The Susan Winter Show

‘Praisebombing' — The casual seduction technique that wins affection

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

‘Praisebombing' is my term for a side door seduction technique to gain your attention (and affection) through excessive praise. Done in a non-dating...

 When the Player Acts Like a Partner

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

You've seen your partner regularly for months. They've met your friends and family and talk of your future. Then, you discover they're dating others. ...

Can't find love (and sick of hearing ‘love yourself first')

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of hearing people preach the need for self-love before you'll find love? While it's preferable to love yourself, the recalibration you n...

Ending Obsession: Disconnecting the ‘partner' from the ‘dream' 

16 Mar 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Frustrated (and exasperated) over not being able to shake off your ex? Still can't free yourself from obsession, craving your partner, and the ‘drea...

The ‘text-ghost-text-ghost' dance

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

What's up with the ‘text-ghost-text-ghost' dance? Why would someone contact you only to go silent? Here's what's behind this BDB (bad dating behavio...

LOA: The allure of an indefinable partner

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling pulled toward a person and an indefinable form of connection? Welcome to your evolution. Here's how to benefit from the Law of Attraction, exp...

#1 Cause of Unnecessary Breakups

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

      Who decided the breakup was a good idea “for you both?” Was it for your benefit, or theirs? Here's the distinction between a preemptiv...

Contact from the ex that dumped you

25 Jan 2022

Contributed by Lukas

The ex that dumped you makes contact and shows interest. Is this a game, or do they have a genuine change of heart? Here's how to decode this unexpect...

Made the right choice (but still suffering)

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Making the right choice can still feel painful. Here's what you need to remember to allow your well-being, confidence, and faith to flourish: #datinga...

Dating Games: Is Your Partner ‘Pocketing' You?

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

‘Pocketing' is a new term for the type of bad dating behavior that excludes you from your partner's social life. They love you in private but hide y...

How to Speak Your Truth

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why do we fear that speaking up will make us look weak or needy? Speaking your truth is a powerful tool for communicating your needs and boundaries. L...

Overcoming the Betrayal of Trust

27 Dec 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Our partner's betrayal can affect our identity and self-worth. How do we allow ourselves to trust again? Moving on (and moving forward) with strength ...

Breaking Up vs Giving Up

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What's the difference between breaking up and giving up? How do you know the right move to make? Stay hoping, or call it quits? #breakups #stayorgo #s...

The ‘One and Only' Trap

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

No individual can be our ‘one and only.' Being our everything is too great an expectation to achieve. Offset relationship stress and gain enrichme...

3 Excuses That Show Your Partner Won't Change

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Exhausted from asking your partner to put effort into the relationship? Tired of hearing, "I'll work on it” or, “Now's not the time?" Here's h...

Twin Flames: Hallmarks and Characteristics

25 Nov 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What is a twin flame? These hallmarks and characteristics separate this partner from all others as you enter a unique vehicle of personal evolution: #...

When Your Partner Wants ‘Time and Space'

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Your partner wants ‘time and space.' Is that code for a breakup, or a relationship reboot for the better? Here's how to know for sure: #space #break...

There's a strong connection. What's your next step?

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You sense a strong connection. How do you proceed? Here's the step-by-step process to bringing them closer: #connection #volley #inclusionmethod

Dating Games: Why did they stop texting?

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

They gave every indication they liked you. The connection and chemistry were there. Here's why they stopped texting: #hotandcold #texting #chemistry #...

Stuck in a loop of ‘what if?'

28 Oct 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in a loop of "what if?" Obsessing over a love that ended, or never started? ‘What if' won't get you the answers (or comfort) you need....

How to Boost Your Dating Confidence

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Have a series of bad dating experiences chipped away at your confidence? Are you questioning your ability to find love? Here's how to flip the script ...

Obsession: Why you're in a mental loop (and how to get out) 

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Obsession is the hunt for a logical answer. It's the mind at ‘unrest' — stuck in a mental loop because nothing makes sense. Here's your exit to fr...

When the ‘Honeymoon Bubble' Bursts

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Has your ‘honeymoon bubble' burst? Balance and individual fulfillment provide the next phase of loving integration for you and your partner. Here's ...

Done ‘talking' about it? Time for action. 

30 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

  Tired of ‘talking' about the issue at hand, but also afraid to create ‘consequences?' When words don't work, action can reboot your partner. M...

Dating Games: How to give up ‘game' (and move to real)

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

  Games are seductive, and sadly, often effective. How do you give up game and move to ‘real?' Here's how to get the quality of partnership you cr...

New Relationships: Your Partner's ‘Ever-Present' Ex

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You see merit in your new partner. BUT — their ‘ever-present' ex is way too close for comfort. Here's how to voice your concerns (and boundaries) ...

Manifesting the love (and life) you desire

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Want to learn the key to manifesting the love (and life) you desire? Learn how to activate the ‘mental equivalent.' #manifesting #mentalquivalent

Breakups: Knowing It's Your Fault They Left

12 Sep 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do you handle the guilt and remorse of knowing that you were the one that caused the breakup? Here's how to deal with the aftermath of that knowle...

Do they love YOU (or the money and status)?

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

  You've worked hard and it shows. How do you know the authenticity of a partner's ‘feelings' when there's notable money and status involved? My an...

When is a red flag a deal breaker?

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What's the fine line between noticing a red flag and determining it's a dealbreaker? These are the classic clues for your discernment: #redflags #deal...

After the breakup (accepting they're gone) 

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering how to have the closure you need to move on? Here's how to say what needs to be said and how to accept it's over: #breakups #closure #video ...

Can You ‘Create' Chemistry?

31 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Chemistry is potent, yet elusive. We all know the power it has in determining attraction and desire. Can we ‘assist' this process? Here's how: #chem...

You're Finally Over Your Ex (then they reach out)

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas


You've finally set yourself free from your ex. Then unexpectedly, they reach out. Is this a test from the Universe? Or hope for a second chance? My...

Can I trust again (after my narcissist)?

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You barely survived the breakup with your narcissist. How do you heal and trust a future partner? Here's the key to your stability, confidence, and tr...

New Love: Hope vs. Red Flags

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

New love is intoxicating. But its early hopefulness can blind you into ignoring red flags.  How will you know the thin line that divides hope from d...

How to STOP Loving Your Ex 

22 Aug 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a way to make yourself fall out of love? Here's the quickest way to stop loving your ex and set your heart free. #breakuprecovery

Comparing new partners to your ex?

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find yourself comparing your current dates to your former mate? Do they pale in comparison? Or serve as a guide to what's good? Here's how to m...

Why is ‘unattainable' so seductive? 

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The allure of the one we can't have is intensely compelling. But why? Why is unattainable more desirable than what's readily available? Here's the key...

Breakups: Looking to ‘them' for closure? 

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

What happens when you're dumped, and your partner won't give you a concrete reason? Lack of closure can keep you in a loop of heartache. Here's the wa...

Why they left (after you finally opened up to love)

07 Jul 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You held back and protected your heart. Finally, you felt it was safe to let go…only to see your partner vanish. What happened? Here's the answer: #...

When they say, “You deserve better”

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Why does someone treat you badly, then say “You deserve better?” Whether dumped, ignored or played, this phrase has layers of meaning: #breakups #...

Dumped: Were they scared, or disinterested?

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Dumped? How do you know if you got too close to them (and they got scared) or they just weren't ‘feeling it?' Here's the answer: #breakups #chemistr...

Are you waiting on a ‘maybe?'

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Has someone put you in a holding pattern? Before you commit to waiting on a ‘maybe,' ask yourself these questions: #maybe #friendzone #avoidant

Why you can't get over them

31 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Obsessed and hung up over someone who's moved on? Wondering if you'll ever get over them? Here's how to turn the tables and set yourself free: #obsess...

Something's wrong. Should I speak up?

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You sense that something's wrong. Your partner is pulling away. You want to speak up but fear doing so. What if you look weak and needy? Here's the be...

Breakups: The Dumper's Remorse 

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You were the one who initiated the breakup (in order to feel better). But now you feel worse (with sadness and guilt). This is the ‘dumper's remorse...

Law of Attraction: Attracting a partner/Re-attracting an ex

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Want to use the Law of Attraction to call in a partner or re-ignite and ex? Here's the distinction between fantasizing and manifesting. #LOA #breakups...

How to forgive yourself (for loving them)

13 May 2021

Contributed by Lukas

First you were angry at your ex. Then, hurt. And resentful. Now, you're simmering in the uncomfortable realization it's not ‘about them.' Here's how...

They're interested (but emotionally distant)

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You know they like you. They're proactive and interested. But… why so emotionally distant? Here's how to encourage your partner to open up: #newlove...

Obsessing over ‘WHAT IF?'

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Are you obsessing over WHAT IF — “What if I'd been braver? Took my shot sooner?” Here's how to handle regret over the one that got away, and re...

Manifesting your ex back

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Tempted to use your manifestation skills to get your ex back? Consider the pros and cons of summoning a partner back after a breakup. Here's why: #LOA...

How we fall in love (and get hurt)

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

How do we know if we're falling in love with the right person? Is there a full-proof method to guarantee we never get hurt? Maybe we are looking at Lo...

Dating Games: The ‘turnaround' trick

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Does your partner refuse to take responsibility for their actions? Do they become the ‘victim' and make you the ‘bad guy' for expressing yourself?...

Valentine's Day: Strategy for Singles

23 Mar 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Single this Valentine's Day? It's just one day — but it can create emotional havoc. Here are my top 3 tips for a positive mindset that allows you to...

You know they're bad for you (but you can't stop ‘wanting' them)

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You know they're no good for you. Your mind is clear on that fact. So why can't you stop thinking about them? When will the obsession end? Here's the ...

Great first date. Now, nothing?

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Did you have an amazing connection on your first date? Are you confused as to how it could be so good, yet now they seem uninterested? Here's why: #ch...

Older Women/Younger Men: Children

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Blending families can be tricky for all new couples, especially age-gap partnerships. Here's the best way to accentuate the positive when merging the ...

Letting go of them (and the ‘dream')

17 Feb 2021

Contributed by Lukas

Having a hard time letting go and moving on? It's the ‘dream' that's got you locked in a loop of obsession. Here are your keys to freedom: #dream #o...

THE CURE for seeking their approval

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

There's a difference between showing interest and seeking a person's approval. Here's how to turn insecurity into a desirable form of attraction.   ...

Attraction and Chemistry: Breaking the hook that keeps you coming back

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You know they're no good for you… but you keep going back. Physical attraction and chemistry are a powerful lure. Here's how to break the hook that ...

 They dumped you (and moved on with ease)

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

The breakup has left you devastated. With all the love you shared — how could your ex move on with such ease? This is the mystery that plagues you. ...

Awake and Evolved… where's my tribe?

18 Jan 2021

Contributed by Lukas

You've done the inner work. Personal growth is a part of every breath you take. Yet, advanced souls can feel lonely at times. Here's how to find your ...

Breakups: The ‘Grand Gesture Goodbye' 

19 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There's a new type of breakup maneuver I've coined the ‘Grand Gesture Goodbye.' Your partner pulls out all the stops to validate their affection —...

Dating Games: The Emotional Opportunist:

19 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Beware of the emotional opportunist. They're in and out of your life at will, using you as a safety net and ego boost. You're the backup plan that nev...

Breakup Recovery: Disillusion and Obsession 

19 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Your breakup has you churning over the decisions you made and the events that transpired. How can you set yourself free? Here's the key to relief, and...

Older Women/Younger Men — Why comparing him to older men is unfair

19 Dec 2020

Contributed by Lukas

 Comparing your young guy to older men isn't fair. Nor is it an accurate measure of his worth. Here's how to acknowledge age-gap differences and disc...

How to (successfully) date an entrepreneur

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

  Dating an entrepreneur is an art form. When the normal rules of dating don't apply to a work-obsessed partner, here's the way to gain emotional tr...

  Breakups: But… can't we be ‘friends?' 

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

There's a cruel form of torture when an ex no longer wants us but wants a shoulder to lean on and our presence in their lives. Here's how to figure ou...

 How do I accept the fact that it's over?

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling to accept that your relationship is over? Here's the key to accepting ‘what is,' while retaining your inner fortitude and positiv...

 Why don't we want the ones who want us?

11 Nov 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Why is it that we don't want the person who wants us, but crave the one we can't quite get? Human nature can work against us until we come to this und...

 The right way to ‘take a break' in your relationship

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

  
You and your partner have decided to ‘take a break.' But, how do make it work for the relationship's benefit? Here's the structure you need to...

 Amazing first date… so, why are they pulling away?

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Your first date was amazing; attraction, chemistry, excitement, and comfort. Just when you feel like you finally hit the jackpot, they slowly pull awa...

 Was our ‘connection' real? Or, was it just me?

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do we explain feeling a powerful connection… that ends up going nowhere? Was it real? And if so, why did it end? Here's what really happened: #c...

 Accepting there's no “us” anymore

14 Oct 2020

Contributed by Lukas


 Your breakup has left a palpable void. Moving on and accepting it's over is especially hard since your partner has also been your 'person.' Here's...

 The price of ‘playing it cool'

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How much interest should you show early on? Here's how to gauge your pace and level of attention in order to hit the ‘sweet spot' of success: #pace ...

 No contact rules (when you want your ex back)

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You want your ex back. Your friends suggest you try ‘no contact.' But, is that the right move? Depends. Here are the rules for each variant of your ...

Incompatible on paper. But good in real life?

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

The two of you look bad on paper — but could you work out in real life? Here's how to discern deal breaker from the starting point of honest communi...

 How to let go of a love that never happened

18 Sep 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you struggling to let go of a love that never happened? If memories of intense chemistry and hopeful dreams of a future together keep haunting you...

 Is the joy worth the pain?

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering if the joy of your romance is worth the pain? The answer lies in asking these 2 simple questions: #hotandcold #joyandpain  

 Dating Games: Hot and cold? Or, nothing at all

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You're in a dating game that only offers you two choices: hold and cold, or nothing at all. Here's how to increase your options: #hotandcold #datingga...

 Breakups: Can't get over your ex?

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Can't get over your ex? Here's how to unite your mind and heart to attain a new reality of inner peace: #ex #breakups  

 The ‘mixed message' breakup (is it real)?

24 Aug 2020

Contributed by Lukas

A messy breakup with mixed messages is horrific to experience and impossible to understand. Is it a sick dating game? Or, does our ex want us back? He...

 Rejected (because you're someone they could love)

26 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you baffled as to why the person who was into you, rejected you? Discover the hidden reason behind this illogical choice to bail: #breakups #attra...

Do you take the blame for feeling hurt?

26 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Your feelings are hurt. Are you to blame for being overly sensitive, or is it your partner's error? Here's how to discern the validity of an emotional...

How to be in ‘agreement' with yourself 

26 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

 Wondering how to attract the right type of people into your life? Here's the key to locking into your highest frequency (and not allowing yourself t...

Turning your crush into a reality 

26 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

What's the difference between a fanciful crush that's delicious to ponder, and one that becomes a relationship? Here are the 3 stages needed to actual...

Making right decision (but still suffering)

12 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

You made the right decision to evacuate a painful ‘situationship.' So, why do you feel worse? Here's the final insight needed to activate your emoti...

Giving too much (too soon)

12 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Do you tend to give too much, too soon? Here's how to assess your pace and generosity for the best romantic results: #overgiving #newrelationships  ...

Breakups: The ‘Aha' moment of relief

12 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

  You suddenly find yourself thinking of an ex. Does that mean they're thinking of you? Here's how to interpret this ethereal premise: #ex #breakup #...

Can you turn a FWB's into a partner?

12 Jul 2020

Contributed by Lukas

   Are you confused by the intense closeness of your ‘friend with benefits?” Do you wonder if they could be a ‘partner?' Here's how to naviga...

Psychic Energy Loss: Is your ex thinking of you?

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

  You suddenly find yourself thinking of an ex. Does that mean they're thinking of you? Here's how to interpret this ethereal premise: #ex #breakup #...

Is it Love? Or, just desperation and convenience? 

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Triggered by thoughts of your ex? How do you know the truth of your feelings? Here's how to discern love from desperation and convenience: #ex #trigge...

New love? The perils of ‘overcorrecting'

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Overcorrecting unwanted behaviors from a past relationship can jeopardize your new one. Avoid creating ‘the distancing dance,' boundary and pace iss...

Are you stuck in the breakup/makeup loop?

26 Jun 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of being stuck in the makeup/breakup loop? Here's how to activate your courage and free yourself from the cycle of unfulfilled promises ...

Dating Games: Are you punished for speaking up?

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

    Are you being punished for sharing your feelings with your mate? Bullied into silence through distancing?  Here's how to bypass manipulation...

Are you patient, or a pushover?

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

 What's the difference between being patient, and being a pushover? Here's how to discern which move to make according to the circumstances: #newrela...

Arguments: Are you apologizing to keep peace?

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you managing your partner's bad mood by taking the blame? Break the argument loop by changing your default position. Here's how to fight fair and ...

How to believe you'll find love (again) 

13 May 2020

Contributed by Lukas

How do you make yourself believe you'll find love again? By doing this: #video #manifestation  

Gut feelings: Truth, or insecurity?

24 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

When you get that ‘gut feeling' about a partner, is it the truth? Or, could it be your fears? My video show you how to discern instinct from insecur...

Can't stop thinking about your ex?

24 Apr 2020

Contributed by Lukas

Are you stuck in a loop thinking about your ex? Here's how to set yourself free mentally and emotionally: #ex #breakups #obsession