The Susan Winter Show
Episodes
Breakups: The ‘Bad Review'
05 Nov 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Everyone wants a good review — especially for your role as a dedicated partner. Why has your ex gone Jekyll and Hyde? Becoming cold, vicious, or tel...
Q and A: How do busy people date (when they're interested)?
29 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Time constraints intensify the dating and mating process. How can you effectively date when you're busy? And, how do you date a busy person? Here are ...
How to avoid the ‘victim trap' (and maintain your power)
29 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We've been culturally programmed to automatically default to the position of a victim. This serves no one– certainly not those of you seeking love...
Q and A: Are you hoping your current partner will change your past?
29 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are you seeking love from someone incapable of giving it to you? Childhood issues can create the need to want to heal our past through our current mat...
Breakups: When do you give them a second chance?
29 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
For those of you who want a second exploration of a former love, these are the factors that MUST be in place for romantic success to occur. Only then,...
How to correct bad behavior (without talking about it)
09 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Partnership requires great communication. Also, picking one's battles wisely. Here are new techniques for boundary setting and behavior modification t...
The Trick to Decoding a Confusing Text Message
09 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
It's far too easy to get into a fight via text message. The truncated nature of texting creates too much room for error in your partner's interpreta...
How to handle your partner's wandering eye
09 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You've just noticed your partner noticing somebody else. Is this cause for alarm? What should you do? Here's how to counter your partners wondering ...
Breakups: Can Rebound Sex Erase the Pain?
09 Oct 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Anyone who's been dumped feels wounded, betrayed and undesirable. The first logical move is to regain our power and even the scales. Learn when reboun...
Q and A: Friendship, Rivalry and Jealousy
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you handle having a crush on your friend's partner? And what if two friends are fighting over you (or you're in competition with your friend ov...
Forget trusting ‘them' Trust yourself
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Can you trust yourself? This is where the seat of your power lies. People are human, and humans make mistakes. When you trust yourself, you trust yo...
Q and A: How to set boundaries (without sounding demanding)
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We're always more lax in the beginning stages of a new relationship. We want to engage our partner, rather than appear difficult. We don't want to b...
How to get your ex back (when you're the one who hurt them)
29 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you're physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In...
Q and A: Communication Hacks/Sexual Attraction
25 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you're physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In...
If You Want to Know, Just Ask
25 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When confused, we hesitate to do the obvious; just ASK. We fear confrontation. But mostly, we fear the answer we may receive. Here's how to get back...
Dating Games: The ‘Fake Fight' Variation (but they're not leaving)
25 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
This style of ‘fake fight' is a variation on a long-standing classic. But this dating game isn't crafted to create a breakup. It's designed to keep ...
The Right Move (when you don't know what to do)
25 Sep 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When we like someone, we often become self-conscious and question our choice of response. We wonder how to answer a text message, or edit ourselves in...
Is it Love, or Desperation?
29 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Desperation and insecurity can ruin any relationship (whether it's yours, or your partner's). The desperate lover claims that all of the emotional c...
The partner who pulled away came back. What should you do?
29 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How do you know if they're a hot and cold player, or just a nervous dater? Trust your gut. And decode the signs that clarify if you should walk away o...
Sex with your ex? Is it really a bad thing?
29 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Sex with your ex is common as you uncoil from your relationship. When is it positive, and when is it negative? Here are the signs that show you where ...
Breakups: When love ends after it begins
29 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
All breakups hurt, but The ‘Honeymoon Phase Breakup' is the most emotionally torturous. It occurs when our love is new and our hopes are at their hi...
Can your partner change? Or is it a lost cause?
23 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Is there a way to tell if your mate can make a positive change? Yes. It's born of consistency and desire. Here's the way to know for sure if there's h...
Is your support group keeping you from finding (or wanting) a partner?
23 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Singles can often feel an overwhelming sense of guilt; guilt for not being partnered and guilt for not caring to be partnered. Relationships are sup...
When a relationship should happen, but doesn't
23 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
In theory, they're the perfect partner. They check off every category on our ‘list'. And, we're everything they're looking for. Why doesn't it...
Understanding Men: Why Does He Shut Down?
23 Aug 2017
Contributed by Lukas
After breakup, a fight or any kind of hurt your man can quickly go from loving to being cold as ice. We, as women, don't know how to process this. We ...
Cheating partner? What do you do now?
28 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
What should you do when you've discovered your partner has cheated? Leaving is a clear choice for many. However, there are other options should you ...
Before You Break Up, Try This
28 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Traditional formats oftentimes fail modern couples — but that doesn't mean you can't stay together. Before you consider breaking up, brainstorm for ...
The Savior Complex: When 'helping' hurts you
28 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Balancing give-and-take in a relationship can be a tricky thing. Often times, we tend to get into locked roles. The over-giver feels superior and will...
How to Break the Loop of Obsession
28 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Are you obsessing over someone and can't seem to gain control of your thinking? Here's how to break free from the loop of obsession and gain forward t...
Safecracking the Human Heart
14 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Only a heart that's pure in its intention can open the hardest of hearts. The animal inside of us is constantly aware of agendas and games. The only w...
Dating Games: Creating ‘Tension' for Control
14 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Creating tension is a long-standing dating game that's been used throughout time to reboot a lover's interest. It was a key tactic for courtesans to m...
Why the person who ‘WANTS' the most, WINS
14 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Clarity around what you want is essential for creating a relationship you'll enjoy. If you don't take the reins, you'll have to take what you get. The...
Are they worth the risk? Here's how to lower the odds of heartache
14 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Rather than being afraid to love, the better option is to be a good sifter of which partner is worth the risk. Developing our skill of evaluating our ...
Why playing full out gets the LOVE you want
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Learn the incredible power of playing full out in all your romantic connections. Showing up completely adds value to each partnership, and prepares yo...
Attraction: When the ‘draw' becomes the drawback
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Differences in personality and lifestyle are exciting in a mate... until the very thing that was a plus becomes a negative. Here's how to balance thos...
Dating Games: The Passive Aggressive Turnaround
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Here's how to master a passive aggressive partner who blames you for their bad behavior. My offensive strategy counters their turnaround, and frees yo...
What to do when your new partner pulls away
05 Jul 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The person you're seeing is pulling away. What you do depends on what you've already established with them. New connections are handled differently th...
Older Women/Younger Men: Breaking the News to Your Parents
24 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Breaking the news of your age-gap love can create tension and fear for both you and your mate. Here's how to present yourselves as a unified front to ...
Texting: Too much, too little and ‘just right.'
24 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
In new relationships, we wonder if we're texting too much or too little. What's the right amount of contact to make? Here's how to effectively use tex...
Dating Games: Why you're getting mixed messages
24 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
All mixed messages have one thing in common; confusion. Whether that confusion is real or a game is the part you need to discern. This video shows you...
Dating after divorce: Dating After Divorce: Finding Love As The ‘New You'
20 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Updating your romantic model of love is essential after a divorce. You're not the same person as you were in the past. So, your love can't be built on...
The Power of Being 'Single' (and liking it)
20 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Single doesn't mean unwanted. Single doesn't mean lonely. Being single is a complete category with full status and merit that needs no justification o...
Dating Games: Are you someone's ‘place card?'
20 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Is someone you're dating holding you in place, but not letting you advance? Becoming the “place card” is for their convenience, and rarely means y...
Breakups: To block, or unblock your ex?
20 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
No matter how bad your break up, resist the urge to air your grievances on social media. Whatever you write or say will come back to haunt you. Here...
Older Women/Younger Men: The fear of ruining his life
08 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Many an older woman has voiced her fear of ruining her younger man's life. This form of projection is based on what society has said is the ‘normal ...
Are you being offered sexual exclusivity, but no relationship?
08 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Current dating trends are moving beyond hookups and inching their way toward more rewarding formats. Sexual exclusivity (without the relationship titl...
Can a red flag be a signal for a second chance?
08 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Red flags are markers we need to heed in dating. Sometimes we ‘imagine' we see red flags in an effort to protect ourselves. Here's how to know if wh...
Does your date pass the ‘sandbox' test?
08 Jun 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Questioning how to handle a dating situation? How do you know what behavior is correct? The best way is to check in with your ‘sandbox rules' to see...
Is it time for ‘duty dating?
22 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Duty dating is a way to kick-start your love life by expanding your options and pushing past your comfort zone. Whether you've been too lazy or too fe...
Are they emotionally unavailable? Or, just holding back.
22 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Here are the signs that tell you whether someone has the ability to care (but is hesitant), as opposed to someone who's unable to care and unwilling t...
Dating Games: How to exit the game (and enter love)
22 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The first step to getting off the game board is to realize you're on it. Freedom to be yourself can never be had while someone else is pulling the str...
How to tell your date you love them (without fearing the results)
22 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We hesitate to share the truth of our feelings for one reason only — fear. Will they reject us? Eliminate neediness and activate your power by using...
The ‘Text Message' Breakup
08 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The “text message” breakup is a cowardly escape plan that avoids the emotional fallout of having a proper ending. The partner who does this lacks ...
The Cardinal Rule for ‘No Rules' Dating (that creates love)
08 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Frustrated by the lack of thoughtful behavior in dating? Wondering how to make “no rules” dating work for you? Here's one rule that must be honore...
Dating Games: The perfect response to bad behavior
08 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Learn the art of mastering the perfect response to any form of bad behavior when dating. Here's how to find your unique style to effectively correct a...
Is it love? Or do you want what you can't have?
08 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The emotional rollercoaster caused by a lover's unwanted behavior can be so dramatic that we assume we're in love. Here's the difference between ‘ne...
Love in an Unexpected Package
03 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Too short, but just right? Older than you wanted but the perfect fit? Too thin, too full, too dark, too light… what happens when we find our perfect...
Tough dating decision? Here's how to trust yourself
03 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
When you know yourself, any decision on dating, sex, or relationships results in an effortless answer. Don't preoccupy your mind with, “What do they...
How reliable are your instincts (when it comes to dating)?
03 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
New relationships can experience fits and starts. There's much happening behind the scenes that you won't know (and your new partner may not be tellin...
The Power Spectrum: What is healthy?
03 May 2017
Contributed by Lukas
How far apart can the power differences be between you and your mate and still result in a happy, functional relationship? Here are the red flags to l...
Learning to love again (after the death of a mate)
17 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The loss of a partner is difficult under normal circumstances. When it's due to death, the devastation is amplified exponentially. Guilt and fear ca...
Power: How it affects your relationship
17 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Power differences between partners can set the stage for ongoing relationship issues. From insecurity, jealousy and feeling devalued, to feeling a fal...
If there were a DMV for love, would you pass the test?
17 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Learning to love is like learning how to drive a car. We need formal instruction and behind-the-wheel training. Here's how to understand your “manua...
Breakups: How to gain the upper hand
17 Apr 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Anyone who's been on the losing end of a breakup fantasizes about gaining the upper hand over their ex. This can only happen when you've taken the tim...
New Partner: Should you trust them?
26 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Your new mate's just given you an excuse that feels lame. Before you spin out of control, pause. Here's the best way to handle suspecting a lie, while...
Is it a deal breaker? Or, the “perfect excuse” to leave?
26 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Deal breakers are fluid in new relationships. When we're really into someone, we'll overlook things we said we didn't want in a partner. Yet, when we'...
Back together, but will it be better?
26 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You've patched up your relationship. Things are going well. But you're wondering if the issues of the past are really gone. Here's how to make the nec...
Are You Stuck in the “Maybe Box?”
26 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You've got shared attraction and ongoing communication. You're definitely in the game. But, you're not getting a solid green light for romance. Here's...
Is your insecure partner driving you nuts?
01 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Imagined jealousies, irrational fears and trust issues place a heavy burden on the partner whose mate has insecurity issues. Here's how to manage your...
Dating: When you don't feel good about yourself
01 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
There are times when outer conditions affect our inner sense of dating worthiness. If you've experienced a limitation you ‘think' is an issue, this ...
Making Sense of the ‘Holiday Breakup'
01 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Breakups are crushing no matter when they occur. But holiday breakups have a different meaning. It's a time of reassessment, and a time of honesty. So...
Creating Your Relationship “A La Carte”
01 Mar 2017
Contributed by Lukas
We're living in a time period of evolutionary disruption — which including dating. Here's how to create a better structure for a love that works for...
Before you envy the ‘happy' couple
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Why do some people find love easily and for others it's a struggle? Before you make a snap judgment remember there's more to the story than meets the ...
The Power of “I Like You”
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering how to progress to the next step of your mutual attraction? Worried anything you do or say will look desperate and needy? Here's a perfect s...
Decoding Women: Why She Pulled Away
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Learning how women think will help you know how to retain a woman's love and affection. Here's where some men are making the mistake of forcing nature...
Why your partner won't admit they're in a relationship
22 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You're in a relationship, but your partner won't admit it to you, or the outside world. Nagging, pushing and pleading won't help. Going in the opposit...
When you know there's chemistry (but they're pulling back)
16 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You sense incredible mutual attraction. You're certain they're into you. Yet, they resist making a move, and avoid every opportunity for engagement. H...
Older Women/Younger Men: The Issue of Children
16 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
The issue of children is the single greatest handicap facing an older women and her younger partner. This decision needs to be addressed before moving...
Hot and Cold: Why They Pursue When You Distance
16 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wondered why the partner who took you for granted suddenly becomes interested the moment you walk away? Learning the psychological basis for the ...
Online Dating: Your Mindset for Success
16 Feb 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Though online dating has become ‘the norm' for meeting prospective mates, it's frustrating and fueled with problems. Here's how to benefit from your...
Breakups: Why they left you for someone ‘lesser'
18 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
You could understand being left for an ‘upgrade.' But why did your ex choose a downgrade? Learn the odd twist on why being too good is intimidating,...
The Seduction of a Virtual Relationship
18 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Wondering if the intimacy you share online can translate into a real-world relationship? What does it mean if your partner's hesitating to meet face-t...
Older Women/Younger Men: Who Pays?
18 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Age gap courtship is a modern design, but establishing a balanced powerbase begins early. Many older women feel they “should” pay for initial da...
Online Dating: The ‘Blind Purchase' Effect
18 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
If you've found online dating frustrating (and wonder if you're doing something wrong) — it's not you. The design of this format creates the ‘blin...
Learning how to date as the ‘New You'
03 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Personal transformation may initially make us feel separate, but ultimately leads us to greater connection with those around us. Here's how to incorpo...
If they call you ‘weak' for loving…
03 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
For those of you courageous enough to love, I applaud you. Never let anyone diminish this worthy feat of bravery and confidence. Don't listen to the f...
Is it a long distance relationship? Or out-of-town sex?
03 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Long distance relationships are indeed workable, if both partners are working toward a common goal. Here's the essential element that you both need to...
Dating: A numbers game you can WIN
03 Jan 2017
Contributed by Lukas
Dating can feel like a blur of bad experiences and frustrating outcomes. But the revolving door of romance holds far greater gifts that you'd imagine....
Are they looking to buy? Or just ‘window shopping?'
18 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
They pursued you with texting and online chatting. Why did they cool off? They may have been playing the dating game of ‘window shopping.' Here's ho...
Disappointed with dating (and losing hope)?
18 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
If you're exhausted from bad dates, crazy daters, and you're losing faith in finding love — it's time for a timeout. Here's my cure for dating burno...
Older Women/Younger Men: Overcoming Your Fears
18 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Women have been programmed to believe their desirability is based on youth and beauty. Dating a younger man will test the limits of your confidence. H...
How to Date a Player (and survive)
18 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
The only successful approach to dating a player is to honor the rules of the game. Learn the art of compartmentalization, and remain grounded in t...
Jealousy: Insecurity or a Red Flag?
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Here's a complete breakdown of the many forms of jealousy: when it's a warning sign, when it's your insecurity, and when your partner is using jealous...
The difference between ‘settling,' and being realistic
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
There's a marked difference between settling in love, and being realistic. Settling acknowledges having options for better choices that we didn't take...
How Men Awaken To Love
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Does your partner make you feel like you're not enough? That you're lacking “something” that's making him not love you, as you'd like? Chances are...
Decoding women: Recognizing her sexual pace
07 Dec 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Paying attention to a woman's sexual cues gives you the ‘green light' to advance at her pace. If you move too fast, she'll back peddle and stall. If...
Why it's so hard to walk away (when you know you should)
28 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
You've invested everything you have to give in order to make this relationship work. Yet, all of your love, time, and effort have failed to make it be...
I know you're sick of hearing about self-love, BUT…
28 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Self-love begins with liking yourself and living your truth. It's a process of coming into agreement with the choices you've made, and standing behind...
How to handle a partner who pushes your boundaries
28 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Does your partner whine, complain, and act disagreeable when they don't get their way? Though immature, this is emotional manipulation. Here's how t...
Are you too advanced to meet your match?
28 Nov 2016
Contributed by Lukas
Mystified why all your self-awareness hasn't produced a mate? Evolved individuals often lament not finding love, especially when they've done everythi...