The Susan Winter Show
Episodes
How to measure progress (in a modern partnership design)
24 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to measure where you stand in a relationship that doesn't involve the traditional marker of marriage? Here's how to gauge your partnership prog...
Highly Sensitive People: Is it your reactivity, or theirs?
24 Apr 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How can you discern whose ‘stuff' it is? Are you overreacting? Or, is your partner provoking your upset by their behavior? Here's how to tell wher...
Do you ‘intimidate' your dates?
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Have your been told you ‘intimidate' your dates? Here's how to alleviate your date's fears (without minimizing your power or value): #intimidate #da...
Dating during the Coronavirus (COVID-19)
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you worried how the Coronavirus (COVID-19) will affect your dating momentum? Here are four things you can do to see forward movement in your ro...
‘Inner Wisdom' — Is it right, or wrong?
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You're in a new relationship and things feel ‘off.' BUT — your gut says to hang in there. Is your inner wisdom correct? Here's how to know: ...
Finding Love (as a highly sensitive person)
24 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) wondering how to find love in today's world? My video offers valuable information on partner selection, and th...
Are you hoping your love will ‘fix' them?
08 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You can be a positive force in your mate's life, but you can't “fix” them. Change is an inside job. Here's how to assist the partner you ...
When dating ends in heartache
08 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Learning how to filter for the ‘best choice' of partner alleviates future heartache. Here's how to maximize your ability to meet (and keep) a mate...
How to not lose hope (in finding love)
08 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Are you struggling to hold onto hope (when love seems so hard to find)? Here's how to recharge your ability to believe in love again, as well as your...
Is this partner your best choice?
08 Mar 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Correct partner selection is pivotal to your long-term happiness. Do you know how to pick the best partner for your disposition and lifestyle? Here's ...
Gift giving and receiving (what it says about your relationship)
13 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Does a gift reflect the quality of one's love and relationship? As Valentine's Day approaches, it's wise to review what we “think” gifts mean t...
‘Friends' with your ex (and not moving on)?
13 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You're friends with your ex. That's a good thing, right? Maybe not — if that friendship hasn't allowed you to move on. Here's the right move t...
From adored, to ignored. What now?
13 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
They were so great, then became horrible. What happened? How can the same person go from being attentive and adoring, to disinterested and cold? He...
Of course you're confused. You're clear
13 Feb 2020
Contributed by Lukas
You know what you want in a relationship and in a mate. So, why is dating so confusing? The most confused people dating today are those who're clea...
Breakups (when you have to see your ex regularly)
19 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Singles, are you sick of hearing what you ‘should feel,' and how you ‘should be happy' on your own? My podcast answers this question: #single...
Finding Love Online (in the ‘swipe age' of hookups)
19 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
How can you navigate safe transit in the online world of dating games? Here's my suggestion for attracting the right type of partner and int...
Mastering the Anxiety of a New Relationship
19 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Confused as to the best practices and protocol for a new relationship? No need to remain confused and fearful of speaking up. Here's the solution: #ne...
Single on a Holiday (and feeling alone)
19 Jan 2020
Contributed by Lukas
Singles can feel extra pressure on a holiday where ‘everyone' seems to have someone. Here's how to avoid the rabbit hole of unhappiness and fe...
Single (and made to feel guilty for wanting love)?
20 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Singles, are you sick of hearing what you ‘should feel,' and how you ‘should be happy' on your own? My podcast answers this question: #single...
Handling the holidays (emotional triggers)
20 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
The holidays are a time of celebration with friends and family. They're also of time of emotional triggers. Here's how to handle an unexpected emotion...
From friends to lovers (to friends again)?
20 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Did your friendship blossom into something more? Here's what to do when your friend, turned lover, retracts back to the ‘friends only' position. #fr...
Caring too much (attaching too soon)
20 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering how stop yourself from getting attached too early (for your own good)? Here are the steps needed to disentangle fantasy while pacing your re...
Mixed Messages: What's the truth (of their feelings)?
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do the messages they gave you contradict the emotions they inspired? Here's why you fell for them and what you can do now:
Cat-String Theory: Are games necessary for attraction?
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are games a necessary part of keeping the attraction alive? My video answers the question of ‘cat-string theory,' and how to balance rela...
Breakup Mind Games: Dumped (then pursued)?
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
First you're dumped out of the blue. Then, they begin to pursue? What does your ex want?? Here's how to handle this breakup mind game with power and c...
Retracting your energy (to re-attract your ex)
04 Dec 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You can't stop thinking about your ex. How can you trigger them to think about you? Here's the counterintuitive twist on energetic thought: ...
Successful career (but unsuccessful dating life)
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you great at your career, but lack confidence in the world of love and romance? Here's how to utilize your career knowledge for dating success: #d...
Magnetizing love (as the ‘best you')
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering how to magnetize a higher level of partnership? Here's how to use what you've learned in the past to create an evolved, loving future: #attr...
Breakups: Afraid you'll never feel chemistry again?
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Did your last partner click physically, but end in disaster? Here's the truth about that form of intense chemistry, and how to create a lasting connec...
How to open up to dating again (after heartbreak)
16 Nov 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Has a recent heartbreak made you fear opening up to love again? Here's the mental shift you need to master this fear with confidence and ease: #loveaf...
Falling too fast (and scaring them away)
09 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Do you fall so quickly that your partner pulls away in fear? Here's how to express your affection at a pace that allows your mate to breathe and yo...
Older Women/Younger Men: What age gap is right for you?
09 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Ladies, how young is too young? Men, what's your end-goal? These are the questions to ask when entering a large age-gap relationship: #olderwomen #you...
You slept with them. OWN IT.
09 Oct 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You chose to sleep with them. So why are you giving them the power to validate you? Take your power back. Own your body and choice by doing this: #v...
Dating Games: Does everyone play ‘games?'
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Is it possible to have a romantic scenario that doesn't include ‘games?' My video explains why people use games for control, and how reroute t...
Dating Games: Are you staying out of guilt?
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You know you shouldleave, but your partner's guilt-tripping you into staying. Here's how to effectively handle emotional manipulation with tact and d...
How to stop falling for the wrong people
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering how to filter though your romantic prospects to find the best mate? Save yourself time and heartache. Attract your optimal choice by doing t...
You shared a powerful connection. What happened?
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You had an incredible connection that doesn't happen every day. Why was this potential mate ripped from your life? Before you assume Life is cruel and...
Why your date didn't follow through
04 Sep 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You thought you had a connection… but they didn't follow through. Why not? Here's how the ‘paradox of choice' eliminates the need to choose you as...
How to love yourself (after losing yourself to love)
12 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Did you lose yourself (while loving your partner)? No need for guilt or shame. Regain your connection and confidence by doing this: #video #love #se...
Dating Games: Creating jealousy and insecurity
12 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Is your partner purposefully trying to make you feel jealous and insecure? Here's how to decode this dating game and turn the tables to your favor: #v...
They liked you (so they left?2
12 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your date said you're the ‘partner of their dreams.' Then, they ran away. Confusing? Not at all. Here's why: #video #fear #datingadvice #insec...
Dating Games: Ignoring you (for attention)
12 Aug 2019
Contributed by Lukas
First they paid attention to you. Now… they ignore you? Here's how to decode the dating game of chasing for approval: #video #datinggames #dating...
Why Over-Giving Always Backfires
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you trying to make yourself indispensable to your partner through over-giving? Learn why this tactic is bound to kill off the love you seek to s...
Breakups: The Fear of Being Alone (forever)
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Breakups activate our worst fears: “Will I ever find #love again? Will I be alone forever?” Here's the remedy to calm your fears and move ...
Top 3 Requested: Relationship Insecurity
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Introducing a new playlist to my YouTube channel: Top 3 Requested answers 3 viewer's questions, all centering on one theme. Today, we're examining ...
Do Open Relationships Work?
15 Jul 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering if an ‘open relationship' is right for you? Here's what needs to be in place for this type of romantic design to work: #video
Dating Games: How to handle ‘breadcrumbing'
22 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Tired of being taunted with hope? Here's how to counter ‘breadcrumbing' and get free from the partner that wants you on standby:
Breakups: Dumped for being ‘too perfect?'
22 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Did your partner dump you because you're ‘too good to be true?' Here's why you're punished with breakup backlash for being “too perfect:”
Breakups: Are your friends are blocking you from reuniting?
22 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You want to get back with your ex. Your ex feels the same. BUT — his or her friends are blocking the way. How do you move forward? Watch this:
LDR's: Does pulling away mean infidelity?
22 Jun 2019
Contributed by Lukas
What's (really) happening when your long distance partner pulls away? Are they cheating? Here are the red flags, as well as exclusions:
Do you feel ‘unlucky' in love?
18 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Have all your friends found love, but you? You've done you inner work and know what you want. Wondering if you're ‘unlucky' in love? Before you l...
Is it time to bail?
18 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you standing on the precipice of a decision to stay or leave? Worse yet, are you thinking of leaving to avoid being dumped yourself? Here's a b...
Older Women/Younger Men: Why she pushed you away
18 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You're wild for an older woman who feels the same about you. So, why did she push you away (when you know she wants you)? Here's the answer, and th...
Breakups: Were you punished for setting boundaries?
18 May 2019
Contributed by Lukas
You finally spoke up, stated your needs, and now…got dumped? Here's how a narcissist will punish you for having boundaries
Breakups: Dumped via ‘Ghosting?'
25 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Why would a #partner resort to #ghosting as a form of #breakup? Here's the mindset of an escape artist, and how you can turn the tables:
Dating Games: Pursuit and Retraction
25 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
He couldn't wait to see you. She melted in your arms. What happened? Welcome to the dating game of pursuit and retraction: #mixedmessages #pullingaway...
Decoding your partner's confusing behavior
25 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Trying to make sense out of the illogical is a fool's errand. If you're exhausted trying to figure out your #partner's position, consider this approac...
Breakups: Taking them off ‘the pedestal'
25 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Having trouble getting over your ex? This #video shows you how taking them off ‘the pedestal' (and seeing them accurately) helps you to move forw...
Why they pulled away (and lost interest)
05 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
At one point, your #date couldn't get enough of you. Now, they've pulled away. Here's why they've lost interest (and what you can do about it).#...
Should you wait…or move on?
05 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
If your #partner say's they need time, should you wait? If so, how long? Here's how to know if your #relationship is worth the wait: #video #wait #mov...
Can we become friends with our ex?
05 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Not sure if you can be friends with someone you've #loved in the past? The right action depends on the answer to this question: #ex #breakup #friends ...
Are they a partner or a player?
05 Apr 2019
Contributed by Lukas
How can you tell a player from a prospective mate? If you want a committed relationship, here's what you need to know: #players #love #partnerselec...
Why did they go back to their abusive ex?
23 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Franzi writes, “Dear Susan,I was dating a young man I thought I would end up in relationship with. A year ago he was dating a woman who treated him ...
How to get closer (when they pull away)
23 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Your partner was into you but now they're pulling away. ‘Pushing' for reconnection won't work. Here's how to engage the internal shift that allows y...
Is yourpartner's ex trying to sneak back through social media?
23 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Cliff writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos. They are really helpful to me and I enjoy watching them. My question I would like you to answer in the ...
Can givers learn to become receivers?
23 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Susan writes, “Hi Susan. I want say a big thank you to you first. I had a big awakening experience after I watched your videos. I allowed people w...
Where do you stand in your ‘situationship?'
21 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
New couples go through the awkward phase of determining who and what they are to each other, and if what they've got is viable. Where do you stand ...
Breakups: Right Partner/Bad Timing. Is There Hope?
21 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Vivien writes, “Hi Susan, I am a huge fan of yours from Hungary. My boyfriend has just broken up with me 2 months ago saying that he feels he is no...
Does your partner have secret social media accounts?
21 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Oscar writes, “Good Day. Susan, I'm 40 and having issues with my relationship. I've come to find out that the woman I've been with for 8 years has b...
Why am I suddenly missing my ex?
21 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
YouTube subscriber Luke writes, “Hi Susan, I was wondering if you could possibly address why we may suddenly miss an ex out of nowhere, especially a...
Have you stayed too long (waiting for commitment)?
14 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
R G writes, “Dear Susan, I've heard many people say, including myself, that they stayed too long in a relationship. How long should a person give a ...
Love Triangle with a Narcissist
14 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Sarah writes, “Why does a Narcissist play hot and cold in a love triangle? I have told him what I have concluded in his behaviour and patterns, and ...
The Impact and Consequences of an Emotional Affair
14 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Lisa writes, “Dear Susan, THANK YOU for all the time and talent you share with all of us! Your videos are awesome! Is an emotional affair worse th...
They want you (but not a relationship)
14 Mar 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Emma writes, “Hello Susan, I really like and feel strong chemistry with this guy. And he tells me he feels the same way. He can be very affectionate...
How do I approach an older woman (if I've only had same-aged partners)?
22 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Dylan writes, “Hi Susan, I'm a big fan of your work and find your content extremely helpful and inspiring. My question is how do you begin to approa...
Are You Stuck in Breakup Purgatory?
22 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Are you stuck in torment due to your breakup? You can't move forward, and you're not sure how to get them back. Confused, immobile and waiting for a s...
My partner isn't ready for commitment (but wants to be ‘friends')
22 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Aaron writes, “Hi Susan, thank you for your videos it really help me a lot. Susan my boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn't ready for a commi...
How do I have the marriage talk (vs. an ultimatum)?
22 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Melissa writes, “I've been with my partner 4 years, living together for 1. My partner is cautious when it comes to making ANY decisions. I know he l...
Older Women/Younger Men: Who's dominant?
14 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Bea writes, “Hi Susan,I just met a much younger guy. I am 44 and he's 27. He seems to be quite serious, a quiet type which suits me a lot. He has a ...
Q and A: How can I tell if my partner's too wounded to love me?
14 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Roger writes, “Hi Susan. Your help has made a tremendous impact on my dating life, but there's something really tough going on. I met this young wom...
Q and A: Is there a future with an ‘Overlapper?'
14 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Taylor writes, “Hi Susan. I was wondering what your thoughts were on trying to build a serious relationship with an ‘Overlapper.' Particularly, if...
Q and A: ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater' – true or false?
14 Jan 2019
Contributed by Lukas
Kate writes, “Hello Susan! Thank you so much for all the educative videos! I have a question about cheating: once a cheater, always a cheater – tr...
Q and A: How can I move on (and be happy again)?
17 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ann writes: “How to finally move on and be happy with yourself again? I've always been single and happy until I dated someone who was into me at fir...
Q and A: Do they have to lose us (to realize they love us)?
17 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Monica writes, “Hello Susan - I LOVE your videos and amazing advice.My issue is that, in a relationship (from 9months-3yrs), the guy will lose inter...
Q and A: Tormented by thoughts of your ex with a new lover?
17 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Ed writes, “Hello Susan, Here are my thoughts on a video request. As we experience the grief from a heartbreak, we also have a variety of emotions ...
Q and A: How do I use the Law of Attraction to get my ex back?
17 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Erika writes: “What are your thoughts on the law of attraction and its role in getting an ex back? I've read that some people have used it to get th...
Q and A: “Do you believe in love at first sight?”
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Viewer Chris writes, “Do you believe in love at first sight?” This is a question that many people ponder as they sense an immediate attraction to ...
Q and A: Why do they ‘act cool' when there's chemistry and interest?
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Linda writes: “I have a crush on someone and although I don't know what the outcome will be, it seems there is chemistry and I get the feeling he li...
Dating Games: The ‘No Drama' Threat
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
This is the double bind where if you speak up to bad behavior or voice a complaint, it's all ‘too much' for your mate. Partner's who play the ‘no ...
Why am I still obsessed?
03 Dec 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Are you obsessed with getting your romance back on track? Here's why your partner is frustrating you so, and how to handle the desperate need to try o...
Q and A: Who pays for the dates these days?
22 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Scott writes, “Hi Susan- I watch all of your videos on YouTube. Thank you. My q: being a guy in the mid-life dating pool is not just difficult...
Q and A: Why are only much older men approaching me online?
22 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Evelyn writes: “Hi Susan, I find your way of conducting yourself in videos is so classy! Thanks for all your insights and tips! I am a 45 year-old w...
Q and A: Comparing yourself to their new flame?
22 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Margaret writes, “Hi Susan, Could you do a video on how to get over someone who chooses another person over you? I keep finding myself comparing m...
Are you obsessing about ‘The One That Got Away?'
22 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Do you find yourself wondering what ‘could have been'? Obsessing over an imagined love life can make you miss what's right in front of your eyes. He...
Q and A: I confessed my love and was rejected.
06 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Marie writes, “Dear Susan,Can you make a video about Unrequited Love or How to Handle Rejection after You Confessed your Affection to someone who do...
Q and A: How can I find sexual desire AND real connection?
06 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Paul writes, “Hello Susan. For most of my life I have been struggling to choose the right partner for me. There is usually this dilemma for me; to c...
Breakups: Was our love actually real?
06 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Did they ever love me? Was it ever real? These are the questions we ask ourselves when we've been dumped, cheated on, lied to, abandoned, used, played...
Q and A: How do I ask about their relationship history (without sounding intrusive)
06 Nov 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Georgina writes: “I would love to get your thoughts on the best way to ask someone why his (or her) marriage or long term relationship ended without...
They bailed out of the blue. Here's why
20 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Why would someone urge you forward into caring for them, give you green lights, and connect so readily… then suddenly bail? Lines like ‘I'm not...
Q and A: How do I handle the grieving process of my divorce?
20 Oct 2018
Contributed by Lukas
Candice writes, “Hi Susan,I'm a HUGE fan of yours and I think you hit the nail on the head every time you dole out advice. My question has to do w...