mean? #dumped #breakups #hotandcold #datinga...

Your partner's great (why don't you feel attraction?)

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You've got a great partner. Everything's good…except you're not attracted. Can this (and should this) be fixed? Find out: #attraction #chemistry #da...

The factors that create a ‘high value' partner

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering what factors establish the perception of a ‘high value' ? Here's how the process of overvaluing or undervaluing a partner occurs: #highval...

You took them for granted (now you can't get them back)

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You took your partner for granted. Now they're gone and you're tormented with regret. How can you get them back? #breakups #guilt #blame #ex

One Year of No Contact (and still hurting)

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Can't get over the person who love-bombed you? Tried ‘no contact,' but it's still not working? Here's how to break free from this type of obsession:...

Feeling ‘incomplete' without a partner?

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel incomplete without a partner? Are you seeking love outside of yourself, to love yourself? Here's how to attain confidence and self-love, T...

The Lover Like Quicksand (that you can't resist)

14 Apr 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Attraction. Desire. Obsession. Ah yes… the lover like quicksand who pulls you in beyond your control. You know the pattern. But do you know how to e...