The Susan Winter Show

Why they can't come back (if you're ‘waiting and hoping')

20 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Baffled as to why they left? Wondering if they'll come back? Learn why the energetic act of staying frozen as you wait and hope for your partner's ret...

Q and A: When should your partner say, “I love you?”

20 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Marie writes, “My question might be elementary, but when should a partner say, "I love you"? I am a woman in my 30s who has been dating a man in his...

The only way to win with a narcissist

11 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Are you tired of watching videos and reading articles about narcissists? Perhaps you're taking the right approach but applying it to the wrong person....

Q and A: How do I reach out to someone I like?

11 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Alika writes, “Hey Susan, I'm a big fan of yours! My question is about taking chances. Is it a good idea to "shoot your shot" as Millennial's often...

Q and A: Is it caution, or a lack of commitment?

11 Oct 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Julie writes, “Dear Susan, how can you tell if you and your partner are on the same page regarding the future if your partner is a more reticent, ca...

Dating Games: Your partner creates ‘alternative facts' to punish you

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Some partners need to create a false reality in their minds so that they can play the victim. By repeating and embellishing ‘alternative facts,' you...

Dating after an uncomfortable personal realization

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The first phase of any growth process is the realization that a change must be made. That's a good thing. While recalibrating to our new and improved ...

Why you should keep your faith in finding love

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like you're losing faith in finding love? Here's the good news. Celebrities are leading the new trend towards commitment by pulling the tr...

Q and A: I'm ‘showing up' for love. Why aren't my dates?

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dominik writes, “Hi Susan, I‘ve watched all of your videos and they are so helpful, thank you! Before I found you, I used to follow coaches that s...

When today's triggers re-open emotional wounds

21 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Just when you thought you'd handled your heartache, it comes raging to the surface. A delayed response to a painful event or situation can put us into...

Q and A: When is it a deal breaker vs.a compromise?

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Katia writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos! You are helping me to find my true self and heal after a breakup. My question is about tolerati...

Q and A: Why do you pick someone so difficult?

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

R Baker writes, “Brilliant video, and Nikka was an adorable addition. Can't wait to see the ‘why did you pick someone who was so difficult?' video...

Q and A: How do I get my partner to give me more attention (without looking needy)?

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Debbie writes, “Could you perhaps do a video on how to handle it when your partner doesn't give you the attention you need, whether it's at the star...

Q and A: How do I move from being a ‘place card' to a priority?

13 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Joey writes, “Dear Susan, thanks — the way you advocate authenticity is so refreshing. You've talked about people having you in reserve/place card...

Q and A: Should you contact your ex to call them out on breakup cruelty?

02 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Amber writes, “Hi Susan, What do you think about contacting an ex to call them out for being cruel upon breaking up? To get some things off my ches...

From commitment to nonexistent… what happened?

02 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Your partner's the one who urged you to move ahead in your relationship. Now, they're the one who's backed away. Why? Here's what happened and here ar...

The Narcissist's Game of Hot and Cold

02 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You may be savvy on decoding hot and cold patterns in dating, but narcissists play a whole different game. Learn how to insulate your heart from needl...

Q and A: How do I handle pushy, unwanted attention?

02 Sep 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Laura writes, “Your videos are true pearls of wisdom. Could you talk about sensible, practical tips for ladies to avoid or handle persistent or unwa...

Q and A: What's the best pace with an older woman?

21 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Roger writes, “Dear Susan, I am dating a mother of two right now and she is 35 and I am 25. Anyway, she really wants to enjoy life at the moment bec...

How to turn your summer romance into a lasting relationship

21 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Not sure what's required in order to take your summer fling through to the fall? Here are two solid tips that create the greatest possibility for your...

Q and A: How do I fix believing I need to ‘earn' love? 

21 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Heather L writes, “Hi Susan! I am gaining so much value and clarity from your content. It's helping me improve my relationships with other people, a...

Q and A: How and when do I have the exclusivity conversation?

21 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Ger R writes, “Hi Susan. Please do a video about bringing up the topic of being exclusive. How long before wanting this is reasonable? And, w...

Before you send that angry text, do this instead

12 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Furious with your partner? Though you want to lash out in a text message, this isn't the place to start an argument. Learn the amazing power of ‘w...

Q and A: Is it okay to be single (and genuinely happy)?

12 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Emmy writes, “I'm 25 and have gone on many dates with wonderful men. There is attraction, great conversation, but always seems to be something missi...

How to master an emotional meltdown (in real time)

12 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Emotional meltdowns can be observed, honored, processed and packaged. Here's to reroute an internal upset in real time so that you can move forward an...

Q and A: Is it true that women want a rich, successful man?

12 Aug 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Christopher writes, ”Hi Susan. I have admired your work here helping others find confidence in relationships. And I do have a question. Is it true t...

Are you in a ‘Band Aid' relationship?

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

A ‘Band Aid' relationship is neither good nor bad. It's a get-by type of romantic construct that demands little of its participants. One or both par...

Q and A: How can I help my partner realize their addiction?

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Lawrence writes, “Hi Susan. My wife and I have separated and she's sleeping around and meeting men off dating sites. She suffers from alcohol abuse...

When you've got nothing to lose, do this:

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You're ready to walk, so why not experiment by enacting 'new ways of being' while you remain with your partner? This is the ‘golden time' to break t...

Q and A: What's the reason behind ‘haunting?

20 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Salvatore writes, “Hello Susan, could you explain the psychology or behavior/reasoning behind "haunting"? It's basically the follow up of ghosting. ...

Q and A: Are obstacles in a relationship the Universe's way of saying ‘NO?

16 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Charlotte writes, “Hi Susan. Thank you for all of your wonderful, wise advice in your YouTube videos. You clearly have a gift in understanding human...

Q and A: How do I overcome my insecurities as the relationship moves forward?

16 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Johnny writes, “Hello Susan. First I wanted to thank you for all your precious advice. My relationship with a man I'm dating is moving forward and m...

Why your partner's holding back from trusting you

16 Jul 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Wondering why your partner's taking so long to trust you? Here's how to figure out if it's something you're doing to create this situation, or if it's...

Q and A: How do we know when to give someone a chance?

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Laetitia writes, “Hi Susan,Thank you for all your fabulous advice. So helpful! Here is my question: how to know when to give a chance to some one?”...

Why your partner doesn't appreciate you (and how to fix that)

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Have you made it easy for your partner to devalue your worth? If so, here's what you did wrong and here's how to make it right. Learn the inner workin...

Q and A: How can I trust again after a painful breakup?

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Dustin writes, “Hi Susan. I got out of a very toxic relationship 6 months ago. My ex broke up with me. She has bpd. I've been through a lot emotiona...

Why the ‘rational you' becomes emotionally obsessed

21 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

External factors can collide with your inner world to set you up for emotional obsession — even when you're a rational person.  This creates insec...

Q and A: Should previous relationship history matter?

20 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Tanya writes, “Should previous relationship history matter? I met this guy on tinder and we had such an awesome first date! We clicked right away an...

Q and A: Does being open destroy a ‘hot and cold' relationship?

20 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Petter Fagerlund writes, “Should you try to resolve an ambivalent situation, that might be characterized as hot and cold, by being open or are you j...

Is your spirituality making you a doormat?

20 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Is your spiritual practice weakening your romantic boundaries and making your ‘go blind' to an unhealthy partnership? The overwhelming love that occ...

Q and A: What should I do if my partner has "the grass is greener" syndrome?

20 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Anna writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been improving myself so much, thanks to all of your break up videos. I have one question: What shoul...

Q and A: Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound?

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jessie Magliocco writes, ”Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound or when an ex is trying to get back into their lives?”Here's the ...

The Price of Staying Silent About Your Feelings

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We're all afraid of being hurt. But the unbelievable remorse of staying silent is to miss the opportunity to experience love with the person who also ...

Q and A: It's just sex and doesn't mean anything, right?

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Charles Belfort writes, “HI Susan, could you please make a VIDEO on the logic behind "it's just and doesn't mean anything", while the person is hold...

Q and A: He acts like a boyfriend (but claims he isn't)

10 Jun 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Stella writes, “Hello Susan. I have been dating a man 11 years older than me for 2 years. Both divorced. I'm 40. He has had past failed relationship...

Q and A: What's the most common mistake younger men make with older women?

28 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Shanewrites, “Dear Susan, Enjoying your videos and website, finding your perspective refreshing and insightful. I have a question that's recently c...

Q and A: How do you date when your career is in transition?

28 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Fiona writes, “How do you date when your career is in shambles or ‘in process?' It's not ideal, but if the career is not a 6 month fix, sho...

Dating Games: Is your partner ‘future faking?'

28 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Future Faking is a form of mental/emotional seduction that lures a dater in the gate. It's the bait of what's wanted; exclusivity, a future together, ...

Q and A: What's the correct behavior for male-female friendships (when in a relationship)?

28 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Marko writes, “Hi Susan, greetings from Europe.What is your opinion on male-female friendships when in a relationship?To give it more context, how a...

Q and A: Do men know right away if you're ‘girlfriend material?'

07 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Lana writes, “Dear Susan.Thank you so much for your helpful videos. My friends claim that a man knows very quickly whether the woman is girlf...

Why being real looks like ‘game' to a new partner

07 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

As a self-empowered dater, you may seem ‘too good to be true.' Honest, open and real, your demeanor may throw off a new partner. Here's why being re...

Q and A: When is the best time to let someone know you like them?

07 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Gary H writes, “In your opinion, when is it the best time to let someone know that you like them. Can it ever be too early to do so?Thanks, G...

When ‘Hot and Cold' isn't what you think

07 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Hot and cold isn't always what it seems. Though we're savvy to this dating game, what if we're wrong? Could our partner be having a reaction to our re...

Q and A: What's the right sexual pace when there's instant attraction?

04 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Jelena Gavranovic writes, “Dear Susan, Nearly all men I date send out a strong signal that they want to take me to bed. I'm sometimes at a loss in ...

Q and A:How do I move on from rejection and not let it affect my self-worth?

04 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Lola writes, “Hi Susan! How do you move on from rejection and not let it affect your self worth?”  Though your ego is bruised, one person...

How to Love Without Fear

04 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We'll never be free to love when our focus is the fear of getting hurt. That outlook negates happiness as it keeps our guard up and locks love out. He...

Q and A: Help! My partner ‘needs time to see other people.'

04 May 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Marlena writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been watching your videos and you're really awesome!My question is; I'm in a 9-year relationship o...

Q and A: How do I empower myself to believe I deserve love?

31 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Maryam writes, “How to deal or empower yourself when you finally find someone you think you deserve, but you keep doubting yourself and your ...

Q and A: How do I confront my (exclusive) partner about their being on Tinder?

31 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Erica K writes, “Hi Susan. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us:) I have been dating a guy from Tinder for 8 months now and he recently ...

Are you compromising too much for love?

31 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We've all heard the phrase, “Love conquers all.” That can be true — when both partners are unified in their goals and dreams. Love is not enough...

Q and A: How do you move forward in dating after sexual trauma?

31 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Torrie T writes, “Hi Susan. I've held this question in my heart for many years and would love to hear your advice. How do you move forward in...

How to Reboot a Stagnant Relationship

17 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Has your partner become complacent? Are they taking you for granted, bored or losing interest? Here's how to reboot your relationship and reactivate t...

Q and A: How do I handle dating in the workplace?

17 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

George Wolf writes, “Hi Susan! I have a suggestion for a video — haven't seen it covered on your channel yet. How to handle dating in the workpla...

Q and A: Why do others find love and I don't?

17 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Maryam writes, “How can I avoid getting down and depressed when I experience challenge after challenge in dating, and see that most of my fr...

Q and A: Why do we love people who don't love us back?

17 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Sam King writes, “Do you think you can make us a video regarding why do we still love people who do not love us back ??????? i love your work...

New relationship? Here's how to not ruin it

14 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

All new relationships have fits and starts. There will be gaps in communication, times you're left wondering if they still care, false cues and confus...

Q and A: How do we stop obsessively thinking of someone?

14 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Ceri writes, “Dear Susan, can you please share some practical methods one can possibly use to stop obsessively thinking about someone? Thank...

Q and A: How can I stop my partner's bickering and negativity?

14 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Adventure Tube writes, “Hey Susan could you please make a video about bickering and what are your thoughts about it, and how do we deal with our emo...

Do you have to love yourself (before you can manifest love)?

14 Mar 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The nagging question of self-love leaves many daters feeling defeated. What if we don't fully love ourselves? Does it exclude us from finding love? Re...

Q and A: How do I handle liking someone when I'm not sure of a future?

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Emilia Bianco writes, “When you're getting to know someone, you like them but you're not yet in love, how do you manage that and avoid hurting them,...

Dating Games: The Truth about Hot and Cold Partners

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

The hallmark of self-acceptance and self-love is to be able to stand in front of someone and be completely transparent and open. This is the exact opp...

How to calm your relationship insecurities.

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We all have insecurities. What may be a minor concern can become magnified as a major issue within a relationship. Here's how to handle the fears and ...

Q and A: Can a relationship work with different interests and backgrounds? 

23 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Beauty Means writes, “Thank you Susan. I always benefit from your advice. I have a question: Can a relationship be successful if the partners...

Are they ‘The One' or a prototype?

09 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

We often fail to properly categorize our love interests, especially when a relationship ends. If we assume they were “The One,” we'll agonize thei...

Q and A: What's the best advice for online dating over 40?

09 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Michelle Grenier who writes, “Hi Susan!  Can you make a video on tips for online dating for women over 40 or the red flags to spot in men on...

Q and A: Why would an ex want to stay in touch?

09 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Janet L writes, “Hi Susan, hope you're well. Speaking of break ups, could you do a video on why an ex wants to stay in touch? Is it to keep their op...

Dating Games: When they push away (but secretly want you)

09 Feb 2018

Contributed by Lukas

You know they want you. So why do they pretend they don't? Learn why your partner's self-protection gives you false clues, and uncover what they're re...

Q and A: How Can I Get Rid of Anger Over a Failed Relationship?

26 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Claire asks, “How does one get over the anger of a failed relationship? I think I'm healing well, then this bubble of anger erupts when I think of h...

Are you trying to ‘handle' being a non-priority?

26 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Feeling like a non-priority? The goal isn't to make yourself okay with being treated badly, but to know our rights and speak up. Here's how to ask the...

Q and A: Are women more attracted to a man whose feelings are unclear?

26 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Follow My Logic writes, “I've heard it said over and over that according to research a woman is ‘more attracted to a man whose feelings are...

Dating Games: Just when you feel safe, they pull away

26 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Why does your partner pull away the minute you finally relax? Learn the shocking reason for this dating game and regain your serenity with calm and co...

Q and A: What's the difference between deflectors, the confused and game players?

01 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Bang Bang writes, “What's the difference between deflectors, the confused and game players?” With all the games that funnel through as bad...

How to stay true to yourself (even in a limited relationship)

01 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Tired of being relegated to a ‘limited relationship?' Here's what you need to know in order to expand your connection and still show up as ALL that ...

Q and A: How Do I Handle an On and Off Again Relationship?

01 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Richard Gonzalez asks, “Hi Susan I really love the advice that you give I would appreciate (and I'm sure other viewers of your Channel would too) —...

How to find the truth (of your partner's feelings)

01 Jan 2018

Contributed by Lukas

Here's the key to knowing how to navigate ‘game' and cut through dating confusion.  Learn how to clear out the conflicting voices of those around y...

Q and A: Are economics a factor in dating an older woman?

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Lionheart07writes: Do economic differences turn off an older woman from a younger guy? I'm worried that the money issue (or lack thereof) could be a d...

The Power of Direct Communication

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When did we contort the meaning of “telling the truth” to equate being vulnerable? Here's why being direct is a powerful technique for creating of...

Q and A: How do I handle my partner's manipulative ex?

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Flowerdiva 18 writes, “Susan, how do we deal with a partner's ex that hasn't fully left their life? I'm dealing with this ex that I haven't met, and...

Does ‘Looking' Mean They'll Cheat?

20 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How concerned should you be if you find your partner looking? How much is normal? Here are the signs that signify ‘looking' denotes serious interest...

Q and A: How to Handle a Love Triangle

17 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Audrah from Paris asks, ”I navigated the beginnings of a rather complex relationship thanks to your advice. Now I'm again in a situation increasingl...

Dating Games: The ‘Non-Breakup' Bluff

17 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Something's wrong and you know it. Yet, your partner swears ‘all is good.' They're growing more distant day by day but claim to have no issues. Here...

Q and A: How do we get a quality partner for a real relationship?

17 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Viewer Alexandra asks, “For those of us who want to get a real partner for a real relationship — which are the right steps to achieve this? How do...

Breakups: Celebrate the ending (to mark a new beginning)

17 Dec 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Do you want to eliminate your partner's confusion? You must do what your partner cannot. You must be clear to inspire their awareness. You must be d...

Breakups: Celebrate the ending (to mark a new beginning) 

25 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

How do you go from a breakup to a new life with a bright future? By marking your transitions. We can't have a new beginning if we don't mark our endin...

Q and A: Dumped by someone on the rebound (now you can't move on)

25 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

YouTube viewer Daniel asks, “Please talk about not being able to move on from someone who used you as a rebound, and now they've moved on themselves...

Older Women/Younger Men: Telling the Children

25 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Telling your children about your age-gap partner needn't be scary.  Here's my step-by-step formula to address their major areas of concern; your emot...

When your partner pulls away, here's your next move.

25 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

When your partner pulls away, what's the right action to take? No generic advice can guide you. BUT, you'll find the answer in your level of interacti...

Q and A: How can ‘nice guys' embrace their power (and be desired)?

05 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

There's a lot of confusion surrounding ‘being nice' and dating.  Men often worry that being their best self is a turnoff, and an open invitation fo...

How do you create a love you've never experienced?

05 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

You want meaningful connection and a love that's real. But what if you've never experienced how that looks or feels? Here's how to sync up your vision...

3 Simple Steps to End Dating Confusion

05 Nov 2017

Contributed by Lukas

Dial past confusion and secure the relationship's reins. The clarity you seek starts with you. The partner with the clearest goals controls the relati...